I find it very difficult to be touched, I don't like to be hugged, it makes me uncomfortable when someone's leg is touching mine while sitting etc. My dad keeps implying that there is something wrong with me and keeps trying to hug me when he knows i do not like it and have asked him not to. He also keeps poking my arm and he gets annoyed when i ask him to stop and again he wont. When i wont hug him he screams at me and says it makes him feel like i do not love him. What should i do?
Sit him down and talk to him. There’s nothing wrong with you, some people don’t like to be touched and some people do, what’s wrong is that he’s ignoring your feelings. You should never have to deal with someone touching you or invading your personal space without your permission.
You need to sit down and explain that you love him but it’s not something you’re comfortable with with anyone, that for you expressing how you feel isn’t through touch and that he needs to respect that.
If he still doesn’t there’s not much that can be done, unless you can leave his house and not be around him. But it’s a difficult situation and parents can be difficult because they think they have a right to certain things and you can’t do anything about it.
This is not appropriate. He should not be yelling and forcing you to hug him. Parent or not. You should not be dealing with this sort of behaviour, him saying he feels unloved is a way of manipulating you into doing what he wants and it’s not appropriate and as an adult he should really know better. There is nothing wrong with you for not wanting to touch. We all have different tolerances for that sort of thing.