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Bokuto Kōtarō || The Owl Ace !
Happy belated Birthday to my dear shithead Jo ♡

Just to be clear


You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
You can be polyamorous and still cheat.
Y O U   C A N   B E   P O L Y A M O R O U S   A N D   S T I L L   C H E A T

YOU CAN BE IN A POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIP AND STILL BE CHEATING

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Don’t kill yourself.

Don’t

Kill

Yourself

Please.


Instead let the old you fade away and reinvent yourself. Let the old you figuratively die. Recreate yourself and get the help you need, become the person you want to be.


 I’m not gonna sugarcoat it, it’s gonna be hard as hell. But don’t kill yourself, you’re wonderful, you’re beautiful, you’re important, you’re loved, there so many people that care. Let them help you, let them be there. You’re not alone in this, together we can help each other survive. Someday the world will understand, someday there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. Just hold onto someone’s hand and never let go.



 It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to feel angry, it’s okay to let yourself feel hurt. Be honest with how bad you feel, let yourself express how badly it feels. Go punch a pillow, go scream and cry into the wind. Go stomp around and kick rocks. Do anything you can to let it all out. Just make sure you don’t hurt yourself or those around you while doing so.


Call a suicide hotline if you need to, text a good friend and talk to them, or tell a family member. Or write down how you feel and then rip it up and throw it away or burn it or crumple it up and throw it away.


Go get some food that you enjoy, you go get the tub of ice cream and you shovel as much as you want into your mouth. You deserve it. However and whatever you use to cope with the pain you feel everyday do it.


Don’t let anyone shame you, don’t put up with people’s bullshit when they tell you you’re overreacting. Or that you’re throwing a tantrum. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should react to something. Don’t let people abuse you or your feelings. Don’t let people get away with that shit anymore.


Go out and seize the day, make it yours. However know it’s okay if you cannot always do these things. You don’t need to prove your value with good grades, or from hard work. You deserve to be happy, healthy, safe and sound. Don’t let anyone tell you to stop talking about how unfair things are. Because life should be fair, no one should got without food, water, healthcare or anything that is needed to survive. 


We need you here with us, we need you to help us fight for this world’s future. It’s not okay, the world is very bad now. But we can make it better. I’m not gonna sugarcoat it and say things aren’t that bad. They are, it really is that bad. I know it’s scary, I know you feel helpless, I know you feel scared, alone and miserable.


 That’s okay, it’s okay to feel the way you do. Your feelings are important, your feelings are valid and real. You’re not lazy, you’re not broken, you’re not a burden, you’re not stupid or useless. You’re brave… every single day you live through proves it. 


Crying doesn’t make you weak, it shows you’ve been strong for far too long. Let yourself cry, cry as long as you need. Cry for weeks, cry for months, cry for years. Don’t let anyone tell you to get over it. That’s not how emotions work. You can’t just get over them, emotions aren’t a faucet you can turn on and off. Emotions are like flowing water, always changing, always moving, never stopping. 


If you need to lean on someone. Needing help isn’t shameful and seeking attention isn’t bad. Seeking out comfort is nothing you should feel guilty for or ashamed about. You need attention then seek it, tell someone you need comfort. Let someone know you’re hurting. 


Opening up is one of the hardest things to ever do. It took me years to open up to people about my depression. I know how scary, how painful and how exhausting it was to talk about. But you have to talk about it for the sake of your well being. Just try to tell someone, try your best. Your best is always enough. Don’t let others tell you that your best isn’t enough. If you’re giving all you can give then that’s okay. 


You’re okay, you’re enough, everything you accomplish in one day is enough. If you get up and finally take that shower you’ve been putting off for a few days then good for you and I mean it. Good job for taking care of yourself. If you finally go outside for the first time in months to talk a walk or to sit down under the sun then that’s awesome. If you get up and eat a meal then that’s great. 


You don’t have to do something great or something amazing. What you can do is enough and if people are mad at you for that then that’s their problem and not yours. You don’t live to please them. You’re not their little toy, you’re not their puppet to control. 


You don’t owe your mental, emotional and physical health to anyone. If you can’t do something that you could do before because of your depression then that’s just fine. It’s not your fault, none of it is your fault.


Take deep breaths, listen to some soothing music, try doing some exercise if you can, try taking a walk, try getting that shower you need, try finishing that book you started reading, try finishing that poem or that sentence in a fan fiction you were writing or that novel you want to publish. Just try and take your time, take as long as you need.


The world wouldn’t be the same without you. Don’t let the world take you, help yourself and help others. Survive with us to see the end of another year. Help us fight for a better future a future worth living in. A future that is all our own, a future in which you and everyone can finally be happy, healthy and safe. 

