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Ahana Sarkar

@sideeyeingsohard

Probably procrastinating in some corner, if not stuck in a fictional world.
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Korean Drama Women of Power

(Left to right)

Police officer who thinks the Earth is round; Jeong Tae-Eul (The King: Eternal Monarch)
Ruthless lawyer and wannabe gangster; Hong Cha-Young (Vincenzo)
Alien from Dobong-dong, Dobong-gu; Do Bong-Soon (Strong Woman Do Bong-Soon)
Committed weightlifter and mukbanger; Kim Bok Joo (Weightlifting fairy Kim bok Joo)

Thank you to these beautiful women for breaking stereotypes, not allowing love to get in the way of their passion, and scaring the male lead <3

hey have i ever told y’all about my cursed apartment building

cursed how, you say???? well, here’s the thing: no-one can fuckin see it. let me explain further

  • i live in a tiny flat in a big red brick building with huge windows. it has a driveway with two columns on either side - not a thing you usually see in this area. it is opposite a bus stop and several corner shops. it is on a main, busy road. most significantly, it is attached to a church. a well-known church with a big pink sign on the front.
  • all things that would make it easy to spot, right???? like if i gave that list of distinguishing features to someone along with my address then they’d be able to find my flat easily, right??? well APPARENTLY NOT
  • we have never once had a delivery to our flat (outside of the usual postal service) where we haven’t been called by a lost courier 
  • usually, they are about thirty seconds away. “i’m by the church and i don’t know where to go from here,” they say. so we tell them, “it’s the building right next to the church!! the one you’re outside. that church. it’s the next building along. it’s opposite a bus stop and it has a driveway with two big columns.” 
  • without fail, they call back 5-10 minutes later, still lost.
  • i have answered calls from both lost delivery people and friends where i’ve been able to see them standing in front of the driveway, from my window
  • a friend of mine once drove past my building three times, while on the phone to me, getting increasingly panicked that she couldn’t figure out where she was going. she parked in a nearby road and i had to walk to her car and guide her to the driveway
  • however, my flatmate and i found this place when we were flat-hunting first time, no trouble, and we don’t know what that means other than i guess this place chose us and the rent is so cheap because the estate agents were so relieved to find the first people in a thousand years who could actually see this fuckin building
  • today a food delivery person called me to say he was outside the church, was told to go to the next building along, (a 20 second journey on foot) and arrived at my door 20 minutes later, saying, “sorry, i went to the back of this building by mistake. weird right???”
  • this building doesn’t have a back
  • it backs onto the rest of the church it doesn’t have a back where did he go

I told you, didn’t I? That if you saved my life once again, I’d let you marry me. You saved me from chocking on candy and from the motorcycle accident. Do you know the last thing you did to save me. Our children. You weren’t by our side, but I was always with you. So make sure you come back. Come back and live with us for the rest of your life, okay? Thank you, Mi Joo. I’ll make sure I do that.

things to add to your journals

  • song lyrics for a specific mood
  • spotify codes for favourite songs
  • receipts from a trip
  • envelope for gifts from any small children you know
  • pages to press flowers in
  • ticket stubs
  • fortune cookie readings
  • daily three-card tarot pulls
  • watercolour paper for art
  • page cutouts
  • watercolours just in general
  • pressed flowers
  • other dried herbs
  • sketches (taped or glued in)
  • morning/evening routines
  • colour in the leftover paper backing from stickers and glue/tape it in
  • friendship bracelets that may have broken or come off
  • grocery lists or other shopping lists (glue in if written on other paper)
  • book quotes
  • block poetry (you'll have to take a page out of a book for this)
  • mental health goals
  • halloween: candy wrappers
  • fabric scraps
  • family recipes
  • different textured papers
  • stamps
  • coins

Watching the difference between the Twitter migration mentality vs. the Reddit migration mentality is fucking hilarious.

Like, when Twitter users started moving over here everyone was pulling out all the stops and bringing back old fandoms that they were into and basically firing rent lowering shots by being super cringey.

And then all of the sudden when the Reddit refugees start showing up we're like, "ah yes, pull up a log and gather around the dumpster fire. We'll teach you how to not get killed by people hunting down bots and carve out a little area for you guys to relax and get used to the site before we throw you into the deep end of this hellsite that we call home. Tomorrow is Let Papyrus say Fuck day so you can prepare for that if you want. You want some hot coco and a blanket?"

