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Tao and EXO

Alright, now that I’m not about to lose my mind, it’s time for me to say something about this entire mess. I’m sick and tired of people acting on their emotions, making assumptions as though they know more about the situation than the rest of us do, or people jumping on hate/drama bandwagons just because there’s a popular person or post on tumblr telling you that’s what’s happening.

First things first, I want to take us back to when this whole mess first started. With Papa Huang’s letter on Weibo. He explicitly stated that it was HIM, Papa Huang, who was pulling Tao out of EXO. He explicitly stated that it was his decision and that Tao fought with him about it. However, because of the Chinese culture and the importance of filial piety, Tao ultimately agreed with his father’s decision, because in China that’s just what you do. You don’t go against your parents no matter how old you are. It is unheard of, especially if you’re close to your parents on top of that. 

Now, I’ve seen people left and right claim Tao set this whole thing up and hid behind his father, but the 5% of information we have from this entire situation proves to me otherwise, as one of Tao’s actor friends in China made a statement that during the rumor that came out just before the one that started with Papa Huang’s letter, Tao had told him that it wasn’t true and he would make a statement soon. Does this not sound like Tao’s father was getting ready to tell the world that Tao was out and that Tao was fighting with him? Because even just before this whole thing happened, Tao was still telling people, “no, it’s not true. I’m going back.”

It would also shine light on why Tao’s manager went back to visit with Tao and his family while Tao was supposed to be resting. Because they knew that Tao was fighting with his parents so he could stay in EXO. They probably started negotiations as far back as then to try and get Mr. and Mrs. Huang to agree to let Tao stay in EXO, to assure them that they had Tao’s best interest in mind, but parents do not forget and they do not forgive anyone that has hurt their child and proven that they don’t care. 

Let us not forget how Tao messaged everyone saying he was sorry. Let’s not forget how he cried on his birthday and how his friends had to send him encouraging messages reminding him that it’s okay that he won’t be in EXO anymore, it’s not the end of his journey, but the start of one. 

Tao even wore his OT10 bracelet for quite a long time after this all happened, and one of his first statements after it happened was: I will miss the past, but I look forward to the future. 

This wasn’t something Tao planned on doing, it was not a decision he chose to make. Not in my opinion. I have no reason to think Tao was actually hiding behind his dad and I have no reason to think Tao has ever been underhanded. In my opinion, I have every reason to believe Tao genuinely wanted to stay in EXO, that he meant what he said about being loyal, that he was right there with Lay in wanting to find a better way to manage their differences with the company. But then other forces pulled him out. 

That’s the thing about life. Shit happens. People say things and then do something else and it happens all the time. When I was younger, I said I would never sleep with a man I wasn’t married to. Guess what happened? I also said I would never drink alcohol, and I would never smoke pot. Guess what happened? I said I would never move back home, I said I would never sleep with someone or kiss someone I wasn’t dating. Guess what happened? When I made those statements, every bit of me meant them and yet I grew and I changed and I wanted to see the world, I wanted a new outlook. The younger you are, the more likely you are to change your mind. 

And besides being young and growing and learning and changing, sometimes the world gives us a situation that forces us to make decisions we never planned on making. And that’s what, I believe, happened to Tao. 

I also really do believe he, his father, and SM were in negotiations this entire time. It would explain why they were so quick to make a statement about Tao’s Studio. I think Tao maybe was even holding out hope that he could return to EXO and I think the boys were too, which is why it took so long for them to totally severe the ties between each other on SNS. I think they saw the negotiations as hope, because they kind of were. At this point, however, I think they have ended what with SM being so silent about Tao’s comeback, with Baekhyun and Chanyeol unfollowing Tao and Tao unfollowing everyone. Things just didn’t work out, and it sucks, but that’s life. 

This whole situation has shown me that a lot of you have really unhealthy ties to this boy group. If your happiness lies in the success of a boy group, then you need to find something else that makes you happy, something that you, yourself, can control. Your happiness should not depend on the success of something that can wither away and die in an instant. 

