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Simon Tesla's Domain

@simontesla / simon.thornvalley.com

Author of the Raccoony Web Extension, maintainer of Thorn Valley, also found on Mastodon (chitter.xyz/@SimonTesla) and Fur Affinity (TimothyFrisby)
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How I will interact with tumblr from here on out

I've used XKit Reloaded to hide anything that is a reblog using the Show Originals feature. If you didn't post it yourself, I won't see it. I've made peace with FOMO a long time ago, and don't care if you think that breaks how tumblr works.

I've removed it from my phone and my browser favorites.

I will avoid posting new things here. I've used XKit Reloaded to delete all of the queued posts I had.

For some blogs (mostly webcomic/art blogs) I've added the tumblr RSS feed for their blog or a tag on their blog to my feed reader (Feedly, if you're curious).

If I decide to check tumblr, it will be with a lot lower frequency. I expect no more than once or twice a week. I will generally avoid interacting with (e.g. replying, reblogging or liking) anything.

I'll probably look at moving the custom domain stuff off of tumblr in the nearish future.

Follow me on cohost or mastodon if you want to follow me on social media.

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tumblr has an AI toggle you should turn on to prevent your work being shared with training models/etc! it's under settings & visibility.

you have to do this with every single side blog btw. just doing this to your main is not enough.

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so judging by how astonished people are by it every time we explain it to anybody, it seems like my wife and I might really be onto something here

during the pandemic, we invented something we call "astronaut time."

when it's astronaut time, it's like we are two astronauts wearing the big helmets, moving around the station on totally separate tasks. one of us is outside the space station and one of us is inside the space station. our radios do not work and we have no way of communicating with each other. we might see each other through the lil porthole windows, but we ignore each other because we both have different things to do.

"astronaut time" is how we get total privacy when we live in the same apartment. I will pretend you don't exist. You will pretend I don't exist. we have a nonverbal, zero-contact signal for when astronaut time is over (usually "I'll draw a smiley-face on the whiteboard in the kitchen when I'm done"). No talking, stay out of each other's line of sight, we are actively avoiding each other, unless you are currently experiencing a medical emergency goodbye.

it has been. a godsend. imagine living with your partner and being able to close every single tab in your brain related to social interaction. no fear of being interrupted by a "hey, quick question--" or "sorry to bother you, but do you know where the scissors are?" or "did you want something to eat, too?" Once or twice a month, we look at each other lovingly, hold hands, and say "baby I think I need some astronaut time tonight," and the other person goes "okay cool. bye! have a nice night!" and nobody's feelings are hurt and we both go and have a lovely evening completely by ourselves.

like idk it's a small thing but it's made our lives so much nicer, so if you and your partner/roommate are both people who sometimes need total privacy in order to recharge, maybe try it

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wizzard890

I'm the wife in question and I cannot recommend this enough. When I told my therapist about astronaut time, she asked if she could share it with the couples she councils, so even the professionals give it two thumbs up.

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tomcriuse

“available with premium subscription” “will be removed on the 31st” “available free with ads” “rent 4.99 buy 20.00″ “not available in your country” “not available on this device” what if every streaming service fucking killed itself and films ran around their fields free and organic in their natural state