you-can't-ship-this

anonymous asked:

i love your view of aaron and your blog v much but the reason a lot of people don’t ship aaron with kevin or any of the other /male/ foxes is because he’s homophobic. aaron is such a good character and i’d die for him but,, shipping him with a guy just isn’t the best tea yanno

Kevin’s “It’ll be easier if he remains heterosexual” basically ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ (or more like a warning ‘if you’re not straight then don’t act on it, don’t tell’) comment wasn’t great either, but no one’s passive-aggressiving at me not to ship Kevin with male characters. Kevin literally told Nicky to stop being a bad influence on Neil for suggesting Neil isn’t straight.

But Kevin is shipped with male characters all over the place. Kevin is shipped with Neil. People don’t say Kevin is unshippable with male characters over this comment and hold it permanently over his head like they do with Aaron.

I like Kevin. I like Aaron. I don’t like everything they say, but I don’t like everything any of the characters say or do. I have various ships that involve Kevin with male characters. I have a couple ships that involve Aaron with male characters. An anon coming in my inbox and telling me that I shouldn’t ship Aaron with any male characters because of things he said isn’t going to change that.

Nora literally describes Aaron’s comments as knee-jerk homophobia and learned behaviour and not a belief system. Which, yes, it is still shitty to make those comments and I’m not saying that it’s not. But Aaron doesn’t believe to his very core that homosexuality is disgusting. He just says shit that he picked up from his high-school teammates (and I repeat, this is confirmed by Nora). And if that’s a learned behaviour and not a full-blown belief system, then who is to say that he doesn’t learn and grow and realize the weight of his off-hand comments? Who is to say he doesn’t change or gain a better understanding of the consequences of the things he says?

Besides, the fact that the trilogy is from Neil’s perspective and Neil is biased and takes Andrew’s side in every disagreement or issue with the twins because he hates Aaron and loves Andrew.

Plus, Aaron sticks with Nicky. Aaron sticks with Andrew. Andrew and Nicky stick with Aaron. Aaron spends his holidays away from Katelyn and with Erik and Nicky. And, as has been pointed out by many people, Nicky had such a negative homophobic experience growing up in his family that it almost killed him and then he found himself free and happy with Erik. If Aaron really was vile and irreparably homophobic, do you really think Nicky would stay with the twins and go join a university exy team just to be close to them? Do you really think he would continue to live with Aaron for years while on a different continent than the love of his life?

And remember when Seth said “Fuck you, faggot” to Nicky and Andrew told him not to use that word and Aaron told Seth not to talk to them at all? People claim Aaron’s homophobic to Nicky for telling Nicky to shut up when Nicky makes the same rape-culture jokes (i.e. Neil just needs a push to swing, Nicky wants to get Kevin too drunk to be straight) that Andrew pulls a knife over. But no one ever mentions this interaction where Aaron took Nicky’s side and told Seth not to talk to them after Seth was homophobic to Nicky.

Anyways, I can and will ship Aaron with Kevin anyways and if I want to write Aaron being attracted to a male character and growing past the things he has said in the books and figuring things out, then I will and an anonymous ask isn’t going to make me change my mind about it.

What if instead of ‘Aaron said homophobic things and his character is forever trapped at that moment, defined exclusively by off-hand comments’ we considered letting his character grow? Maybe we don’t assume what Nora herself describes as knee-jerk homophobia that’s a learned behaviour from his high school team (and not his actual beliefs) makes him suddenly hate his brother and cousin when we have evidence otherwise? Maybe we don’t assume that it makes his character locked into exclusively being interested in women and being incapable of being written in a way where he could be attracted to a male character?

I’m LGBT+ and sure I cringe at a few things Aaron says. I also cringe at Wymack calling Andrew a psychotic midget. I also cringe at Wymack’s use of the term retard. I also cringe at Andrew lying about Neil’s drinks and forcibly getting him drunk. I also cringe at Nicky forcing his tongue into Neil’s mouth multiple times to cram drugs into Neil’s mouth while Neil is frantically trying to escape. I also cringe at Andrew trying to murder Allison in the parking lot. I also cringe at Andrew threatening Katelyn in the library and being super terrifying and possessive and unhealthy and toxic and becoming someone Katelyn has to fear being around and scaring the shit out of her. I sure as fuck cringe at Andrew’s line “Do not ignore me. Your life hinges on how well you can listen. Can you listen?” I also cringe at bystander Neil watching this whole thing unfold and not really thinking anything of it and then telling Katelyn she won and just walking off and leaving her to call Aaron crying and terrified. I certainly cringed at Seth’s casual homophobia and use of the word faggot.

