~abuse mention

anonymous asked:

My stepmom (My autism makes processing commands difficult): Can you do anything I tell you? Are you a dog? Do I have to tell you to sit and stay? Later when I told my dad about it he said: She didn't say that. You're making stuff up. Even if she did, she didn't mean it like that. You're autism causes you to misinterpret stuff sometimes right? How would you know if she was being cruel?

Tonight, hosting for the Asshole Awards, are this person’s stepmom and dad!

Translation: “I have no issue comparing you to a dog because of your processing disability. I do not want to clarify or help you at all and I think insulting you will somehow make you process what I am saying.”

Dad: “You must be making this up. Or your processing her wrong and nothing you hear or experience is real. This is me severely gaslighting you.”

~Mod kay and admincam

So I’ve been rereading BNHA and I just can’t get over how often Todoroki apologizes to people

Chapter 11:

Chapter 29:

Chapter 31:

Chapter 34:

Chapter 43:

Chapter 56:

Chapter 57:

Chapter 63:

Chapter 95:

Chapter 99:

I mean, some of these are situation-appropriate, but for a character who’s pretty foul-mouthed Todoroki sure apologizes a lot. I wonder if this was an intention choice by Horikoshi given Todoroki’s backstory. Don’t quote me on this, but it’s not uncommon for people who had been through abuse to be non-confrontational and overly apologetic. Since we’re shown plenty that Todoroki has no qualms about pissing off Endeavor whatsoever, perhaps it came from his mom. She hated his likeness and it probably showed in their interactions; maybe she flinched, maybe she couldn’t bring herself to look at his face, somehow or another little Todoroki learnt that something about him scared her. So he apologized. He wasn’t sure what for, but clearly he was doing something wrong. By the time he knew why (she told him why), the habit already stuck.

anonymous asked:

I'm not an anti or anything, but I don't like the shiro/paladin ships. I find the age gap too much, with the age range being 16-18 for Keith, Lance and Hunk. And as someone in their age range, I wouldn't even feel comfortable dating a 25 y/o so the content doesn't sit quite right with me. Plus there is the whole considering child abuse survivors aspect. But generally, I really like how you don't post shiro/paladin stuff so it'd be nice if your blog stayed like that

Thank you very much for your input. I totally agree with you that if you see K L and H as being 16-18 and Shiro as being 25 it’s very understandable to find those ships icky.

@stardust-moth

replied to your post

“Before I say anything, one thing is for certain: this is your blog,…”

pt 1. That’s exactly how I feel about the power imbalance thing– by my own interpretation, if shiro were to be romantically involved with any of the other paladins, he would not be the kind of person to take advantage of that imbalance. His character is canonically kindhearted and supportive towards them. Regardless of my opinion that a relationship between Shiro and another paladin would probably not be nearly as unhealthy or toxic as antis claim them to be…

pt 2. …there are plenty of content creators in the fandom who mischaracterize and stereotype and fetishize based on tropes, and such content IS in fact pretty damn toxic sometimes. So from that viewpoint I understand why some fandom members are highly against the ships. However, of the content that you’ve posted on your main blog, none of them are like that; it’s all very sweet and endearing and I, as a non-shipper of Shiro/paladin ships, still really like them.

Haha I love how you’re giving like an insider scoop on my main bless

On a more serious note though you bring up a very good point re: fetishization and yeah, that kind of stuff makes me cringe

Edited to add: as two anons pointed out to me, we should be careful when making statements like “Shiro wouldn’t act like this,” because it has the potential to be used to invalidate victims’ claims (saying “oh x would never do that you’re making it up”). While I’m sure that wasn’t the intent of your message it’s important to recognize that what people take issue with is the potential for abuse of a power imbalance not the question of whether or not Shiro would act on it

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ok so im doing this lmao
i was really touched by harley’s story and you know her being independent and being bisexual really really inspired me to be confident in who i am.i was drawn to her character since i was very young and she’s someone i hold really close to my heart. Elliot Alderson from Mr Robot because well we are both super mentally ill and there’s a lot more aspects we both have in common. Finally, my daughter, Darlene. From the beginning Darlene really stood out for me, her personality just clicked with me and her sense of style? she’s so badass and as the show progressed and we got to see her development i figured we are really similar. she lived in an abusive household and she’s really trying to recover, she always wanted to be special and she just means a lot to me not only because she is the character i mostly relate to, but it’s because i see a lot of herself in me, shes someone i hold really close to my heart as well and to see my story be similar to hers and being shown, is rly great. these three mean so much to me and well this got deep. anyone who wants to do it feel free to say i tagged u!!

