Friendly reminder that calling Zuckerburg a lizard or alien is antisemitic and echoes New World Order propaganda about Jews. Zuckerberg is an ethnic Jew, and insinuating that he's something inhuman only contributes to the current resurgence of neo-Nazi views

ok not going to continue reading the 2020 spider noir run because i dont like the characterization as opposed to the 2009 & 2010 runs but i will appreciate how creature they made him

When we’re new to adulthood, it doesn’t immediately occur to all of us that you’re almost always allowed to leave a situation, because growing up we’re forced to stay in situations until someone dismisses us and/or takes us home, or if we do leave on our own accord there’s someone waiting at home to say “we don’t quit in this family!” Boring party? You can leave. You don’t like the lecture? You can walk out. New doctor not working out? You can end the appointment, you don’t need to wait for them to dismiss you. Bad date? You can just go home. Leaving a situation prematurely might have consequences, but unless you’re under arrest or serving prison time, it’s pretty much always allowed.

–commenter Allison @ askamanager

A while back, I called for a Lyft ride home from the airport. The lyft pulled up, he called my name, and I opened the door and climbed in. While I was climbing in he was getting out, which I didn’t realize until he opened the back door on the other side.

Him: I’ll put your bag in the trunk. Me: Oh, there’s no need.  Him: I’ll just put it back there.  Me: I prefer to keep my bag with me.

I was also still holding onto it so he couldn’t just grab it, and when I said “I prefer to keep it with me” this cloud of rage crossed his face.

Him: Then get out.  Me: Excuse me? Him: Get out, I don’t want your bag fucking up my upholstery.

Now, this was a weekender – essentially an upscale duffle bag. Small, almost brand new, easily fitting on the middle-seat beside me. I don’t know if he was just really intense about his upholstery or if he was running some kind of scam, but either way I now DEFINITELY was not going to let him separate me from my bag.

So I said “Okay,” and I picked up my bag and got out, took out my phone, and cancelled him as my driver.

He looked at me like I’d grown a second head. There was this moment of total disconnect in his face, and then he started ranting about how someone had damaged his upholstery and they needed to put their bags in the back and he wasn’t going to have me getting his upholstery dirty. 

I said, “I’m out of your car. Drive on, I’ll get another,” and held up my phone.

This had clearly never happened before – it looked like plenty of people had thought “This guy is crazy” but went the “so I’d better let him do what he wants” route instead of “so I’m getting out of his car”. Which is totally normal! We’re socialized to prioritize “not making a scene” over personal safety. But when you do call that bluff, when you defy the social convention that the other person is counting on to make you do what they want you to do, they don’t know how to react, which gives you time for a clean getaway. And maybe he thought I was a dickhead but what do I care what an asshole thinks of me? 

Anyway the moral of the story is yes, you should know that you can almost always leave a situation and often it’s in your best interest to do so. 

(Right after I called for another car he picked up a fare using Quick Match or whatever it’s called, peeled out of the Lyft lane, and hit another car well nigh immediately.)

[ID: The Benefits of walking away. (Illustration of the back of a person walking away. ) 1. Makes bad things disappear quickly. 2. Gives everyone optimal view of your back. 3. Answers question, “I wonder what would happen if I just walked away”]

You know what, happy Disability Pride Month to everybody who is always the youngest patient in the waiting room at your specialists' offices.

"Stop being funnier than me on my own post" is one of my favorite healthy tumblrisms, along with things like "hang on lemme look that up...yeah this is funny" and explicit tone indicators (positive). Like yeah let's build a world where we playfully format healthy interactions. You made a post and you wanted to be the star but damn, you've really gotta hand it to this other person for their really funny addition, so here's the internet equivalent of giving someone a friendly punch on the shoulder while making sure they know they got a good grade in social interaction

The reaction to this season could be summarised as:

Fandom decides to be deliberately obtuse about how stories and three-act-story structure works.