There are a lot of cringe moments that get swept under the rug and characters don’t get burned at the stake and defined exclusively by these moments, yet so many people are so quick to burn Aaron at the stake and define him exclusively by a few comments. Which, whatever, if that’s the way you want to define him. But don’t go around pushing that onto other people and don’t go around telling people they shouldn’t ship things because of that.

*WTTM is leaked*

Some antis: lmao this is all fanservice, otayuri won’t ever be canon!

Me: remembers the weeks of victuuri butt shots, naked stretching, cuddling, and apparent “fanservice” all leading to a canon engagement.

Me:

Originally posted by fromthemotionpicture

  • <p> <b>Someone:</b> You can't ship these two because -<p/><b>Me:</b> watch me<p/><b>Someone:</b> You can't ship them but then also make them brotp in another setting -<p/><b>Me:</b> watch me<p/><b>Someone:</b> That ship is wrong and you can't -<p/><b>Me:</b> watch me<p/><b>Someone:</b> You can't have multiple ships -<p/><b>Me:</b> fuckIg w a tCH mE<p/></p>
advice for the signs
  • aries: you're full of ideas and they're always amazing! you are so much smarter than you give yourself credit for, even though you try to appear like you're a bit of a daredevil, you don't always like to come too far out of your cozy little comfort zone. but I promise, if you come out a bit more you can experience so many exciting things, and your abilities will make you shine like a star in the night sky.
  • taurus: not only are you are a badass, you're also super cool. if there are any haters its only because they want to be like you - really though. you just have an aura about you that pulls people in and once they get to know you, they don't ever want to get away. people want to overindulge in you, and if that wears you out then take a break and don't feel bad about it, your friends know you'll come back at the end of the day.
  • gemini: you're not a two-faced backstabbing bitch, you are a beautiful person who struggles with having to listen to an angel and a devil on your shoulders all day, which I can only imagine is super tough but you've done an incredible job to even come all this way and you should be so proud of yourself, I know I am. and lets take a moment to appreciate how you can walk into a room and suddenly be everyone's best friend with your natural charm and easy-going nature. you could take a bullet in the chest and your smile won't even falter. you're so determined to get what you want and you're so passionate and just everything you do is admirable. keep going, you rock this world.
  • cancer: if we're being real here, you don't actually cry *that* much. this is what it is - you have so many emotions swirling inside of you and they are like a beautiful storm of bright lights. and you should continue to let that out and share that beauty with everyone! but even with all that, you can be pretty hardcore and you are so strong, inside that whirlpool is a fire than burns bright, you should show people your intense passions as well as your caring side.
  • leo: you are amazing, and everyone around you knows it. if you're being too hard on yourself, lighten up a little because so far you've done everything right. everything happens for a reason, and if you feel guilty or sad about something just remember that your experiences have shaped who you are today - a beautiful, wonderful, magical creature with sparkling eyes, a loving soul and fabulous hair.
  • virgo: you work so hard to be on top of the game and I know how stressful that can be, but trust me when I'm saying that if you're doing the best you can, please don't push yourself any further. I'm sure you know what it feels like to get 3 hours sleep only to just scrape everything in on time, but you're doing just fine and please remember to reach out to your friends and loved ones and talk about how youre feeling. honestly, letting out any negativity makes you feel so, so much better, and you deserve the best.
  • libra: it's not that you're indecisive, you just like to weigh out all the pros and cons of a situation before you go into something - which is such a good idea, and I admire you for that. I bet you wish you had a crystal ball and could see the future to know how your decisions will turn out, huh? but the reality is that you should stop worrying about about the future and live in the moment. if you're not focusing on the present, you won't get to where you want to be in the future, and we definitely don't want to see you somewhere where your talents aren't being showcased.
  • scorpio: your personality is just so magnetic and you're so hypnotic, so many people absolutely adore you and would do anything for you - but sometimes they might not be 100% certain that the feelings are mutual. now, I know you love your friends and family so, so much with a fiercely strong love, but would it kill you to tell people that you love them and how you're feeling sometimes? everyone is here to help you and guide you on your journey to reaching the stars, but you can't build your rocket ship without the help of others.