Can you be sad? Of course you can! But you need to stop treating these boys as possessions. None of you even truly care why Tao, Kris, and Luhan have left, you only care that they did. That they somehow broke the magic of your perfect boy group. That they won’t be around the other members now to entertain your shipping or interaction fantasies. They are not playthings and they do not live to help fuel your fantasies. You cannot actively be so bitter about something that, honestly, has nothing to do with you. 

This sort of mentality is proven to me when people were on Tao’s instagram telling him not to delete the pictures because: “These are our memories.” No, darling, they never were your memories. They were Tao’s memories that he was kind enough to share with you. He doesn’t want to share them anymore for whatever reason. He has every right to take them down. Because for all you know, maybe they hurt him. Maybe it hurts that things didn’t work out, that he had to go back on his word. You don’t know what Tao goes through, you don’t know how he feels about this. 

You don’t know any of these boys. You haven’t spoken to them one-on-one. You don’t share text messages with them, you don’t live with them in their dorms, you don’t go to the studio to practice with them, you didn’t grow up with them, you aren’t their brothers or sisters, you aren’t their mothers or fathers, their best friends. No… you are just admirers. You can only know what these boys choose to tell you, just like I can’t know you guys apart from what you tell me. It’s no different, and the sooner you realize that, the better. 

Remember that things always look different from the outside. Tao may look like he’s confident, excited about going solo, ungrateful even. But do you know that maybe that’s his strong-face? What do you expect him to do? After having had to swallow his words due to circumstance, do you want him to hole himself away from the world and act like he hates himself and never move on in his life? No, Tao is doing exactly what everyone should do when their feet and pulled from under them and they’re forced to make a new life for themselves: You get back up, put on your game face and show the world what kind of a fighter you are.

And EXO will do the same thing. 

You guys want to talk about double standards, I’m seeing a lot of them. Especially now with this instagram nonsense. First of all, tumblr is the only place talking about this, because blogs don’t publish dates on them like they should. (Tumblr should really get on that) Just now, I checked Tao, Chanyeol, and Baekhyun’s latest posts on IG back to the last hour. 

I’ve heard from everyone all day long that Chanyeol is getting hate and Tao is getting praise. In the last hour, I saw but one comment on Chanyeol’s page mentioning anything about unfollowing Tao. The rest was intense love and admiration. 

I checked Tao’s. His page was actually flooded with both intense support and some hate, as I assumed I would see. 

Then I checked Baekhyun’s, whose was similar to Tao’s and yet only three of the bad comments I saw were about Tao, one of them being them supported him for removing Tao and saying they loved him more because of it, and all the rest were… stupid comments begging him not to work out anymore, but that’s another conversation. 

You guys want to talk about double standards, and yet you pull one immediately. Tao has been getting just as much if not more hate than Chanyeol. If you see Tao getting a flood of support it is mostly from Hailangs who have been dying to see Tao again ever since he first got hurt and had to return home way back in March. And Hailangs haven’t been going to Chanyeol’s instagram to send him hate, we’re too busy fangirling over Tao’s solo. 

Tumblr is doing more to cause drama about this than the actual anti’s are. If people aren’t posting their passive aggressive judgements on Tao for every breath he makes that isn’t as a member of EXO, then someone else is screaming at the top of their lungs about how fucked up the fandom is and how everyone unjustly hates Chanyeol or something. Those of you who do that contribute more to the drama than any of this SNS nonsense. 

Long story short, we are just fans. We are not entitled to anything these boys have to offer, not at all. EXO is a career for them, and if they decide that it’s best to move on from that career or if there are better opportunities, they have every right to make that decision to leave. 

