CREATED BY MAGGIE (friarlucas) AND KATE (rileysmatthews)
Girl Meets World protagonist Riley Matthews returns with high school sweetheart and husband Lucas Friar, trying their best to balance work and play while raising their three kids in their high-rent, low-square footage New York apartment. Bright and bubbly twins Violet and Josie Grace embark on their very own high school journey, getting by with their best friend Analyn Minkus and her younger brother Zeeks, friend and older cousin Jesse Matthews, and new pal Heather Hampton. While youngster JJ keeps their parents on their toes, the girls must navigate new territory, new relationships, and new tougher classwork–notably their English class, taught by homeroom teacher and Girl Meets World alum, Dave Williams.
Oh good lol so what's the oldest and youngest two people can be at most to be together? 3 years apart? 16 and 19? Almost out of high school and just got to college.
Depends on the people. For me, even 16 and 19 is a little much. That’s a huge huge difference in dynamics and places in life. Now, a 3 year difference between like a 30 year old and a 33 year old? Great! But teenagers are a vastly different situation. I don’t think teens should be more than 2 years apart honestly. I definitely don’t think there’s many situations – any, in fact, where a 20 year old should be dating someone under 18. It’s really tough with teenagers because the years are so so different. Who you are at 13 is so different than who you are at 14, and then at 15. And dating someone younger or older, you’re just in different places mentally and emotionally
Because I am feeling ridiculously fannish about Wonder Woman at the moment, and because I am a nerd with too much time on her hands on a Sunday evening, here are a few interesting tidbits for you taken from the Wonder Woman IMDB page (with a little help from Wikipedia).
There are 17 named Amazons in the credits (plus 15 actresses listed as guards, warriors, or townspeople.) 11 of the 17 named characters have their ages listed.
Average age = 41.4 years
Oldest Amazon = 57 years
Youngest Amazon = 26 years
7 Amazons played by actresses 40 or older
Connie Nielsen (Hippolyta) and Robin Wright (Antiope) are both 51 years old.
Of the 32 women listed as playing Amazons in the credits, half if not more are women of color (not all the actresses had photos on their page).
These women are of all shapes and sizes. There are stuntwomen, personal trainers and at least one boxer.
tl;dr = when you put women in charge of making a movie about a female superhero and the culture in which she is raised, you get something more realistic than 85% of the movies out there - superhero related or not.
I'm 14 going on 15 and I hate how so many people who take a character that was just my age, and make creepy art and fic about him. I'm about to turn his current age and have been propositioned since I was 11 and was always told that adults who try things like that are perverts. So why is it when a bunch of 20 somethings pushing a teen who is around my age into a sexual relationship with an adult and do explicit crap, it's not perverted and gross? What about the teens who are feeling sexualized?
First off, thanks for writing me and being polite in your message.
The first thing I want to address is this: you should never be made to feel sexualized. Unless it’s with someone you want to be sexual with, like a crush of yours. Even with someone you consider a crush, if you don’t want to feel that way and don’t want to do anything that can be considered sexual (be it even a kiss), you should never feel forced. This is not just now because you’re a teen, this is something that all of us go through and need to keep in mind even in our 20s, 30s and so on.
I’m so sorry that you feel that wayin real lifebecause some adults are absolutely disgusting. They are. Adults that prey on children are absolutely disgusting and horrifying and you should call them out, tell your parents or your teachers or the police. I’m not kidding here. I know it’s hard and you might feel like you’re going to be made fun of, or that they won’t believe you, or that they will side with the adult, or that will belittle you and tell you it’s not a big deal. If you tell someone you trust, they won’t do all those things. Go with your guts. Tell, even if someone only threw nasty words at you or catcalled you (and I really hope you never went through anything heavier than that). In those cases there won’t be much that you can do, but telling someone will help.
What I can tell from your message, is that you
(subconsciously or not)
equate sex with generally being nasty and perverted. This will probably be unnecessary, but I’ll say it anyway: sex is not inherently gross or disgusting or creepy. If you feel that it is, then it means you’re not ready to enter a sexual relationship, and that’s perfectly fine and normal. I won’t tell you that that’s only because of your age, because some people never (or very rarely) show any interest in sex (it’s called asexuality and it falls under the LGBT+ spectrum). Whether you do end up growing to want sex or not doesn’t matter here.
