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the signs as i know them (part II)
  • aries: they love so much. sometimes they find themselves in inner conflicts. they can rage like a storm and then be calm like the sea on a day in april. but in april the weather changes so fast and so do they. leave them alone when they're angry. when they show you they want to talk about it, be there for them. they need a lot of space for themselves but that doesn't mean you get the same space for yourself. they can be jealous if you flirt with someone else. they're a little possesive. if they love you, they would conquer the world and make it yours. they decide. if they want you, they want you right now. some aries are not as flirty as others. but they will let you know what they feel for you, open your eyes.
  • taurus: faithful until the very end. they like to spoil you but they know they can't buy your love and they're not even trying. if they buy you a dress/shirt/whatever it's because they think you look amazing in it and they will enjoy watching you take it off. they love the dolce vita. good food, good drinks, beautiful (wo)men. when you're sad or something they will hold you and listen if you want to talk. if not they will hold you until they're sure you're okay. jealousy is a problem. they get jealous very fast. it takes some time to upset them but when they're upset you better watch out. they would do anything for the people they love. if they love you they won't give up on you.
  • gemini: they love the game. they are fascinated by the beauty of so many people. but they are no players. it's easier to break their heart than to have your heart broken by them. never forget that they're dreamers. they love adventures and they want to experience their dreams with someone they love. it's true that their mood changes like the weather. but it's not bad. give them time for themselves, do not try to keep them close 24/7. they love very intense but they always need their personal freedom. let them know how you feel and they'll do the same.
  • cancer: they are romantics. they dream of romantic evenings, candle light and cuddling. but only with their chosen one. they fall in love with souls, minds. they want someone they'll still love when they're 90. a short romance, one night stands, temporary people are nothing for them. they are strong people with a kind heart. some of them like to write poems about the people/things they love. they are creative and will always find a way to show you their love for you.
  • leo: a leo's fire is burning bright. their love can be compared to their fire. they like the heat, whether it be in bed or simply the way they kiss. and they fight. they fight for your love, they want to conquer you. sometimes they rage and what they need is someone who'll be both; the water and the one who they can talk to, trust. trust is so important for them. nothing will work if they don't trust you. sometimes they may hurt you but when they do they are very sorry and will let you know that. do not doubt them, support them. they will support you, too. they'll love you as much as they can, they are passionate lovers.
  • virgo: they are vulnerable. they don't let many people in but if they let you in, if they love you, you are a lucky one. their hearts are pure. they are understanding and encouraging. they know what you want and what you need. they won't leave you alone when you need them, even if you tell them to. they may not be as passionate as others but their love can heal every broken heart, every broken soul. they love so deeply.
  • libra: they have a heart for beauty. they'll see art in you where you've always seen nothing special. their heart beats for beauty and they can hear the melody of your voice like no one else. they make you feel like you're the most beautiful person in the world. they can give you confidence. they love you so much that they can teach you how to love yourself and above all what to love about yourself.
  • scorpio: they are in love with every part of your body, every inch of your soul. they want to kiss every inch of your skin, feel you, taste you. they want to know you better than anyone else. the most passionate water sign. do not play with their feelings. never. trust means everything. if they trust you, you can trust them. they want you to be bad just for them, whenever/wherever they want you to be. they love to look at you because to them you're a masterpiece. their eyes cut like knives but it's a beautiful pain. they can see into your soul and they can calm the storm inside you. sometimes they just feel incredibly sad/desperate/numb. listen to what they have to say. they'll feel better when they know you're not scared of their inner depths.
  • saggittarius: their love is so colourful. like spring. everything inside them is coming alive. they are passionate. it's important to know when they're serious. if they love you they see potential in you. sometimes they only want to play but in that case they'll tell you so. they sometimes can't handle the world and that is when they need you the most. they won't try to make you think like they think but they care a lot about your views, ideals, goals. their love is hot just like their character so don't mess around with it.
  • capricorn: they don't fall in love so fast but when they do they're totally into you. they'll do a lot of things for you and expect you to cherish that. their love knows limits. they won't let you break their heart. they won't let you try to change them. their love is precious and you have to do a lot to deserve it. they are honest and don't want to play with you. talk to them, they have got a busy head but they're intelligent people.
