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i used to be more laid back about nobody knowing about the armenian genocide but lately ive reached the point where it makes me directly angry at the person who didn't know, not just the system that hid it from them. i used to especially not get mad at turkish people who didn't know (because they literally don't learn about it in school and their government denies it ever happened), but now i especially get mad at them, because, like. fuck, dude. you're a human being with internet access. do better. im not holding anyone's hand through this. i know people are not their government but i kind of don't care on this specific topic and won't care until they give Mt. Ararat back

im not reblogging the original post this is from directly because it's principally about how Germany gets mad at immigrants for identifying with the victims instead of the perpetrators when learning about the Holocaust, which is a good thing to discuss, but this specific example they opened the article with is pretty funny because like. Turkish immigrants. from Turkey. wondering how a society got fanatical enough to genocide an entire race. from Turkey. hmm, i dunno, let's ask literally fucking Hitler in 1939:

Turkish people don't get to play dumb about the concept of genocide. it's that thing your government keeps specifically denying they did to my ancestors

Luddites didn’t hate looms. They smashed looms because their bosses wanted to fire skilled workers, ship kidnapped Napoleonic War orphans north from London, and lock them inside factories for a decade of indenture, to be starved, beaten, maimed and killed. Designing industrial machinery that’s “so easy a child can use it,” isn’t necessarily a prelude to child-slavery, but it’s not not a prelude to child-slavery, either. The Luddites weren’t mad about what the machines did — they were mad at who the machines did it for and whom they did it to. The child-kidnapping millionaires of the Industrial Revolution said, “There is no alternative,” and the Luddites roared, “The hell you say there isn’t!” Today’s tech millionaires are no different. Mark Zuckerberg used to insist that there was no way to talk to your friends without being comprehensively spied upon, so every intimate and compromising fact of your life could be gathered, processed, and mobilised against you. He said this was inevitable, as though some bearded prophet staggered down off a mountain, bearing two stone tablets, intoning, “Zuck, thou shalt stop rotating thine logfiles, and lo, thou shalt mine them for actionable market intelligence.”
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loki-zen

so whatever your thoughts about modern tech, this is ahistorical nonsense.

the stuff the Luddites objected to was not a ‘prelude’ to child labour. It was the 19th century. Child labour was perfectly normal. They were objecting to advances that would 'enable' employers to replace them with cheaper child labour, yes - but the working class children in question would have been working to help support their families in some capacity anyway. This really wasn't the basis of their objection.

The Luddites were not primarily concerned with orphans from the one place in England this guy knows the name of. The Luddite movement began in Nottingham, and operated mostly there, in Yorkshire and in the Northwest. There were already children in the north of England.

They were a labour rights movement, of a sort. From what I gather the machine-smashing is better understood as a kind of rioting/direct action than a fundamental objection to the machines themselves.

But the quoted comments are really twisting the reality to say what they want to say and it annoyed me

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st-just

On a different tack - it feels weird to hold up the ludditee as an inspirational example here?

Like however virtuous or sophisticated they were, the movement did not exactly result in a viable long term alternative to industrial capitalism.

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sexhaver

unironically one of my favorite things on this website is when i see a post from a mutual that sounds pretty mad/hostile/condescending, so i click thru to their blog for context and spend the next few minutes wading through a slurry of 25% substantive ideological debate over fundamental disagreements in values and 75% insults ranging from bold new ways to call someone a liberal to (my favorite) entire paragraphs extrapolating out and critiquing core aspects of someone's life based on their political leanings, serving as a more verbose textual-only equivalent to "damn bitch, you live like this?" i mean all of this entirely unironically, hating is the lifeblood of this website and i love bathing in it from afar by reading the back-and-forth arguments between two people who have negative respect for each other and are instead arguing for an imaginary audience that i fill the role of. debate equivalent of a gladiator fight in the coliseum

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sexhaver

i derive pleasure from the suffering of others

unironically one of my favorite things on this website is when i see a post from a mutual that sounds pretty mad/hostile/condescending, so i click thru to their blog for context and spend the next few minutes wading through a slurry of 25% substantive ideological debate over fundamental disagreements in values and 75% insults ranging from bold new ways to call someone a liberal to (my favorite) entire paragraphs extrapolating out and critiquing core aspects of someone's life based on their political leanings, serving as a more verbose textual-only equivalent to "damn bitch, you live like this?" i mean all of this entirely unironically, hating is the lifeblood of this website and i love bathing in it from afar by reading the back-and-forth arguments between two people who have negative respect for each other and are instead arguing for an imaginary audience that i fill the role of. debate equivalent of a gladiator fight in the coliseum

