Hey there !! Can you elaborate a little on why you think Jumin is emotionally constipated?? Thank you in advance :D
I sure can, my dear friend.
As you see, by definition being emotionally constipated means not being able to handle and/or process emotion. It doesn’t mean that you lack emotion, or that your emotional range is in any way limited. Jumin isn’t emotionless, he just has a very hard time understanding his emotions. In fact, sometimes I feel like people who are emotionally constipated are as much, because once in their life they might have felt too much, incapable of handling and therefor suppressing said emotions. I feel like that might be the case with Jumin.
So, let’s have a look at what could have caused such constipation:
It is made obvious, on multiple occasions in the game, that Jumin’s birth mother was divorced by his father early on and seems to be out of the picture. She is never mentioned and his step-mother is the one he refers to as ‘mother’, which indicates that he doesn’t share a relationship to his biological mother. Such things are often hard on children, especially if my assumptions are true and the woman decided to abandon Jumin and her father. I cannot imagine Chairman Han refusing to let his son see his mother, nor that Jumin – especially at such a young age – would not want to see her. Being abandoned by a parent can leave deep wounds in any human being, let alone a vulnerable child.
After being abandoned by one of the most important females in anyones life to have her replaced with this particular step mother did Jumin no good. Not only is she an obvious gold digger to the point that even a child would be able to notice, from the interactions he has with her it’s obvious that he doesn’t feel connected to her at all. She is nothing but a burden he tries to avoid at all costs. On top of that it is heavily implied that she has been sexually harassing him for quite some time, as he barely even reacts to her advances in the visual novel, almost like he’s gotten used to them by now. So, the second female and core role model of his life turns out to be a disappointment and failure as well. Once more, something that leaves a child rather empty and lost.
Now while Jumin has a reportedly great relationship to his father, that might actually be a big reason as to why he is the way he is. For one, without a second parent to ‘fixate’ on, Jumin had to give all his attention to his father. The father he first and foremost got to know as a huge businessman. While they do exchange gifts and nice gestures, that is hardly something you would call a healthy, let alone warm relationship. Anyone can spend money on a gift for you, but you will feel none the richer for it in the emotional department. So not only did his father lack a certain emotional bond to his son, Jumin also had to watch him have a string of empty flings. That could have negative consequences for multiple reasons other than the obvious. Seeing someone he looks up to so much, as a father and a rational businessman, give away love to freely to meaningless women, losing all his rationality must have hurt in many ways.
His upbringing, in my opinion, plays a big role in this as well. For one he learned early on that all the praise he got was empty and thereby worthless. As a young, impressionable child you rely heavily on what people around you tell you. What your surroundings encourage or discourage you to do can change the paths you take in life rather heavily. It certainly did for Jumin. Not being properly praised, which in his mind probably equated to not being praised at all, made him develop an unhealthy perfectionism. With him it’s either 0% or 100% with nothing in between. Seeing the world like that though, black and white while ignoring all these shades of grey, generally speaking has negative aspects on emotions, as they rarely fit into such simple categories.
Life in the public eye
I think this one might not be something a lot of people would take into consideration, but from the moment Jumin was born his entire life was spent mostly in the public eye. He seems to be one step short of being a full blown idol with people constantly throwing themselves at him. As an adult that is already restricting and tiring, but growing up that way must have had an impact. You learn early on to control yourself at all costs, seeing as any misstep could be broadcasted for the entire world to watch. For someone who is responsible for an entire company like Jumin, he simply cannot afford any mishaps. So, to prevent such things from happening, once more he is forced to conceal his feelings and thoughts in order to remain diplomatic and flawless.
I mean who did this bitch not fuck over, seriously? The only friend Jumin ever had was V and the second she stepped into the picture that friend was lost to him. Now some people might think that hey, just because you have a relationship you don’t just forget your friends and you are right. For most people that is the case. However, Rika, V and Jumin aren’t your usual relationship type of people. For one V is completely obsessed with Rika to the point of unhealthy. He is completely dedicated to her, willing to blind himself and therefor ruin the one thing that brought him joy (and money) forever, just to prove his love. I think it is safe to assume that he would be one of those people to say no to a friend in order to say yes to a lover, namely Rika. So, not only did Rika take Jumin’s best and only friend, but she also took the last bit of heart Jumin had left. She seduced him in a way he hadn’t yet encountered and didn’t understand until many years later – which we see in his route – and V helped her do so. Rika wanted Jumin for his money to make her dream of Mint Eye come true and not only did V not stop her, but he enabled her. She toyed with Jumin’s emotions and when he didn’t deliver the way she wanted to she brushed him off and Elizabeth the 3rd stepped in, all his love and obsessions 'wasted’ on a cat.
This is my last point and it is an important one: Jumin is always and constantly misunderstood and mistreated. In the chat no one really seems to be on his side, ever. Yoosung and Seven are buds, Jaehee always sides with Zen in dissing Jumin while he himself is all alone. Not only that, but all his attempts to fit in are constantly blocked off. Having grown up with no other children around, other than V, in a very posh and rich neighbourhood, more focused on pleasing his father and meeting his expectations than teenage lingo, Jumin has no understanding of things the others would consider normal. They often tease him for it, making fun of him and only pushing him further towards emotional isolation. However, when he actually attempts to understand they think he is making fun of them and quickly shut him down. They also feed into a lot of rumours amongst others teasing him about being gay – which he obviously isn’t but the press made up to get some sort of dirt on his otherwise white coat – only making him feel the more isolated. His love interest is dead, his best friend abandoned him and the rest of his 'friend’ hate and belittle him. Who would not attempt to shut their emotions off? Well, sadly turning emotions off isn’t possible, but redirecting them is, no matter how unhealthy. Enter Elizabeth the 3rd.
Now how does his emotional constipation show:
Mainly through his
obsession with Elizabeth the 3rd, his overly fatherly
behaviour towards the RFA and of course the intense love for MC in
his route. All the emotions he doesn’t dare express with anyone else
he focuses on the only living being that has never fucked him over:
the cat. Despite everyone being hella rude and mean to Jumin he
stills acts like a father figure to everyone, trying to make up what
his father fucked up with him, or at least attempting to. He sends
Yoosungs parents to see him, because he thinks Yoosung is lonely, not
really understanding that he might not like such invasion at all. He
sends bodyguards to everyone to protect them. He offers Zen jobs to
help him and gives Jaehee a lot of hours to make her earn a lot of
money as he was taught that money was the most valuable thing in the
world. As for MC, that one is actually quite understandable. He only
ever loved one woman and that woman ended up failing him as well
before dying. Now he finally meets someone that not only he is drawn
to, but who understands him, who sees his attempts at being a good
person as such, who laughs at his jokes, who defends him in a group
consisting of pairs where he’d been all alone and never even attempts
to go after his wealth, gradually erasing the negative image of women
that had been created in his mind. After years and years of
suppressing his emotions, of course he 'lashes out’ on MC the way he
does. It’s like she breaks a dam inside of him and then gets a little
drowned by the wave of emotion before he learns to control it.
In conclusion: Jumin is a very emotional person, but doesn’t know how to express himself correctly and often misunderstands certain emotions in others as well as himself. He denies himself emotion which makes them come out in sometimes negative ways. All this poor boy needs is a loving and very patient girlfriend.