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Seeking Answers In All The Wrong Places

@seekingeternal

Just some things I like

i wish everyone who made kit connor feel he had to come out a very merry FUCK YOU. you forced an eighteen year old into coming out publicly, before he was ready, when he stated many many times he wanted to keep it private. how many more times does this shit have to fucking happen before some of you fucking clock that YOU CANNOT QUEERBAIT IN REAL LIFE. this is the natural end to the discourse of ‘if somebody is in the public eye playing a queer person they owe us their sexuality’, and it’s DEEPLY FUCKED UP, they do NOT owe you an answer, and this mindset JUST FORCED AN EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD TO OUT HIMSELF BEFORE HE WAS READY TO

the best part of the calliope bonus episode of the sandman was the absolute care and attention to detail that went into depicting the scary subtleties of men who abuse, exploit, and manipulate women. 

the brilliant casting choice of arthur darvill as richard madoc, a likeable actor who has played likeable characters, someone we would probably never think as a bad guy, to be calliope’s captor. richard madoc’s claims of being a feminist, citing famous female authors as his source of inspiration, using feminism and anti-racism as a marketing ploy to make himself look “woke”, dehumanizing calliope because she’s a muse, because she’s immortal, because he was told not to view her as human. 

the single scratch as a symbol of an unforgivable violence, dream’s acknowledgement that his over a century imprisonment is nothing compared to the decades she spent having men forcefully take from her, calliope’s gentle reminder not to compare their traumas because they are different but both valid, dream asserting that richard madoc still must be punished, calliope’s decision to forgive him in the end not for him but for herself, her setting off to rewrite the laws which imprisoned her in the first place and dream vowing to do the same in his realm. 

every aspect of this episode is so so relevant and it’s handled well at every turn, beautifully adapting its source material, giving its antagonist a punishment from his own mind, giving him an abundance of what he unjustly took from someone else and plaguing him with it until he has nothing left because that is what his actions deserved. 

also just the fact that calliope is played by a greek actress. a small detail that i love. there’s just so many good things and it’s driving me up the walls in the best way possible because i’m so glad we got these bonus episodes, i’m so glad we get to see this. 

i want to add to this brilliant post that another great thing about her episode was that after decades of abuse and her agency taken from her, dream didn’t continue the abuse. it was all about what calliope wanted to do. ’let me help you’ a plea, not a demand. so many stories would of had him barrelling in knowing what’s best and doing it anyway, not this one. he asks her permission at every step, something that neither of her captors would have done. it’s all about what she wants to do from the moment he arrives, dream would have probably walked away if she’d changed her mind about wanting his help, not happily mind you, it’s clear he cares deeply for calliope and it would have broken his heart to do so but he respects her as well. it brings to mind for me about consent, about how a yes isn’t blanket permission for everything and it can be revoked at any time. dream could have taken calliopes call for help as blanket permission to come in and punish the bad guy and save the day, except he doesn’t, he asks her to let him help instead of taking her call for him as a right to do what he wants. i just love that. i love the complete difference between madocs interactions with calliope where he talks at her and dreams interactions where he talks with her. it’s just another subtle thing that really adds to the story.