you're not allow to do that you know

I do not mind if you are an ARG blog, just please be respectful of others and their practices.

Like I get role playing and stuff and that’s fine. But please respect that this is my practice and while I don’t do a lot, my practice is still is very personal to me.

I would appreciate it if people Did Not RP on/about/with my posts.

I appreciate your understanding.

-It is okay to reblog this-

‘Why do Feysand and Rowaelin not get treated exactly the same way in the narrative/look exactly the same/why does Rhys do some things Rowan doesn’t/why is Rowan allowed to do some things that the narrative addresses with Rhys and points out that they’re not good’? repeat forever. 

Because there is not one model of a good/healthy relationship. It does not work Feyrhys = healthy; everything else = toxic. 

Because women are not carbon copies of one another. We have different tastes. We have different likes. We have different needs in a relationship. We are our own individual people and we need our partners to respond to our personal preferences, likes, and dislikes and not simply have someone behave exactly the same way to every single person they’re with. 

Feyre dislikes feeling smothered or not having her full freedom and independence. As such, when the mating bond snaps into place between her and Rhys, Rhys carefully explains to her why he feels protective and territorial and that he is working to stop doing that. Because she has been in an abusive relationship before where someone has done these things to an unhealthy level and is uncomfortable with any minor repetition of them. Rhys addresses her personal concerns and her personal needs and that is why the narrative picks this out and unpicks it and explains it with Rhys but not with Rowan. 

Aelin is a completely different character with a completely different backstory, a completely different set of insecurities and a completely different set of needs and Rowan responds to them. Aelin does not have a problem with Rowan being territorial or protective over, not in the way Feyre does. It might be a vague annoyance sometimes (AT THE VERY MOST) and even then she’s dismissive of it and it amuses her and it is never taken too far to the point that it restricts her freedom/the choices she can make/the things that she can do. And she is not in any way triggered by it as she has not experienced the same kind of abuse that Feyre has. 

Territorial behaviour of the kind that comes natural to the fae is not in itself abusive/unhealthy. Protectiveness over the people that you care about is not in itself unhealthy/abusive. What would be unhealthy would be to expect men to treat every single woman he meets/is with exactly the same way because it suits one single woman. That is reductive and frankly insulting.

 I have no doubt that Rhys would behave differently with Aelin and that Rowan would behave differently with Feyre because they are individual people with individual needs and desires and expecting Aelin to be treated the same as Feyre because this is apparently the only standard of a healthy relationship is frankly a little bit misoygnistic because, shock horror, not all women think the same/feel the same/like/dislike the same things. Isn’t that amazing? It’s as though we’re real people who know what we like and don’t like and expect the people closest to us to respect that and respond accordingly. Incredible. 

TL;DR Stop comparing Feyrhys and Rowaelin. Especially if the purpose of this is to say ‘Rhys does x, this is good for Feyre and makes their relationship healthy. Rowan does not do x, therefore this is bad for Aelin and makes their relationship unhealthy’ because, newsflash, that’s not the way it works

There is no one way to have a good, positive relationship. In fact that thinking in itself is unhealthy. Different people have different needs and their partners should therefore behave differently so suit those needs, not just mirror another’s behaviour because it has been deemed ‘The Most Healthy And Appropriate Way To Behave With Women’. Because. Guess what? Not all women are going to want/respond well to that and you ignoring their needs and wants in order to try and fulfil this idealistic idea of a perfect relationship is not healthy. Rowan is responding to what Aelin personally wants/needs/feels comfortable with. He is not Rhys, he does not behave like Rhys and that is completely okay because Aelin is not Feyre and does not need him to do that for her. 

i’m seeing some debates about whether it is right to punch a nazi, and without giving any value to it i would like everyone to know that there’s a card game in germany where when someone plays a nazi card you literally need to punch it and the last one to do it gets punished.

@thatlittledandere I said I wouldn’t finish it but I apperently did

so here have an ioryuu drawing with ryuu in high heels and miniskirt

It’s been a few years since I’ve allowed myself to feel anything. I’ve been so numbed and cold for so long. For the first time in a long time, I feel warm again. My emotions has been revived. A large part of this has to do with you. I’ll be completely honest. I was hesitant at first. Hesitant to let you in, hesitant to turn my emotions back on, and hesitant to fall. I’m still scared now, but for reason my feelings for you has overcome any logic or fear. I don’t know what to make of this. All I know is that I love you.
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-I love you, that’s all. 