Guys, even YouTube videos explain how stories work, will tell you this magical phase:

Remember the homework Neil sent about watching P&P? Okay, think very hard and remember... What happened in the second act of that story?

It's not queerbaiting, you are just allergic to conflict, honestly.

I literally work teaching children and yet I think the kids are less obtuse about things than this fandom. And if I am talking to you are it's because I am repeating, many times, that you need to cool off and think before you go for your pitchforks to the writers for obeying basic rules of storytelling.

PS, but also warning because I'm tired of seeing the same thing: No offence, but I am the literal last person someone can come with the excuse of “We are behaving like appalling arseholes because we have been oh so burned before [insert tragic backstory]”. I don't give a shit how “burned” you were and how much you “suffered”. Back in the times of Sherlock or Doctor Who fandoms, I wasn't the kind of kid to side with the fandom acting like fucking shits because something in the didn't go the way they wanted. I was on the side that got harassed by the so called 'victims' because I said this behaviour was shit. So, honestly, spare me your tragic backstory about the Sherlock or DW or whatever “burned”. I am not gonna side with you because I never did. Period.

happy disability pride month to all the disabled people with unsanitary symptoms or symptoms deemed as "gross" or "as a result of not caring enough about your body." who vomit and bleed or cough up blood or spew up bile or drool. who have snot and phlegm. who have low pelvic floors and use diapers because of incontinence and may get rashes from wearing them or struggle to get ones that properly fit adults, teens, or fat bodies. who have skin that is chapped or scarred or cracked or have rashes/bumps/lumps/skin tags everywhere. who scratch themselves because of eczema. who's teeth are broken, missing or rotting. who cannot exercise due to exercise intolerance and their body gets "worse." who can't wash themselves or brush their teeth at all/infrequently because it takes too much energy to do so and may smell bad and have bad breath or get skin conditions or are dirty as a result. who are chronically disabled and these symptoms will never leave them. it should not be viewed as disgusting to simply exist as a human being who has a disability. your disability and symptoms should not be seen as abhorrent because abled people and even other disabled people cannot afford you basic kindness, patience, and respect for things you cannot control.

a person online: i hate it when adults act like childish little freaks in public, smh. you’re an adult, you should be able to order your own food without help. get over yourself. also, why are some people, like, waaaaaaay too into the stuff that they like? omg, and the people who CLEARLY can’t even have one (1) normal conversation without acting Weird??? it’s embarrassing, u guys are embarrassing, get help

the same person five seconds later: we gotta remember to love and support the autistic community u guys <3

I've got these two sewing machines, made about 100 years apart. An old treadle machine from around 1920-1930, that I pulled out of the trash on a rainy day, and a new Brother sewing machine from around 2020.

I've always known planned obsolescence was a thing, but I never knew just how insidious it was till I started looking at these two side by side.

I wasn't feeling hopeful at first that I'd actually be able to fix the old one, I found it in the trash at 2 am in a thunderstorm. It was rusty, dusty, soggy, squeaky, missing parts, and 100 years old.

How do you even find specialized parts 100 years later? Well, easily, it turns out. The manufacturers at the time didn't just make parts backwards compatible to be consistent across the years, but also interchangeable across brands! Imagine that today, being able to grab a part from an old iPhone to fix your Android.

Anyway, 6 months into having them both, I can confidently say that my busted up trash machine is far better than my new one, or any consumer-grade sewing machine on the market.

The old machine? Can sew through a pile of leather thicker than my fingers like it's nothing. (it's actually terrifying and I treat it like a power tool - I'll never sew drunk on that thing because I'm genuinely afraid it'd sew through a finger!) At high speeds, it's well balanced and doesn't shake. The parts are all metal, attached by standard flathead screws, designed to be simple and strong, and easily reachable behind large access doors. The tools I need to work on it? A screwdriver and oil. Lost my screwdriver? That's OK, a knife works too.

The new machine's skipping stitches now that the plastic parts are starting to wear out. It's always throwing software errors, and it damn near shakes itself apart at top speed. Look at it's innards - I could barely fit a boriscope camera that's about as thick as spaghetti in there let alone my fingers. Very little is attached with standard screws.

