Will my fro ever be "business appropriate"?

One thing I struggle with as a young professional is what to do with my hair.  Usually I end up putting it into some sort of roll tuck and pin scenario if i’m going to be on set with the client or go to a meeting – but today I decided I didn’t want to pin it up because the shoot was so early in the morning and I was running late.  

So I just wore my hair in a bantu knot out. (which looked super fly btw)

See below:

Keep in mind, no matter what I wear to work if the client has only talked to me on the phone/emailed with me there’s usually the handshake accompanied with a “wtf I had no idea you were going to be black, and my mind is blown because you speak-ah the english so good” face. Even when its a company that’s pretty racially diverse, not going to name anybody (see my work blog).

I guess because of my last name on emails everyone is assuming i’m latino/chicano/hispanic/mexican/spanish and mentally prepare themselves for that ahead of time? This still happened when my last name was Clemons though, either way they see me and their face reads:

“…you’re about 30 shades darker than I expected”

You get used to it. You shouldn’t – because its insulting, but you do.

Usually by the end of the shoot, when they realize that: 

1. I know what the hell i’m doing (shots/angles/presentation).

2. I know how to conduct an interview (all the shooters, that are older and white usually are looking at me for the final say)

3. I can discuss at length whatever enterprise technology you’re making this video for because I did my homework, and I know how to get you to say it in a way that consumers will (a) understand and (b) want to buy.

They change their attitude. 

It’s this weird trade off though, of sacrificing a bit of who you are for social convention and also realizing the importance of a first impression.  

Even now, as I’ve embraced my hair– my “blackness” and feel the urge to express said blackness in my appearance, I still have my parents voices in my head:

You have to dress better

You have to speak better 

You have to look better

…and somehow (even though you never will) blend in…

Because no matter how educated you are, the wealth of knowledge you have, your outward appearance of sophistication, some people will still look at you and just see a negro. 

So, I return to my question. Was the fro a bad idea? 

5 Ways For Introverts To Network Authentically

Many introverts (and shy extroverts) dread networking. They worry about feeling awkward, stumbling through forced conversations, or having nobody to talk to. But sometimes, we have to network in order to advance professionally or promote a cause that we care about. Networking is often unavoidable, but it doesn’t have to be such a big struggle.


Learn how to nail the young professional look (and incorporate some of those new Isabel Marant x H&M pieces into your wardrobe!) in the latest episode of TVOOTD.

Watch, style, and then show us your look! >> 


The 10 Happiest Cities For Young Professionals

Planning to relocate or settle down? When you think about where you’d be happiest, Riverside, Calif., Philadelphia, and Phoenix probably aren’t the first places that come to mind. But as it turns out, these three cities are where some of nation’s most satisfied young professionals live and work.

Sorry Ladies, LinkedIn Is No Longer Safe

I do not know this person. LinkedIn is officially not safe.

Perhaps at some point I accepted an invitation to connect with this man because we are relatively in the same industry, but I do not personally know this person. We have never met.

I don’t know about all you other professional adult people but, I’m on LinkedIn to engage in business. I’m there to make new connections, explore new opportunities, and gauge movement my industry.

I’m not there to flirt. (Even if I am the biggest one I know, I understand boundaries.)

My profile very thoroughly provides a snapshot of my almost decade of experience, honed skill set, and unique approach to content, social media, and digital writing.

Yes, my profile also has a photo of myself, which is standard and required for anyone participating on the site. It is the same profile picture I use across all social media profiles. Nothing special. Nothing provocative. Just me in a white button up shirt.

And yet, that’s what someone has chosen to take their time to message me about: how I look. 

Not my experience. Not my skills. Not my industry philosophy.

Just…that I look good.

It’s flattering, of course. I won’t pretend like it’s not nice to receive compliments about my appearance — and I do appreciate it — but it’s a little disheartening that it had to happen on LinkedIn. Such an inappropriate use of the platform.

My entire, impressive resume takes up 95% more of my profile than my photo. And even if this man acknowledged my intellectual qualities and achievements, it’s telling that he instead chose to remark on how I look.

