~nb

Just a reminder that not all homophobia is blatant, not all homophobia is extreme, not all homophobia is obvious.

Homophobia is not exclusive to religious groups angrily marching down streets with signs screaming “H*MOS GO TO HELL!” or the murder of LGBT+ people.

Homophobia can be subtle, and it can be just as harmful, if not worse.

Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend being aggressively insistent that you must approach any girl/guy/etc. that you say is cute, even complete strangers, or they will for you.

Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend telling you their listening when you’re talking about your struggles, or educating them, and acting as if they are when they aren’t.

Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend challenging you to “Prove it!” though never out loud.

Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend.

And just because they “love you,” and “support you outwardly,” just because they aren’t marching down the street protesting your existence, doesn’t mean they can’t hurt you.


A family member or friend, who is truly supportive will not only love and support you unconditionally, they will consciously work to broaden their understanding of your experiences. They will make an effort to listen when you speak, without ego, without judgment. They will apologize when necessary. They will mess up, but they will learn.

They will be willing to struggle with the homophobia our society has internalized into them — not for themselves, but for you. 

This is what it means to be truly supportive. This is what you deserve.

let’s play ‘how many headcanons can i shove in a single drawing’
you guys seem to have liked my lastest drawing so hello!! Theres more!!!
(do his hearing aids match his shirt yes they do)

since trans day of visibility is coming up in a few days (march 31st), i figured i’d make a list of advice for cis people commenting on/reblogging people’s posts/selfies?

  • do definitley like and reblog and tag and comment on our posts!! its what TDOV is for! show your support for the community by showing us some love
  • dont post any selfies if ur cis. today is not about u
  • if ur gonna comment about how great someone looks, great!!
  • just make sure u use the right pronouns/descriptors. most people put their pronouns on their selfies, but if they dont its easy to check their bio to see if they have them! 
  • also dont say stuff like “wow ur prettier than I am!!” bc that implies that u think cis ppl are more attractive as a default, so its insulting and patronising
  • if the post is one with pics from multiple stages throughout someones transition, pls dont say “its not fair u get to be hot in both genders!” because thats cissexist n transphobic and adheres to the “used to be a X” rhetoric and erases people with fluid genders and implies that cis ppl inherently deserve to be hotter/better 
  • go thru the tdov tags!! spread some love to all of us (not just conventionally attractive and/or passing people)
  • its not only selfies either. lots of ppl post some really cool content so dont miss out on that either

thats all i can think of rn. feel free to add on if u want

nonbinary falls under the trans umbrella right