And it's infuriating. I'm an engineer - there's no damn reason to make high-wear parts out of plastic. Or put them in places they can't be reached to replace. There's no reason to make your mechanism so unbalanced it's reaching the point of failure before reaching it's own design speed. (Oh yeah there is, it's corporate greed)

100 years, and your standard home sewing machine has gone from a beast of a machine that can be pulled out of the literal waterlogged trash and repaired - to a machine that eats itself if you sew anything but delicate fast-fashion fabrics that are also designed to fall apart in a few years.

Looking for something modern built to the standard that was set 100 years ago? I'd be looking at industrial machines that are going for thousands of dollars... Used on craigslist. I don't even want to know what they'd cost new.

We have the technology and knowledge to manufacture "old" sewing machines still. Hell, even better, sewing machines with the mechanical design quality of the old ones, but with more modern features. It would be so easy - at a technical level to start building things well again. Hell, it's easier to fabricate something sturdy than engineer something to fail at just the right time. (I have half a mind to see if any of my meche friends with machine shops want to help me fabricate an actually good modern machine lol)

We need to push for right-to-repair laws, and legislation against planned obsolescence. Because it's honestly shocking how corporate greed has downright sabotaged good design. They're selling us utter shit, and expecting us to come back for more every financial quarter? I'm over it.

I got tagged here by @sorcerervaati (probably because I made this post about the cheapest sewing machines I could find) so I'm going to chime in.

I work in a sewing machine dealership, where we sell machines ranging in cost from $169 to $17,000. We offer service packages, which means it's not cost effective for us to sell machines that will break in less than three years. Obviously, "less than three" and "this machine is over 100 years old" aren't the same thing at all, but it's at least not a frameless Brother or a whatever Singer is doing these days. So I want to start out by saying that I fully agree that your Brother machine is complete shit and that an antique treadle is going to be better in every way except for stitch vairety.

Here's a few things to note, though: there WERE terrible, irreparable, poorly-functioning machines made 100 years ago. The thing about that is that those machines that broke after 2 years of use were thrown out 98 years ago and forgotten. We only see the good ones these days, because they're the only ones that survived.

"There's no reason to make high-wear parts out of plastic." There is actually a really good one: money. When you get into machines in the $500+ range, you get more and more metal parts. Bernina machines start at $1000 but have all their critical parts made out of metal. However, there's a huge demand for machines that are under $200. There are people who will not spend over $200 on a machine, and every brand that offers those machines has to find out how they're going to meet that price point. Brother cuts build quality down to nothing, glues the boards to the plastic housing instead of giving it a frame, and then slaps on a basic board that has 500 stitch patterns on it, and people buy that because "ooh more stitches is more value!!" Baby Lock puts an all-metal frame in their machines, and then no circuit board and very limited mechanical stitches. Inexperienced sewists will opt for Brother over Baby Lock because they don't value the all-metal internal frame. Bernina says "fuck you, we don't do cheap," and doesn't offer a machine under $1000.

And that gets to the second thing that people often don't take into account when they're comparing old sewing machines to new ones. Old treadle machines were not the 1900 equivalent of $150. They were much, much more expensive. OP's up there looks like it's from after the Sewing Machine Cartel was disbanded, and so it probably wasn't $25+, but those old machines were actually very expensive. If you want to come into my store and buy a pretty expensive machine, you're going to get a lot more life out of it. The old mechanical Bernina machines that were $450 in the 1980's are still able to be repaired, despite it being hard to find parts. If you want to buy a $3500 machine now ($450 inflation adjusted, yikes), you're also going to be getting a machine where the mechanical parts will last a long time. You will have a situation where the boards and electronics will age. They age slower than, say, a cell phone, but the difference between a 1999 touch screen sewing machine and a 2020 touch screen sewing machine is something you can feel. That's not because the 1999 touch screen has gotten worse, but even if it's the exact 100% same functionality that it was when it was first unboxed, touch screen technology has changed and it will feel old.