What matters is that now you clearly don’t want to see sex and anything to do with it in your fandom experience and that’s fine. Tumblr offers you ways to make your experience better and show you only the content you want to see. Block any nsfw tag. Don’t follow blogs whose description clearly states that they post nsfw (like mine). Tumblr is a big and scary place if you just take everything it throws at you (be it ship hate, nsfw stuff, etc). The thing with it is that it can’t cater to everyone’s tastes, so you have to be active about blocking the stuff that YOU don’t want to see. Other 14-going-on-15 year olds might be okay seeing nsfw fanart and posts and that will be their Tumblr experience, but you should definitely take measures to protect yourself from what you don’t want to see.
Now, the thing about Otayuri is that no matter how you twist it, it’s not illegal to ship it, even in a sexual way. You should definitely read this post about it, because the thing is, as much as we can project our feelings and real-world stuff into anime characters, they’re not real.
I assure you that if Yuri on Ice was a flesh and bone show things would be different. I don’t really watch any current TV shows with teens in them so I can’t speak for what other fandoms do with their ship, whether they’re sexualized or not. I can only speak for this silly and amazing anime that’s been consuming my life for the past seven months or so.
Anime and cartoon characters are a safe way to explore things about real life. Whether it be sex or depression or anxiety or simply falling in love, we can all identify with an anime character and see our flaws, our fears and our history in them.
The thing you have to remember is that we (I’m speaking for the slightly older part of the fandom since I’m in my twenties) have been Yuri’s age. We’ve very likely had crushes on boys or girls that were a bit younger, our age or slightly older (like Otabek is). So I think for most of us, shipping Otayuri is a way to remember what it feels like to be a teen and be in love/have a huge crush. We will never be that age again, and maybe there’s things we regret not doing, crushes we wish we had confessed. By shipping Otayuri in an active way (meaning: drawing fanart or writing fanfiction) we can explore things we experienced as teens (or wish we had) and pour a little bit of ourselves in Yuri’s (or Otabek’s) character.
Those things might involve anything from simple fluff or rough sex, because, accept it or not, some people at 15 or 16 were (are) having sex of all kinds. Sweet, loving, rough, vanilla, kinky, you-name-it sex. So not to explore that aspectin a healthy way (through fics or fanart) would be lying about what reality is, it would be denying that we ever thought about or had sex at that age.
Much like with blocking tumblr content, you can choose what kinds of fanfiction you read. Only read General and Teen and Up tagged things, read about fluff and about falling in love in a sweet innocent way. Read anything tagged “Ace!Yuri” (it means asexual, the thing I was telling you about before).
But please understand this: when we sexualize Yuri, we’re mostly sexualizing our (often past) selves. Not other teens, not other real-life people. Yuri doesn’t exist in real life, and many of us see bits and pieces of ourselves in him. When we write about him we really write about ourselves, be it because we want to see how we (maybe a little sassier and bitchier version of us) would have confessed a crush to our best friend, or would have handled the aftermath of having just shoved our gloved fingers in said best friend’s mouth in front of thousands of people. Fanfiction is a study about versions of ourselves that never existed, but might as well have.
Another thing I need to make clear: Otabek is not an adult. I assure you that the morning of your 18th birthday you won’t feel like an adult. You’ll feel like the you from yesterday and it will be anticlimactic af, you’ll be like “That’s it?” and yeah, it will be it. Just because the law in some country or state says that 18 is the age of consent (which is set to 16 or 14 years old in many other countries) it doesn’t mean that you’re automatically an adult at that age. You can be 18 and have had sex since you were 14. You can be 18 and completely uninterested in sex. You can be 18 and have a 15 year old mental age, or you can be 16 and be mentally more mature than some 20 year olds.
What canon has shown us, is that Yuri and Otabek are much closer to each other’s mental age than the 2 years + a few months difference they share. I encourage you to find posts about why there’s no power imbalance between Yuri and Otabek, because they compete in the same sport and they have had similar experiences in life.
In conclusion, if you feel irked about nsfw fanart and fanfics and discussions when it comes to this particular ship, please don’t read it/watch it. But what I can assure you is that none of us are trying to sexualize youor your peers. When we sexualize pixels on a screen we don’t see those pixels as a flesh and bone version of a human, we only see an idealized character whose age we are or have been and whose personality and experiences we want to safely explore.
Also really important: when we write/draw NSFW, we don’t write/draw it for teens to read. I repeat: WE DON’T CREATE NSFW CONTENT FOR TEENS. We’re not your parents or guardians, we write NSFW for whoever feels like they can handle seeing nsfw content. If you’re a teen that goes on the nsfw tag and then complains about it (I’m not saying that’s what you did here, I’m speaking generally), it’s only your fault for going in a tag that you weren’t comfortable to begin with.