*climbs up on stupid little soapbox and screams* there is absolutely NOTHING “toxic” or “problematic” about inej telling kaz that he needs to remove his armor to be with her. he puts up so many walls and is so afraid of vulnerability that, if anything, what would really be toxic is her getting into a relationship with him and letting things continue that way. neither kaz NOR inej herself are ready to be together in an even remotely healthy way when that line is delivered in six of crows, and inej recognizes that. the idea that she should’ve just “accepted him as he was” absolutely fails to acknowledge how unhealthy relationships can get when the individuals in them aren’t emotionally in a good place for a relationship. the idea that she (or anyone) has to accept a partner who is in a toxic place as they are “if you really love them” and doesn’t have a right to draw a boundary is a deliberate misreading of that individual scene at best and an extremely damaging sentiment to transfer into an outlook on real life relationships at worst. thank you, goodnight. *climbs off stupid little soapbox*

people thinking that Kaz and Inej ever being together without healing the toxic parts of his behaviour and atleast, some parts of his high emotional boundaries, have completely missed the kanej parts of the books. U CANNOT DATE SOMEONE WHO STILL HAS GOT TO LET YOU IN!!! WHAT IS INEJ SUPPOSED TO DO?? CRY AND WAIT??? WHAT 3RD GRADE FANFIC DID U GUYS READ??

hey hmc girlies (gender neutral) how do we feel about this

No hate to OP from ticktock. I just happen to see this rhetoric quite a bit. Im sure this was a haha funny, but I also get worried about people not wanting to read the book because of it.

My understanding of Howl in the book (and as I understand it the author Diana Wynne jone’s) is that un-flawed characters are boring. She hates the idea of an un-flawed character, so she wrote a deeply DEEPLY flawed character. (SPOILER) It is established that the reason he IS flawed is because he does not have a heart.

Hating book howl (after finishing) feels like a “I read this book but didn’t understand it” moment.

Also Sophie isn’t exactly without her “red flags.” She openly admits it as well.

this one is exactly what i was thinking. the vibe i got is it was a movie fan who was expecting howl from the movie and got something completely different but saw it as a problem BECAUSE THEY DIDNT REALIZE THE BOOK WAS THE ORIGINAL⁉️

i guess someone going from the movie--where howl is presented as a romantic ideal--could assume that book!howl was intended as the same. but he very clearly isn’t--not only is he shown to be obnoxious and bad at relationships, he and sophie (and his sister, and mrs pentstemmon, and the people of market chipping...) explicitly point out his flaws at various points, so for the reader to draw attention to the red flags feels like... yeah duh?

a central part of the final scene is sophie & howl choosing a happily-ever-after together that will be “hair raising” where she says he’ll exploit her and he says she’ll cut up his suits to teach him. if you read that and think “that sounds like a terrible relationship, i wouldn’t want to be part of it” that’s a valid reaction, but you will probably also be perplexed by the book’s broader appeal

when i first read hmc i was caught off guard by the sheer catharsis i felt when sophie and howl choose their weird, hair raising, maybe even unenviable relationship, because the message it conveyed to me wasn’t “this is what a relationship should look like” but “you can find someone who is delighted and endeared by the things everyone else told you were failings.” most of howl’s flaws are comically human: lazy, vain, spends too long in the bathroom, scared of getting his ass beat by an angry ex, magnified into a larger-than-life fairy tale character, and like @ifitisnotayesitisprobablyano​ said, sophie is an equally flawed character, in equally human ways

and the book is fundamentally about sophie growing into herself, in a way that involves becoming confident and unapologetic and unpalatable and happy, and so a romantic subplot that involves finding a normal, palatable, ideal partner--or worse, finding howl in all his imperfections and “fixing” him--would definitely change the themes communicated by the story

yeah you got it SPOT ON lula. i got the ick so bad just from the comments of the tiktok because SURE — i also marked all of howl’s red flags in my copy because it’s hilarious. but sophie doesn’t love him in spite of them; she loves all of him because he’s not a perfect person! and literally no one is !!! the comments were all like “oh can you make a list of what he did please ??” or like “thanks so much ! i won’t read it now !” or like “ok good thing i saw this tiktok bc i was about to buy the book” like ARE WE CANCELLING HOWL JENKINS IN 2023 COME ONNN

OH NOOO i was trying so hard to give that tiktok the benefit of the doubt but those comments are going to make me cry. they are really cancelling howl jenkins in 2023 for being the funniest character in kid’s literature “ok good thing i saw this tiktok bc i was about to buy the book” I MEAN IF YOU THINK LIKE THAT YOU PROBABLY WOULDN’T LIKE THE BOOK ANYWAY BUT HELLO??? do you think that reading the book will magically infect you with the toxic woman hating behavior of [checks notes] throwing a tantrum when your hair dye gets messed up??? do you think that if you buy the book the money will go to howl jenkins himself so he can keep calling sophie nosy instead of finding a real job???