I have a pretty sizeable collection of antique sewing machines (about 12? I'll have to actually count) and in general, the build quality is very good. They're in good shape, and they do what they were made to do very well. But they're not precision machines. If you deactivate the feed, place a piece of paper under the foot, and then sew the machine for 50 stitches, the hole in the paper will have a diameter of roughly two or three times the diameter of the needle. If you do that on a $3300 Bernina, your paper will have a hole that is the exact same size as the needle. This is also why old machines don't care about brand of needle or quality of thread, and new machines do. For some people, having a "sews through everything! can use any thread! been using the same needle since 1963!" kind of machine is a real benefit. For some people, having a needle that wavers and a stitch length that will change slightly as you sew is absolutely unacceptable. That all depends on both technique and personal preference.

So yeah, original poster is absolutely 100% correct in terms of the comparison between their budget 2020 Brother and their 100-year-old treadle machine. They're really night and day. But that comparison doesn't take into account that we don't have any 100-year-old machines that broke after 2 years of use to look at, and it doesn't take into account that a budget Brother machine doesn't represent the quality of the vast majority of current premium sewing machines, and doesn't take into account that the treadle machine was a premium machine at its time of manufacture.

I still hugely and massively support right-to-repair and hate the disposable culture that created that Brother machine. I have to throw those Brother machines in the trash on a regular basis as part of my job. I hate it. I hate that there's nothing that we can even salvage from them to reuse. I hate that so many of them are broken by people attempting to do things that absolutely should not break their machine. I'm not here to say that OP was wrong, because they're absolutely right. I just want to add some additional context from the point of view of someone who repairs machines, collects antique cast iron machines, and who is very aware of what sewing machines are available on the market.

My friend is getting some crap on instagram about perceived classism in the lolita community, and as someone who runs a budget-focused lolita fashion blog, I'm going to rehash some of the old "but I can't afford burando!" conversation.

For some background reading, here's where I bought three "lolita" "dresses" off ebay, and what I actually received for my money. And here's a breakdown of one of those specifically. I'm linking to these because I want everyone to remember that the pictures on ebay, amazon, wish, etc do not represent what the actual piece you receive will look like.

Lolita fashion can be expensive, but the less expensive end of legitimate lolita fashion is not actually as expensive as many people think it is. It's not all $300 for a dress and $60 for a pair of socks. There are options that bring the price down to other fashions. It cannot compete with the hyper-fast fashion of Shein and H&M and other places where the clothing is designed to be disposable. This is because lolita clothing is not disposable. Even modified or damaged, lolita fashion pieces have resell value. It's very common for people to be wearing garments that are over ten years old. There's also a lot of documentation about how hyper-fast fashion is damaging to the environments where it's made and the people who made it.

Okay, so that's all very fine and well, but it's true that recognizing that something is worth the money doesn't actually get you the money to buy it. There's a lot of things that I recognize are worth the money it costs to buy them, but that I don't have the money for. I don't drive a high-end electric car, even though I think it would be a better choice for me, because I don't have the money for a high-end electric car. So I do, very distinctly, understand that. I'm not about to tell someone "just save up for it!"

But, when someone tells you that you cannot buy lolita fashion on wish dot com, they're not actually saying "you won't be accepted in a wish dot com dress." They're saying, "any money you spend on a wish dot com dress will be wasted, because you will not receive a usable garment." Let's play pretend for a second. You come up to me with $20 and say, "I'd like to buy clothes." I say, "Good. I'll sell you some clothes." I then take your $20 bill, rip it into small pieces, eat all of the pieces, and say, "that's your clothes." Now, you didn't actually get any clothes from that, and there's no way you're getting your $20 back because I have consumed it. Your friend comes up to me and says, "Hi, I'd like to buy clothes." You say, "Don't give her that $20! It will be a waste of money!" Your friend says, "That's classism, because I only have $20." That's the conversation that's happening right now on my friend's instagram.