anonymous asked:

any humanstuck megido headcanons? especially any that involve family relations cus ho boy would there family be fucked up

Oooooooh boy DO I

Keep in mind that I’m constantly changing my family tree headcanons for the Megidos, this just happens to be my current ‘favorite’ idea

Also I’m on mobile so I can’t tag but: #abuse #mother mention #father mention #death and all that fun stuff

Ok so Damara 'Handmaid’ Sr. was adopted by Doc Scratch, and she very strongly hates his guts (and he doesn’t care much for her either). For years, she’s raised under his strict and unforgiving rule, turning her into a very rebellious teenager

Doc Scratch homeschools her, so she doesn’t have much chance to meet other teenagers her age. However, one day, she meets a sweet girl her age named Ramona 'rammom’ Megido. They have very conflicting personalities, but once they start hitting off, they become close friends, then becoming loving girlfriends

Handmaid learns that Ramona’s own living situation is really bad, so they both agree to run away together and elope at age 18, if only to escape their families and live anew. And that’s exactly what they do

It’s hard at first, but over the coarse of years, they both get good jobs and are living comfortably, overcoming their trauma together. They have baby Damara (Ramona is trans) and years later, they have baby Aradia

Alas, their good luck doesn’t last for long. As it turns out, Doc Scratch has been hunting down his daughter for years, and he finally finds them. He discovers that he has a granddaughter, Damara, and forcibly takes her and Handmaid back with him. Fortunately, Ramona was able to keep him from discovering Aradia. Unfortunately, Ramona’s wife and daughter have been taken, and no matter what she does, she doesn’t have the power to get them back

She moves again, deathly terrified of Doc Scratch finding Aradia. It’s difficult, supporting herself and her daughter. In her time of desperation, she meets a man named Diamonds Droog. They become good friends, and after some years, they fall in love and get married (though in Ramona’s case, while she did love Droog to an extent, she was mainly doing it for Aradia’s sake, so that she’d have a safe home)

Alas, tragedy strikes again, and Ramona dies, leaving Droog to raise Aradia. Aradia absolutely adores Droog, having no problem seeing him as a dad (she was too young to remember one of her moms, and barely remembers the other). Meanwhile, Droog loves Aradia too, and is happy to raise her

Things are fine and dandy for some time, but then Droog gets a call that tells him that not only did Ramona have another daughter, but that said daughter’s precious guardians are out of the picture (Doc Scratch is dead, and Handmaid went missing completely). Droog takes in Damara, and their relationship is a bit more complicated. Damara is a victim of trauma because of Doc Scratch’s terrible parenting, as well as remembering being taken away from one of her moms and sister. It takes a very, very long time for young Damara to trust Droog, but she has all the love in the world for her baby sister Aradia

Aaand yeah that’s the tragic tale of the Megidos. I hope it made sense!!!! (tune in next time for when Droog adopts a little shit named Calliborn)

shoutout to the survivors who are not forgiving, who do not believe that what happened to them was ‘for a reason’, who know they did not deserve it, who are angry at what happened to them, and who do not show the typical 'good victim’ trope. You all get so much shit from people about how you should act from your trauma because only 'good victims’ are deserving of empathy and support. You deserve so much more than that.

apparently sausage party is out today and not only has it already made over $3 million it’s generally got about a 70/100 on various review sites and I wanna give a heads up to anyone thinking about going to see it. I read the script and it is exactly what has been produced. If you read the script you already know how garbage this movie is, but if you haven’t (don’t), here’s a few key points for you:

-all of the food items are racist stereotypes. all of them. the movie opens up with a song specifically pointing out these stereotypes. half of the “jokes” in the movie are based on these stereotypes.

-the other half of the jokes are sexual. not even in a clever or nuanced way, more like middle school level “lol sex” type jokes.

-every other word is fuck I s2g

-there’s literally a point in the movie/script where the only females in the movie are abused so badly by another character that the script doctor literally had to go in and be like “woah hey maybe tone down that violence towards women there friend”

-the above mentioned character is actually the movies Mexican stereotype (a container of guac) who literally says out of his mouth that his whole thing is abusing women. that’s it. that’s his whole character.

