Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
characters who view themselves as tools/weapons first and people second... characters who martyr themselves for a cause because they think that's the only way they can be worth something... characters who push themselves past their breaking point again and again and again... characters for whom devotion and masochism are inseparable... characters whose self-sacrifice becomes self-annihilation...... what was my point again? i had a point. anyway.
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Thanks for putting up with this self-promo, and thanks so much to all of you who’ve followed me at anddreadful already! Twitter is wilting faster than a head of lettuce so unfortunately I’m very invested in this new blog and I want to take you all with me ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
Goooood morning tumblr, if you follow me on Twitter then you may know that I’ve made a shiny new tumblr account in order to capitalize on the fact that I like this website without giving my new Twitter friends access to 10+ years of my cringe. New main blog is @anddreadful , please follow me there! I’m still working on porting over my active follows but I basically plan to use this new blog the same way I use this one and hopefully be more active ❤️
When the players split up and one group finds out some world-shattering information and has to go and explain it to their other party members:
listen, it is VERY important to me that we never forget this, the highlight of Tim Curry’s career. it might be the absolute worst use of bluescreen effects ever recorded and features lyrics such as “your dentist could turn into a queen/ has anybody seen my tambourine” because only so many words rhyme with “halloween”
if you only watch one seasonal thing this year, make it this
teddybearparker
FOLKS IT IS THAT TIME OF YEAR AGAIN
Learn to say “can you love me a bit harder today? It’s a rough day” and then explain how you want to be loved harder.
Learn to say “I could use some support. Are you able to provide some? This is how you can support me -“
Learn to say “I feel lonely. Are you able to keep me company?”
Learn to say “I’m feeling overwhelmed. Can I talk to you about it?”
Do this instead of dropping hints or expecting someone to be able to read you. What may be obvious to you isn’t necessarily obvious to someone else. You’re often hurting your own feelings by not communicating your needs and just hoping people meet them anyways.
I know this is easier said than done. We often drop hints because we feel ashamed or bad about asking for help. But the truth is, for most of our loved ones, us hinting at things is exhausting. It can also set them up for failure because they don’t know your expectations. Sometimes they miss hints but sometimes they ignore them because it’s more draining when they aren’t asked directly. It’s very likely your loved one would appreciate you being direct.
People often want to support and help you, but a lot of them like to be told how they can do that.
I got an ask that was quite aggressive telling me this post was bullshit because your loved ones should always “love you as hard as possible”.
And I disagree. In a perfect world with nothing but time and energy, sure. But people have their own lives and get exhausted. Sometimes in relationships, we have to give a little extra because someone can only put in 20% at that moment due to personal circumstances.
I think it becomes a problem if you’re always expect to give and never get. But it is normal to fluctuate on what effort people can put into relationships.
100% at all times isn’t reasonable or realistic.
Sometimes things at work are more rough for my partner, so I pick up a bit of slack and love him harder. Sometimes (like now) my depression gets really bad and he has to love me harder. This might mean things like he texts me more to check in on me, makes more time to hold me, or maybe surprises me with things I like. “Love you harder” will vary for every person.
It would only be bad if one person was expected to give more all the time. But it is so normal to fluctuate. My partner and me fluctuate. And we take care of each other.
#yeah#realizing you do in fact have Needs is mortifying and voicing them can be even more so#but fortunately the satisfaction of getting what you want far outweighs the indignity of having to ask for it!#and eventually you realize that that communication and mutual effort is the bedrock of a mature relationship
me: I don’t have seasonal depression :) me: just so long as I don’t have to leave the house or acknowledge the changing seasons whatsoever :)
I am sooooooo sick of doing things and spending money and you’d think hmm, there’s fairly simple solutions for those, but alas! I want to obtain/ experience lots of things that require doing both those aforementioned things
“Then, with my second novel, I started to receive responses from agents that said “I love what you’re doing here, but I think it needs a stronger narrative structure to take it to the next level.” Of course, this narrative structure was exactly what the book was resisting. More bluntly, I would receive responses that said, “I love what you’re doing here, but the publishing industry is just too conservative.“ But how will that ever shift, if these are the people in charge of whose work gets attention. Then there are the editors who echo the same narratives. And, maybe even more jarring, there are the editors who love everything about the manuscript, but then they don’t have the power to do their job, and acquire the work they love. And, this happens in both corporate and independent publishing. Then, of course, there are the editors and agents who say something like, “I love what you’re doing here, no one else is doing anything like it, but I just don’t find myself relating on a deep enough level, and so I don’t think I’m the right person to truly champion your work, and make sure it receives the attention it deserves.” But if an editor or publisher has to relate to everything they publish, then publishing is only for the people who make these decisions. Things do change over time, sometimes for the better, and sometimes for the worse. We are in a moment right now where certain queer and trans authors are achieving a kind of access that wasn’t possible even a decade ago—especially for trans authors, and queer authors of color. But there was a moment like this in the ’90s, when queer work was suddenly allowed on mainstream corporate presses, and people were like: “Oh my God, everything’s changing.” And then the door slammed shut. So, I think that’s always a danger when we rely on multinational corporations to determine what is considered literature. When the publishing industry decides, our work suffers.”
— Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore on Writing on Your Own Terms
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