I’ve moved on from you
So don’t expect much from me
You’re just someone I met
That never stayed
You’ll always be something to me but
I’ll remember you as somebody
I used to know and somebody
That I don’t know from now to the future
—  My feelings/thoughts

Remember that you are amazing and that you matter. Always know that you’re beautiful and talented! Even if you think you’re not. You are! You truly are! You can always talk to someone! You are not alone! You can always talk to me. I hope you have a good day/night/evening!

I don’t understand how the US doesn’t have laws specifically targeting hate speech???

There’s overwhelming evidence showing if you give these people the ability to target minorities and rally like people did the other night, it leads to these oppressors gaining more support and political leeway.

Under UK law, as soon as someone starts spouting bigotry on the streets, the police can arrest them. Obviously there are examples of where things slip under the radar or aren’t treated seriously enough, but for the US to have absolutely nothing legally challenging these people????? The fuck???????

🌸 Stop giving backhand compliments to ppl. Stop saying “ur smart for a young man” or “ur so brave for a girl” or “ur pretty good at cooking for a college kid” or “ur surprisingly nice for a lesbian”. Just stop after the adjective- there’s no “for a ______” necessary for you to compliment someone, it’s rude 🌸

I went to a salon yesterday and one of the ladies working their suggested bonding my hair as in straightening it and I told her I liked my hair the way it was. One of the stylists there was shocked and told me people don’t really like their own curly hair. I felt so sad because curly hair is beautiful too in my opinion and I hate the fact that most people who get their hair permanently straightened are bullied into it or told that their natural hair isn’t worth much or gives them less value. I mean it’s totally cool if you did it because you wanted to and not out of insecurity. But for those people who don’t feel beautiful because of their hair or are told that their hair is disgusting, I’m sorry you have to go through that. You deserve to know that you aren’t less than anyone for having curly hair.

Hey

Stop whitewashing characters in your fandoms. If you intentionally whitewash canonical POC, you’re absolute garbage.
Thanks.

  • me: I don't care about length! You go your length and I'll go mine, as long as we give each other something to work with!
  • partner: [gives a multi-para response that is well thought & crafted, a lot of meat]
  • me, losing composure with voice squeaky & cracking: ᵍᵒ ᵐʸ ᵒʷⁿ ˡᵉⁿᵍᵗʰ .. ᵍᵒ ᵐʸ ᵒʷⁿ ˡᵉⁿᵍᵗʰ ... ᵍ..
Let's reduce the hate anons! :3

Okay firstly I want to apologize because I’m bringing back something that certainly not happy bubbly cheery on your dash because I just login back to my Tumblr. So, I just gone for about two days and it seems like this fandom suddenly so full of hate lately with those bombarding hate asks from some retarded anon. It just getting worst and worst and. The recent case I found that someone (or some people?) was “being super polite” by sending anon asks to @fureiaa (thanks @dreamsinparadise for tagging me on your rant).

To be honest, I don’t know who she is and never talk to her even once but seriously anon, you’re already overboard because you were wishing her to get raped and died. And the worst, you were using my homies @viridian99 @akanojikan @rose-of-yonezawa and @i-dont-look-good-i-look-great as excuses to send some hatred to her. THAT.IS.NOT.COOL :|

Yes, I’m triggered af and hella mad right now. This is the worst hate anon case I’ve ever seen after I joined SLBP fandom. You had no idea what had you done, anon (not only this current anon but for all of the hate anons). You’re making people to think that the entire people in Tumblr are social justice garbage, easily get offended and full of toxic friendships just because of some irresponsible retarded people like you who spreading hatred to this fandom by lurking in anonymous, even until this seconds and the seconds ahead. Hat tip to you for ruining our peaceful and loving fandom because of you’re lowest of the lowest of the lowest attitude, Anon-sama :)

I’ve seen some of people already tried to remind us about how wrong spreading the hatred using anon, just like what @sinfulinsecret wrote in this post and @thedaydreamingotaku wrote on this post. Also with some rants about hate anon that my homies stated Wini’s rant, Minami’s rant ( @minminami), Viri’s rant 1, Viri’s rant 2, Momma’s rant, Kan’s rant, Nikki’s rant ( @nikkihime), Soua’s rant, and another rants that I might be not seen yet. But well… It seems all of those posts didn’t work at all because those haters just simply retarded. Their brain didn’t do its function well as the normal brain would do. Or maybe when we all are line up to get brain before we born, they just simply not in the line and go straight to the world instead so THEY HAVE NO BRAIN AT ALL. And, haters gonna hate really fit to describe them, literally. No matter how we will warn or even rants and cursing them, they will just continue to hate us unconditionally. We will always get so wrong in their eyes.

