Can we please stop this mentality that if you’re being abused you should just ‘leave and get help’. It is never as simple as that. If you’re a minor, you rely on your parents (assuming they are the abusers) for home and food and school and funding. Most of the time, it’s genuinely not worth it to leave when you can stick it out. Leaving home is difficult and may not even work out. You’ll either land up in the foster system (which can be extremely traumatising) or sent straight back home, only to a more provoked abuser. If it’s not one of the two, you could end up homeless and potentially never get the school results you need to get a job. Most of the time, you’re on a thin line trying to weigh up how bad your situation is. Unless your situation is severe enough to make these alternatives seem better for you, it’s simply not a realistic or helpful mentality, I’m sorry to say.
Solutions to abuse are never as simple as just ‘leaving’. Please remember that.
Well I failed every single one of my exams so I won't be able to get a job.. I'm such a idiot
Failing exams feels like the literal end of the world, especially when you see people around you doing so well. But it’s important not to panic. There’s always resitting next summer? You could go through clearing if you want to go to Uni or do a gap year. Retake the year, it sucks and I literally couldn’t bear to have to retake it, but if you’re worried about not getting a job because of results, you need to do what will make you feel calmer. I mean, people have shaped careers for themselves without any qualifications. It might be harder, but it’s very doable.
You could also volunteer, it looks good on a CV. Some jobs might even offer training if you’re keen enough, and you could ask to do an internship. Just bulk apply, thats what I had to do. Eventually, you do strike gold. Literally thousands of people failed their exams this year, so you’re not on your own and you’re not an idiot. <3
“Before hiring you, Ms. (Y/L/N), there’s something I’m obligated by Bang PD-nim himself to tell you. While you are more than qualified for this job, you must also be… personally ‘trained’ to do a sub-job that comes along with it.”
It goes without saying that you’d take the job regardless of what they’d ask of you. You needed food, rent money, and spending money: all of which this job would pay completely, and then some. You give the hiring manager a single nod, letting him know you were ready to comply with anything and everything.
Pairing: BTS [ot7] x Reader Word Count: 7.9k Genre: Fluff, Comedy, No Romance
You adjusted your self made, black blazer, confidently walking out of the interview after accepting the position. You were to be BTS’s new lead stylist, and damn proud of it. The position was made for you; your profound love and respect for each member’s individual and unique style overqualified you for the position. You weren’t cocky by nature, but as a fan and a lover of the fashion industry, paired with your extensive knowledge and experience in managing (yourself mostly) and assistant managing in said industry, you might as well be.
Thinking back to the briefly mentioned “Sub-position” that was a must along with your official position, a content smile graced your lips.
“So the jokes aren’t just jokes, rumors, or facades for the cameras. BTS really are joined at the hip.”
Don’t forget Gorillaz fans, Jamie Hewlett exist! He made all you’re favorite band members come to life in the music videos, shorts, ect! He continues drawing them countless times and works day and night to give you new content with the band members! So please appreciate him!!! ❤❤❤
something that always struck me as odd about the prequels is how palpatine was able to forge a relationship with anakin in the first place.
this is definitely my biggest problem with the jedi, in relation to anakin: they let palpatine, a middle aged man, get anakin, a child, alone. the fact that palpatine’s even insistent on it at all should be ringing alarm bells. there should be Stranger Danger warnings going off, people! you’re dropping the ball, men!
and i understand that, according to the comics, palpatine threw his political weight around, saying that the senate has total control over the jedi. that you can’t deny the chancellor. but that’s incorrect - the republic is corrupt, but it’s not a dictatorship yet. as anakin’s legal guardians, the council has the full right to refuse palpatine access to anakin - it doesn’t matter who’s knocking at your door, you’re supposed to protect your charge.
but the jedi handed him over. the second palpatine pressed, they folded; and no one tried to curb anakin’s interaction with palpatine, even though it should be clear that an old man wanting to talk with a minor day after day after day is suspicious. especially since the jedi were suspicious of palpatine anyway.
I’m gonna be real honest with you here, it’s been a long time since I’ve worked on the fake bf fic and writing is hard and life is just overwhelming as hell these days, so if y’all wouldn’t mind giving me just a liiiiittle bit of validation that my writing hasn’t turned to complete crap?? that’d be super cool??? please & thank you, here is what I have of ch. 6, it’s not a lot but hopefully there’s gonna be more soon now that I have some kind of flow???? idk man I love you all thank you for being so ridiculously patient
Hi! I'm 16 and I plan to move out of my mothers house as soon as possible. I'm working on saving up $1,000 for an emergency fund right now, but what else should I do to prepare before I move? Obviously I still have a few years, but I'd like to have all my things in order before it's time. Thanks!
