I am working on not only doing self-care, but also on not feeling guilty about it. I have many very supportive folks in my life who rock at encouraging me to take care of me.
However, there is an unfortunate theme in their encouragement.
Not just “it is good to take care of you so you feel good and are refreshed/renewed” but almost always with a closer of “and if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of others.” Now, I get it. I do. I have dependents, and it is a very “put on your own air mask before helping others” kind of thing. But at the same time it quantified my self-care as still not being for ME, but as being another step in the process of taking care of other people.
I want to latch into the idea of taking care of me because I am worth taking care of, regardless of the care I may or may not give to others. I am worth taking care of because of and for me. Just me.