  • aquarius: love is like a game to them, but it's a serious game. they are affectionate and caring but also like to be childish and need a lot of time for themselves. friendship is as important as love to them. don't be jealous. if they love you they have a reason to do so, don't question it. they sometimes need someone to help them through tough times, busy days, days when they're just sad. they need a little help sometimes. be their lover and their best friend.
  • pisces: they are very passionate. although they're a water sign they have a fire burning inside them. if they love you then they truly adore you. they would do anything for you but will not let you do anything to them. as much as they may love you - when they see you're not being honest, fair or kind they will set you on fire and leave. it's hard to get their love but it's even harder to get their trust. but once they trust you and love you you're a very lucky person. they are caring, understanding and know what you need. losing them is a loss but loving them is as easy as breathing.
Oshea Jackson Jr - iTunes Q&A
  • Question: What's your favorite song?
  • O'shea: The Perfect Beat by Afrika Bambatta
  • Q: What's the scariest movie you've ever seen?
  • O'shea: I don't get scared by movies, really. But I'm easily disturbed. When I first saw 'Hills Have Eyes', I couldn't get some images out of my head. Still actually
  • Q: What's your favorite movie starring your dad?
  • O'shea: All about the benjamins. Super Suuuuper underrated
  • Q: What's your favorite Ice Cube song?
  • O'shea: Natural Born Killaz
  • Q: Whe do you think you'll finish screenwriting at USC?
  • O'shea: When I feel like my writing is missing something. I'll know it's time to sharpen back up and get to my cinematic roots.
  • Q: When can we expect music from you?
  • O'shea: Ingratiate I would love to do music. I still snap over instruments to myself. But they might typecast ya mans if I put certain type record. For now I'm focused on my craft as an actor but my older brother and I have started a producing team.
  • Q: Why haven't you used your snap?
  • O'shea: Everytime I'm on any social media I'm just thinking. "Why am I not on instagram?"
  • Q: What is your favorite part in SOC?
  • O'shea: Smashing Bryan Turners office. We've all wanted to break things with a bat before.
  • Q: What do you like to do in your free time?
  • O'shea: Crush my enemies. Not really. But I'm a real Nerd and I am completely unapologetic. When I gotta unwind it's video game time.
  • Q: Why didn’t you release the video for ‘Ain’t No Place’? Was it because of being typecast?
  • O'shea: Yes. With the movie having buzz around the Academy I didn't want any possibility of the song affecting the film. And I didn't want it to look like I'm Ice Cube part 2 out here. lol.
  • Q: Were you nervous about trying out for the movie?
  • O'shea: I was extremely nervous. I had to audition for two years and when you've never been through the process. You don't know what could've made you or boke you during that little time you had auditioning. If I didn't take the role. The world woulda killed me. If I didn't win the role. The world woulda killed me. And I was it was as movie. The world woulda killed me. At the end of the day, nothing was gonna sop me from immortalizing my dad in film. A lot of people ain't want me to get the part. Be he did and that's all I needed.
  • Q: Celeb crush?
  • O'shea: She's taken already. Don't wanna start waves.
  • Q: Did you practice some of the songs with your father or did you learn on your own?
  • O'shea: The performance and studio scenes in SOC are me in my element. What I'm used to doing. So when I was there it's like, wait y'all want me to rap my DAD's songs? I BEEN DOIN THIS.
  • Q: Were any of the scenes hard to do?
  • O'shea: More cowbell #SNLjoke
  • Q: Actors you look up to?
  • O'shea: Denzel and Leo
  • Q: Did you re-record some of Cube's verses or lip sync?
  • O'shea: We recorded the whole album, fam
  • Q: Marvel or DC?
  • O'shea: If you gotta ask. Somethin must be wrong.
  • Q: Do you like your fathers older movies?
  • O'shea: of course. People don't appreciate what a great film Players Club is.
  • Q: Do you ever feel pressure to surpass all that your father has accomplished?
  • O'shea: I've felt it since I was in the 5th grade. (The pressure) it doesn't come from him. All of it comes from me because I don't want to feed into the narrative of talent skips a generation or the whole "was born on 3rd base, and thought he hit a triple." Aspect. I'm so appreciative of my blessings and the only way to ensure my own legacy is to perfect my craft.
  • Q: Worst movie you've ever seen?
  • O'shea: Movie 43
  • Q: Best compliment you've ever heard?
  • O'shea: When I hear that I inspire someone. Being a celebrity is cute and all but it's smoke and mirrors. I understand that this all can be taken away in an instant. FAME is a jellyfish. Yeah it's beautiful but don't you dare get wrapped up in it. So while I do have a platform, the best thing i can do is to encourage or inspire. If not i'm just being selfish.
  • Q: Are you going to see Kobe play his very last game?
  • O'shea: Yeah I'll be the guy crying uncontrollably being escorted by security
  • Q: Would you take a role in a Tyler Perry movie?
  • O'shea: Is it about a single parent overcoming obstacles while still maintaining their strong christian values?
  • Q: What artist would we be surprised you listen to?
  • O'shea: I love Imagine Dragons and F.U.N.
  • Q: How was it growing up as ice cubes son?
  • O'shea: It has it's perks of course. But kind of annoying until you grow up lol. I have to put people through so many trials in order for you to be considered my friend. You don't know people's motives. My friend Tanner was my very first friend EVER. Met in kindergarten. Just said 'hey I'm Shea lets be friends.' After that.....Everyone else know me as ice cubes son. But my friends. Call me Shea. And it's 5 of them. You just grow up thinking different being ice cubes son.
