Fuck I’m at a fencing tournament and literally a minute after I reblogged this my dad told me that he talked to the point people and I’m probably going to win a medal.

BURN BAGEL BURN

OH WHY NOT?

I need to follow up to say I reblogged this last night, and this morning I got some of the best news of my life, like, a life dream come true news thing.

Bagel what are your powers

FUCK, I though it was just another lucky meme but LISTEN. Since a week ago I was waiting a phone call to confirm me if I got a job or not in my university. I reblogged this yesterday’s night “just for fun and because I don’t want any bagel to be mad with me”, and today’s afternoon, while I was losing my time as always, the professor I was supposed to work with called me and asked me for my personal information to start working with her.

THE BAGEL POWERS ARE WAY TOO MUCH FOR THIS WORLD

I GOT A JOB THE DAY AFTER MY QUEUE POSTED THIS THE FIRST TIME AND I JUST REALIZED IT WHEN I SAW IT AGAIN HOLY GOD

The bagel hasn’t let me down yet!

I got a job offer after reblogging the bagel. Believe in the bagel!

Worth a try lol

i could use some good news or even a good girl 

Go lil bagle! Show me your power!

Okii then!

THIS IS THE FIRST THING ON MY BLOG

I GOT ASKED OUT FOR THE FIRST TIME AFTER I REBLOGGED IT

Ugh I hate superstitions… … not that it stops me, of course

Gimmie

This will always be my favorite gifset. Ever.

im morally obligated to reblog this every time i see it

(me january 2022) seriously though its time to pull my shit together

(me december 2022) seriously though its time to pull my shit together

WHAT AN ABSOLUTE QUEEN FOR THIS

a tutorial on rescuing someone from an uncomfortable or dangerous situation

Damn. She did everything right. Yes, this is dangerous. But even a violent man is still human and can be outplayed. Predators rely on a pattern or routine. Disrupt the routine, and the predator freezes up. Once you disrupt them, don't give them time to develop a response. Be bold. Be decisive. Talk loud. Act fast.

How should I approach this as a man? I wouldn’t want to make her more uncomfortable but I also wouldn’t be able to physically intimidate anyone because I’m short and un-athletic.

Talking to the woman is going to be hit or miss, just because she won't know if you are an "out if the frying pan, into the fire" situation. BUT, you could still go with "thanks for waiting, you ready to go? Oh, who's this?" And if she walks with you, you can say that she looked uncomfortable. I had a guy once ask if I could help with his phone to get me away from a conversation. OR: talk to the dude. "Hey man, can you give me directions to this place? Don't I know you from somewhere?" Etc. Then she has time to escape. There are no set in stone answers, even if you don't handle it perfect, if she gets out of the situation safely, count it as a win

Thank you for the response!!

Talking to the dude works!

One of my colleagues spotted a woman facing slightly away from a man who was talking to her, who was scary close. She looked uncomfortable and made eye contact. He noticed the guy was wearing a Broncos jacket and nonchalantly passed them both by and started the sports speak to the dude, like "aw bro did you see the defense last night? Hell of a time to he a Bronco fan, right?" And stood slightly behind the guy so he had to turn away from the woman. She said a cheeky "I'm not into sports, g'night!" comment and slipped away to the elevator. The dude looked super pissed but just stalked away to his car.

What was he supposed to do, admit to bad intentions?

Sometimes you don't need to be the savior, but a distraction.

i don’t think we can ^-^ our way out of this one boys

so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god

okay so i just got my dream job??? a week after applying to it?? and now i’m thinking….maybe this is the good luck post

…..not even six hours later i got an offer of a well paying full time long-term job with free room and board in queens in nyc, allowing me independence and a way to escape an abusive situation and an unhealthy environment

likes charge reblogs cast, folks, this is the good luck post

i need all the help i can get for finals

Hey so

the last time I reblogged this post right before I got a great job, in a permanent work-from-home position, with benefits, retirement, and a salary literally 3x what I was making before, doing something I really like. 