-m.t.t.

the banshee and the blue box

i have no idea what this is, my god it’s so self indulgent. but i really loved the doctor who christmas special and stydia have just consumed my entire heart and soul and… i don’t know, it’s christmas break, i’m allowed to write things that don’t make much sense. i hope someone gets some joy from this little fic, anyway.



“What the hell is that?”

Lydia blinks at the tall, blue box standing in the middle of the school parking lot. It definitely wasn’t there when they left that afternoon, and she’s sort of at a loss as to how it could have appeared in the hours since.

She doesn’t have an answer, and so Stiles is left to just repeat his question, slightly louder this time. “What the hell is that?!”

“A Police Public Call Box,” Lydia says flatly.

“Yeah, I can read,” Stiles says, unimpressed. He flings a hand up to the words printed in block lettering at the top of the box, illuminated by the light bulb sitting on top. “But only some of those words have meaning to me.”

Lydia presses her lips together and frowns. “Well, context suggests -”

“Context?” he interrupts, sounding as exasperated as she feels. “There are no contextual clues for this, Lydia. It’s a frickin’ giant blue box that appeared in the middle of the parking lot, and you found it.”

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Be with someone that allows you to grow as an individual while you both are growing as a couple.
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-Relationships are not meant to consume but to ignite growth.

-m.t.t.

i don’t know about y'all, but when i was growing up, pretty much everything i was taught was based around making boys (the opposite sex) like me. i’m 21 years old, and i still catch myself in that mindset sometimes, and it really pisses me off. it’s rare, but it happens. so if any of you are there right now, just know that it gets easier. you will grow out of it.

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Signs as the things I've heard my mom say

Aries - *sings* I’m making a delightfully white trash dinner

Taurus - there’s a Hemsworth in this movie. Don’t know which one, but does it matter?

Gemini - I hate my job

Cancer - *sarcastically* JUST LOVIN LIFE RIGHT NOW

Leo - *failing at speaking* How was your school? I mean- how’s day? I mean-…

Virgo - *wheezing laughter* *farts* *wheezing laughter gets slightly louder*

Libra - *knocks on my door at 3 am* Hey are you hungry I’m going to get a burger

Scorpio - *after walking a 0.2 mile trail* WE JUST WALKED 2 MILES

Sagittarius - *hysterically* THERE’S A FORK ON THE FLOOR, WHATS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE

Capricorn - the Chewbacca mask lady is who I aspire to be in life

Aquarius - Justin Timberlake did bring sexy back

Pisces - *screaming at the GPS* SAY SOMETHING

just-french-me-up  asked:

Okay prompt thing: Montparnasse has to squat the Triumvirate's apartment for some ungodly reason. No murder allowed but it comes close

“I am going to kill him!” Courfeyrac stomped his foot in annoyance and got a raised eyebrow from Combeferre on the couch and an annoyed sigh from Enjolras in his usual stool at the breakfast bar. He clung to a towel and change of clothes with one hand and held a bottle of shampoo in the other and frowned. “Do you know what he’s done this time?”

“Used all your soap?” Enjolras guessed, though he barely lifted his eyes from his computer screen and morning coffee.

Courf’s frown deepened, if that was possible. “No.”

“Stole your eyeliner?” Combeferre tried, and Courfeyrac shook his head.

“Not ever close. He kicked me out of the bathroom.” He held out the shampoo bottle, like that would somehow prove something about his point. “I have a class in an hour, and I need a shower before I leave, and he kicked me out!

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Sometimes you gotta know when to bail.

Today I want to talk about giving up.

In American culture, there’s a big push for people to never give up. Follow your dreams, keep trying no matter how many times you fail, overcome hardship and come out on top. Anything you want can be yours if you work hard enough. These are good messages, ones to inspire courage and determination and drive, to let people who are in bad situations know that they can come out the other side stronger if they keep going.