  • Q: Would you want your kids to follow in your footsteps?
  • O'shea: If it was their choice by all means. My parents allowed us to find our own paths. But give everything your best effort because if you don't, then why are you doing it?
  • Q: What advice would you give your younger self?
  • O'shea: learn how to dunk
  • Q: Fave Rappers?
  • O'shea: Dwayne Michael Carter and Sean Anderson
  • Q: Which Ice Cube verse is your fave?
  • O'shea: "G-d damn I'm glad y'all set it off....."
  • Q: What's your fave app?
  • O'shea: ESPN Radio
  • Q: Will you answer me on day? :(
  • O'shea: "Maybe one Day..." - Drake
  • Q: Do you like Justin Biebers new album?
  • O'shea: I would be lying if I said Justin Bieber didn't have a few tracks on that thang
  • Q: Do you think education is necessary?
  • O'shea: I definitely feel that education is important. But I also feel the mind will not process information it feels it doesn't need. Find what interests you and educate.
  • Q: Growing up, what was the biggest problem you faced?
  • O'shea: Keepin the snakes out the grass.
  • Q: What type of films would you develop as a screenwriter? Is there certain topics that you're passionate about?
  • O'shea: I'm into smart comedies. And movies that don't give a lot away so you're not in the theater tryna guess things before they happen. You kinda just take the films scene by scene like life. If I could write a modern day Big Lebowski, I would be happy as an accomplished writer.
  • Q: Your thoughts about ride along 2?
  • O'shea: needs more me
  • Q: Any difference between before SOC and after?
  • O'shea: I'm a lot meaner and nicer at the same time
  • Q: Any tv shows you want to be part of?
  • O'shea: I would love to be apart of Better Call Saul
  • Q: Favorite place to relax?
  • O'shea: In a woman's presence. #CasonovaAnswer
  • Q: Rihanna or Beyonce?
  • O'shea: Beyoncé whole personality reminds me of my mom. I've never been attracted to her because I see too much of my mom.
  • Q: If you could have a superpower, what would it be?
  • O'shea: For everything to go my way at that moment.
  • Q: Favorite hip hop song of all time?
  • O'shea: Y.O.U. by Redman/Methodman
  • Q: Do you like Hockey? What's your favorite team?
  • Q: Do you know how to cook?
  • O'Shea: Only if the BasedGod is okay with it
  • Q: New or Old School?
  • O'shea: 90's. It had more Ice Cube and Dr Dre.
  • Q: Favorite historical figure?
  • O'shea: Mark Twain
  • Q: Dream starting 5 for NBA Basketball?
  • O'shea: Magic Johnson, Kobe Bryant, James Worthy, Kareem-Abdul Jabbar and Shaq
  • Q: What's your favorite word to say?
  • O'shea: It's a cuss word.
  • Q: Star Wars or Harry Potter?
  • O'shea: This can't be a real question.
  • Q: How many Yeezys you got?
  • O'shea: 3. 2 Nikes first editions
  • Q: Would SOC be better if Jason had Eazy with him?
  • O'shea: The fact that he didn't have Eazy is why I would've nominated him
  • Q: If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
  • O'shea: I'd make everyone more understanding. We'd be fine.
  • Q: Was wondering if you'd like both (Harry Potter/Star Wars)?
  • O'shea: Definitely like both. But give me the force over Magic. #RIPSeverus
  • Q: If you could speak another language what would it be?
  • O'shea: German and Spanish
  • Q: Are you worried that people will only ever see you as your dad's son and not you as yourself?
  • O'shea: Of course. But then I look at people like Kobe, Steph Curry, The Rock...they took their family legacy to new heights. That's my goal.
  • Q: Do you have any tattoo's? if so what do they mean?
  • O'shea: the Roman numeral for 24. XXiV. And before the Kobe talk starts. 24 has always been my number. It's my birthday. 2/24. It just always feels so complete. And my life changed at 24. It's only right
  • Q: Boyz n the hood or Barber Shop?
  • O'shea: Boyz n the hood had a message.
  • Q: Why learn Spanish and German?
  • O'shea: both are used in a vast variate of regions. May come in handy if ever abroad
  • Q: Do you still workout?
  • O'shea: Yeah dude. Still am. But decisions were made and now I'm makin work. #BooHoo
  • Q: What motivates you?
  • O'shea: My family.
  • Q: How are you handling all this attention you're getting?
  • O'shea: in my room ignoring most of it
  • Q: What is the most like you, chocolate or gummy bears?
  • O'shea: Hardest thing I ever had to do
  • Q: Fave Dragon Ball Z Character?
  • O'shea: Kakarot
  • Q: What do you fear most?
  • O'shea: Not being happy is my biggest fear
  • Q: Any advice for aspiring actors?
  • O'shea: Ask yourself why did you start acting. If it's to be famous. You will lose.
  • Q: Favorite disney movie?
  • O'shea: Lion King
  • Q: Do you find it hard to trust people?
  • O'shea: my whole life I couldn't trust anyone.
  • Q: Favorite cartoon to watch growing up?
  • O'shea: Dragon Ball Z or Ed Edd n Eddy
  • Q: How did you deal with people that were only your friend because of your dad?
  • O'shea: I don't deal with them. Bad energy.
  • Q: If you were an animal what would you be?
  • O'shea: Orca. Biggest and strongest in the ocean. And I'm a genius!? In pods running from 12-30 of the homies deep!?
  • Q: What's your type of woman?
  • O'shea: Sexy kind.
  • Q: Number one pick up line?
  • O'shea: You know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice. O'shea Jackson, nice to meet you.
  • Q: Do you like apples?
  • O'shea: I got her number....
  • Q: Advice you would give to aspiring actors?
  • O'shea: Be an actor first. And a star 3rd.
  • And the last question, deserves it's own post...That's all folks.

