+I’m unloveable and my lonely boring life just proves it. I can’t see why I should try to reach out to other people when I know they won’t be interested in me or if they are, they’ll reject me soon as they see what I truly am… I’m not worth getting to know and even though my loneliness hurts so much now I know I’ll feel worse if someone mistreats/rejects me so I keep isolating myself bc that’s the only way I feel like I can protect myself (2/2)

HI anon,

I feel as though I could have written this message myself. i’m not sure if that is reassuring or validating at all to know that you are not alone with how you are feeling. I’m sorry that you struggle so much and I truly know how difficult it is to feel so poorly about yourself and about your life and to feel so hopeless about things ever being able to change. But things can change. Things do change. Change is constant. You can change these things, even if it feels impossible. These things can change. You can build confidence and compassion towards yourself; you can change your life around and build healthy and strong relationships. You are worth loving and I would bet that the people in your life do not have such hateful feelings towards you that you have towards yourself. I know how debilitating these things can be though. I know how much it can affect your life when you don’t have confidence or even any loving feelings towards yourself. But it can change; if you put in the work and address these feelings and beliefs head on, you can change these things. You can change how you feel about yourself and you can change the hopelessness that you feel. It’s not easy and trust me I don’t have it all figured out myself, not at all actually, but if you have the desire to change it and get better, it can happen.

I would encourage you to reach out for help if this is something that you want to change and work on. Therapy is a good place to work through these feelings and learn ways to reframe your thoughts. Working on building confidence and developing hope is not easy, like i keep saying, but it’s something that you deserve to do and deserve to work on. You don’t deserve to hate yourself the way that you do. You don’t deserve the hopelessness that you feel. You are loved and you deserve to love yourself.

Lina