As a result, however, giving up has become a bit of a dirty word. Admitting defeat or pulling out is often seen as cowardly, settling for less becomes lazy.

In Space Race, Greg tells Steven that there’s never any shame in bailing. Greg’s a character who has a bit of an uphill battle to fight when it comes to looking good, as everything about his appearance and backstory screams deadbeat slacker. On top of that, this episode comes right off the heels of House Guest, which did Greg absolutely no favors in terms of image. A lot of people, first watching this episode, hear that advice and roll their eyes. Sure, Greg, no shame in bailing. That’s why you’re living it up out of your van, right?

As soon as Steven’s go kart starts falling apart, he remembers his dad’s advice and leaps out–moments before it crashes into the rocks in a moment that Steven would have surely gotten badly hurt in. Ha ha, it’s a cute little moment, whatever, that’s not the same thing as giving up on your dreams.

Pearl then gives this plan her all. She works hard, she plans, she builds, she leads the way into making this space journey happen. She wants this more than she’s wanted anything for a long time. She misses space, she misses traveling and seeing other worlds. She’ll do whatever it takes to get back out there. Greg sees the danger, and puts a stop to it, because he’s no fun, and Pearl goes on without him.

Greg is right. Pearl is wrong.

Usually the message in stories is to keep trying in spite of danger, but if Steven hadn’t called on Greg’s advice, both of them would have died. Pearl would have kept going, and Greg would watch them explode in the upper atmosphere.

Sometimes a person’s dream isn’t all they thought it would be. Sometimes dreams change, and you don’t want what you wanted at the start. Sometimes you can really, really, REALLY want something, but it’s just flat out not possible. So is it better to keep struggling and torturing yourself over it? Is the payoff really going to be worth it? The pervasive message we’re fed to can be suffocating for people, forcing the issue or else making you feel like a failure. It can be empowering, but sometimes people need to hear that it’s okay to accept less than the ideal.

So let’s go back to Greg. Greg who gave up on his dreams, they say. If Greg hadn’t turned his van around, had gone on to a life performing, finding success and fame and fortune, would he be happier than he is now, with his loving and wonderful son? The music industry is brutal, harsh, and stressful; it’s a constant battle to succeed in that world. Marty was the least of nasty people Greg would surely end up working with, had he pushed on to his supposed dream. So Greg weighed his options, and he gave up on his dreams for something smaller, something simpler. Lazy, complacent, settling. And happy.

There’s never any shame in bailing.

Dear, people of America. Our president sucks:)

I’m gonna be honest, Trump is a horrible president. I don’t care what anyone says against that, ultimately he’s a horrible president end of story. And, before I get people who are extremely into politics and think an 18 year old girl is just running her mouth, allow me to explain myself. For starters he’s not even a politician and, never had anything to do with politics before. So, the man could have some great ideas but, he has no idea how to go about them in a presentable and reasonable way. Exhibit A: The travel ban. Firstly, all the countries that the travel ban listed were countries that (let’s see if you get this) DID NOT in any way shape, or form effect the United States. Almost all the people who were Muslims who attacked the U.S. were born and raised in the U.S. first generation. Not from Iran, Syria, Iraq, and so on but, from mostly Saudi Arabia. Now here’s the real kicker. Which country didn’t get banned?…I’ll give you one more second to guess….okay if you guessed Saudi Arabia, youuu are correct. So Mr.President, what exactly were you doing banning pretty much every country that never even touched the U.S. but not one who has actually harmed us? Oh? Trading with them you say? Yup that’s right people the U.S. exchanges and trades goods and weapons with Saudi Arabia, which is the reason why Trump, our president who’s trying to, “protect us” and, “Make us great again” did not ban one of the countries that extremely impacted the U.S. and killed our citizens. So now, we have a president who not only turns away innocent refugees who need help but, also trades with and, are buddy buddy with the very country who’s harmed us. WELCOME TO AMERICA, OUR PRESIDENT ONLY WON BECAUSE HES A WHITE MALE AND HIS OPPONENT WAS A WOMEN!