Classism does exist in the lolita fashion community. It can even come from people with good intentions. But, when it comes to buying on Ebay and Amazon and Walmart.com, people who are saying, "you can't buy lolita fashion on walmart dot com," aren't saying, "we won't accept your walmart dot com dress, because it was cheap." What they're saying is, "the thing that the site is telling you that you're buying and the thing that you will receive are going to be two different things. The thing you will receive will barely be a garment." There's a reason why, when I say "lolita dress from ebay," I have to typeset it as "'lolita' 'dress' from ebay," because it will probably be neither lolita nor a dress.

If you're new to the fashion and want a good shopping resource, 42lolita is a reseller/shopping service that will tell you what the shipping will be up front. Many other resellers will send you the shipping costs after you make the purchase, which makes it harder to predict what you'll be paying. You won't be getting a dress for $20 on 42lolita or anywhere else, but the prices they charge are more in line with shopping at a department store, rather than shopping at a big name designer store. There's a lot of other ways to purchase lolita fashion, and I just used 42lolita as one example.

The number of people who genuinely want the fashion to be as expensive as possible is not all that big. Even people who occasionally buy a $300 dress enjoy finding inexpensive accessories and support pieces. Finding lolita-usable jewelry on the Walmart clearance rack is a thing that's exciting to most people in the fashion. If there was a secret to buying $20 dresses on ebay and getting something that could be used in the fashion, people in the fashion would absolutely already be doing that.

So anyway, yeah, there's classism in the lolita community, but telling someone that they should not give me $20 for clothes when experience shows that I'm just going to rip it up and eat is not classism. Friends don't let friends spend money on badly made replicas on aliexpress.

This was in the comments on my friends controversial tiktok.

I'm so torn between the "okay, but you get why that's worse, right?" gif, or the, "I can excuse racism, but I draw the line at animal cruelty," gif.

It's okay to wear aliexpress lolita that's good quality, as long as you know that it's made by child labor???

Let me clarify the conversation that's been happening about ebay lolita:

The conversation that people think we're having is:

This is not what is actually happening.

The actual conversation that's happening is:

There IS classism in the lolita fashion community, and I'm happy to talk about that, but that's not what's happening in this specific conversation.

hey i am borrowing this post/some wording from the original op (with permission) since they were overwhelmed by comments but PSA!!!

Searching anything related to the Barbie movie on Google, mobile or desktop, activates a flashing hot pink screen effect that has no warning, re-activates when you refresh the page, and has no easy/apparent way to turn it off.

[ID: A screenshot of the effect in action on search results for Margot Robbie. It’s a bunch of bright pink bursting star and glitter effects all over the screen, and multiple UI features’ colors have been changed pink. End ID.]

I would recommend avoiding searching related terms, or considering using duckduckgo.com/ for searching, even temporarily. This sucks!

mutuals do this

There's something so deeply calming about watching megafauna prance and gambol about like they're little lambs

Bison pronking is already so magical, and then the double rainbow and the happy birdsong just put it way over the top

the christian concepts of repentance and sin are genuine soul poison

wow i wonder if perhaps there is some fundamental difference in the role that christianity and judaism have played in world history vis-a-vis the religions adopted and perpetuated and therefore shaped by the forces of global imperialism, or some kind of history of cultural perception of judaism, that would make a blanket condemnation of judaism raise red flags in the way a blanket condemnation of christianity doesn't. much to think about

I wish we could go back to the days where shipping whatever you wanted and minding your own business was the norm in fandoms.

everyone shut the fuck up and listen. i love decadence, i love filth, i love perversion; i love depravity and deviance and hedonism. i love corruption, i love the obscene. i love debauchery, i love all things sordid, i love the thrill of scandal. i love reveling in being a sicko. it brings me closer to god

https://www.miamiherald.com/news/health-care/article277853063.html

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Reblogging because a Canadian researcher was bribed to promote transphobic policies in Florida.