0prar0  asked:

I love the debunking of Fe stereotypes you've done. However, I have a serious request - can you do so for Fi too, or at least link me to such a debunking? One INTP man once told me he views Fi-Fe the exact opposite way, that the Fe is warm, nurturing, and makes others feel welcome, tries to teach and help etc. - while Fi is extraordinarily selfish, grudging, manipulative, gluttonous/envious, willing to desert and such. As an ISFP this very deeply hurt me (was his intention). Hence the request :(

UGH. Lovely man. What would reality be like without jackasses? =P

It goes without saying that these examples are for healthy Fi’s. In unhealthy or immature Fi’s, these stereotypes certainly will manifest.

I will do what I want. I don’t care if you get hurt.

That is just immaturity and selfishness – not Fi. In fact, Fi might be inclined to think, “Not treating people as I want to be treated is devaluing their humanity, so I am going to treat them with kindness even if it brings me unhappiness, because to do less than that is not who I am or want to be.” Fi might fall in love outside their current relationship, but decide not to leave their partner or cheat on them, because they made a promise to this person, a commitment, and Fi believes in personal integrity. Cheating is not even an option in their mind.

I don’t care what you think or need your affirmation.

Fi does care what you think – it is just that your feelings are not always going to overrule their personal decisions, because they feel honor-bound to hold to their ethical standard. The more they care about you, the more your feelings and what you think of them is prioritized in their mind. Total strangers can hurt Fi’s feelings, though it is true that someone much closer to them can do far more damage. Words are hurtful. Fi does need you to care and invest in them. Fi will blossom under your encouragement.

I am rude and inconsiderate.

Blindsiding a Fi and asking for an opinion on something that is obvious to them will probably generate a completely Te answer – particularly in a young Fi. More mature Fi’s pause to consider how to tactfully tell you that dress you’re wearing that you want an opinion on makes you look like a pink elephant.

I am manipulative.

Being manipulative involves insincerity. Fi’s value authenticity and often refuse to show any emotion other than what they truly feel – they do not “fake” things. Fi will say nothing over engaging in what they consider to be “fake” behavior. If you want total honesty, look for Fi. Further, Fi may decide manipulating people is ethically wrong, inhibiting them from doing it.

I am unhelpful and leave people to fend for themselves.

Fi is more comfortable showing love than speaking it. How does this manifest? In actions. Fi may not know how to comfort you when you are in tears, but it sure knows how to make you feel better by boxing up all your favorite treats, buying you the latest movies/CDs/books, and arriving at your house with said box in one hand and a gallon of ice cream in the other. Fi sends flowers. Fi chooses gifts that it feels are meaningful. Fi shows you love in whatever way it can think of, and that sometimes includes jumping in front of a bus for you.

I never share my feelings with anyone.

The sharing of feelings is selective, but emotions do come out. Fi’s do vent – often not about how they are feeling (”it made me feel so worthless!”) but about the situation itself (”they didn’t invite me – again!”). If you are close to Fi, if Fi loves you, if Fi trusts you, Fi will share with you. It may be awkward. It may be full of metaphors. But they will share. It simply may take time.

