Hey to all those people telling people “ it’s not so bad, just power through the cramps” when they're on their period because it’s not an excuse to miss school/work etc.!
I had bad cramps today, but I tried to “power through it” and went to class anyways, even though my grandmother had to drive me because I couldn’t walk to the bus.
I tried to “power through it” when I started to feel like I was going to throw up in the middle of my lecture, leaving to take a walk outside in the cold to try and clear my head, even though walking made my right side feel as though it was being ripped in two.
I tried to “power through it” when I started getting cold sweat all over my body, taking off my sweater and then putting it back on two seconds later because my body couldn’t decide if it was hot or cold.
I tried to “power through it” when spots started to appear in my vision, and just kept walking towards the exit.
I tried to “power through it” when I started to dry heave, and started walking faster.
I tried to “power through it” when my ears started ringing and the spots took over my vision and I was so so hot but shivering and my side felt on fire and twisted into knots and stabbed all at once.
I tried to power through it to the point where I collapsed in the middle of my college hallway. A stranger brought me to Outreach Services, where I lay on the floor, vomiting, for an hour until somebody could pick me up and take me home.
The school paramedics told me that I had passed out because I put too much stress on my already taxed body. My body was taxed because of hormonal fluctuations and blood loss aka my period.
Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. In the past when I’ve had cramps like this, I’ve stayed in bed and eaten strawberries and watched MASH all day.
So don’t you DARE tell me that you should “power through the cramps and do it anyways”. Powering through made me pass out. Powering through made me have to be wheeled out of the school in a wheelchair because I couldn’t keep my balance to walk. Powering through made my grandmother with osteoporosis and a tendency to panic have to come pick me up from school and help me up the stairs and almost break her hip when I started to collapse backwards on the front steps. Powering through made my 13 year old brother have to supervise me while I took a bath because I was afraid I would pass out and drown (he was super sweet about it actually; we closed the curtain and he read me Voyage of the Dawn Treader). Powering through made my mother who works to support our family pretty much on her own have to take time off work to come home and make sure I was okay.
In conclusion; If someone feels crappy because of their period cramps, leave them alone. Don’t make them do things anyways, because you might make it worse. And definitely don’t make them feel bad for not wanting to do things because of cramps; that’s the reason I even got out of bed this morning. Be nice to people on their period. Possibly buy them chocolate or painkillers. Nut don’t make them do things when they have cramps, and definitely don’t tell them “it’s nothing, power through” because cramps? Cramps can be one of the worst things you could possibly imagine.
Ok, most you you know ST. Olga it’s one of my favorite episodes from Star vs The Forces of Evil. Because it shows development, Growth and there a hundred of lessons on it (I already mentioned about Marco’s uprising and his friendship with Ponyhead).
I’m watching all again (So I get over the Feels Gravity Falls given me to get the feels of SVTFOE hiatus), and I just noticed this really quick scene:
For those who don’t know the show (or don’t remember), St. Olga School to Wayward Princesses it’s a modeling school to future princess that are out the “profile” to a perfect queen.
The thing is that the school it’s horrible, they teach through torture and endless oppression. Star best friend (Ponyhead) is in there, she and Marco went to rescue her on the princess birthday. Things goes downhill when Marco is captured and Ponyhead still brainwashed. Star has a breakdown when she sees this poster:
She’s furious; They washed away her friend and are about to do the same with Marco. She knows that this is wrongs and there’s nothing she can do. Because of her breakdown while hitting his poster, Ponyhead recovers herself and tear the poster apart, then they go rescue Marco.
And right after they are leaving, we have this really quick scene.
I never paid attention until I realize that now it says “Embrace your individuality”.
Can you understand how powerful this is? The major public to the show are girls. Girls that are growing up and always being told to be “ladylike” or whatever; and the minor of boys watching are told “this is a girl show” or had to “act like a men.” when they’re just kids, let them be!
