Has anyone received anything from The Leelah Project?
We have found no evidence that even one person has received a package from Alexis Lee Miller, alias Alex Yrigoyen, since the Leelah Project was founded in January. According to the project’s most recent post, which claims that due to a lack of funding the project will be closed at the end of April, 120 packages were sent out. Shouldn’t there be at least one thank you note or picture of a package posted by the project or the receiver?
We noticed that the project claimed each package costs $82 shipped. The GoFundMe page for the project raised $15992. GoFundMe takes 7.9% of proceeds plus 30 cents per donation for all 699 donations so it’s $14518.93. They also raised money through PayPal, partnerships with businesses, other online fundraisers and local fundraisers in Miller’s hometown of Los Angeles. Even if the $14518.93 was the total they should have been able to send 177 packages not including any of the clothes and stuff they got donated to them. Sending 120 packages would cost $9840. According to the International Business Times’s write up on the project on February 12th there were already over 100 packages sent out by that date. Weren’t any packages sent out since?
We sent Miller a message 48 hours ago telling them to prove they sent out packages and people got them or we would expose their lies to the public. They then posted saying they were sending out prom dresses followed by the post saying the project is closing down. We believe that they never sent out any packages at all.
We hope we’re wrong. If anyone has proof that packages got to them or that the project is even a legally registered charity please send it to us.
Okay I don’t really know where to start this so here it goes. I will probably delete this later but yeah. I’m posting this from a throwaway so I don’t get hate or bad attention. But this was a story of a few times I have encountered Alex.
I’m a trans boy and just began transitioning so I have tons of clothing as well as unused makeup items…really good brands like MAC and such. I got a lot of makeup for christmas and birthdays the last 2 years that I haven’t touched but I wasn’t out yet to family members and before my transition I had adored makeup. I also had cute bags and shoes that I didn’t need anymore. So I messaged Alex. I told them all of the things that I had and that I would have no issue sending them. I even offered to pay shipping to send to them. Alex replied like 5 days later saying that they would need me to not only pay for me to ship it to them, but to also send money via PayPal to cover the costs of sending it to the girls they would be going to. I asked how much and they told me like 500 dollars. There was no way I could afford that. I checked shipping costs and told them that it wouldn’t be that much actually. And told them how much it should be. Then I asked why I would have to pay that. Wasn’t that what the donations were for? They then refused to reply to me. I waited a few days and sent another ask, saying that I could just send the packages out myself. They replied and said that if I could just send money it would be better. I told them that I didn’t have much money. They said that “if you really cared about trans girls you would be able to. If not please don’t waste my time.” I was baffled???? I was trying my best to work something out with this person and they just seemed money hungry. This was manipulative. Super manipulative. I couldn’t even understand why someone would say this. It was guilt tripping in its finest form. But I didnt realize because I just wanted to help and I didn’t want to be labeled a transmisogynist by a really popular user. I asked if they still wanted the clothes and they said “we aren’t accepting clothes at this time because we haven’t gotten enough donations to send them out.” Which was bull crap because you could see how much they were being donated to on the page. I gave in eventually and sent them money and they didn’t even say thank you or anything. In fact after I sent money they wouldn’t reply to any of my messages. Soon after, a friend of mine messaged them asking for a donation. Alex replied and they discussed things and Alex said that my friend will be receiving a package soon. 2 weeks later my friend messaged again and Alex said “I sent your package yesterday!” And to this day my friend has gotten nothing and Alex won’t reply to her. So please. Trust NO Alex.
I was staying quiet on the whole Alex/zubat thing because some part of me hoped the exposingalex blog would find something that proved it was all a big misunderstanding, but the evidence stacks and stacks, and there’s no real question. And the e-mail they just posted that talks about Alex not saying thank you after a big favor hit too close to home.
I admit I started getting suspicious a few months ago when they came to New York and crashed at our apartment. I’ll let Par talk about the things she witnessed and noticed during that time, but I noticed things as well. Like that they had a brand new MacBook that they had purchased within a week or two of the trip. And a brand new Michael Kors bag. And multiple suitcases overstuffed with mostly designer clothes. And a full tub of makeup. And probably four or five thousand dollars worth of camera equipment (including a full range of EF-S lenses). And how they went out drinking every night. And bought two tickets to a Broadway show. And after they dropped their new iPhone 6 in the snow and their cell phone provider said they’d have to wait a day to get a replacement, they bought a new one on the spot so they wouldn’t have to wait. Even though they had two phones, which is something we never asked questions about. This is after being totally broke on the previous trip here in November and frequently asking for donations and commissions throughout December.