I only care about my own stuff, not yours.

This is immaturity and selfishness and turns up in all types, with or without Fi.

It hurts me to scroll through tumblr and see people’s creativity go ignored. I feel anguish when their blog posts get no response, when their art goes ignored, when no one comments on their music videos, or clicks “like” on what they have to say. Unless I disagree strongly with something, I click “like” on every tumblr post I see. I leave comments on people’s fanfics. I want them to know someone SEES them and CARES. It requires so little effort from me, and can mean the world to them, because it’s proof that I SEE YOU. In our desperately lonely society, people need to be seen, heard, and loved.

Which brings me to this, which ties into the whole “Fi will do this whether or not you care” stereotype – for months, I have been upset that despite having over 18,000+ followers on this tumblr, the posts here receive so little acknowledgment. A tremendous amount of time, study, thought, and effort goes into what you see on this blog – not merely from me, but from my co-mod, and our many contributors. I know that some people appreciate it, even deeply, but we do not know that unless you hit “like.” I am not an attention whore, I do not need constant affirmation, but when posts go out to 18k dashes, and get 4 notes, I start wondering, “Is this a waste of my/our valuable time?” I am not only hurt on my behalf, but on behalf of everyone doing this with me.

I do not have to run this tumblr. My co-mod does not have to spend hours adding graphics and tags and putting things in the queue. Our contributors do not have to spend hours thinking about characters you request and typing up profiles. I do not have to answer your questions, or help you figure out your type, or write, for the ten thousandth time, the difference between two types or functions. I choose to do it. I own that decision. I rarely complain, but many times, I have come very close to NOT DOING IT out of a lack of visible support and appreciation. Yet, I continue doing it, because deleting this blog would disappoint so many of you. Not very stereotypical “Fi” of me, is it?

To my Fi, saying this seems whiny. It seems needy. But it needs said, because everyone needs support and affirmation, and I see a considerable lack of it all over the internet across all mediums. Clicking “like” on a tumblr post is easy. It says, “Thank you.” It says, “Even though this character is not my type, and I know very little about them, I appreciate the time you take to do this.” Clicking “like” on music videos on YouTube (better yet, commenting), taking two minutes to encourage a fanfiction writer by complimenting their story, reblogging a cool piece of art, or writing a thoughtful response to someone’s blog post can literally make their day.

Fi is not selfish. People are selfish.