Think of it this way, if I were working at McDonald’s (which I did before, I hated it), and say everyone loved our McDonald’s because we were fast and friendly and our food always tasted so good. I had good if not great relationships with all of my coworkers and the regulars, too. But then let’s say I got offered a better job somewhere, let’s say Applebee’s and they want to pay me a great deal more. Do the regulars or my co-workers have a right to tell me I can’t take that job because we’ve always been good to each other? Nope, they sure don’t. It’s no different. 

I’ve seen some people in their 20′s all the way well up into their 40′s that have been acting really petty and immature about this. People that are grown and should know better than to throw a fit over a boy group, no less over a boy group where the average age is 22. They are still young, they are gonna make mistakes, they are gonna change, they are gonna make promises that they think they’ll be able to keep because they’re young and naive and then later have to break them because life happens and people change or they realize now that keeping that promise will only hurt them. 

If you want to be angry at someone, be angry at SM Entertainment and their inability to properly manage their groups. It’s no coincidence that beyond EXO, nearly all of their major groups have had scandals with members leaving or being kicked out for ridiculous reasons. It’s no coincidence every member that has left has had to do so to maintain their health and to be successful. 

Kris wanted to act and I’ve heard somewhere, don’t know where, so don’t quote me on this, that SM turned down up to 15 offers for him. 

Luhan was known for having a phobia of heights, and SM cared so little about Luhan’s mental health that they actually had him enter the stage from above. I’m not even talking about him constantly being on a flight, I’m literally talking about SM disgustingly showing no signs of concern for his wellbeing when it came to performances. 

Tao should have been the main rapper from the start, but he was always overshadowed by someone else, and let’s not forget that Tao was offered a movie role that was supposed to go for a week and yet SM pushed it back to 3 days. Then, they didn’t even promote his movie.

If these idol groups are made to make money, SM sure doesn’t know how to do it. Why would they turn down 15 movie offers? Why would they cut Tao’s recording time and then fail to promote his movie? Why would they give their most popular Chinese member any reason to want to leave after one of them already did? 

You guys might want to pin this on the boys, but excuse me for thinking a company should be held to a higher standard in the way they treat their employees. Employees have rights, you know, and them filing for a lawsuit is no different than someone going on strike and demanding to be taken care of. Don’t give me that: Well they signed up for this, they knew what they were getting into. That’s victim blaming if I ever saw it.

This is the last thing I’m saying about it. I’m so over the petty drama, I’m not here for people pointing fingers, for jumping on the blame game, the hate game, the drama game, whatever. I’ll be over here cheering on Tao, Luhan, Kris, and all the rest of the members of EXO. I’m not going to hold it against anyone for making choices that will benefit them and their happiness. And you shouldn’t either.

real__pcy:  많이 힘들고 화도많이나고 답답하죠? 우리가 안아줄꺼고 우리가 위로해줄께요 그러니깐 우리믿고 항상 좋은것만 보고 좋은말만 해요 앞으론 제가했던말 기억하죠? 맘편히 사랑만 할수있게 해줄께요😊
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Very exhausted and keep on getting angry are very frustrating right? We will embrace you, and we will console you, so believe in us, next time always look only at the bright side and only talk nice words. Still remember my words? I will make you love (us) peacefully.

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 [TRANS] 150726 GMA Fans Day - RaStro and the cast of TRMD

2:01 - (Rhian started singing too early so she sang the same line again) 

Rhian: My bad!

Glaiza: That’s alright lovelove!

2:12 - Rhian: You’re good.

2:47 - Glaiza: Do you know this?

Rhian (to David): Why are you here?

3:23 - Rhian: I’m no longer hopia!

Rhian: Good afternoon Kapuso, and thank you for your continuous support for The Rich Man’s Daughter. Thank you so much. Join us for the last weeks because you won’t expect what will happen.

Glaiza: Oh no, what is that? What will you do, Jade?

Rhian: Stop pretending. It’s okay, it’s okay.