Remnant 2 is really making me appreciate how much worse the jump controls in Dark Souls could have been. binding the jump button to an analog stick press and having it only activate while running? annoying, but manageable. binding the jump button to THE FUCKING DODGE ROLL BUTTON and making it do one or the other depending on how far away the nearest gap/vaultable object is? fucking madness incarnate. and no, vaulting/jumping do not give iframes. i just died twice in a row because my character decided that slowly clambering onto a toppled-over bench should take priority over dodging the slavering hellbeast mere inches away trying to turn him into a Pollock piece.

also, as long as im ragging on shit that R2 somehow managed to do worse in 2023 than Dark Souls did during the Obama administration, how did they manage to fuck up weapon upgrades even harder than DS3? DS3 had the issue where you were effectively locked into using the first decent weapon you start upgrading until endgame, because scaling means a +5 Pinky Tickler will do more damage than most things you buy or find at +0 until you invest 100k+ souls into upgrades and materials to bring them up to par [only to realize the damage still sucks]. R2 has this exact same issue, but makes it even WORSE by 1. making it very time-consuming to farm souls (scrap) early game, so the upgrade-to-par process takes much longer, and 2. explicitly scaling worlds up to the level of the most upgraded gun IN YOUR INVENTORY (even if it isn't equipped). oh and also the damage they deal scales with their health and you can't upgrade armor, so upgrading your strongest gun effectively buffs your enemies more than it buffs you. don't even get me started on how multiplayer scaling applies a universal damage buff to enemies on top of the usual HP buff despite damage obviously not being split among party members

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sexhaver

idk what the fuck is this latest round of buffs is meant to accomplish but this image sent me into a, no joke, fifteen-second-long coughing fit

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sexhaver

therapist: odd secret paladin isn't real, he can't hurt you

odd secret paladin:

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idk what the fuck is this latest round of buffs is meant to accomplish but this image sent me into a, no joke, fifteen-second-long coughing fit

every time im trying to optimize armor weight vs maneuverability in a video game i hear Isai saying "don't get hit" in the back of my head. why would i want to fatroll in exchange for heavy armor when dodging iframes have infinite% damage reduction

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jenpsaki

New research by Just Like Us has found that lesbians are the most likely of the whole LGBTQ+ community to be supportive of trans people. Lesbians are the most likely to say they know a trans person (92%), and also the most likely to say they are “supportive” or “very supportive” of trans people (96%). That’s compared to 89% of LGBTQ+ people overall, and just 69% of non-LGBTQ+ people.

The research was independently conducted and surveyed more than 3,600 adults aged 18-25. Even within a group of young adults, who would be expected to be more supportive of trans people, lesbians are still incredibly strong trans allies relative to the rest of the LGBTQ+ community.

But there are other reasons that the idea that lesbians are more likely to be anti-trans doesn’t add up. One is that being a lesbian and being trans are not mutually exclusive – sexual orientation and gender are different parts of our identities. You can be trans and a lesbian.

Secondly, as a lesbian, I see so much overlap with the experiences we and trans communities encounter in the heterosexist world we live in. Particularly, as a butch lesbian, I know that we are both used to living in the margins, to not having our identities respected or understood. Lesbians and trans people stand side by side – we always have done and always will. And this isn’t just my opinion, the research shows this is the case too.

So when you hear or read a nasty, false stereotype about lesbians being anti-trans, I hope you’ll be able to see it for what it is: a lesbopobic trope.

notice that this dumbass article makes zero mention of “transmisogyny”, only transphobia in general

moreover, while the Survey data isn’t linked (always a good sign), none of the quoted results make any attempt to distinguish cis lesbian attitudes towards trans women and transfems specifically from their attitudes towards trans men, transmascs, and nonbinary people who are not transfem. there is zero acknowledgement, using the word “transmisogyny” or otherwise, that cis lesbians might treat trans women much differently from how they treat trans men

which makes this part especially funny:

But there are other reasons that the idea that lesbians are more likely to be anti-trans doesn’t add up. One is that being a lesbian and being trans are not mutually exclusive – sexual orientation and gender are different parts of our identities. You can be trans and a lesbian.