The signs from a Cancer Point of view (use 🌞 + 🌜):
  • (My posts are backwards on purpose)
  • Pisces: Oh my lord, you can be so silly. I love how infectious your giggle is. You can think of things in ways I would have never even thought; you're almost too creative for your own good. I know sometimes you're not so good at art, like most posts predict, but the way you speak is beautiful, like your words were perfectly arranged to form a mosaic of variegated interpretations. You let everyone's experiences influence you to the point where you take them on as your own, and that's ok. I know that just helps you stay close to the ones you love, as if living in their memories with them strengthens your connection with them.
  • Aquarius: You can be distant, but care with every pulse of your heart. Sometimes that's what confuses me. There's a reason for everything to you. You want to know cause and effect, but I'm worried for the day when you realise that not everything has an explanation; at least not one easily confined by mere words. You're not devoid of emotion. You're just much better at deciding when and how to deal with them. How do you do that? How do you know how to reach out for help without burdening everyone?
  • Capricorn: We are opposites. You work so hard to be happy, that sometimes I think you hardly stop to enjoy even the small things that have a magical air to them; like the plush towels against your skin, or the pattern of the sky that will only freeze for a few seconds more. To you, it's all about pushing forward and getting things done, and I love your motivation, but don't you realise how stressed out you get yourself? You can be cold, but that's only because sometimes you don't want to stop to know what will happen if you do.
  • Sagittarius: I am amazed at how much patience I have with you. You're so carefree, and I don't believe I have ever seen you stressed. Sometimes I get frustrated with how you treat others, but I know you don't mean to hurt people on purpose. I love how you want to be a free thinker, you don't let others cloud your thoughts or decisions, unless you really love them, then in that case you trust their opinions. Not everyone can or could ever earn your trust. You have clarity when most others are stressed because you've detached yourself from them so successfully. I'm glad that you of all people could take the weight that you do, though I'm not pleased that you have to in the first place. You handle beatings with grace, and you hold your ground firmly.
  • Scorpio: You're the most passionate person I know. When you talk about what you love or hate, I can see the propellers churn in your eyes. You love to love and hate to hate. I know it's hard to let people in, but I'm thankful you chose me of all people. I'm sorry I can't always be there when you sob in your bed late at night, but you always hold off when you're ready. That's ok too. I know you don't like to be pushed. Sometimes you let others passions overtake your own and you get so confused and tired that it's hard to face anyone. You want to love so badly, but you're always doubting yourself. Your thoughts can be overwhelming and it seems lonely in crowds, even around your own family, but even you need to trust more than one person.
  • Libra: You of all people know what to do and say all the time. I enjoy just sitting back and watching you talk and interact with people; you get that everyone is different, and you treat them according to how they are. If only people had that same respect towards you. I love how you can diffuse conflict as if you're stroking the nuzzle of a wild horse. You listen and think before you speak. You thrive on the subject of philosophy because you think, and it does, makes you a better person. You love everyone and you value friendships and relationships. You don't know who the right partner is, but I know when you find them, they will make you feel like the only person in the world, just like you do with everybody else.
  • Virgo: There's a lot to worry about. You are the one that I wish I was the most like. You live in the moment, without leaving the past or planning for the future. You're aware of the things larger than life, and you respect them, but you understand how all the little things contribute to the infinite tapestry. I wish I could notice and appreciate as you do. I know you focus too much on the tangible, and I understand that it's easy to get lost in the world of perfection and imperfections, to ignore the thoughts and feelings of others. Most people think you are cold, but I think there's more to it than that. Maybe you just know what to do with your feelings, and they're under your control, and yours alone. You're calm and always seem to be at ease. In no way should that be a crime, after all, many could learn a thing or two from you.
  • Leo: I find a lot of admiration towards how confident you are. Your presence alone is awe-inspiring. Everything you do--the way you walk, how you speak, your gestures, everything--looks so effortless but well thought out. Watching you is like enjoying a movie where every movement is perfect. I love the way you make me feel like we've know each other for years. I am at ease and comfortable by your very presence. One might expect your voice to be loud and authoritative, but it's soothing and suggestive more than anything. You want to make everyone feel like your friend, and I know it has no malevolent purposes, but it's for your own conscious because you can't bear a single person disliking you.
  • Cancer: I could tell you how seething your own mind is, but I'm sure you already know that. You can be so optimistic that you become blind to the worse in human nature. You have fallen victim to many schemes of manipulation, and each time you've beaten yourself up for it. It's ok to yell and scream and cuss. In fact, it's normal to let yourself explode. Nothing could ever right the wrongs that you can never seem to forget. I'm sure that even though they haven't made it up to, or apologised, that they still love you. Not everyone is like you where they can hold onto their emotions and keep it from lapping over the edge. People say things they don't mean, and they make mistakes. It's ok to not be able to forget, you just have to find a way to love again despite their wrong doings.
  • Gemini: When I am with you, I am never bored. There's always something to talk about, and you're willing to look at every side of a story because you love to be fascinated. You are so animated when you speak, as if you're trying to replay and exert the experience to everyone so that they can experience it as you once did. I love your acceptance of art in all its forms but most of all, I appreciate your desire for knowledge. You may not be the smartest, but you are the one to show me how to think.
