Instead of thinking of something in the past that you regret and making a blanket negative statement about yourself, stop and rephrase it as a plain statement of what happened.  So, instead of “I’m so stupid”, it would be “This one time I was wrong about something”.  Instead of “I’m socially inept”, “I had trouble talking to that person that day because <X>.”

Don’t let single events define you in your mind!

16 things I learned by age 16
1. One bad grade won’t ruin your life.
2. Crying, ice cream, and Taylor Swift is the perfect remedy for a breakup.
3. You’ll have lots of temporary friends. Don’t take it personally when they leave you. As people grow older, they grow apart.
4. Don’t just wear makeup or certain clothes for the sole purpose of impressing people. The only person you need to impress is yourself.
5. You don’t need to fry your hair everyday with a flat iron. Leave it natural every now and then. Your hair will thank you later.
6. It’s okay to stay in your pajamas all day.
7. Embrace your inner child. Watch Disney movies and cuddle with your favorite stuffed animal.
8. If it’s midnight and you’re still awake stressing about homework, just go to bed. You’ll feel a lot better in the morning.
9. People will say things about you behind your back. This is because they’re too afraid & insecure to say it to your face. Let it go.
10. Go ahead and eat that piece of cake you’ve been eyeing. You won’t gain 500 pounds from one piece.
11. Hell, eat the entire cake if you want. Weight is just a number and it doesn’t define you in any way.
12. Develop a good relationship with your parents. You’ll be glad you did in years to come.
13. Always apologize even if you don’t think you did anything wrong.
14. If you’re ever feeling down, try and force yourself to smile. It may feel fake, but studies have shown that smiling can help.
15. Do what you love to do, regardless of what anyone says or thinks.
16. Don’t waste time searching for love. It can happen in the most unexpected time, or in the most unexpected place, or with the most unexpected person. Let love find you.

does anyone else pause a tv show or a movie when you know the character is about to do something really risky or embarrassing so you pause it for a moment and like brace yourself and then proceed with caution 

How You Died According to Your Sign: The 100 Style
  • Aries:Killed by Reapers
  • Taurus:Toxic fog
  • Cancer:Got lost in the woods
  • Leo:Decided you were a herbologist (you were wrong)
  • Aquarius:Got floated
  • Sagittarius:Killed in the Grounder-Delinquent War
  • Pisces:Went insane
  • Capricorn:Wandered into a grounder trap
  • Scorpio:River snake
  • Libra:Killed at Mount Weather
  • Virgo:Sacrificed yourself to save someone else
  • Gemini:Tried to revolt

anonymous asked:

You're sending literally tens of messages to yourself daily. Super lame.


You take your heart and you find hands that feel safe and you find eyes that resemble sunlight and you place it there with them. You let your heart sprout flowers or trees in the hands of someone else. Someone with sunlight and warmth and the nutrients you need. And you let yourself grow. And you nourish that relationship, that friendship, whatever it is. You blossom again and again. But you realize that sometimes the sky clouds over or there isn’t enough rain or maybe there’s too much of it. Maybe you start needing something different. And so you realize that you may have to plant yourself somewhere new, somewhere that feels foreign and uncomfortable at first but that’s okay, because the memory of that flower or tree is still there with you. And you will find comfort somewhere else. Your favorite plants may change over time, but you will be a garden and you will grow and you will grow.

anonymous asked:

You're killing yourself in an industry that doesn't give you the ability to say no.

You clearly don’t know my job very well because I exercise the ability to say no about 50 times a day.

A conversation I just had with my mom
  • <p><b>Mom:</b> And just because I'm mad doesn't give you a right to call a hotline saying that you're "scared" and you think you're going to "kill yourself"<p/><b>Me:</b> that's not what happened and you know it. You were in Mexico, how could I have called because of you being mad? We had no contact.<p/><b>Mom:</b> you weren't mad at me, you were mad at Jaclyn.<p/><b>Me:</b> no I wasn't? I've never been mad at her? Plus, she was gone too.<p/><b>Mom:</b> just shut up. I'm tired of you seeking attention from this family. Don't you ever think about how anybody else feels?<p/><b>Me:</b> that's all I think about! Why do you think I get so stressed when I'm sad? I don't want you guys to see me sad because I'm scared of you being scared. Its all that stresses me.<p/><b>Mom:</b> no you don't care. If you cared, you wouldn't have called the hotline. Hell, if you cared, you wouldn't want to die.<p/><b>Me:</b> that isn't how depression works. I can't just stop so you guys will be happy<p/><b>Mom:</b> yes you can! I used to be depressed, but I stopped so you would be okay. I realized I didn't need attention because you were there<p/></p>

anonymous asked:

I personally have a kink,and id like to know if you share this kink since it's a bit of a rare one. I buy milk,and pour it into my ass where it's nice and warm. The milk becomes cheese,which I then shit out and feed to my family on their sandwiches. I find the whole process extremely erotic. What about you?

no, I…don’t share that kink……

but I rec you find every sacred, holy water and bathe yourself in it for 10 days

I love you and I’m really proud of you and I hope you’ve been having a good week and you’ve been taking care of yourself and I hope somebody told you how amazing you are and even if you’ve made mistakes, I support you and you are not a failure. I