So recently I've really been considering getting a binder because I'm dealing with some heavy disphoria. I have no means of getting it without relying on my parents. They're supportive of LGBTQ rights and I know that they'd probably accept me if I choose to come out, but I'm not quite ready yet. How would someone go about asking for a binder without outing themself?
You could say it’s for cosplay, or that you’re questioning your gender and want to explore different gender expressions which outs you a bit but not entirely. You could also get a binder without parents knowing- our Binding FAQ has a link that explains how.
You also might want to consider looking at our Coming out page- if they’d be open to you coming out, then why wait? Sometimes you have to think about why you’re closeted- is it because you’re anxious about it, and if so, do you think that you’ll suddenly feel less anxious in the future? If you don’t want to come out yet, you don’t have to, but sometimes it’s best to just get it over with so you can move on.
Followers, does anyone have suggestions on how to ask for a binder without coming out?