It has come to my attention that a lot of people think that women who wear revealing clothes or who are very conventionally beautiful are “bad role models for young girls.”
First of all, teaching young girls to judge a woman’s worth and the worth of her opinions based on her outfit and beauty is very wrong. We cannot carry this internalized misogyny in which we write of the beautiful, popular, girls in mini skirts because we assume that what they have to say is vain, shallow, or superficial. I want my daughters, and even myself, to see women for the content of their minds and their actions rather than judge them by their faces and their hemlines. Both conventionally and non-conventionally attractive people have opinions worth hearing.
Second of all, who cares if children or grown women look up to fictional characters? The term “role model” is such a weird term to me because a role model for one person is not a role model for another person. As a child, I looked up to Lara Croft. She was my role model because she was strong and won all the fights. Many people would be taken aback at the idea of a six year old girl being in love with the film, since it included nudity and violence, but she was the person I needed at the time and therefore; she was my role model.
Role models are people who provide an example of behavior in which we want to emulate. When I was a few years older, I became obsessed with book girls. Hermione, Matilda, and Rory Gilmore were my role models because they were brilliant and spent 90% of their waking hours reading books.
Kesha is one of my role models now because of her acceptance. She accepts herself, her family her fans, everyone. She embraces her sexuality and isn’t afraid to show the world how hot she thinks she is. I admire her confidence, and for that, she is one of my role models.
Although problematic, I love Miley Cyrus for deciding that her personal happiness was more important than a paycheck and risked her entire career by experimenting with her look until she found what she was comfortable with.
Another woman I look up to is taylorswift Though the world has turned around and has begun to finally appreciate how amazing she is, many people still judge her message due to the fact that she is tall, thin. blonde haired and blue eyed, and just perfect. Just because someone is beautiful and feminine does not mean that the message they are spreading is any less important.
My biggest role model is lordemusic Her body positivity and caring personality have helped me in my less frequent than before moments of self hatred. Lorde is herself and she doesn’t care what anyone else has to say. She dances in this beautiful electric spasm manner and you can see the electronic beat pulsating through her body. She cares about her family and she’s not afraid to say when she is wrong. She’s so amazing.
zooeydeschanel is another one of my role models because she preaches the message that we can be very girly and still be strong and intelligent. Kindness and femininity are often mistaken for weakness but you can be the lara croft type in a tea cup dress.
My other role models include Malala, Angelina Jolie, Demi Lovato, Kat Dennings, Anna Kendrick. jennamarbles, Shailene Woodley, Emma Stone, Emma Watson, Audrey Hepburn, Kristen Stewart, and Jennifer Lawrence. Many people get on my case because my role models consist almost exclusively of hollywood women. But these are the women who have had a big impact on my life and who have helped shaped me into the woman I am today.
I look up to women who are themselves no matter what and who say things that give me the power to be the best version of myself I can be. I look up to women who make me feel 10 feet tall when I feel 6 inches small. People say that I shouldn’t look up to these women because I don’t know who they truly are/I’m romanticizing them/they could be putting on a show, but so what? If they are truly helping me feel better about myself then does it even matter? If I ever met any of these women, I would love to be able to sit down with them and explain who they’ve helped my life and see if they have any personalized advice to help me through my dark moments.
I’m just rambling now. My point is is that everyone will see someone else differently and we shouldn’t judge others worth by those knee jerk reactions.