So you know. 

This might be the real one, y’all.

Normalize disliking people and avoiding them without starting a conflict and insisting that they're bad people. You don't actually need to be able to call someone toxic and abusive in order to justify that you're not vibing with them.

And the flip side of this is, *let* people just avoid people they don't vibe with. Don't insist that they have to explain or have a 'good enough' reason, don't pressure them about it. Just let it not be a Thing.

same energy

there’s more

SIGH

here’s another one

IT GETS WORSE WITH EVERY ADDITION

how does this get even worse

women are socialized to be so accommodating of others and you don’t even realize it until you’re already in the middle of some elaborate favor for someone and you’re wondering what the fuck you’re even doing

I need everyone to understand the above gif is unedited. That actually played on TV.

How do you protect yourself from being stalked online by your parents?

I often get messages from teens living with their abusive parents telling me about how terrifying it is for them to even look at my blog in case their parent finds out. I was a teenager before social networking on the internet. Honestly, when I was a teenager there was barely an internet yet. So, I don’t know how people protect themselves but I feel like probably there are ways. If you know please do share! A lot of people would find it helpful.

Advice for keeping your phone safe in toxic environments:

Keep things in google apps

Use the internet on apps that aren’t Safari

Inform your friends and if you want to be really sneaky use code when texting

Awesome info. Thank you!

There are more responses too that I can’t reblog. Check out the notes to see them.

I was in this situation a while ago, another thing to do is you can make second accounts on your social media and block your parents account so they don’t find it

For social media, I either go by a different name/photo w/e and block my family or I just make a second account and block them all again.

And I’ve always had a password on everything, so they can’t go through it and I won’t let them.

no one is coming after me but still reblogging because other people definitely need this info

Thank you! Yes. Please, everyone boost. So many need this info.

Fake/second accounts are great for this, as long as you still use your other accounts for safe messages and websites, etc so they don’t get suspicious when they check it. Also, only deleting the parts of your search history that your parents would object to is less suspect than deleting the whole thing.

If they’re being sneaky and checking things while you’re not around, make sure to log out of all social media after using it and try to have a slightly different password for each one.

Let your friends and other people know so that they don’t accidentally send unsafe messages to your main account.

(Stay safe,guys.Reblog to help each other out.)

I just discovered Hide It Pro. It looks like an audio manager but it’s actually a secret vault where you can store apps your abusive parents will lose their minds over. Anyone ever use this?

I have like 5 active followers but in case anyone ever needs this

A search engine/ browser that my parents literally NEVER CHECK is called puffin- it seems like nobody knows about it but it’s pretty standard and similar to google chrome. It lets you use everything in desktop mode, only it no longer works for iOS devices. Android users, however, are in the clear.

Hide It Pro is AMAZING, if you’re on the fence about getting it please do.

First of all, sharing to save a life yo.

Secondly, this might seem counterproductive, but it seems like an appropriate time to raise awareness of Noonlight for more extreme cases of abusive parents. It’s an app that can alert a list of people of your choosing when you are in danger, or summon the police in an emergency. Works at home, school, work, or anywhere in-between.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.safetrekapp.safetrek

I’ll always signal boost this stuff until it’s no longer needed.

thank you guys

also of you need to store things on notes you dont want your parents finding, search calculator diary into the appstore or google play and theres a tonne of secret diary things disguised as calculators which only open if a code is typed in, do even of they do check it they probably womt be able to do anything with it

Most of this is advice from someone who had an iPod and then an iPhone -

Be wary of the ones disguised as calculators cause when I was a teen (2015 or so) those came out in the news as being hidden apps and then my mom started checking my (real) calculator app

Ive been using private tumblr blogs (password locked, only restricted to people logged in on tumblr who have my blog password) to store photos, diary entries, important info. Google apps are fine but be extremely careful and be aware where/if they sync to anywhere else.

