I feel so sorry for the girls that are ‘anti-feminist’ just to be considered ‘chill’ by guys because honestly like that’s exactly why you need feminism, you still look to men to validate your self worth
Hey to all those people telling people “ it’s not so bad, just power through the cramps” when they're on their period because it’s not an excuse to miss school/work etc.!
I had bad cramps today, but I tried to “power through it” and went to class anyways, even though my grandmother had to drive me because I couldn’t walk to the bus.
I tried to “power through it” when I started to feel like I was going to throw up in the middle of my lecture, leaving to take a walk outside in the cold to try and clear my head, even though walking made my right side feel as though it was being ripped in two.
I tried to “power through it” when I started getting cold sweat all over my body, taking off my sweater and then putting it back on two seconds later because my body couldn’t decide if it was hot or cold.
I tried to “power through it” when spots started to appear in my vision, and just kept walking towards the exit.
I tried to “power through it” when I started to dry heave, and started walking faster.
I tried to “power through it” when my ears started ringing and the spots took over my vision and I was so so hot but shivering and my side felt on fire and twisted into knots and stabbed all at once.
I tried to power through it to the point where I collapsed in the middle of my college hallway. A stranger brought me to Outreach Services, where I lay on the floor, vomiting, for an hour until somebody could pick me up and take me home.
The school paramedics told me that I had passed out because I put too much stress on my already taxed body. My body was taxed because of hormonal fluctuations and blood loss aka my period.
Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. In the past when I’ve had cramps like this, I’ve stayed in bed and eaten strawberries and watched MASH all day.
So don’t you DARE tell me that you should “power through the cramps and do it anyways”. Powering through made me pass out. Powering through made me have to be wheeled out of the school in a wheelchair because I couldn’t keep my balance to walk. Powering through made my grandmother with osteoporosis and a tendency to panic have to come pick me up from school and help me up the stairs and almost break her hip when I started to collapse backwards on the front steps. Powering through made my 13 year old brother have to supervise me while I took a bath because I was afraid I would pass out and drown (he was super sweet about it actually; we closed the curtain and he read me Voyage of the Dawn Treader). Powering through made my mother who works to support our family pretty much on her own have to take time off work to come home and make sure I was okay.
In conclusion; If someone feels crappy because of their period cramps, leave them alone. Don’t make them do things anyways, because you might make it worse. And definitely don’t make them feel bad for not wanting to do things because of cramps; that’s the reason I even got out of bed this morning. Be nice to people on their period. Possibly buy them chocolate or painkillers. Nut don’t make them do things when they have cramps, and definitely don’t tell them “it’s nothing, power through” because cramps? Cramps can be one of the worst things you could possibly imagine.
beauty and the beast (2017) features emma watson and luke evans as two main characters. emma watson, a huge feminist, and luke evans, a openly gay man. yet, people think this movie is homophobic because of the little evidence from a clip? you really think luke evans is going to star in a movie where they make his sexuality a joke? ok tumblr
take a step back.
maybe a few steps back, for some of you.
take a step back out of your world and look at our world, the world you’re still a part of whether you’d like to be or not.
take a step back and listen to the bones crunching beneath your feet.
the spines snapping under your toes.
the hair tangled in between your neatly trimmed fingernails.
look at our bodies.
our bodies, that we have bent and broken into a staircase for you to walk up.
our bodies, that we have have torn and ripped to pieces so you could use our limbs as a handrail.
our bodies, that have been branded with slurs and jeers that you won’t have to endure because of it.
this platform that you stand upon, this platform you think makes you above the rest of us women who are still fighting, who are still unsatisfied–
we built this for you.
you stand atop the skeletons of susan b. anthony, sojourner truth, eleanor roosevelt, betty frieden, maya angelou, coretta scott king.
tell me, would you tell these women that you don’t need them?
that you don’t need their accomplishments? the rights they fought their entire lives for? the rights they cried, yelled, protested, and died for?
tell me, could you have done what they did?
without them, you would not be able to stand so tall.
without them, you would not be able to declare your strength and independence.
without feminism, you wouldn’t be able to say that you don’t need just that.
we are not asking for you to lay down with us, to take the blows as we do.
keep your primped hair and your manicured nails, and keep your distance. some people will never be cut out to fight.
and that’s okay. we have enough fight for all of us.
we just ask that perhaps, instead of shunning us and ignoring history,
you open your eyes,
and maybe offer a bit of thanks.
a piece dedicated to those who say they don’t need feminism -c.h. // instagram: @evanescent.love (via @poeticaffinity)
i wrote this piece in response to a comment i got under a poem of mine about slutshaming. a summary of it was that she didn’t need feminism, and that she was strong and independent enough on her own. little did she realize, that the very reason she can be so strong and independent and denounce feminism is because, well, feminism.
keep in mind that “primped hair” and other similar lines are symbolic of a very clean, distanced female, not of any woman of a certain race or anything.
When you think that there is not a problem simply because it is not affecting you.
As a human being we all have a duty to help others that suffer, even if you do not understand their suffering
This is what I think most of the current politicians on TV are forgetting. They’re far too concerned with bashing the opposition so that they can get into power instead of helping the people they are meant to represent.
Compassion, empathy and understanding are three of the most important emotions a person can feel because they combat privilege and encourage selflessness.
trans and nonbinary lesbians! we see you, we love you, you are valid, you matter so much
to everyone else:
gentle reminder that if your feminism and/or your vision of lesbian/queer history is constructed at the expense of trans & non-binary people, then you need to reassess your feminism (and your life choices)
gentle reminder that trans people, and especially trans women, have been crucial to the LGBT+ movement
gentle reminder that if you believe in strictly defining gender according to a binary system based on phenotype/genotype, you are subscribing to a Western-centric, patriarchal ideology (and you also probably have no clue as to how biology works)
gentle reminder that if you think you can school us on lesbian history/culture, lesbian culture, queer history, biology, postmodernism, etc. - well, we’d like to see you try
(you see, we actually know what we’re talking about)
(and the way some people are using words “postmodern” and “queer” is ample evidence these people don’t know what they’re talking about)
gentle reminder that all the energy you’re spending on policing other people’s identities would be better spent by: cleaning your room / baking / taking a walk / watching Brooklyn 99 / folding origami / learning how to sing / learning how to tap dance / learning about plants / petting a dog / literally anything else than telling people what they are
gentle reminder that resisting the cooptation of an oppressed, subversive identity is a good thing. but gatekeeping on some flimsy basis? not so much
aggressive reminder that trans women are NOT men and we will fight anyone who says otherwise
(gentle reminder that this does not amount to censorship - we’re just unwilling to put up with this kind of bs)
and to end on a positive note, once again: trans and nonbinary lesbians! we see you, we love you, you are valid, you matter so much
Breaking the terms of service you agreed to to become a member of a website is a breach of contract. Being kicked off of the site for that is not, in fact, censorship. We can argue about the point of ignoring broaching of the terms of service in some instances and not in others (something I fully agree tumblr does and I fully agree is fucked), but we cannot argue whether or not you personally broke them because that is objective fact. You therefore breached your contract with tumblr and were removed. That’s not censorship, that is you refusing to follow guidelines you agreed to.
i’m sick of my friends complaining about calories. i’m sick of the phrase “i shouldn’t eat that”. i’m sick of “bad foods” and “i ate too much” i’m sick of my friends complaining about their stomachs and thighs. i’m just so sick of all of it.