I’m getting hate anons too on my blog and of course that annoying me as hell. And I got it just because I simply spamming trolls to Milord Nobubu’s blog when he’s online again after a while and made Nobu Month event with my lovelies lmao please get a life anon :|
I did some action to respond their hatred to me, and it’s kinda work (at least for me) because I didn’t get any hate anon lately. So I want to share you my experience. Here are the steps I’m taking to face hate anon.

1. Turn off anonymous
Yes, this is the most simple and practical step you could take to prevent hate anonymous. It’s 99,99% guaranteed that you wouldn’t receive any hate anon on your blog. I’m saying 99,99% because you could get hate anon through another blog that get hate anons. This is for the example, where my momma @rose-of-yonezawa get mentioned in another’s people hate anon in this post.

So, even if we turn off anonymous, we would still get hate anon after all (again, just because it’s simply haters gonna hate)

2. Do not always reply or answer their asks.
I know there must be some blogs that couldn’t turn off their anon because of they knew that some people were to shy to reveal their identity (in a good way, obviously not like those haters) to send them request or just simply saying that they love your blog. The blogs that didn’t turn off their anonymous clearly would be an easy target of hate anons.

I’m turning on my anonymous again after a while and… I got some hate anons back on my asks D: I never reply or answer those hate asks that sent for me and they just… Stop. At least the asks that had same writing type never sent me hate asks anymore.
So I have this conclusion that what the haters want from you is to respond their hatred toward you, or we would simply say, they want your attention by seeing how you react to their asks (and maybe the whole people on this fandom because yeah some people must be would reblog your answer and the anon could see their reaction too). You would satiate them once you reply or answer them. The haters were like “Oho~ so you got so worked up because of this? Let’s roast you moreeee”. They would keep sending you hate asks for more and more and more. Again, haters gonna hate so no matter how you explain your situation, you will always get wrong on their eyes. (Well, damn you haters =_=)

Of course this step would not work directly if the case was like what @fureiaa had because that retarded person using someone else to spread his/her hatred. We needed to confirm the truth about what those haters said first. It would be better if you ask directly to the person they mentioned. You would get the absolute truth because it’s the person him/herself who confirmed that what’s the haters said not true. You could explain and clear all the misunderstanding that the haters made. After that you could imply ignore the upcoming hate asks that pops out on your inbox because you already know that was all lie.

3. Block the hate anon asks
I’ve done some experiment with this step with Wini and it would be very effective to get rid of them because it would permanently block the anon IP address. You would never receive any asks from the blog even if they were off of anonymous. If you still get hate anon, just block them again. It means you have more than one haters that sent you hate anons. At least you would reduce one of the source of toxic people in this fandom because they would never be able to spread hatred through your blog by blocking those asks. Reduce 1 hate anon = reduce 1 hate in this fandom. You can see the steps How to Block Hate Anon post made by @andallwaswell-ish (This is very useful, you all need to check it! ^^)

Well, this is just simply my own experience when I’m facing hate anons and it’s kinda work for me. I hope it would work to you too and help you to prevent and reduce toxic posts in this fandom. I really wish we could bring back the peace and the love we had before those retarded anons attacking this fandom and spread toxic post through their hate posts. And for @fureiaa I might not know you and we never even talked before but nobody deserve any hate anons, not even you. I wish you all the best.

And lastly, let’s make this fandom back to its peaceful and lovable state! :3

Youtubers play video games with thematic elements of abuse and mental illness: Nobody bats an eye.

Someone writes a fic based on one of the above themes: Everyone loses their minds.

Originally posted by trillxlife-style

I am fully aware that Xena: Warrior Princess ended in 2001 and that it is midnight, but that does not mean that I don’t have a lot of feelings.

I’ve noticed that there is a lot of speculation about whether or not Xena and Gabrielle are “lovers” and that really annoys me. 

This really bothers me because if it were a straight situation there would be no question about it! These two characters were described as soulmates!! Sleeping next to each other and waking up with hickies! They flew off into the sunset together after Gabrielle read a poem that Xena commissioned from actual Sappho! In the series finale Xena says, “Gabrielle, if I only had 30 seconds to live, this is how I’d want to live them, looking into your eyes.” I could very easily go on!

Straight couples on television so much as look at each other and it’s canon but the relationship of Xena and Gabrielle is “deliberately ambiguous” 

My mom, a certified lesbian, brought up her experience to say that it might’ve been to help closeted lesbians “ease into” things, but I think that gives the writers too much credit.