Speak up if you feel sexualized IRL in a way you don’t like;
Learn how to use tumblr safely, block tags, understand that tumblr doesn’t do those things for you. Make your fandom experience exactly the one you want to see;
Don’t trust adults who tell you this ship is somehow illegal: it’s not;
Understand what’s behind fiction and fanfiction as a way we have to explore real life things (often too personal to write about as ourselves, so we project those things in characters we like);
Understand that adulthood is not something that happens from one day to another;
Learn to discern what content is meant to be consumed by a teen and what content isn’t;
When I was 18 and just left school I worked the restsurant and bar of a golf club for six months. It was my first proper job and a good one too, if only for the club members. These were middle aged to elderly men who spent all day in the clubhouse drinking beer from 10am to get away from their wives, and they LOVED harassing the female staff.
However, the one time I got so disgusted I wanted to punch one in the face involved another co-worker. She was just 15, she got the job because she’s the manager’s niece but she was a sweet girl and willing to learn. Problem was she didn’t know how to deal with the members. I recall vividly seeing her standing by a table in the restaurant with two men in their 70s, mercilessly teasing and flirting at her. She caught sight of me and gave me a look that screamed “HELP”. I called her back to the bar like I had a task for her to do but then one of those bastards grabbed her arm and stopped her. By the time I’d marched over there she was barely fighting back tears, I took her away and told them politely but firmly that they had to stop, that she was 15, that they were upsetting her.
And you know what they did? They LAUGHED.
Old men, I can’t imagine how sad and sick and entitled you must be that you think harassing a little girl until she cries is funny, but I hope the grave swallowed you up before you got another chance.
And let me just add for everyone’s benefit, you should NEVER touch your server, unless you’re their close friend or family. Whether they’re the same gender, opposite gender, younger, older, whatever. Even if you don’t mean anything by it, if you’re just trying to be nice, DON’T. It’s unprofessional, we are working, we don’t want physical contact with you.
I’m incredibly happy to announce our fourth, annualy held, Fallout Week! Welcome all aboard!
Since this is the fourth year in a row we are doing this, I decided to change the program a little bit. During the previous Fallout Weeks I asked you people to name your favorite chracters, locations, dlc, stuff like that - it was all about choosing a favortie. But this time you will be asked to choose one of two things. One of the goals of this Fallout Week is to let you be free, so don’t be afraid to interpret the topics the way you personally like! Be litetal, or take it as a metaphor for something. Use it as a starting point!
As usual, everyone is welcome, and everyone can contribute. Gifs, art, fanfiction, cosplay, videos, edits, meta, whatever you like, - feel free to be part of this event ;)
Day One, July 15th - What would you do as a Vault-tec. executive?
Can you come up with a new vault experiment? What are you going to do with the poor people of pre-war America? And if you can’t come up with a new experiment, what is the one you like the most?
Day Two, July 16th - East or West?
East Coast or West Coast? NCR or Legion? You have headcanons abot China in Fallout’s world? Hit us with these headcanons. Left vs. Right/Communism vs. Democracy?
Day Three, July 17th - Light or dark?
Dark or light color scheme? Happy or sad? Night on the Strip or day on the road? Starry Zion skies? Joshua’s inner demons or his search for peace? Bad or good karma? Arcade’s Legion ending?..
Day Four, July 18th - Fuck/marry/kill
Your day if you want to go crazy with pairings. But maybe you also want to actually play the game and show who your OC would fuck/marry or kill :D
Day Five, July 19th - Old or New?
The original games or the ones that came after Fallout 2? Ulysses but younger? Butch - but older? The Lone Wanderer at the end of his travelling days? Old World or New World?… Ulyssess’ Old World flag?
Day Six, July 20th - Amber or green?
Is fallout so important for Fallout? A day about radiation. Radioactive or radiation-free? Mutated or not? Ghoul characters and supermutants or humans and robots? Fallout 3 or Fallout New Vegas? Amber/green color scheme? The Glowing Sea or California’s deserts?
Day Seven, July 21st - Brains or Brawn?
Does your character just take a minigun and kill everyone or are they all about science? Or are you reminded of the Think Tank? What’s your favorite weapon? A crazy Fallout science thing you like talking to your brain?
Day Eight, July 22nd - Free Day!
