When we’re telling you that something you said resembles TERF rhetoric, we aren’t calling you TERFs. We’re telling you that what you’re saying seems to have a foundation on similar things, and that spreading the same type of posts/sayings/whatever as TERFs use is dangerous because it normalizes the rhetoric and allows TERF ideals to slip passed people’s radars.
My reaction if someone were to tell me that something I said resembled TERF rhetoric?
“Oh crap! Sorry! I’ll delete/edit the post. Please let me know how I can do better in the future to keep from endangering trans people.”
Because my number one priority is to make sure I’m not helping to perpetuate or normalize TERF rhetoric. Screaming about how I’m not a TERF would do absolutely no good, and would just further push that using the same language as this horrible group of people is completely fine - which of course it’s not.