If you have an iPhone and share an iCloud backup with your family, turn off iCloud sync to avoid any accidental sharing of photos/other things you don’t want shared

Most text tracking software does not know how to work with free texting apps over WiFi - I used textfree as a teen but there’s plenty of others.

Make accounts your parents don’t know about. I have a second email where I take care of riskier things and a first email they used to check that has nothing suspicious. Email is a big one you’ll need esp as you get older.

Seconding the keep things in code - a friend of mine used to text a single period to indicate that I shouldn’t respond or acknowledge anything until she got back - this is good to prevent the accidental “I deleted my messages but then they responded”

When in doubt, go old fashioned and niche. Keep important things on flash drives and keep those flash drives hidden. Older versions of apps and iOS software are less easily restricted and tracked by software because most tracking software came in later versions and become more efficient with every version (ex my mom blocked tumblr.com on my phone but an older iOS would still allow me to visit some individual blogs whereas later versions blocked every blog). Use browsers and search engines that aren’t mainstream - I used to use Bing quite a bit. DuckDuckGo is pretty good but catching on in popularity, I used to use Ruby and IE. At my job last summer we had a niche version of Google Apps by another company (we weren’t allowed to use google since it owned the data - I can’t remember the name but hardly anyone would think to look there). Cisco Jabber was also a good IM app at the office but can be used for personal use as well.

As technology advances, people will be expecting you to keep trying to hide things using the latest and greatest tech. All tracking software will be updated to try and keep up. People forget about old versions and assume that no one wants to use them anymore. Use this to your advantage. People don’t know about the more niche versions of things, or don’t think you’ll use them, or just don’t think to check them. Use the tech that falls through the cracks.

Most importantly, be safe and careful. I lost years worth of things that were important to me when my parents went through my phone one day - if I’d been more careful about deleting things, I would’ve been in far less trouble. It‘s painful to lose memories, connections, any of these things you store privately. But the most important thing while you live with them is your safety. The things you cherish will never really be lost, no matter what your parents do to your phone or whatever steps you have to take (or things you have to delete) to protect yourself.

It does get better. I spent my teen years afraid for my life but now I’m in college and have privacy that I never dreamed of having. You will make it out. You can do it

For an encrypted free over Wifi texting app, try Signal. You can also set it to automatically delete messages after a certain period of time so that you don’t have to go through and remember to clear your text history.

Has this been done already or

can we, as a society, start to realize that having a phone does NOT mean you HAVE TO BE accsessible to anyone and everyone at ALL times??

My mom threw a fit at me for not answering my phone while i was at my friends place. Kinda hypocritical too, given how much she complains that “youth these days spend to much time on their phones”

My boss was very CLEARLY not satisfied that i only got back to his text hours after he sent it. My friend didnt speak to me for weeks once bc she thought we were having a FIGHT??? bc i didnt reply to her message on facebook? till the day after she sent it??

i HAVE a phone, that doesnt mean i HAVE TO BE availiable whenever ANYONE decides they want me to be???

what the fuck

can people stop assuming they are entiteled to my attention 24/7??

this is so important. people need their alone time & their space. & it doesn’t matter if you see them active on social media, sometimes people just like to scroll through their timeline without talking to anyone for a while. you really can’t expect to have someone’s attention every second of the day, it’s not realistic at all.

Thanks for writing it down

This is some truth laid down right here boy.

Millennials have essentially been forced into a perpetual teenagerhood by socioeconomic circumstance, we desperately want to grow up, and we’re worried that we’re running out of time to do so

bitches say they're fine and then scream the "I sometimes wish I'd never been born at all" in bohemian rhapsody louder than everyone else

Good evening, it is I, bitches.

#my last two brain cells

Dear AO3, I’m here BECAUSE it’s adult content, so yes, I’m willing to see such content leave me alone

all fanfiction is funnier and sexier and vastly better-written when you read it at three in the morning, in the dark, lying on your side, tucked into bed, with screen rotate turned off. that’s just how it works. that’s just facts.