Even if they say “they didn’t mean it”, they’re still responsible for what they did.
Even if they say “they don’t remember it”, they’re still responsible for what they did.
Even if they say “you’re delusional, I would never do that, you made it up”, they’re still responsible for what they did, and for trying to gaslight and invalidate your memories.
Even if they say “I didn’t do it, and even if I did, I would be right to do it”, they’re still guilty for what they did.
Even if they have excuses, they’re still responsible for what they did.
Even if they act like it would have been crazy to expect from them to act any different way, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.
Even if they come at you with an entire agenda of how you should perceive what they did so it actually “benefits you”, even if they insist they did it for your own good, they’re still responsible for what they did to you, and for lying about it.
Even if they cry about how much it pains them to be accused of hurting you, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.
Even if they cry about how much they love you and how they did it all out of love and never meant to hurt you, it’s still their responsibility for what they did to you.
Even if they act like what they did shouldn’t have hurt you and you’re the one responsible for taking damage, for being sensitive to being abused, it’s still their responsibility for what they did to you.
Even if they blame you for what they did to you, they’re still responsible for what they did.
Even if they insist someone else did it to them too, even if they insist they had it worse than you, even if they say it’s a cultural thing, they’re still responsible for what they did to you.
Even if it was long ago, and they act like you’re wrong for remembering such old wrong doing, it’s still something they did, and they’re still responsible for doing it.
They can lie and deny and accuse and blame and invalidate and gaslight. It doesn’t absolve them of responsibility for what they did. It doesn’t absolve them from guilt.
Nothing can absolve abusers from responsibility for their own actions. Nothing.
My bf keeps saying "u weren't like this when I met u!" When I met him I didn't know it was possible that I could be autistic & suffered thru alot of uncomf things bc I thought that's just what ppl did! But he won't understand that.... Can I be ♥ (black heart asks )?
Tuafw you can't eat certain foods coz putting them in your mouth is like death coz it feels horrible and you know you have a terrible diet coz of this and people make fun of you for it but you cannot eat those things. Only eat familiar food nothing different coz different food isn't food.
<b>Latinx People:</b> I have a problem with the constant erasure of Latinx characters and having non-Latinx actors/actresses play them.<p/><b>Non-Latinx People:</b> Here's a series of essays, posts, and tweets made by non-latinx about why you shouldn't be angry about having your representation taken away. Also let me tell you about how your ethnicity works and why these people are Hispanic and Latin.<p/></p>
“I think that… I think that until you’ve fought those battles yourself, until you’ve had the guts to stand up for who you are, you should be really fucking careful talking about and putting yourself above Gay Pride.”
your pain is not a burden to anyone ok? i know people act like you being in pain is somehow burdening them or you are “making them feel bad” or “pushing them away” well that is bullshit my friend, you’re not obliged to give them the happy painless version of yourself, you are not obliged to be a concept that requires no empathy or consideration from others, you’re not obliged to make anyone feel good or provide them a cheerful company, you are the one carrying 100% of the burden of your pain and you’re the one suffering from it, and if people refuse to offer compassion for that and demand you to “feel differently” to convenience them, they are shit people and dirty dirty liars who refuse to acknowledge that your pain matters more than their convenience
Tuafw your dad fusses at you and your brother for not using words effectively (and occasionally complaining about words being hard to use) but you're a semi-verbal, self-dxed autistic enby and your bro is almost entirely nonverbal ~~~ Swampy asks
“have u tried yoga?”
“have you been praying enough?”
“have you even tried to get better?”
“have you tried to lose/gain weight?”
“ever consider exercising more?”
“maybe it would help if you stopped laying in bed all day?”
“is it really that bad?”
so idk if anyone else in the disabled community have seen this term being thrown around, but ive seen the words “able-passing” multiple times in the last few months, both on tumblr, irl, and in articles.
and tbh, i see people who use the term try to explain it as “when you dont look disabled, it is assumed that you are abled and you dont face the same discrimination that a visibly disabled person would, it is like youre not even disabled”, ive had it explained in different ways, with different words but that same result.
because apparently having your disability erased cause you dont look disabled isnt real, or being told that its like youre “not even disabled” is apparently not ableism.
and my guy my dude, this is my opinion but its time to be real.
“youre abled-passing” is no different than “But you dont look sick”