20 Things to Do Before Moving Out of Your Parent’s House
1. File as independent on your taxes. We’re a while away from tax season, but remember to file as independent on your taxes. This means that your parents can no longer claim you as a dependent and will no longer receive a tax break from the government for housing you. What it means for you, is that you will no longer be considered part of their tax bracket. This means you’ll have a better chance at applying for financial aid, health insurance, car insurance, etc.
2. Important Documents. Get as many of your important documents (social security card, birth certificate, tax forms, etc) as possible while you’re still living with your parents. You will need this information when you move out, so find a secure place to store them.
3. Learn to cook. Obviously, cooking skills are not going to come overnight! Checkout some cook books, online recipes, or even watch a couple episodes of Chopped. The more fast, cheap, and easy meals that you’re able to prepare before you move out- the better. Here’s my Cooking 101 post.
4. College. If you are going to college or planning to go to college, talk to financial aid about becoming an “independent student”. If the school classifies you as independent, financial aid will pay for a greater portion of your education. Also please don’t have your parent’s call the school on your behalf, start taking initiative and making these calls yourself. As someone who worked in a college call center for four years, a good 80% of the phone calls I got were from parents, and legally a college can’t tell them anything.
5. Accumulate furniture. Check out thrift stores, Dollar stores, and especially yard sales. Buying all of your furniture at once can be expensive and stressful, but accumulating a few pieces over time (space permitting) can be a more effective way.
6. Doctor’s appointments. Start making your own doctor’s appointments! I love this script by @spectrumsuperhero that’s applicable to all of your doctor’s appointment needs.
7. Start building credit. At 16, you’re probably too young to apply for an actual credit card, but having some credit before you move out will help you loads in the long run. As you might be aware, some landlords ask that their tenants have a credit score before renting to them. Don’t be discouraged! It’s just something to think about.
8. First Aid. Learn some basic First Aid. I’m going to toot my horn and link my post because I sat through literally six hours to get certified in this stuff, and if I do say so myself, my post is rather thorough.
9. Learn to clean. Learn some basic cleaning skills- how to wash dishes, how to vacuum, what sprays clean what. These may seem like simplistic things, but many people grow up not having to do household chores. I guarantee you that not every apartment you live in will have a dishwasher, so learn some dish skills now! Learn to clean.
10. Go Shopping. Make a shopping list and go shopping at your local supermarket or grocery store. Crowded stores can sometimes be unnerving, remember the more practice you get at it, the more at ease you’ll be.
11. Learn to wash clothes. Doing laundry is something that I never did while living in my parent’s house, and the first few times doing it on my own turned out… interestingly. Get your laundry skills in tip-top shape!
12. Get transportation. Get yourself a mode of transportation that does not require your parents. Biking, walking, and using public transportation are all ways that you can get where you need to be. Get as familiar with public transportation around your city as much as possible.
13. Separate bank account. Still sharing a linked bank account with your parents? Get yourself a bank account that they don’t have access to. One of the first steps towards moving out and “Adulting” is being able to take care of your money.
14. Build your resume. Keep working on and updating your resume, even if you already have a job. You never know when you’ll need to find another one, and you don’t want to hastily throw together your resume with little notice.
15. References. Similarly, get yourself a list of professional references. These references can be teachers, guidance counselors, family friends, etc. References are useful for job applications, housing applications, and networking. Always ask before putting someone’s name down as a reference.
16. Health insurance. Start learning about what health insurance coverage you currently have- how expensive it is, how it’s paid, how long it lasts, etc. Find out if you will be able to stay on this insurance after moving out of your parent’s house.
17. Buy a First Aid Kit. A First Aid Kit is a must have for whatever apartment, room, or house is your next home! Spend $20 and buy a decent sized one that includes things like cold compresses, burn creams, and gauze.
18. Buy a Bed. The average person sleeps around 229,961 hours in their lifetime. That’s a lot of time in bed! Buy yourself a comfortable mattress (you should replace your mattress every 8-10 years), luxurious sheets and/or a memory foam pillow. Nice beds can be expensive, so start saving up for one now.
19. Learn basic repair. Get yourself a toolbox and learn some basic repair. You can find extensive articles online about everything from unclogging a drain, to tightening screws, and using caulk. Get familiar with these tools now, because you never know what type of landlord you’ll end up with. They could come promptly when requested to do repairs, or they might not.
20. Learn how to write a check. Okay but seriously- this is important. Do not let me catch you moving out of your parent’s house without knowing how to write a check. Here is @howtogrowthefuckup‘s two cents.