Glaiza: Althea will start again without Jade. BUT! But Jade will still do everything to be with Althea. So that we’ll all be happy.

Luis: But the question is, will David agree for that to happen? Wait, you have to watch as there’s another character that will happen to David. Of course don’t miss it. There’s a lot of exciting things that will happen to the story of The Rich Man’s Daughter.

TJ: Okay, there will be realization to the relationships, including Gabriel and Pearl and of course Oscar and Amanda.

Mike: And of course Sally and I won’t get behind, right?

Sheena: Yes, MOA Arena do you think that Sally still has hope with Paul?

Mike: Is there?

Chynna: Is there?

Sheena: Is there?

Glaiza: You’re cute. (To SaPaul)

Chynna: Maybe Sally has hope with me?

Chynna: No but…

Mike: One more!

Rhian: Batchi!

Sheena: I was just surprised, sorry.

Chynna: One more?

*Chynna kisses Sheen on the cheek*

Rhian: Can you do it one last time?

Chynna: From everyone behind The Rich Man’s Daughter, especially you Rebels. Thank you so much. Thank you from Batchi, from Wila, from everybody, We will never forget you. Thank you so much. 

Rhian: The Rich Man’s Daughter on GMA Telebabad. Thank you so much and Happy 65th Anniversary to all of us! Thank you, Kapuso!

Luis: Thank you so much, Kapuso!

TJ: Thank you , Rastro Rebels! Thank you guys!

Glaiza: RASTRO IS REAL!

I was on FaceTime with my brother when the new LLL episode came out. This is what happened:

Bro: …so, as a lecturer, Klaus isn’t supposed to express his political views. Because, you know, being in a position of power over us means that he’s not allowed to try to influence our decision - 
Me: I’m gonna have to stop you right there.
Me: *starts watching LLL episode on the sly*
Me: Continue. 
Bro: So, as I was saying….[this is where I tuned him out]
Me: *hears that Ben and Bea are still together* *screams*
Bro: WHAT. What’s happening? Is everything alright?
Me: *flops around for about ten minutes*
Bro: *sighs* Reubs’ web series?
Me: *incomprehensible screeching* 
Bro: Got it. I’ll call you back in an hour. 

I have him so well trained :P

anonymous asked:

Can you explain to me what appropriation is? I sort of have a general idea but I'm not really sure

Alright so this is something I have only recently understood better, and I think in some ways I am still a little fuzzy on the facts, so to my followers if I miss anything or say anything that is not quite accurate please let me know.

Cultural appropriation is basically a dominant culture borrowing parts of other cultures. The reason this is problematic is because one or more of the following happens: 1) not using it the way it was intended to be used or 2) taking credit for coming up with the thing or 3) objectifying a culture as “exotic”

Classic examples: 
For using something the way it was not intended: Native American plains Indians headdresses/war bonnets

Contrary to popular opinion, these are worn only by those who had earned a place of great respect within their tribe. They are NOT worn by every person within a tribe by any means. It’s not a perfect analogy but it would be like saying “Oh I’m dressed as a white person for Halloween” and wearing this:

That would be a little weird and uncomfortable, right? That’s exactly what white people do with “Indian costumes” though. We wear it as “exotic” when in fact it has deep symbolic meaning within the culture we “borrowed” it from.

And as for taking credit for and/or using “exotic” cultural aspects, the evidence of this is everywhere:
Rock and Roll, twerking, the bindi, dreadlocks, Halloween costumes that are literally an ethnicity or a stereotype thereof, various types of jewelry, etc. The list goes on.

What is harmful about this is that it takes something that PoC have been insulted and degraded for, then makes it suddenly quirky and cool when white people start doing it. Only once it becomes a trend among white people is it acceptable. And worse, it is seen ONLY as acceptable among white people in many instances.

For example, a black person with dreadlocks may be judged as low class, unintelligent, or lazy. People make strong negative assumptions about their lifestyle and personality. But a white person with dreadlocks is seen as a tree hugger or a hippie, someone in touch with nature, a very different stereotype altogether and with much less negative stigma. 