  • Taurus: I see a lot of posts categorising you as being a glutton for food. Truth is, you love to enjoy things you like, and by no means is that bad. Some people talk about what they like and you feel their radiance through their words, but with you, you don't have to say anything. I feel your content seeping into my veins and I too become enveloped in this world of yours where the finer things of life are adored. I value your opinion because you learn to know and feel every inch of something before you can decide to love or hate it. You have to know for sure because once you make a decision, by God you stick to it. I love how you're supporting and refreshing for anyone who needs it. You've made some good calls, and also so bad ones, but you've learned from both and you can separate truth and fiction like nothing I've seen before.
  • Aries: You are the epitome of fire. I know it's easy to think of everything at once, and it gets extremely overwhelming. I think you tend to overlook other people's feelings for the small minute things that really don't matter. Your opinions and desires matter, just understand that you can't make anyone agree with you. You have a silver tongue, and it's hard to resist your logic, because despite how wrong you may be, you take record time in thinking up of an argument and at the same time shred your adversary to pieces. Some say it's water that wears you down slow and painfully, but I have witnessed the hot flash of your flames burn and dissipate. You get caught up in the moment. It's no biggie. I respect that you have confidence, I love that. You are into fast paced things, and I don't think I've ever seen you relax without falling asleep. You really amaze me at how adept you are at working under so much pressure. You've been through a lot, heaven knows, but we both know you've become a better person because of it. Your optimism is what pushed me through my own experiences, and I am most grateful for you especially.
The Signs as People I've Come To Know
  • Note that everyone described was born under the sign they are listed next to.
  • Aries: He doesn't really know fear, but when he does it's intense fear. More than anything, he is a daredevil, going from place to place and from person to person quickly and dangerously. He tells jokes until they're soiled and sour and you just wanna tell him to shut up, but you know you aren't going to because his stupid jokes that often make no sense and aren't even funny are all a part of what makes him who he is, so you can't help but laugh, and at the end of the day that's a person you find yourself always coming back for. A person you just genuinely want to be around for a long time. He can be air headed, but he protects ferociously and is endearingly kind to strangers. Inside, he never quite lost his childlike nature, something I hope he can one day embrace. I also hope he can one day understand, he is not his mistakes.
  • Taurus: She has a lot to say that she keeps inside, but whenever she does speak it is always soulful and insightful beyond description. It's so easy for her to get lost in her own mind, and though she doesn't care to admit it, it happens a lot that she shuts down and isolates herself. But everything is honestly better when she's around. Sometimes it's hard to convince her of that, but she has an inner and outer beauty that glows on everyone she meets. She doesn't realize other people take notice of her radiance. When she retreats, it's not uncommon for her to be quiet and not really know how to explain why she's feeling the way she is, and yet she approaches things with such an extreme level of insight and consideration. She makes everyone around her proud. Introverted as she may be, she pampers all her friends, even when they may not deserve it, and she's more brave and outspoken than I think she understands. She is one of the people who genuinely makes me happy.
  • Gemini: She is curious about almost anything and everything, and invests fully into things that interest her. It's actually beyond pleasant to watch her work out a task she loves working on, or talk about anything she loves in general, because her eyes light up and she has this smile on her face and you can just tell in that moment she loves being heard and she loves sharing what she's come to find wonderful with someone. I wouldn't call her quiet, at times she is, but I would first use the adjective "thoughtful" to describe her, as her mind is constantly generating new ideas. She processes and remembers information quickly and speaks about her feelings almost fluently. More than anything, I hope she knows I am always there for her. I hope she knows how much people love her. She is so kind, and a delight to be around.
  • Cancer: She has been through a lot. She used to walk through life with a heavy heart, but she is trying to learn how to remove the crutches and take everything as it comes. Very driven by her emotions, she experiences drastically different periods of highs and lows, but never lets anyone go to bed without knowing how much she loves them and cares about them. She has certainly been done wrong by the world, and this has led her to experience frequent trust issues and to on occasion become suspicious about other people's motives. However, this doesn't stop her from giving her all to those she loves, even if at times they may not completely deserve her help or her advice. She often settles for less than what she deserves, but I hope that she can eventually come to understand she need not settle and need not cater to people who do her wrong. She should look out for herself too, it's something she owes herself.
  • Leo: Though I haven't known her for very long, it's clear how influential she is and how in tune she is to other people's feelings. She seems very open to the world around her, and has no problem expressing herself without fear of what other people may think. She always does her makeup almost flawlessly, and you can tell she dresses for herself and no one else, and only worries about impressing one person, her. She is extremely loyal to those she cares about, and often talks about them as if they are wonders of the world. Even if you haven't spoken to her before, you will want to, because she gives off extremely positive and warm vibes, and publicly stands for everything and everyone she happens to believe in. She has a big personality, but a beautiful one at that, she is a true individual, and is one of the only other Leo's I've come to know, as well as one I hope to know better soon.
  • Virgo: She is wise beyond her years. She often works harder than most adults I've seen, although she is young in age. She always wants to make sure she has a say, but it's just as important to her that other people do, too. Other people don't always treat her as nicely as she deserves to be treated, and it's because they think they don't understand her, but in reality, they wish they had the heart and bravery that she does. She has accomplished and been through so much in such a short period of time, and she never let it taint all the love in her heart. She can be a bit anxious and scared, waking up at night after a nightmare or worrying she has not done her best, but she always gives her all, and I strongly believe there is nothing she cannot surmount or accomplish. Always willing, always eager to help. I wish I had her strength. I wish I had the beauty of her soul. I hope she someday sees how magnificent she is.