The tag for this event is going to be #falloutweek2017. Don’t forget to make it one of your first five tags so it’s easier to find your post!
Character(s): Stiles Stilinski/Reader, Stuart Stilinski/Reader, Thomas Stilinski/Reader, Mitch Stilinski/Reader
Word Count: 5668
Notes: Here y'all go. Finally here. So, there’s a lot of warnings for this one, let’s go. *cracks literally every fucking none in my body as preparation* Oral (both receiving), Fingering, Orgy, Multiple Orgasms, Spit Play, Anal, Rimming, Anal Fingering, Squirting, Double Penetration, Thigh Riding, Face Riding, Marking, Biting, Scratching, Over Stimulation, Shower Play, Exhibitionism, Spanking, Dirty Talk, Begging, Dominance, Older/Younger, Orgasm Denial and Choking/Gagging. Huge thanks to Steffy because even though she doesn’t like butt stuff, she proofread this for me. If that ain’ true friendship then I don’t know what is. I love you @dumbass-stilinski <3
Is there any other evidence of Barry being canonically bi?
There’s no real “Evidence”, no.
However, if you examine the show through a queer lens and take subtext into account, I think there’s some indication of mutual attraction between him and Eddie, him and Len, him and Oliver, and maybe other hints besides.
To preface, before I go into that, it’s important to note that Barry is (wonderfully so) a character who sometimes eschews traditional gender norms. He cries and wears his heart on his sleeve, is sometimes the one being saved by his lady love (like he’s the one saved by true love’s kiss in 3x17 [Duet]) and has a body type that isn’t the muscle-bound huge-armed male power fantasy we’ve come to associate with male superheroes.
So we have to take that into consideration when we consider Barry. Is he just a feminist and emotionally self-aware dude who is comfortable enough with himself to eschew gender norms, or does he have an actual attraction to more than one gender (and in this case, looking more specifically at whether he’s attracted to men and male-aligned folks). Let’s see if we can figure out if he’s just comfortable in his own skin or if there’s any attraction going on.
First, taking the easiest example, let’s look at how he sometimes negotiates his relationship with Eddie. Although not inherently romantic, we’ve got Barry thinking flowers are the right gift to get Eddie in the hospital.
There’s some guilt and layers to Barry being worried about Eddie here, and it is a very sweet thing for Barry to do to bring him flowers, but it’s still atypical.
There’s a lot more that gives us something more concrete to work with though. Like the scene between him and Eddie where Eddie is trying to help Barry get out his anger and he’s holding the punching bag for Barry, and the “harder” line?
If you take off straight goggles (which is basically how you put on a queer lens), this becomes a lot more… charged. The way Eddie starts stripping right there for Barry to watch, pectorals pronounced? The way Barry glances down at Eddie’s body? The smirk when Eddie tells him to hit it harder?
I’ll include this example too, mostly because it made me laugh so hard:
(Barry only shifts away from Eddie after Eddie pushes for more space, note).
And of course, what I think of as one of the more telling examples, Barry’s fantasy world / daydream in which Eddie and looks at him like he hung the freaking moon:
Eddie’s admiration is important to Barry, like very important. And obviously there is survivor’s guilt and layers to that, but just freaking look at Eddie’s expression. That’s Barry’s fantasy expression for how he wants Eddie to look at him. Awed. Admiring. In love.
So okay, queer lens, some indications of Barry being attracted to Eddie.
(For the record and as a bit of an aside, early in the show, Cisco also compliments Eddie and how attractive he is when Barry’s basically staring at Eddie with Iris at the bar. There’s tons of canon “evidence” for Cisco also being like, super bi. The way he compliments Eddie and “Jay” (Hunter)’s bodies and forms, the Chronicles of Cisco episode where he talks about Captain Cold’s blue eyes being mesmerizing. Cisco is Not Straight.)
Barry’s response to Hartley’s flirting doesn’t give us much.
Because he mostly just looks a bit put upon by it? Doesn’t flirt back, but he doesn’t say anything disparaging either. And we know that the actors weren’t unaware of how close they were standing in the earlier scene, based on the blooper reel:
(here’s the actual scene:
kind of intense, huh?)
Then of course there is the tension between Barry and Len which becomes especially palpable in 1x22. But there’s a flirting sort of lean to how Len asks for a ride back to town in 1x16 after the woods scene, and how close Barry gets to him to threaten him about not hurting anyone Barry cares about.