Summary: Nesta and Cassian go on their first date and try to figure out how they work when they aren’t expected to bicker all the time. Nesta has a candid conversation with Feyre about their mother. Later, as Nesta and Cassian are beginning to find a rhythm as a couple, an emergency interrupts their progress.
Notes: This is… going to be 5 parts now. Just an FYI. I don’t know how this happened. Thanks this time to @acourtofstarsanddreams for helping me figure out jobs and apartments, and @illyriantremors for helping me make their first date more awkward :D
Part one, Part two : AO3 for comments :this chapter rated T : tw brief mention of Feyre’s abuse
When Nesta made this date, she wasn’t thinking clearly.
She considered canceling, considered calling and just saying that it was
a mistake, no hard feelings, that she wasn’t ready to go out with
Instead, when she called Cassian the next day, she reminded him that she
lived outside the city and that he would likely need to leave early to
make it to her place on time. She still had that nagging question in the
back of her mind and had considered backing out then. But the smooth,
confident tone in his voice had done something to her doubts, and by the
time Nesta had shoved her phone back into her pocket, they had decided
on a restaurant and a time and he knew her address.
Mercury in the 1st house : You are talkative,
you know your business, and always happy to share your views. You can be a
story teller, the type of sociable person who becomes the heart and soul of any
dinner. But even if you’re less open, you’re up to the challenge when you make
a speech. Your ability to communicate is one of your strengths, it attracts
Mercury in the 2nd house : You
adopt a systematic approach, especially when it comes to money. You appreciate the
results and like to think that you are gifted on a practical level, capable of
turning an idea into a concrete advantage. Whether you are or not, it depends
on other factors, but in both cases you usually think in practical terms.
Mercury in the 3rd house : You have the
chance to possess this highly admired position because it gives you a very
alert and vibrant spirit, a great intellectual curiosity. You know how to
handle words. Effective speaker, brilliant talker, you are also a good writer. ( 5/5 ; best position )
Mercury in the 4th house : Strongly
influenced by your parents, you transform your home into a center of activity
and intellectual stimulation. You may be working from home. Family inheritance
is probably somewhat complicated, and you will ultimately have to tackle it
head on. In the worst cases, you may have a narrow mind. In the best cases, you
are listening and very precisely aware.
Mercury in the 5th house : You are a
person who has a variety of interests, a creative thinker with a weakness for
speculation, and a sentimental life that would be worth dedicating a book. In
love, you are looking for someone to advance you intellectually. As a parent,
you are loving, you talk about your children constantly, and you build strong
and loving ties with them.
Mercury in the 6th house : Dexterous and
efficient, you tend to plunge into the work, either by easily processing the
details, or because they obsess you. In the absence of something important to
do, you are master in the art of inventing work, so it is essential that you
find a satisfying and satisfying job. Worried, you worry about nothing, and you
can become hypochondriac. To prevent this, take positive steps to maintain your
Mercury in the 7th house : You are a
sociable person who ardently desires animated conversations and intellectually
stimulating relationships. But you may find it difficult to find the love - and
the intellectual challenge - that you seek. While you’re open and easy to make
contacts, you get bored just as quickly, and without realizing it, you avoid getting
involved. Yet, when you have found the couple relationship you are looking for,
the conversation never stops.
Mercury in the 8th house : This position
gives you a naturally intuitive mind, the ability to break through the secrets,
great gifts for research and a deep intellectual commitment to the mysteries of
life, including death, money (you find it Unjust to have to worry about) and
the metaphysical arts.
Mercury in the 9th house : You are
fortified by ideas, motivated by philosophy, stimulated by the forces of the
intellect and happy to explore the world. You like to debate ideas and meet
people, and teaching is therefore a natural area for you. (Other good choices:
editorial law, religion) You handle great ideas with ease, but you may also be impatient
for the trifles of everyday life.
Mercury in the 10th house : With this
very influential position, you are likely to develop a challenging career,
usually in the writing world. Your ideal job must include a lot of variety. If
this is not the case, you may change jobs frequently. You need a perpetual
mental stimulation. You prefer to be in control, and you get the most success
when you can pursue your own ideas.
Mercury in the 11th house : An active
social life is essential for your well-being. You make friends easily. You
reflect very carefully on your ideals and aspirations, and you love the company
of people who actively support them. Likewise, you find it exciting to work in
a group, preferably within a project based on a belief or principle, whatever
it may be.
Mercury in the 12th house : You are
mysterious, intuitive, comtemplative and secret. You can interpret dreams, use
the powers of imagination, decipher secret codes and perform all kinds of
mental tasks that require thinking outside the usual framework. But you need
loneliness for that.