  • sagittarius: you are incredible and so smart, it actually makes people stop in their tracks when you open your mouth and spout some beautiful, philosophical words of wisdom. or even just opening your mouth to say anything. everything about you is great but I'm not sure you appreciate yourself as much as you should. all the friends you have who love you should be an indication of how great you are. if you don't learn to love yourself, you might not be able to see through and out of your own little bubble and actually notice how much people care about you. because they care so, so much. don't you ever doubt that.
  • capricorn: your motto is work hard and don't take shortcuts, which is amazing and everyone admires you for that. it takes a lot of hard work and dedication to be you, and even if nobody mentions it, everyone is impressed. you're gonna go far, kid. but know that even if you're stuck in a rut right now you just need to jump a little higher and climb out. if you're stressed, talk to someone you trust and just open up and tell them what youre feeling. help them help you, and everything will be okay.
  • aquarius: we're not emotionless, we have a lot of feelings and we just choose not to express them because we're scared of people being overwhelmed by us, and we like to trust someone 100% before we open up. and there is nothing wrong with that. you're so good at listening to people's problems/how they feel and your advice is 10/10, but if you don't take time to talk to people about how you're feeling, you bottle everything up and one day it'll get so full that the lid will burst - and I know you're afraid of letting out all your feelings in one go, I definitely am. the only way around that is to let it out, bit by bit, slowly and over the years, to maintain your composure and sanity. and nobody will see you any different or judge you if you open up to them.
  • pisces: you're passionate, your creativity is out of this world, you're so good at helping people and you don't have a selfish bone in your body. you're always so up for helping people, and that is amazing! you're compassionate like no other, and your ideas are off-the-charts crazy cool. and you're not weak! you are perfectly capable of putting up your barriers, you just like to trust people enough to keep them down a lot of the time. and you're definitely not weak either, you've probably lived through some heartbreaking experiences, and you're still able to walk around with your head up and your heart open. now thats real strength.
  • <p> <b>Antis:</b> you can't ship them! They hate each other!<p/><b>Me:</b> oh no....you're right....whatever will I do now?....how could I ever go on knowing I shipped....two inconsequential fictional characters....in a fictional world.....the same world with magic....and air acrobats....how unrealistic and foolish of me<p/></p>
  • Me: shipping is not inherently wrong or harmful.
  • Me: shipping gay characters is, at its base, a positive thing.
  • Me: that doesn't mean that shipping gay characters hasn't resulted in a lot of fetishization that has become normalized and damaging, and needs to be called out and stopped in shipping spheres.
  • Me: so stop fetishizing gay characters and people with this bad behavior
  • Someone, inevitably, every single time: OMG how could you call shipping bad!!!!! Its not!!! You can't control shipping, and its never bad or hurtful you're just reaching!!!!! This is an attempt to control women and you're wrong for trying to stop people from shipping!!!!!
  • *two straight guys looking each other*
  • tumblr: OMG I SHIP THEM!!! THIS IS GAY™ NEW OTP YEAAAAH.
  • me: nah sorry i dont ship it.
  • tumblr: YOU HOMOPHOBIC MONSTER, WE ARE IN 2017 ACCEPT THAT GAYS ARE PEOPLE WITH RIGHTS AND WE MUST SUPPORT THEM!
  • *two girls obviously liking each other, do cute things like kisses and hugs*
  • me: i ship them
  • tumblr: hmmm no??? they are straight??? you just can't ship them bc you like them together, dont force lgbt stuff it's only girl power!! no romance.

anonymous asked:

In response to that one anon: Sam is like half the reason I love destiel and destiel fics so much? It's so different if you factor out Sam.

Sam is wonderful in his own right for so many reasons (and I am a firm believer in the Sam was not a cinnamon roll in s1-4 and that is the point of his story, that he had to find self forgiveness and redemption and now is SUCH A GREAT PERSON I LOVE HIM).

Alongside Destiel he is a super cute shipping goober who makes faces and teases his brother about being strictly into dick, not being able to let his boyfriend go into a diner to see his old platoon alone and not being able to ignore each other forever and giving each other the silent treatment.

I LOVE SAM HE’S SMART AND SWEET AND HILARIOUS!

Originally posted by iremnovak

The Main Yuri!!! On Ice Ships: A Summary
  • Viktor/Yuuri: LOVE!!!1!!!!!!1!!11!
  • Otabek/Yuri: We're the no. 1 ship you can't beat us
  • Leo/Guang: We will destroy you
  • Leo/Guang: WITH OUR SMOLNESS
  • Phichit/Seung-Gil: ...
  • Phichit/Seung-Gil: We've never met...
  • Phichit/Seung-Gil: But your point is irrelevant because our ship name is adorable