Because of the ambiguity, straight fans have something to use to dismiss the ideas and feelings of lgbt+ fans

Lucy Lawless confirmed it as “definitely gay” in an interview. But that was in 2003, two years after Xena was cancelled!! I love Lucy Lawless, and I’m so so glad she did that, but I think the Writers should have!

Xena and Gabrielle love each other and are “definitely gay” and I wish it didn’t have to be a question

  • My mom: You've been checking your phone every other minute for the past few days! Must be an important message you're waiting for. Is there someone new in your life? Someone special? ;););)
  • My mysme obsessed ass that is willing to sell their soul for 30 hourglasses: hehehehehehehehe
Nick & Danse
  • Nick: I, ah, heard what happened.
  • Danse: Came to rub it in have you? Wouldn't blame you... .
  • Nick: No, I came to ask if you were alright.
  • Danse: Why would you?
  • Nick: Because no matter how much people take the piss, it's hard and this is unfair on you.
  • Danse: I've said things...
  • Nick: Haven't we all? You were simply following in something you believed in, something you gave your whole life, too. No matter how misguided it was, you were loyal and you're a good man for it... Not because you followed, but because you were able to break free once you realized it was wrong. No one--including myself--blames you for that Danse.
  • Danse: I--
  • Nick: You're here because someone thought you were important enough to exist... and that means you're good enough to be who you want to be. In this case, human.
  • Danse: I'm not though...
  • Nick: No one else has to know. Sole and I won't say a word, and apart from you, were the only people who know. The rest is up to you.
  • Danse: ... Thank you.
  • Nick: We alright?
  • Danse: Yes, were good syn--ah, ahem. Nick. Yes, were good.

Happy Christmas Eve and Merry Christmas everyone!

I hope you’re all having a good day/night but I know this time of the year can be pretty hard for some people too.

I want you to remember that everything will be okay, even if you’re spending this weekend with unpleasant people or just alone. You are loved and there so many good things to look forward to, even if you can’t really see them now ok?

You can chat with a friend again, read a great story, pet a dog, meet someone amazing, discover tasty food, listen to a great new song, watch a good show or movie, learn new things, suddenly become passionate about something you’ve never considered and so many other things. Things that are only yours and I can’t really think about. They’re worth it, so hang in there.

Thank you everyone for the support and honestly for just being out there!

If nothing else, I hope you know that I love you with every ounce of my being. I hope you realise your importance not only to me but to everyone who has been lucky enough to know you. I hope you know that when you’re feeling down, I only ever strive for your happiness. I hope you remember that no matter what, I’m here for you and I fully intend on staying in your life for quite some time. I hope you recognise the fact that I appreciate and adore you without restraints, and that this will never change.

anonymous asked:

I agree with what you say about the age gap thing, but I think it's important to note that if you're 21 in a relationship with someone who's 27 that's completely different than a 14 year old in a relationship with someone who's 20. If you're both adults and have had time to understand how relationships work; go for it! If you're still a teen, you're being preyed on and you need to be cautious of the situation.

yeah you have a point! and i agree

may advice for the signs
  • aries: yes, working hard is important, but everything you're doing is already more than good enough. remember to take care of yourself. you can do this, whatever it is.
  • taurus: you know that one person you can't stop thinking about? tell them. seriously, tell them. you'll regret it for the rest of your life if you don't.
  • gemini: stop putting the opinions of others above your own. it's not their happiness that matters, it's yours.
  • cancer: there are people in your life who deserve you, and there are people in your life who really don't. realise who is worth your time and who isn't.
  • leo: look at everyone around you. you treat them all like they're worth the world. but what about you?
  • virgo: it's not about what he wants, or what she wants, or what they want. it's about what you want. you can't live your life through other people. for once, follow your heart. anything could happen if you just take a chance.
  • libra: look at that person. look how bright they shine. you want to be like them, don't you? well, if that's what you want, try being yourself.
  • scorpio: yes, the world is harsh and dark and cruel. yes, it can make you or break you. but are you going to let the darkness get to you? are you going to let it break you? you decide.
  • sagittarius: there are things about you that people truly admire, things they find beautiful. it's about time you started appreciating those things as much as they do.
  • capricorn: no one sees it when you break down and cry. no one knows when everything inside you is hurting. please, let people in. you can't do this on your own.
  • aquarius: feelings are not weakness. caring is not weakness. don't be afraid of falling in love. don't be afraid of never letting go. it's a learning curve, not something to be scared of.
  • pisces: of course it's wonderful when you're important to people. of course it's amazing when someone looks at you like in the movies. but don't forget to look at yourself that way too.