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I am fully aware that nobody is asking me this in good faith. Everybody saying this has the intention of belittling me, dehumanising me, or pointing out to their friends how ridiculous they think I am.

But. In case anybody comes here with genuine curiosity and respect. I may as well answer.

"How can I be non-binary, asexual, and also a mother, and have been married?"

For starters, I'm nearly 40. Identities like non-binary and asexual weren't commonly talked about in my younger, developmental years. I simply did not know that they existed. I didn't know that they were things I could be. I never felt right, I never quite understood a lot of things, but I went along with it because... you just do, don't you? When you don't know there's an alternative. And you know what, I was genuinely in love with my husband. I reckon I'm demiromantic - so maybe romance isn't super important to me, maybe I'm not going to fall in love a lot of times, or very easily, but I did, at least once. And whilst I don't experience sexual attraction, whilst I'm definitely completely asexual, there are lots of reasons to have sex. Love is one of them. Wanting intimacy, bonding, to please your partner. And neither asexuality nor demiromanticism excludes someone from wanting kids, and from loving their kids. Continuing to use the identifier "mother" after figuring out my non-binary identity is mostly laziness and apathy: it works, I don't care enough to make my kids call me anything else. "Mum" is fine. It's a social and emotional role more than it has anything to do with my gender.

If you have any questions, and feel able to approach me with respect and are open to learning, I'm happy to engage with you. I don't want anybody to remain ignorant and confused for as long as I did.

#queer#lgbtqia#asexual#aromantic
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marzipanandminutiae
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liamofthemountains

When I was a small child I asked my mom why there was a rubber strip on the bottom of the door into the garage.

She said “It keeps the giraffes out.”

Now I was pretty sure there were no wild giraffes in Connecticut and it didn’t make sense that an animal as tall as a giraffe could fit under a door, but for some reason I just accepted it.

Years later it hit me that she said “drafts.”

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elven-child
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besosquecreanadiccion
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kailthia

and like ... actors are actors. Their whole thing is pretending to be other people? Can an actor pretend to be an elf or royalty or an alien but not queer? As long as they’re taking the role seriously, it’s fine.

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roach-works

if a straight person sees something meaningful, beautiful and worthy of emulation in the queer experience, that’s a good thing.

#queer#lgbtqia
shortace

I love the word 'queer' for multiple reasons. Firstly because it is all-encompassing; any identity that isn't cishet is queer. It conveys that we are (or should be) a big, cohesive community. But also because it's vague. We don't owe strangers complete explanations, or any personal information - I'm not going to tell every rando that I'm asexual, demiromantic, and non-binary, maybe demigirl or librafeminine, and then have to explain every single one of those terms and possibly face various types of discrimination or bigotry - including from within the queer community, where gatekeeping is unfortunately not uncommon. Using the word 'queer' keeps things simple and non-specific, and if we reach a point in our relationship where it matters and I trust you, I can elaborate later.

#queer#lgbtqia#asexual#enby#aromantic#pride month
shortace

How many millennials does it take to change a lightbulb?

None; we can only afford the lightbulb, not the house to go around it.

#bad jokes#millennials
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wenamedthedogkylo
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phildumphy

So it turns out that ChatGPT not only uses a ton shit of energy, but also a ton shit of water. This is according to a new study by a group of researchers from the University of Colorado Riverside and the University of Texas Arlington, Futurism reports.

Which sounds INSANE but also makes sense when you think of it. You know what happens to, for example, your computer when it’s doing a LOT of work and processing. You gotta cool those machines.

And what’s worrying about this is that water shortages are already an issue almost everywhere, and over this summer, and the next summers, will become more and more of a problem with the rising temperatures all over the world. So it’s important to have this in mind and share the info. Big part of how we ended up where we are with the climate crisis is that for a long time politicians KNEW about the science, but the large public didn’t have all the facts. We didn’t have access to it. KNOWING about things and sharing that info can be a real game-changer. Because then we know up to what point we, as individuals, can have effective actions in our daily lives and what we need to be asking our legislators for.

And with all the issues AI can pose, I think this is such an important argument to add to the conversation.

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fruityshirts

I often think issues like this are a result of “The Cloud,” and by that I mean the propagation of this notion that data and the internet exist out in the ether somewhere and not like...on someone else’s hard drives which are housed in hundreds and thousands of huge warehouses which require climate control.

Most humans already have a LOT of magical thinking about computers, and I really wish we spent more time teaching not just basic computing skills (how to navigate an interface), but basic INFRASTRUCTURE knowledge. When you think of it as chatting with Jeff Bezos’s huge garage full of nerd hardware, it’s easier to make the logical leap to say “hey i wonder what kind of resources it takes to keep all these hard drives from overheating...?”

#ai#chatgpt
shortace

Millions of people are compelled to be up before sunrise every day, yet so few of them have the time to stop and enjoy the site of it. Thanks capitalism.

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You separate your laundry into darks, lights, and colours? Melbournites point and laugh. All our clothes are black.

#melbourne