And as for dressing like a race… It’s dehumanizing really… I mean if a girl dresses as a “Chinese girl” for Halloween, it’s saying that the clothes people wear in traditional Chinese attire is a costume? Like… it objectifies China in a way. It makes China an exotic commodity, not a nation of people just living their lives. If that makes sense… I’m not as good at explaining this one. 

You see, by classifying other cultures as exotic… it means you are saying your own culture is “normal” by comparison. White people have a very interesting tendency to classify other cultures as interesting commodities to be borrowed from, not just as people who live a different way than they do.  There really is no such thing as an “exotic” culture or even an aspect of another culture, because to the people from that culture, it is normal and part of their own life/beliefs/religion/etc. “White” culture is not the same as “normal” culture. It is just one that happens to have a lot of power in this age. And it is this belief that all these other problems stem from.

I’m sorry if this was a little scattered. There is so much to talk about it is very difficult to be thorough and clear. Have a couple other links that might help you also:

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/06/cultural-appropriation-wrong/

http://racerelations.about.com/od/diversitymatters/fl/What-Is-Cultural-Appropriation-and-Why-Is-It-Wrong.htm

 Original Mystery Twins SIDE A: Boys Like Us

A mix for the Original Mystery Twins that starts during better days and ends in worse ones.

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1)Two gallants - Despite What You’ve Been Told  2)Fall Out Boy - The Kids Aren’t Alright  3)Trooper - Raise A Little Hell  4)The Who - Teenage Wasteland  5)The Heavy - What Make A Good Man  6)Vance Joy - Riptide 7)Lord Huron - Brother  8)The Hours - Icarus   9)The Rasmus - In The Shadows   10)The Extra Lens - Programmed Cell Death  11)Twenty One Pilots - Kitchen SInk   12)Andrew Bird - Dark Matter   13)Bastille - Laughter Lines

anonymous asked:

you're perfect. don't ever let anyone make you think you aren't good enough because you are. you're amazing and you're going to get through this and find someone someday who is good enough for YOU.

Thank you. I actually don’t want to even think of finding someone to fall in love with again any time soon. I know some of you know what happened between us but I was really fucked up after she left. I tried killing myself and ended up in a psychiatric hospital for a week. But I’m alright now. Thank you so much.

anonymous asked:

oooh what happened with amy? i watched her movie and while i was expecting something a lot more funny it was alright you know aside from those "jokes" taht make you go "yikes" it was alright not totally bad and tbh this is like the first time i've heard about her? other than that, i've never seen her in anything lol

she’s one of those comedians that likes to use their jobs as an excuse to be blantantly offensive because it’s “funny” i try not to pay attention to her stuff bc i realllllly dont like her (for obvious reasons) but she’s got a show on comedy central and she somehow makes her way onto my dash ug h

this video of her “joking about race” will tell you how racist she is oh my god

krungprincess replied to your post:-bounces around- Welcome to Mini Asia! Ah wait,…

B-bwoh?! What do you mean weaird name? It’s a beautiful name! As someone I know told me -huffs- Hey, I tried being nice and warm with you, is that how you treat a lady? -pouts and folds her arms across her chest, huffing even more-

Someone told you, huh? That someone probably lied to you. -shrugs- A lady? Ah, so you consider yourself a lady, I see.. Warped self-perception. It’s alright. That can happen to the best of us.

Omg my client is trying to convert me (a Jewish atheist) to Christianity I’m d y i n g

She is telling me how there’s a comet coming to earth and it’s going to tear the US in two and how could i not see the prophecies of the Bible becoming truth and if I’m not on god’s side then you know what will happen……

And I’m just like yeah no I don’t really believe in the afterlife bit even if I was religious because JEWISH

I’m kinda banking on the “if you’re a good person we’ll probably still see you up there” thing my fellow jews have going lol

She’s so confused how I could have studied religion in college and be an atheist

anonymous asked:

Number 38 with Mats/Erik please! ^.^

38. “You fainted…straight into my arms. You know, if you wanted my attention you didn’t have to go to such extremes.”

