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Finished up reading As You Like It, and it might be my favorite Shakespeare play! Next week is my writing program and the week after that is my month long leadership camp!!

dating advice: the “captain america” rule

Context: I grew up in a family of nerds, and superheroes were always a really big part of my childhood. Captain America was a favorite, and he kind of became my family’s standard for good behavior and just generally being a Nice Person. (If one of the kids started a fight they’d get hit with, “What would Captain America think of how you’re acting?”, stuff like that.)

So when I got to high school and started dating, my mom told me something that sounds funny but in retrospect actually turned out to be really good advice:

“Date someone who treats you the way Captain America would. Never settle for less.” 

And this has actually helped me so much in my dating life, through high school and into my adult years, because even if it’s a little silly, it’s been really helpful to have that standard in the back of my mind when I’m first going into a relationship. 

Would Captain America ignore my calls? Would Captain America forget my birthday? Would Captain America get mad at me for cancelling a date because a family emergency came up? If the answer is no, then I know that the person I’m currently dating does not meet my standards, and that I need to break things off before they get too serious.

And your standard absolutely does not have to be Captain America, specifically. It can be any person, male or female, real or fictional, who is known for being respectful and considerate. It can even be an imaginary “soulmate” that you make up yourself. The point is to have a specific idea of how you expect to be treated by your romantic partners, and to refuse to compromise or settle for less. (Just make sure you’re holding yourself to the same standards – you can’t expect to date superheroes if you’re going to treat your partners the way a supervillain would.) This is a really good way to keep yourself from falling into bad relationships where you aren’t treated with the respect and care you deserve.

TL;DR: You deserve to date people who are respectful and considerate of you. You deserve a Captain America. Don’t settle for less. 

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jake peralta doing IT for/because of amy santiago

anonymous asked:

Can I ask for some platonic headcanons for Lance and Pidge? I just really love their friendship man. They're the gaming buddies who will drag each other (both into situations, and playfully insulting each other).

heck yeah you can!! i love lance + pidge interactions so much tbh (a bit of bonus keith and shiro in here for effect)

  • they both know that sibling feel so they kinda fell into each other like that
    • act like bickering siblings
    • are also as close as siblings and will fite anyone who hurts the other in any way
    • lance: let me have the next turn on the game console or your alien sock collection gets it / pidge: YOU WOULDN’T DARE
    • *something happens that is obviously pidge’s fault* lance: i ain’t no snitch 
  • lance: pidge do u love me / pidge: id sell u to satan for one cornchip / lance: wow binch im worth at least two
  • BUT ALSO
  • lance: pidge do u love me / pidge: who hurt u who made u doubt my love for u who do i have to fite tell them to turn on their location
  • lance will literally sit on pidge to win a spar and shiro is just…so done…
    • shiro: lance…that won’t work against a galra soldier… / lance: it will if they’re tiny B^) / pidge: yOU’RE LUCKY I’M OUT OF BREATH, LANCE
  • TRANS BUDDIES
    • keith is also a trans buddy and anyone who says they all can’t be trans buddies is cordially invited to meet me in the pit
    • if either one of them references being trans in any way shape or form, the others just
    • “WE GET IT. YOU’RE TRANS.”
  • pidge can and will enlist lance to give her rides on his shoulders so she can reach things
  • meme teme
    • constantly making references
    • pidge: eat a healthy snack, rebecca / lance, staring longingly into space: i want chipotle / pidge: THATS NOT A HEALTHY SNACK REBECCA
    • an asteroid starts crumbling for some reason / lance and pidge in perfect sync: tag yourself im the asteroid
  • pidge steals everyone’s jackets/vests, and keith’s WOULD be her fav, but it’s a hacket (half jacket) so lance’s wins cause it’s a full jacket AND also is the only one with a warm hood. which she hides in.
  • if lance is wondering where his jacket went, he just has to look for pidge, or rather, his jacket in the shape of pidge since it covers like 90% of her
  • pidge absolutely kicks lance’s ass at 90% of video games
    • exceptions are FPS and minigames (like in mario party) he kicks ass at those get rekt pidge
    • mario kart is neutral ground its race or die in mario kart who knows who’ll get the next blue shell
    • spoiler: it’s pidge. it’s always pidge. she hacked the game.

having an illness is so weird because even little things make you question how your body/mind works.

does everyone yawn like that?

does everyone get nervous over that?

is this normal? or just normal for me? is this normal for everyone or just everyone w my illness? or not normal at all and i should call a doctor?

wait no one does that? so it is me????

wait thats something healthy people do too??? so it isnt just me????

its like a constant state of paranoia and confusion and no answer is statisfying so you just sit there and ?????

Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2

Spoilers, obviously.

Guardians of the Galaxy continues to be the best of the marvel lineup in many categories.  The action was well paced, well choreographed; the dialogue was snappy, cackle-loudly-funny.  But the best part?

Oh my god, these weirdos, they…will actually talk about their feelings?

No no no, none of this angsty repressive bs like the rest of the mcu superheroes.

Yondu? Yondu is Peter’s dad.  100%.  The guy raised him, protected him, gave his life for him.  So his dad.  And…both of them acknowledged it out loud.  Amazing.  I love it.  I love it I love it I love it I love it give me more please.

Gamora and Nebula? Have a real fucked up relationship, but…they talked about it.  Out loud.  After beating the shit out of each other, and saving each other’s lives multiple times.  

They are a family, a family that loves each other, that will forgive each other.

And I think it’d kinda cool.  And sweet.  It’s a breath of fresh air in this universe.

My favorite parts:

The Watchers cameo + Stan Lee cameo– but, um, crying over this part because (i didn’t catch this at first but then I thought about it and it was like OH FUCK because) the watchers, okay, they almost never interfere in anything; theirs is to simply watch, observe, know, all of the most crucial moments in Marvel history.  In their first bit, they’re sitting around Stan Lee, listening to him tell stories.  Watching him.  But in the second bit? They’re walking away from him.  And do you know what he says? I’m crying over fucking Stan Lee guys, because as they’re walking away from him, he says “But wait! I’ve still got more stories to tell!”  When you get it, please come find me and cry with me over this.

Also, the second, the very second Ego says that he’s the one who put a tumor in Peter’s mom’s head, Peter pulls out his pistols and starts shooting the shit out of him.  Zero hesitation.  Just blam! instant swiss god.

Also also, I love how they were all baby groot’s parents.  Peter tells him to put his seatbelt on, Gamora waves to him, they all try to protect him, and at the end they all pass him around ‘cause he wants to be held by all of them and he FALLS ASLEEP ON DRAX’S SHOULDER OH MY GOD.

So…yeah.  I really liked this movie, and I wouldn’t mind if Marvel decided to make another one.

I hate the idea that you have to take people’s awful behavior or abuse because they have a mental illness. If someone is hurting you, cutting ties with them doesn’t make you a bad person.

Some unusually smart food choices today somehow led me to be able to have pizza from a RESTAURANT tonight. Honestly this never happens so I’m enjoying every second of it.