This episode on it all says it’s wrong to “reform” who you are to be what people expect from you, to be yourself even if others says it’s wrong. It also shows how people who tries to always fit the “role” suffer from it. Mrs. Heinous brainwash herself on order to keep being what she thinks it’s a role model.
Imagine being 10 years old, not fitting those roles and watching this show that says “It’s ok to be who you are.” This poster says everything a growing up kid (not only girls) needs to hear to be who they are:
When you think that there is not a problem simply because it is not affecting you.
As a human being we all have a duty to help others that suffer, even if you do not understand their suffering
This is what I think most of the current politicians on TV are forgetting. They’re far too concerned with bashing the opposition so that they can get into power instead of helping the people they are meant to represent.
Compassion, empathy and understanding are three of the most important emotions a person can feel because they combat privilege and encourage selflessness.
I’m going to say this because I think we could all use a reminder from time to time.
If your brand of feminism doesn’t include ALL women - women of every color, every creed, every sexual orientation, every background, and every intersection in between - it’s not really feminism; it’s another way for you to oppress people who don’t look and think like you.
you are all sleeping on it and it is such a good series. It is about a Cuban family AND it talks about feminism, sexism, LGTB+, inmigration… It sooooooo good. So please give it a try. Also, it is funny. Like, you cannot stop laughing during the episodes.
So my advice is:
WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME. WATCH ONE DAY AT A TIME.
Whenever I see some misogynistic asshole going on and on about “horrible” feminists, and that if they’d stop being feminist, men would want to date and marry them, I always want to chime in and tell them I’d rather life my life solo then stuck with some asshole who mistakenly thinks I’m lesser because I’m a woman.
This whole ‘TERF’ thing is f-ing annoying! You are not helping end the patriarchy, you are not making the world safer for women, you are transphobic and need to stop. You are giving feminists a bad name and are making transgirls unsafe!
Being Genderfluid and What I've Learned From It (Through Experience):
I was born female, but from a very young age, never felt I fit the “girl” label. In 3rd grade, I would always say how I wished I was a boy. It never sunk in until I was 14, when I was so confused about my gender that I wanted a flat chest and to chop all of my hair off.
It was around that time I did research of genderfluidity and came out to friends and family.
This is what I have learned:
• it feels so good to come out and accept yourself
• not many will not refer to you as your preferred pronoun(s), no matter how often you may remind someone, even family (please appreciate those who do).
• you may not be taken seriously as a person.
• as manly as you feel, you still have a bloody crotch every month and it makes you feel like a helpless little baby.
• people won’t believe your gender is real.
• people will gender label every possible item known to man, just to poke fun and tease you.
• you will question what is appropriate to wear with the gender you are feeling. this is normal
• you may feel more like a boy some days and more like a girl other days. this is also normal, everyone is different, and that’s beautiful.
• when you call a guy “bro/dude/man” he’ll say “ha I can’t call you _____, you’re a GIRL.” Fuck you.
• your family may refuse to accept your choices and may not respect you because of them (THIS DOES NOT MAKE YOU WRONG FOR BEING WHO YOU ARE!! THEY ARE WRONG, NOT YOU!!!)
• sex ed classes do not go over all genders or sexualities, so you are left feeling confused, lost, and alone.
• in this time of feeling confused, lost, and alone, dark thoughts may consume you. you may feel disgusted in yourself, and not even believe that what your feeling is real. as horrible as it is to say, this is true. please do not hide your feelings, talk to someone that makes you feel comfortable
• when people ask if you “want a penis now or something” you wonder about yourself and feel genuine anxiety. (questions like this can be extremely rude, personal, and are NOT appreciated)
• it can be hard to talk to friends about it, because some do not understand, and will even make it seem like a joke.
• it is NOT a joke we are SERIOUS!!
• WE ARE STILL FUCKING PEOPLE
• Please feel free to add to this list I may have forgotten some things. this does not only apply to being genderfluid.
Also if you feel threatened by other women fighting for their rights, if you’ll condemn and insult them for it rather than feel inspired to support and help them, then maybe you need feminism more than you think.