Erik is blaming Julian and Matze right now for dragging him into playing FIFA until so late when the next day they have to prepare for the premiere of their movie - the Die Mannschaft documentary. At the morning, his head was hurting so much that he could barely register what’s happening. The sounds surround him were so loud that he kept getting headache. 

Matze looks at him worriedly and Erik shrugged it off. He said that he would be fine. 

At the premiere, he tried to smile and interact with his teammates, ignoring his obvious headache. Everyone’s been excited with the movie and he shouldn’t ruin that. 

Mats approached him once. “You alright, Erik? You don’t look so fine.” 

Erik just smiled and said that he might not get used to the blitz and crowds. Mats still doesn’t buy that but since Cathy calls the older man, Mats had to leave Erik, but he made sure that the younger man is alright first beforehand. 

Not long after, everyone is told to take a photo together and Erik is still not feeling well. Adding the light and the heat, he believes that his condition is getting worse. Luckily that the photo doesn’t take too long. One by one left the position and he followed suit. 

Jonas calls his name and he turns around, but suddenly his body feels so light and the next thing he knows is darkness.

.

.

When he wakes up again, he looks around and realizes that he’s in the private room with only Mats sitting beside him. 

“Mats?” His voices a bit hoarse, like a wake up voice. “What am I - urgh.” He touches his head which is killing him. 

Mats tells him to sit down and chuckles. “You fainted…straight into my arms. You know, if you wanted my attention you didn’t have to go to such extremes.” The man adds with a wink and Erik could only blush. 

“I fainted?” 

Snickering, Mats ruffles Erik’s hair. “Yes you did, now that you’re awake, you sure you can get up and watch the movie?” 

Erik thinks for a while and nods. He suddenly realizes something. “Hey Mats, who took me here?” 

Grinning while winking, Mats answers teasingly. “Who did you think?” 

Matze asks if Erik is feeling better because the latter’s face is so red. Erik just says that it must be the heat.


(send me a pairing and a number and i’ll write you a drabble)

lockthedoorsandkeepthemshut asked:

I found this funny)) (the-riddler-riddles) "Joker....why are you in my bed?"

                    🃏 Joker looks up, peeking out from under the covers. He bites his lip, unsure before sighing.

“I had no where else to go, okay?
My warehouse was burnt
down by the police and I was
chased like a wild animal.
I lost them but I needed a
place to hide. I’m not going back
to the asylum, they can’t make me.

                    The clown sink lower under the covers, seeming nervous and maybe the slightest bit scared of what might happen if he’s kicked back onto the street to be found by them.

“I’ll go if you really want
me to though. No use in
getting into worse trouble
with more people who wouldn’t
hesitate to kill me. 🃏

the-riddler-riddles

//apologies for the lateness! I hope that’s alright!//

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I kinda noticed Mark seemed almost frustrated playing kitty powers matchmaker (the herb lore game), and aside from it being a pretty ridiculous game, I think July 4th is when his dad died.

I think that is so incredible; even on such a horrible day for Mark, he still managed to make one of his funniest videos ever and remain so positive.

Mark, you are such an inspiration to all of us. Personally, you remind me that no matter what happens, you shouldn’t ever let sad things defeat you.

Thank you Mark.

By the way does anyone know when the next charity event will take place? I’d love to help!! :D

So I’m going through the video we recorded of our DHMIS panel, and about a quarter of the way through, Swag (dressed as Tony) moves the screen, says “hi Ice Hell!” and then moves the screen again, leaving it at a ridiculous angle where you can just BARELY see us at the front of the panel.
This is what happens when you let Tony help you record things.