if the idiot who wrote this cared so very much about trans lesbians, maybe she would have noticed our (trans lesbians’) criticisms of cis lesbians specifically being hostile to trans women even while being supportive (or “supportive”) of trans men, transmascs, and nonbinary people who are not targeted by transmisogyny. many of us have had exactly this experience with cis lesbians who are supportive of trans men and transmascs in the sense of construing them as Female-Adjacent—or outright deem them to be Confused Lesbians who have just lost their way—whereas they view trans women as Predatory and Male-Socialized

for an example of a study which actually distinguishes between attitudes toward trans women and trans men, there’s Blair & Hoskin (2018), Transgender exclusion from the world of dating: Patterns of acceptance and rejection of hypothetical trans dating partners as a function of sexual and gender identity, doi:10.1177/0265407518779139

(in the table below, Exclusionary indicates “no trans people at all”; Congruent means inclusive of trans people in a way that’s consistent with being Straight/Gay/Bi and the respondent’s own gender; Incongruent means there’s inconsistency, such as e.g. bi people not including trans women, or lesbians including trans men)

notice that among those surveyed, 71% of lesbians were exclusionary to all trans people, but 19.8% of lesbians were “inclusive” to trans men, while only 9% were inclusive of trans women. cis lesbians were twice as likely to view trans men as prospective partners than they were for trans women

my point in citing this study isn’t even about dating: this is just a single facet of how many cis lesbians view trans men and trans women in general. if you aggregate the attitudes of cis lesbians toward trans men and trans women together, you’re just using cis lesbians’ affinity for trans men to cover up their stance toward trans women

the allusion to butch lesbians being particularly incapable of transmisogyny is also really funny:

Secondly, as a lesbian, I see so much overlap with the experiences we and trans communities encounter in the heterosexist world we live in. Particularly, as a butch lesbian, I know that we are both used to living in the margins, to not having our identities respected or understood.

there are literally butch meetup/support groups that are explicitly AFAB-Only lmao—not even just that they always happen to push out trans women, which is the more common pattern, I mean that they explicitly do not allow trans women:

the Organizer of this group, Lane, has been an on-the-ground organizer for TERF causes for years and years. like many transmisogynists, he conceptualizes trans men and butches as both just being Very GNC Females, while he despises trans women. there are many transmisogynists who are GNC women, or whose Gender Is Lesbian, etc. there are also transmisogynists who are transmasc or trans men

“we’re both marginalized” doesn’t mean being incapable of transmisogyny, especially when it’s being used as an excuse to not confront transmisogyny

as a disclaimer, the states of our communities vary widely by national context as well as local conditions: most of my comments here are focused on the first world and anglosphere. but that’s not the disambiguation that this article is getting at.

a better article could acknowledge progress that has been made at countering transphobia and transmisogyny in our communities, while also acknowledging that they both persist, especially transmisogyny. a better article could actually engage with the criticisms trans lesbians have levied at transmisogyny among cis lesbians specifically, while also engaging with transmisogyny among cis bi women and gay/bi men

but all this article does is paper over how differently trans men and trans women can be treated by the exact same people: the equivalent of plugging your ears and repeating “you just hate lesbians” when a trans lesbian talks about her experiences with cis lesbians

lastly

I texted my friend back: “How many anti-trans lesbians do you know?” She replied: “None.” I don’t know any either – and I know a lot of lesbians!
The idea that lesbians are somehow more likely to be anti-trans is yet another lesbophobic trope that we’re forced to deal with and dismantle.

“as a lesbian who isn’t a trans woman, I haven’t experienced cis lesbians being transmisogynistic, so it must just be a Lesbiphobic myth!”....lmfao. this is so fucking stupid it would be funny if it weren’t so typical

this article is still being posted/linked elsewhere by insufferable cis lesbians (and otherwise transmisogyny-exempt lesbians) eager to pat themselves on the back about how they’ve totally never met a transmisogynistic cis lesbian in their entire lives, and that everyone who criticizes transmisogyny among cis lesbians is just being Sooooo Lesbiphobic™ :(

cis/TME lesbians are so committed to plugging their ears and crying “Lesbiphobia” instead of acknowledging (let alone combating) each other’s transmisogyny

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sexhaver

lmfao tumblr is recommending that i follow the person who fantasized about running me over and then finishing me off and hiding the body. on my own blog. she hasn't even changed urls

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sexhaver

has it really been a year and a half? fucked up

lmfao tumblr is recommending that i follow the person who fantasized about running me over and then finishing me off and hiding the body. on my own blog. she hasn't even changed urls