I do not forgive you. […] I’m not gonna give you closure. You don’t get that. You have to live with the shitty thing you did for the rest of your life. You have to know that it’s never, ever going to be okay. […] I’m not gonna be your prop so you can feel better.
—  Bojack Horseman, “The Telescope”
Let go of your all inhibitions, doubts, and fears, and allow yourself to fall for me.
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-I am here to catch you. I am always here.

-m.t.t.

I’m sick of all the “Harley Quinn is not a role model” posts. Like, you don’t need to sit here and show me receipts on a fictional villain. Am I gonna murder someone? Probably not. Am I gonna attempt to be more outgoing and confident, cope with my mental illness, and overcome my negative past experiences because these are things she does? You bet I am. 

yooooo so i really couldn’t care how old you are, i am willingly to write with anyone. obviously i won’t write smut with under 18 year olds but that doesn’t mean i won’t write anything with anyone under 18 fullstop. this is a safe place, a safe blog. i understand people have preferences but everyone is welcome on this blog. quality of writing is all that is important to me. it’d be a shame to be turned away because of the year you were born.
just a psa that age doesn’t matter on this blog, your writing does. 

Kaistal

Can I just say something? I’m sick of people mocking and laughing for the lack of Kaistal interactions and questioned how could they be real if there were almost zero interaction that we could see since the past years?

Well the answer is easy, they don’t want to show you. Idols dating is a taboo in that industry especially in that country. So they would prefer to do it very secretly. It is not impossible. Very recently, Yezi mentioned in WGM that idols saying they never dated are most probably lying. SNSD’s Sunny and Nana mentioned that they even dated a celebrity but we never knew about that don’t we? They said that there are famous spot where celebrities would go for dates and they’re usually very isolated. They also said they know who and who dated (they said because they’re in the industry, it’s easy to hear those stuff) but of course they were never publicized. (if you wanna know more, then watch the Roommate episode when Sunny, Nana, and Gookju talked about celebrity dates). In summary, celebrities know the tricks to hide their relationships so it is NOT impossible to find out a couple dating without seeing any public interactions! Furthermore, Kaistal are from the same company. They have a lot of chances to meet within the building.

But why do they hide it? Simple, because it is that horrible to date as idols. You saw what happened with Baekyeon, and now it’s happening to Kaistal. People bashed them so much for dating, I don’t even wanna talk about the horrible words they’ve said to him. Especially after they got caught dating, they would be more careful with it. Any more moments together would only become another subject for anti fans to bash them. So would I love to see them interacting? Of course. But do I want it to happen so that people can bring him down more? Not at all.

There are lots of individual fans in Korea and Japan (also known as ‘akgaes’, which are fans who support only one or a few bias in a group and hates the other members) that would twist the whole situation about him dating so Jongin could lose fans who were still supporting him because of these akgaes. So now if they go on dates without caring about what people think, he’ll become ‘someone who gives no fcks about his team and the fans’. That’s what akgaes or anti fans are capable to do. Now they’re saying he should leave EXO for dating. Crazy isn’t it?

Yes I can bear having to see some people laughing for their zero interaction and calling them fake, because I would rather nothing to happen so no kfans or jfans would mock him more for it. Because that’s the worse. Sure, since everyone knows they’re dating, why not they just date freely right? Well he can, if he decides to lose every single kfans or jfans. Jongin fans don’t even dare to MENTION about Kaistal now. So if you actually care about Jongin and his reputation, stop asking for these interactions just to ‘prove’ something.

Listen. We all have pain in our lives, we’re all suffering from our own personal hell. Some of us have it worse than others, but that does not mean that no one understands or that your pain is invalid, that you are being dramatic. You are allowed to wallow in self pity, you are allowed to lick your wounds in silence, you are allowed to punch walls to take out your frustration, you do whatever makes you feel better. 

But don’t let your suffering define you and don’t let whatever you are going through take you over. Don’t let your sadness be the end of you. Talk to people. I know its hard, I know it feels like no one will ever understand how much it kills you, but trust me when I say this, it will make you feel better. You will get better. Don’t give up hope. If not for yourself, do it for me. Because I am sick and tired of watching all those I care about hurt themselves, kill themselves because they think no one will give a shit when they’re gone.