"Have fun" should not be a rule
A lot of summer camps, youth groups, and other activities have a “have fun” rule.
The implied message is usually: This is a fun place. If you’re not having fun, you’re doing something wrong. Fix your attitude and have fun doing the fun activities.
Sometimes “have fun” rules are explicit. Sometimes they’re more implicit, and come in forms like: making people sing a song every day about how much they love camp, announcements about “we’re all having so much fun!”, or whatever else.
The problem with this is: nothing is fun for everyone. People have the right to feel how they feel about things. It’s really degrading to tell an unhappy person that they should just feel some other way.
“Have fun” rules are especially problematic for many disabled people.
Because — most programs are not fully accessible, even when they think they are. Most of us expect to encounter activities that are inaccessible in ways that make participation impossible — or that make them no fun.
And often, initially fun activities are ruined when someone treats you in a degrading way or says something awful about disability.
Being left out when everyone else is having fun is bad enough. When there’s a “have fun” rule, it’s even worse. Not only are you hurt by the exclusion, you’re told that you’re violating the rules by being hurt and unhappy.
“Have fun” rules make it really hard to solve these problems, because they make it risky to admit that you’re not having a good time.
“Have fun” rules make problems harder to solve, even when the problem has a straightforward solution. All the more so when the problem is complicated. (Or only has a partial solution.)
“Have fun” rules actually make things a lot less fun.