Remember Your Goodness

It is important to remember your basic goodness. If you wonder if you are good or not, take this simple test. If you see a friend  of yours is crying, would you rather comfort them or poke them in the eye? If you choose comfort, you are basically good. That is your basic nature.

Remembering your basic goodness is important, because it helps you stop checking your thoughts and behaviors to see if your are good or not or good enough. Your basic goodness is good enough. You know what it feels like to suffer and you would rather not suffer, and you would rather that your friends not suffer. When you recognize that basic quality is enough, the pressure is off.

If you can recognize your basic goodness, then you have also recognized your basic intelligence. Suddenly you are not only good, you are good and smart. That’s also enough. You don’t need to be anything more than that.

When you are confident that you are good and smart, you can use your wisdom to explore your goodness. You can check in with your goodness whenever you make a decision. You can see if your actions are causing suffering or providing comfort. You can use your wisdom to see what the best way would be to give comfort. You can give what comfort you can. Then you are compassionate and kind.

That is what comes from remembering your basic goodness. Although goodness is enough, when you look into it and check in with it, you will see that it leads to wisdom, compassion and kindness. Practicing that leads to happiness for your self and others. How good of you want to create happiness.

How much beauty goes unnoticed as we hurry from place to place during the course of our busy days?  How many flowers and trees do we go by without noticing their colors or their marvelous complexity or their scents?  How many rainbows go unseen by how many people because we close ourselves up indoors when it rains to “protect” ourselves from the elements?  How many snowfalls go unenjoyed because it’s too cold outside or we don’t want to bother to put on our gloves and coats and boots and hats to keep us warm and dry?
—  Tom Walsh
Life is often messy, uncertain, and unpredictable.  Sometimes it’s a string of troubles that seem to never end.  That’s normal.  Ups and downs are normal.  Being ill on occasion is normal.  Feeling peaceful and happy are normal.  Occasional low-energy days are normal.  According to Chinese medicine, it is accepted as natural that we fluctuate from being in balance to being out of balance.  Peace of mind comes from not attaching a great deal of significance to either state.  We simply note our moods and physical states and gently move toward balance as best we can, accepting it all as part of the flow of life.
—  Charlotte Davis Kasl
If my happiness at this moment consists largely in reviewing happy memories and expectations, I am but dimly aware of this present.  I shall still be dimly aware of the present when the good things that I have been expecting come to pass.  For I shall have formed a habit of looking behind and ahead, making it difficult for me to attend to the here and now.  If, then, my awareness of the past and future makes me less aware of the present, I must begin to wonder whether I am actually living in the real world.
—  Alan Watts