your health matters

Even more reasons to smile

Someone could’ve just gotten an amazing haircut

A woman could’ve just found out she was pregnant after multiple miscarriages

Someone could’ve just gotten their first pet

A child could be reciting the entire alphabet for the first time

Someone could’ve just realized how hurtful their behavior is and genuinely apologized

An struggling actor could’ve just gotten their first role

Someone could’ve just found the strength to pull themselves out of an anxiety attack

Someone could’ve just decided to not go through with suicide, and decided to seek professional help instead

Someone could’ve just taken their first college class and felt a sense of belonging

Someone could’ve just stood up to a bully and made a new friend

A grandmother could have made the best pie to share with her grandkids

A teenager could’ve just gotten their license

It’s someone’s birthday

Someone could be having the best moment of their lives right this second

Someone could’ve just decided to live a life free of negativity

Someone could’ve just gotten complimented at the grocery store

Someone could’ve just received their first paycheck

A poor family could be having their first warm meal

A stray animal could’ve been saved from starvation

A child could be learning their times tables

Someone could’ve just gotten a clean bill of health

21 things black men don’t hear often enough

1. I love you bro. We don’t tell each other as men how much we mean to each other. There is no weakness in that. Only strength, solidarity, and power.

2. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to commit to getting better.

3. Someone is depending on you, to be exactly who you are.

4. Read more. You have time to read 12 books a year (which is more than the average American). We also aren’t average.

5. Showing and sharing your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. Paying attention to how we feel helps us become more in tune with what’s actually going on.

6. Your mental health matters. You can’t “work yourself” out of your mind. Emotional trauma is very real and worthy of our time. We’ve been through a lot recently.

7. Living is an act of resistance. You are going to live, get out all these dreams, and thrive – despite the odds.

8. You are a descendent of kings. Seriously, don’t bow your head to life. You were built for this.

9. Their opinion won’t pay your bills, or build your dreams. They won’t always see your vision. Not everyone is supposed to.

10. Failure isn’t a tattoo. Learn how to take the Ls and move on. Adapt and overcome.

11. Getting this money, and doing good, aren’t mutually exclusive. You just have to be clear on your non-negotiables and stand by them.

12. You don’t have to ask for permission to be excellent. Go for it.

13. “Everybody eat’s b” – Ace Boogie. Seriously, we can all get what we want to out here. Helping people doesn’t make you a sucker. Do have boundaries though.

14. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else (even if you’re from Harlem), but it pays to think like an owner. Signing the front of a check is very different than the back.

15. #BLACKLIVESMATTER

16. If someone knocks you for your 9-5, they (1) aren’t your friends and (2) they don’t know about your 6-10. Keep going.

17. Start owning when you can. Pay yourself first. These loans ain’t loyal.

18. We don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You’re excellent and it’s perfectly okay to still be warming up.

19. Try to take care of yourself. I love Popeyes, but what we put in ourselves can actually kill us. Exercise, eat well, and get active. Put some $$ on your jumper, and invite your team out!

20. Learning how to cook is a great look. Seriously. Watch a couple Youtube videos, hit Home Goods, and start cheffing.

21. “Someday” is never going to show up on the calendar. Write that book, send that tweet, record podcast. Don’t opt out, especially not right now.

Its getting to be finals time, and you are gonna get stressed. Just remember to break up everything into smaller steps and take extra good care of yourself because you’ll be less stressed and more productive. Your mental health matters, and you can get through this. just keep going

5

Heard about a famous animator recently died from “overworking” and I had to rant/vent on twitter because of reasons.

If you cannot load the images, here’s the tweets in text:

reading abt how animators and artists work themselves to death is a sad reminder that your own health matters more than how fast you work

please take the day off if you are sick. Don’t take on several projects at once. LET YOUR DRAWING HAND REST. Get sleep. Eat food.

My ex was a workaholic and he had such a toxic view on what matters in life. I feel sad for him but I don’t miss his constant guilt tripping

Sure I’m not as productive as I was when I was 22, but I have never felt this good before mentally. Still dealing w my ADHD. But it’s better

Being a workaholic is not a compliment. There’s a diff between rly enjoying your work and have a unhealthy obsession over it.

If your social life, family, health, sleeping habits etc are negatively affected by you prioritizing work 24/7 you should seek help.

And when I say “negatively” I mean on the same level as substance abuse addictions etc. I’ve seen it, it’s ugly.

Being able to say “no” to a job offer, knowing it is gonna be too much on your plate, is important af

A lot of us grow up thinking we gotta perform beyond our own capabilities; this is bad work-ethic. it will burn you out. It’s not worth it.

I usually make a point to avoid getting into this kind of drama. 

That stops now.

If you’ve been following the kind of people I follow, or if you’re part of new fandoms that experience a sudden explosion in popularity and number of fans - Undertale. Steven Universe. RWBY. Fire Emblem. Overwatch. Disney. Gravity Falls. Star Wars. Marvel. Etc -, you will have seen something like this.

Every time, without exception, there’s a small group of people who think they are entitled to say what is right and what is wrong. Who erect themselves as judge and jury of what is GOOD and what is PUNISHABLE. And now, they may well have erected themselves into executioners.

There was a tumblr user by the name of tyrant-rex. Emphasis on WAS. If you go to his blog you’ll notice it’s deactivated. That’s because he did it, right after leaving a suicide note.