Then of course there is the space thing here:
If you want a reference, preferred interpersonal distance among acquaintances in USA is ~2 feet. This is far more of the “intimate” distance category (Sorokowska et al. 2017). Barry gets weirdly close to Len at times (and like I pointed out above, got weirdly close to Hartley).
(Not that Len’s always complaining based on his own expressions…)
Moving on more.
Barry and Oliver’s relationship could be interpreted as mentor/mentee, older/younger brother, or just friends. But there’s also an easy flirting-type bent to do it, a lot of the time.
(Look at these dorks and tell me they’re not flirting, honestly).
Look at how Barry looks at him. (Is this even canon? Is this a blooper? Or is Barry’s crush just that obvious?)
Then you’ve got Barry being distracted by Oliver’s arms and then both unable to suppress smiles because again, they practically can’t help but be a step away from flirting one with another at all times?
And look at how Ollie looks at him ffs. You’d have to pay me to convince me that Oliver isn’t trying to reel in thoughts of the things he’s tempted to do to Barry right here.
(They have a lot of chemistry; it’s part of why the crossovers always work so well).
Anyway, it’s clear Barry admires Oliver a lot and is eager to introduce him and talk him up.
(Barry, honey, your crush is showing. Even Iris isn’t as obvious about her crush on Oliver).
And like, this been since Barry was introduced to the DCTV canon. Pretty sure his crush on The Arrow predates his crush on Oliver.
(There’s some moment in this episode where he mentions how wonderful and handsome Oliver is so of course Felicity is in love with him. It’s written to sound jealous and downtrodden but he’s basically there acknowledging how attractive he thinks Ollie is).
And then this line, I mean.
I’m sure there’s a straighter way to say that…
So, in sum, looking across a few of his dealings with other men in the show, particularly men a few to many years older than him who don’t fit a parental role but instead challenge him? Especially men with broad chests and large shoulders? Barry displays some signs that we can take as attraction to these men, if we’re willing to set aside the heteronormative lens and put on a queer one.
None of this is conclusive, of course, and there are straight men who are going to display the traits Barry is here. But note that none of this is about, say, hugging men (like dragging Oliver in for hugs) and eschewing toxic masculinity by talking about his feelings. And it’s so much more than just complimenting these men. So none of this is coming from a place of “if you aren’t embodied toxic masculinity then you’re inherently queer”.
It’s about how he looks at them and their chemistry, the way they flirt, the way he embeds himself into the space of men, using challenge as an excuse to get right up and personal with them. The line between “heart thumping from fear-stress” and “heart pumping from attraction-arousal” is a crazy thin one, so thin it can be misinterpreted by people about their own emotions, and they misattribute fear as arousal (Dutton and Aron 1974).
So… I think a queer reading of Barry is a pretty valid one. I truly read him as bi and have from season 1.
Why I'm attracted to older men rather than guys my age
- have you seen the lil fuck muffins my age
- more mature
- sooo much sexier
- seem a lot more intellectual and wiser
- definitely more thoughtful
- smth about their eyes are prettier
- more experienced hehe
- generally taller, better for spooning
- not as sensitive and persnickety as most guys my age
- probably much better at kissing
- will probably put effort into your relationship than a doofus my age
I don’t get why anyone would ship Kataang, even just because of the age thing alone. Yeah, it’s only a two or three year difference, but when you’re a kid, a couple of years can mean an extreme difference in maturity and personal (and physical, sorry to go there, but it’s true) development. Put yourself into Katara’s place. When you were a teenager in, say, ninth grade, were you into sixth graders? I should hope you weren’t. I know I wasn’t. When I was Katara’s age, 12-year-olds were little children to me. The idea of dating one was unthinkable. Hell, in real life, girls Katara’s age babysit kids Aang’s age.
I could give you this whole long-ass essay about why not to ship Kataang, but I won’t right now. Because to me, this point should be enough.
Pairing; Finn Balor/Reader, past Prince Devitt/Reader
Summary; Is it
such a sin for me to take what’s mine?
Warnings; NSFW. Heel!Antagonist!Reader. Smut, choking, breathplay. Some angst idk?
VERY unhealthy relationships. Emotional abuse, mental abuse, and grooming of a younger woman by an older man if you squint and read
between the lines.
Author Note; IDGAF I wrote another terrible human being.
Fight me. Diverse characters make the world go round, and that includes actual
villains. This one was so much fun for me to write, and I hope you all enjoy it as much as I did. You know the drill.