They never once mentioned the Leelah Project. They mentioned that they had just finished school and bought the plane ticket here as a graduation present to themselves, that they had been calling their ex a lot (which surprised us but we left alone because it wasn’t really our business), told stories from working at a grocery store in the last state they lived in, talked about things that happened on the previous trip, complained that their blog’s ad revenue had fallen from its steady ~$500 a month, went on and on about making vines and how the viner they were seeing was so perfect and dreamy and they missed him, all about the tinder dates they went on at least once and usually more per day while here, belittled and insulted Par, made excuses for being a discourteous houseguest and turning our living room into a pig sty, and so on. But never, not even once, mentioned the Leelah Project, which we thought was weird since it had to be taking up a lot of time for all the work it was supposedly doing.
They didn’t say thank you when they left, or do their dishes, or clean up the parts of their mess that weren’t going with them in the Lyft to the hotel they stayed at the last night. They claimed it was by JFK and they were staying there to make it easier to catch their flight, but then posted a view from the room that was clearly from the east side of Manhattan, which is about twenty minutes drive farther from JFK than our apartment is.
We didn’t press it too much. When, two weeks later, I saw them post that their bank had been hacked and $700 stolen while I was at work on the overnight and Par showed me after I woke up that they deleted that post and posted that their PayPal had been hacked and $800 stolen, not twelve hours later. Even stranger since they told Par while they were staying on our couch that their PayPal had been hacked and $700 stolen.
So we backed away. Not completely, but mostly. I can’t speak for Par, but some part of me hoped that there would be a rational or reasonable explanation, or that I was misremembering parts of the story. Something other than this person who we let in our home, fed, allowed to sleep on our couch, watched out for when drunk, consoled when upset, and so on, was the type of person who would take advantage of people to such a monstrous degree. Being an ungrateful houseguest and friend is one thing. This is something else entirely.
It’s shameful and disgusting, and I hope they feel enough remorse to make it right, but they’re certainly not welcome in my home anymore.
Recently a post (made by exposingalex) has made heavy way concerning tumblr user zubat and a project they started, coined as “The Leelah Project”.
This is a post made to offer some light into the situation. Please be aware that this is all I can offer in terms of details concerning the Leelah Project. Also, please be aware that my mental health will stop me from following up with reblogs that aim to pursue conflict. I can, however, answer legitimate questions concerning finer details I may or may not have posted here.
I was a helping hand at the Leelah project. The original aim of the project was to help a few thousand trans woman– at most. Instead, orders arrived daily; the inbox of the both the Leelah Project and the email being used to process orders were quickly rising beyond what was planned. I must repeat this:
The number of requests outnumbered the original goal.
This was a project being ran by only two people. Alex was attending school during the lifespan of the project. I was busy looking for a steady place to stay and finding a job. I could only help every other week; two days at most if things were looking well. During the end of February, I moved again and was incapable of helping Alex, thus leaving only one person to handle the Leelah Project as well as their academic and personal life.
On top of all this, money was being sent. This money was being used to pay for the packages that were being shipped. Aside from this, Alex was spending their own money our of pocket to purchase make-up for each package. IIRC, people have claimed some (usable) 15k was raised via paypal. Even though the make up purchased was Elf, there was lipstick, eyeliner, foundation, eye shadow, and mascara. And even though the product itself is only $1, there are five items I have listed: that amounts to $5. Combine that with the number of requests being made– a mere 1,000 requests would place the total at $5,000. Only 15k in donations were made. Shipping still needed to be paid for.
Each package was not simply filled with random clothing. Instead, we sat down and made full outfits trans women could wear. We also adhered to requests concerning things such as prom dresses, casual clothing, dresses, skirts… the sheer focus on making sure each request was taken with care also slowed down the rate at which packages could be shipped.
But I must repeat this; several thousand requests that easily surpassed the original goal vs two people who could not dedicate themselves to the project 24/7.
While some anger can be justified (as a black trans woman, I understand that our demographic is a target for quick money), it must be made clear that two people could not fulfill the sheer volume of requests being made; especially seeing as that each request had personal time and effort being placed into it.
The Leelah Project was not a scam. It was a project aimed at helping. But it lacked a proper amount of helping hands and funding. With a post placing a critical eye upon the project and the project itself falling behind in fulfilling orders, things have taken a turn for the worse.
I ask that this is signal boosted as fast as possible. Alex/zubat is mentally ill and still dealing with personal stuff. There are people threatening to take legal action against them. This type of stress is a lot to place on someone because of a major misunderstanding.
There is still some information I myself must confirm, but I will be creating a follow-up post soon. Until then, please spread this post.