-the food has sex. and not just for 30 seconds. for like 5 whole minutes. it’s graphic. a whole montage of disgusting food orgy.

-there’s also a lot of body horror, gore, and vore(? if it’s food being eaten does that count? I’m putting it on the list anyway bc it’s still pretty fucked up) and when I say gore I don’t just mean the food. human beings are also graphically murdered in this movie.

-there’s a rape scene. also beastiality. it’s the same scene. the main villain rapes a rat. (and it gets worse from there somehow)

-the whole thing is a thinly veiled commentary on the “futility” of religion and any people who are religious or believing of God are spineless sheeple living in ignorance.

I could honestly make a point for every minute of this movie, but I think this is more than enough to convince anyone thinking of going to see the movie otherwise. one last comment I would like to make is that I noticed a lot of the people actively supporting the movie are white men, and I believe that’s why it’s getting relatively good reviews. but don’t be misled, the movie is shit.

so if yall could please spread this around so people know what the fuck is up and hopefully don’t waste their time and money on this fucking shitstorm of a movie that would be gr8 👌

tl;dr dont go see sausage party. trust me, you don’t want to see this movie. it’s disgusting (more so than Seth Rogans other movies)

It is not abusively jealous to want to be monogamous.

It is not abusively coercive to express sexual desires.

It is not abusively manipulative to tell your partner that you can’t stay in a relationship where they aren’t meeting your needs.

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If you bring force or badgering or guilt trips into these things, then you can cross the line.  But I’m concerned by how many asks I’ve gotten from people worried that it’s unethical to communicate any kind of dissatisfaction or disagreement in a relationship, that it’s the seed of abuse to want anything from your partner.

This simply isn’t true.  It’s okay and it’s necessary to tell your partner when you want something in a relationship.  Communicating ethically requires that you be willing to accept “no”; it doesn’t require you to protect your partner from ever having to say “no.”

here’s to the borderlines who have had multiple failed relationships

here’s to the borderlines who are in a current healthy relationship

here’s to the borderlines who don’t want a romantic relationship at all

here’s to the borderlines who are scared of their relationships failing

here’s to the borderlines who can cut people out easily

here’s to the borderlines who are being / were taken advantage of by an abuser

here’s to the borderlines who have realized their harmful behavior and apologized + worked on it

here’s to the borderlines who make attachments way too easily

here’s to the borderlines who don’t / no longer become attached quickly

here’s to the borderlines whose favourite people are good for them

here’s to the borderlines whose favourite people are bad for them

here’s to the borderlines with no favourite people

here’s to the borderlines who split on others all the time

here’s to the borderlines who rarely / don’t experience splitting

we’re all valid and important, regardless of how our symptoms present and despite how often non-borderlines make us into walking disasters who are incapable of loving and unworthy of relationships. 💖

You can be poison ivy and I’ll be Harley Quinn. See I already am coming to you with my mouth used to bruises. Do you know how often he called me stupid. This brain that chatters at speeds that scare people.

See we’ll work together in the dark ripe plum of night, because some part of you knows what it’s like to have something venom in you. See you’ll teach me to pull the thorn out. You’ll show me how to do better than lick wounds. How to be okay again. The newspapers will all say that we are just friends.

See last night you looked at me in the blue light of our midnight and when you reached out for my hand I realized I had been drowning. You heard me crying before it happened. If I kissed you would it be real or would we wake up and pretend it never happened.

Come wrap me up in you. Let me breathe in your earth skin. I want to steal the glory of morning and bring it home to you. I want to hold your hand while we rise up. I want the quiet laughter of our kitchen, and you, in nothing but socks and my shirt, and you, pressed against a wall, and you, my morning coffee. See we aren’t maybe the good guys but I feel good when I’m with you. See I have a lot of things I’m still figuring out but none of them are about you. See, he called me stupid and maybe I am but you make me feel like maybe I could be somebody new.

See, green has always been my favorite color. And I’m hopeless over you.

mother’s day psa:

if ur mom has harmed u in any way, including all types of abuse, and you don’t like/love ur mom, it’s ok to not feel as though you want to “celebrate” her; an abusive parent does not deserve your guilt or your kindness. if doing something for your mom will ensure your safety/is safer than not doing anything (like me for instance), just for a little peace of mind, please do it. it’s okay to lie for your safety as well. 

everything will be okay. we will get through this.