as a bi woman that's practically married with a lesbian, i wanted to remind you all that butch and femme were created for sapphic women in a relationship to describe their dinamics. and so i might have more of a right to call myself a femme than single lesbians. js. im not actually arguing that point, im js that its very hurtful when i see things that are so exclusionary. apparently the "sapphic" community is a community only in the surface.
oh my god this is so wrong. butch and femme aren’t dynamics LMAO butch and femme are identities made for lesbians. butch-butch relationships exist and femme-femme relationships exist. you can’t be a femme. you’re bi. you can be feminine and you can be a bi specific term for whatever you are but you can’t be a femme. it’s hilarious that you think you can call yourself more of a lesbian-specific term than a lesbian.
i don’t really care if it’s exclusionary? that is literally like all those people who are like “women who are attracted to men should be able to call themselves lesbians bc otherwise i feel excluded.” It’s a community specific term. if you’re not in the community…it’s not your term. do some research on what femme and butch mean. you clearly have been told some misinformation
(terfs don’t touch)