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simplyafansworld

@simplyafansworld

(lee) she/they/he. mallu diaspora. Where I ramble.πŸ’—πŸ’œπŸ’™
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When I was a kid, I regularly lost reading privileges for "having an attitude" and "acting out".

It wasn't as simple as being told not to read during other activities- one of the first times it happened, I remember being six years old, watching my stepfather pull fistfuls of books off my bookshelf and throw them to the floor in a heaping mess while I cried and asked him to stop.

It was weird. Every other adult I knew described me as exceptionally well-behaved, but at home, it was the opposite, and it was blamed on "learning bad habits from that shit you're reading".

Because I couldn't read at home, I spent all my free time at school in the library, reading with my friends.

When I grew up and moved away, I realized that my family life was toxic and abusive, and the "attitudes" I was being punished for were standing up for myself, standing up for my younger siblings, and resisting actual, real-life psychological abuse. Because I'd learned from what I'd read that my family wasn't normal, not like my parents said it was, and in my stories, the heroes were the people who spoke out when it was hard to.

It is insane to me that there are students right now who can't access books. It is insane that books are being outlawed. It is perverse that we are stealing away an entire generation's ability to contextualize their lives, to learn about the world around them, to develop critical thinking skills and express themselves and feel connected to the world or escape from it, whatever and whenever and however they need.

That is not how you raise a compassionate, thoughtful, powerful society.

That's how you process cattle.

It's fucking disgusting.

It's patriarchal fascism. If children don't have a frame of reference for "normal" beyond what the Authority chooses to give them, they won't object when the Authority does something abnormal (or fascist)

hey netizens! i'm not sure how many people are aware, but youtube's been slowly rolling out a new anti-adblock policy that can't be bypassed with the usual software like uBlock Origin and Pi-Hole out of the gate

BUT, if you're a uBlock Origin user (or use an adblocker with a similar cosmetics modifier), you can add these commands in the uBlock dashboard (under My Filters) to get rid of it!

youtube.com##+js(set, yt.config_.openPopupConfig.supportedPopups.adBlockMessageViewModel, false) youtube.com##+js(set, Object.prototype.adBlocksFound, 0) youtube.com##+js(set, ytplayer.config.args.raw_player_response.adPlacements, []) youtube.com##+js(set, Object.prototype.hasAllowedInstreamAd, true)

reblog to help keep the internet less annoying and to tell corporations that try shit like this to go fuck themselves <3

I was showing my class that, contrary to popular belief, divorce rates aren’t at an all-time high but actually peaked in the 80s. When I asked them why they thought divorce rates went up so quickly in the 60s-70s, none of them could guess. One guy thought it might be because of all the β€œfree love,” drugs, etc but I told him it wasn’t all hippies getting divorces. Not a single one of them had any idea just how hard it was for women to leave an abusive marriage before the late 1960s at the earliest.

In the late 90s, having secured a permanent and full-time position as a teacher, I applied for a car loan. During the conversation with the credit union rep I was told that I was a risk because I might get married within the 5 year loan period (with the unspoken implication that if this hypothetical marriage were to occur it would immediately result in my becoming a housewife) and that, not entirely linked to the possibility of nuptials, I might also get pregnant (and again, be rendered incapable of paid work.)

I was dumbstruck.

My parents had to go guarantors for the loan. My freaking parents.

I was in my mid-20s. I had a well-paying, secure job. I was single with zero intent to marry, and even if it had been on the cards it sure as fuck wouldn’t have been to the sort of person who would immediately insist I quit my job and stay at home.

But apparently, the fact that I was a woman overshadowed all of that stuff. That single factor meant I was a risky prospect and had to get my parents to back me.

It was absolute bullshit.

Dude, women in Ireland were forced to resign from their jobs upon getting married up until 1973

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In the late 60s, no-fault divorce became possible, and it spread throughout the US through the 70s.

The combination of β€œyou do not have to prove to a [male] judge and [mostly-male] jury that your husband is abusive (without being able to afford a lawyer)” and β€œyou can now have a bank account in your own name” did indeed kick off many, many divorces.

Divorce rates are lower now. Marriage rates are also lower now - because, again, women no longer need to get married to get access to a bank account, rent an apartment, own a car, etc.

hi everyone, my name is suco, im from mΓ©xico and im a teacher by trade, i don't really make a lot of money, i had a previous post asking for help cause i had to take care of some people which is all i do in life with my money and my own life i guess, but anyway it stalled and tbh things have gotten worse so, uh, i usually just go from job to jobs to. jobs but i couldn't get shit for summer and i just don't know. what the fuck to do and i still need to pay the debts cause time is real and while also getting groceries and other shit fixed so im just posting this again in hopes a shorter newer post and goal and brand nee begging helps somehow idk man i just hope we all get what we need, please anything helps fr, anything does, reblogs too πŸ’ͺ🏽πŸ₯²πŸ’•

my link and my thanks, and my please for the love of god im. on my fucking. knees here. it never fucking ends like i don't think ive ever known peace but for days or hours.

0/600.

u: 37/600 thanks, we'll get there

and i wanted to say cause i often forget to do it, i wasn't raised like that so learning and breaking my family's shitty tree so: i am so thankful for all the help ive gotten so far i know it's not easy when it's just us poors passing between each other our posts i know some of you have given me when you also had too little like i know it i love you all so much 🫢🏽😭

u: 131/600!!!

u: 172/600 πŸ’• thanks πŸ™πŸ½