Rex shipped Pewey. That is Pearl/Mayor Dewey, both characters from Steven Universe. Pearl is a canonical lesbian character. Mayor Dewey is a guy. And that, it seems, was all the reason this toxic part of the fandom needed to want him dead. They showered him in hate and this is the result. Rex may well be DEAD because some people decided a fictional ship was worth more than a human life.

And the most sickening part? They’re not sorry. They revel in the pain they’ve caused. They try to justify it.

“But Pearl is a canonicaly lesbian!” Doesn’t justify killing a person over it.

“But it was lesbian erasure!” No it’s not, just as shipping two heterosexual characters in a gay relationship isn’t heterosexual erasure. And even if it were, it would still not justify killing a person over it.

“But seeing that ship hurts me!” If a non-canon drawing of a fictional ship is enough to cause you pain you should go to therapy because you are obviously not well off on the head. Oh, and it STILL DOES NOT JUSTIFY KILLING SOMEBODY OVER IT.

I mean, really, did these people even think about what they were doing? What they are celebrating? If he’s dead, that’s a whole person gone from the earth. Did he have friends? Family? Loved ones? Hopes and dreams? And now those people will never see him again. His goals will never come to be. And why? Because of a ship? Because people on the internet couldn’t stand others loving things they didn’t like? Can you think of any subject more STUPID to hate somebody? To drive somebody to death?

This is not the first time the SU fandom drove someone to the edge of suicide. And I tell you right now, it’s not going to be the last. This is gonna keep happening. And you might be reading this and thinking I’m overreacting. I wish I was. I wish I had no reason to make this post. But Rex, and those who came before, are the horrible proof that no, I am not exaggerating.

And just like they came for him, they will come for you. Because you drew Connie’s nose too small, or her skin too light. Because you drew Pearl with boobs, or Mei and Rose skinny. Because you made Frisk’s eyes too asian, or Hanzo’s eyes not asian enough. Because your humanization of Nick Wilde and Judy Hopps is not the color THEY want it to be. Because you dared to ship the “wrong” ship. Because your opinion is something they don’t like.

I honestly don’t know how to close this, so I’ll just say, if anybody’s shitting on you or trying to get you to hurt yourself, block them. Your mental health and your life matter so much more than all the fictional characters in the world.

important/positive reminders

- you are valid

- you are good enough

- your mental health matters: make it your priority. make yourself a priority!

- your body, your choice!

- tell yourself you are worth of happiness!

- self-care isn’t selfish!

- you CAN do it

- it’s okay to ask for help

- put yourself first

- you are NOT your mistakes

- celebrate even your smallest accomplishments!

- you are capable of extraordinary things!

- learn to love yourself. be yourself for yourself!

- spread kindness!

- your weight doesn’t define you! acne is normal! stretch marks are normal! body hair is normal! don’t be ashamed of your body

- women need to support each other

- support people of color

- support the lgbt community

- trans women are women, trans men are men

- make up has no gender!

- men can be feminist!

- stop slut shaming!

- you are loved! you are BEAUTIFUL! you are NOT alone! you deserve to be happy! your opinion matters! your feelings matter! you matter

I just realized that no matter how hard you’ve been trying to keep a relationship or even friendship because you thought you could never live without them, it really is not worth it when this person caused you so much pain and the relationship was mostly one-sided and toxic. It’s very important to remind yourself that although you spent a lot of time with them, also had good memories and laughed a lot together, if there’s no or maybe bad communication, lack of trust and no understanding, then it is in fact NOT worth fighting for, believe me. So please love yourself and don’t feel guilty for leaving. You’re not being egoistic, it’s called self-love and your mental health matters

Even MORE reasons to smile

Someone could’ve just perfected their skincare routine

Someone could’ve just been asked to prom for the very first time by a genuinely nice person

Someone could’ve just renovated their room

A second grader could’ve just won their first
spelling bee competition

Someone could’ve just sold their first piece of artwork after months of struggling

A dancer could’ve just placed first in their division AND overall

A shy student could’ve just participated in a class discussion for the first time

Someone could’ve just met their soulmate

A dog could’ve just had the best car ride of their lifetime

A patient could’ve just woken up from a successful surgery

Someone could’ve just ran their first mile

A traumatized individual could’ve just let go of repressed/internalized anger and pain

Someone’s eczema could be clearing up

Someone could’ve just made it past the $1000 mark in their savings account for the first time

Someone could’ve just found the confidence to wear THE thing

An alcoholic could be attending their first AA meeting

Someone recovering from a eating disorder could’ve just made it to a healthy weight

Someone could be starting their hormones today

A depressed person could’ve just gotten out of bed to enjoy this beautiful day

Someone could be hearing their first, “I’m proud of you”

Why you should give a FUCK about YOU?

You should give a fuck to give a fuck about yourself. You can either take care of yourself or let yourself fall apart. You don’t have to immediately know how to take care of yourself, but you can take small steps to learn. Your physical and mental health matters.

 For a long time I did not care about myself. I wanted to be in a better place but did not know how to get there. It took time to establish healthy behaviors.  In the beginning of my journey, the small successes really helped. If  I met my goal of  successfully mediating or  completing yoga  for the day, I would be really proud of myself.

                           Please give a fuck about your well-being.

You’re important. Fuel your body with the right nutrients. Drink plenty of water. Shower regularly. Get up even when motivation seems like a distant reality. You’ll thank yourself later.