It’s a reminder that women are not equal in the workplace. We are not equal in mens’ eyes. Our talents take a backseat to a pretty face.

This is not true everywhere. I am fortunate enough to work for a company that has never once made me feel this way, which has perhaps blinded me to many realities. But this message. This stupid, benign LinkedIn message made me stop and reconsider. 

Oh yeah, things really aren’t great in most of the professional world. There’s still a lot of work to be done.

Maybe I’m reading into this message. I hope that I am. But, unfortunately, I don’t think so.

So professional men, keep the nice compliments coming. Just keep them off LinkedIn.

Try sending a nice note about our professional skills, portfolio, or achievements next time. Be part of a better working world so we can better work together.


Tove Lo-Talking Body (young professional remix)// Kylie’s snapchat
The weeknd- Earned it // Kylie’s snapchat (with Tyga)
New boyz-FMS // video of Kylie twerking on Kendall
Lean- like a cholo // video of Kylie twerking on Kendall
Big Sean- I don’t fuck with you // Kenny’s,Khloe’s fave
Tink- Used 2 know // Kylie’s fave, snapchat with Jordyn
Partynexdoor ft Drake-Recognize  Kylie and Kendall in their music video
Courtlend-I see you
LiveLikeDavis – Kylie Jenner Freak // snapchat
Rihanna- BBHMM // snapchat
J.Cole- Niggas Know // on her snapchat it’s some kind of remix I can’t find.
J.Cole – No role modelz // snapchat
Rae Sremmurd – Throw  Sum Mo ft Niki Minaj, Young Thug // snapchat
Kendrick lamar- King Kunta remix // snapchat
Tink – Background Music // snapchat with Jordyn
Tink – Treat me like somebody // snapchat with Jordyn
CA$H out- she twerkin // coachella snapchat
T-Wayne - Nasty Freestyle // snapchat
PARTYNEXTDOOR – Thirsty // snapchat
Big Sean- Blessings
Niki Minaj- Truffle Butter
Tinashe ft Schoolboy Q – 2ON
Future- Trap Niggas
Problem – Take ya thighs of
Chris Brown ft Tyga – Nothing like me
Drake- How about now
Jhene Aiko – bed peace
Omarion ft Jhene Aiko & Chris Brown – post to be
Spooky black- Without you// instagram
Wet- don’t wanna be your girl
PARTYNEXDOOR- Wus good curious
Ocean ft. Soko- Dream Koala
$woosh Boyz ft. Courtlend - #skurskur
Chris Brown – Loyal
SZA ft. Chance the Rapper – Childs Play // vine
Travis Scott – Hell of a night (Owl Pharaoh) // instagram
The weeknd – Or Nah
Tyga- Hookas
Kanye West – Black Skinhead
Juicy J ft Big Sean ft Young Jeezy – Show out
Jeremih ft. YG – Don’t Tell ‘Em
Drake – Hold on, We’re Going Home
Lana del Rey – Young & Beautiful
Pia Mia – Fuck with you
Nicki Minaj – Only // instagram
Charlie Cavallo- Why don’t you love me //instagram
Jhene Aiko – The Vapors // instagram
Chase Duddy – If we’re gonna do it // instagram
Lexington Ave – Jamaican Sadness – Jaden Smith // Kylie is in the video for 2 sec
Jaden Smith ft Willow Smith – Blue Ocean // Kylie is in the video
DJ Snake ft. AlunaGeorge – You know you like it
Kid Ink – Body Language
Yung Thug-  CHECK IT
Zak Downtown prod by NEM- Kylie Kendall
Jaden tweeted that Kendall likes the whole „Jaden Experience”
Tink ft. DJ Dahi – M.E.N // instagram (Kendall)
Pharrell Williams- Happy // youtube ( K&K were dancing to this clip)
Lil Wayne - Nasty freestyle
DJ KHALED,Lil Wayne,Chris Brown- How many times
Tyga- Switchlanes
Tyga ft Chris Brown - Ayo
Omarion ft Jhene Aiko and Chris Brown - Post to be
Tyga D.G.I.F.U

I’ve made it all by myself and I hope you will enjoy it 💟 love, Kaja.