Just a reminder that not all homophobia is blatant, not all homophobia is extreme, not all homophobia is obvious.
Homophobia is not exclusive to religious groups angrily marching down streets with signs screaming “H*MOS GO TO HELL!” or the murder of LGBT+ people.
Homophobia can be subtle, and it can be just as harmful, if not worse.
Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend being aggressively insistent that you must approach any girl/guy/etc. that you say is cute, even complete strangers, or they will for you.
Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend telling you their listening when you’re talking about your struggles, or educating them, and acting as if they are when they aren’t.
Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend challenging you to “Prove it!” though never out loud.
Homophobia can be a “supportive” family member or friend.
And just because they “love you,” and “support you outwardly,” just because they aren’t marching down the street protesting your existence, doesn’t mean they can’t hurt you.
A family member or friend, who is truly supportive will not only love and support you unconditionally, they will consciously work to broaden their understanding of your experiences. They will make an effort to listen when you speak, without ego, without judgment. They will apologize when necessary. They will mess up, but they will learn.
They will be willing to struggle with the homophobia our society has internalized into them — not for themselves, but for you.
This is what it means to be truly supportive. This is what you deserve.