  • Libra: He is a character, he has always been a character dating back from the first day that we met. Everything he does and everything he says is with good intent and magnifies his already vibrant personality. Overall, he is a people's person, friends with everyone who is kind and attentive toward him. And he plans to keep it that way. He always tries to see the best in everyone. Although sometimes he cannot continue this and experiences outbursts of anger, they are usually temporary and he can move on from situations quickly. He is a marvelous friend. Creative, funny, often indirect, but always there in some form. Half the things that Come out of his mouth are jokes, but when he speaks and he's being serious, all you can hear is his heart speaking too. He's great to have around.
  • Scorpio: He says that he has a twisted mind, but really he's just into a lot of horror movies and has extreme reactions to otherwise small situations. I couldn't see him harming a fly, unless the fly went and did something to really piss him off. He can be a little self centered, but he is also self sufficient and just wants to make sure he himself is okay. When he starts something, it'll get done before he moves onto the next thing, and he's not really one to leave anyone with unanswered questions as he's pretty intense and direct. He's great to talk to because no silence is ever awkward, some of those silences are necessary and he knows it. He won't let things stay quiet for too long, either. One of my favorite things about him is once you've been a part of his life, he'll never forget about you. Even if you're miles and miles away.
  • Sagittarius: He gets extremely excited about small things, like going on a trip or hanging out with his friends and playing video games. He knows no part of life is insignificant, and that everything we go through either means something or leads to something else, but he also knows when to let go and stop worrying about things that are out of his control. Overall, he loves to have fun. He loves to laugh with his friends and share what makes him happy. When people disagree with him, he can become rather snippy, and might even resort to telling them they are flat out "wrong." He doesn't realize he's being rude, but often it just doesn't come out the way he would like because he speaks exceedingly freely. That's what he is, a free spirit. He makes decisions for himself and is not afraid of his opinions. He will share them willingly with anyone who asks and takes great pride in being who he is and leading the adventure called his life.
  • Capricorn: She is aware of who she is, what her limits are, and what her intentions are as well. Though sometimes she surprises others by acting the way one wouldn't have expected, she is consistently trying to take responsibility for things she know she's done wrong and does not like it when people refuse to acknowledge it when she has been acting like a fool. She holds herself accountable for many things, even when they are not exactly her fault, and she refuses to be kept in the dark for too long. When people don't like her, she wants an explanation, because she always tries to do her best and be the best version of herself she can become. It hurts her to consider that she is not doing well with that. She wants stability and security, she wants to be able to feel safe in situations, and that's all a part of what she fights for. Overall, life is a fight she does not want to lose. And one she will not allow herself to.
  • Aquarius: She is one of the most artistic people I've had the privilege of meeting, and decorates everywhere she goes and everything she creates with her glowingly positive vibes. She cares deeply about her friends, and however quiet she has a brilliant way of words, and is a phenomenal person to have a late night (or any time of day really) conversation with. She understands life on a deep level that not a lot of people do. Although she may not always feel comfortable completely showing her emotions, she is not afraid to be in touch with them and always knows how to nicely phrase them. I'm grateful that when I ask her what's wrong, she doesn't lie to me and she trusts me enough to talk to me about it. I know it's not always the type of thing that's easy for her. She is artistically talented in every aspect, and aims to perfect her performance in all she does. But honestly, the way she adds her own flair to all she accomplishes and makes it so original is an amazing thing to witness in itself.
  • Pisces: He doesn't understand the impact he can have on others. It is not uncommon for him to get so lost in his thoughts he forgets about the rest of the world, but he seemingly always finds his way back. Whenever he drifts, he will usually talk about it at one point or another, and he always has all these philosophical things to say that never cease to amaze me. His speech is always sweet and fluid, and he always sees things, both their interior and their exterior. Even though sometimes he asks silly questions, he's highly perceptive and caring. He loves having a good time, but he loves talking about life and all it entails as well, and he knows that both those things can overlap. He's one of the greatest friends I think I will ever know, and he always tries to be, even if at times he can't. I wish he came out everyday.
10 examples of patriarchy you've probably never noticed before!

We should probably start out by defining what patriarchy is, because unfortunately most people don’t know. It is defined as 1.) a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it. 2.) control by men of a disproportionately large share of power. Now let’s define misogyny. It is the dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women. People will be so quick to deny any type of prejudice or oppression against a group of people because they refuse to understand and accept that they are doing anything wrong. Women can vote and run for office! If they don’t it’s just because they’re choosing not to. Black people can go to college and get out of poverty! They just choose not to work for it!

Wrong. These things are a result of the system and structure of society that sets up certain groups of people to succeed, and not others. There are so many examples of patriarchy we often see on a daily basis as completely okay and normal, simply because we don’t know any better and it’s what we were taught. Let’s see what we find when we peel back a few layers, though.

1. Virginity. Ah, virginity is an interesting topic with many facets we could look at. It originated from the idea that a woman is pure and innocent until she has sex, and when she does she loses that. She “loses” her virginity, and therefore a part of herself as well. Misleading sexual terms like “popping your cherry” also come from this idea. Woman were to remain “pure” virgins until marriage, otherwise they were basically shunned and no one would want to marry them because they were seen as “used”. This applies to almost every religion and culture. So let me start off by saying this is completely a social construct. There is literally no such thing as virginity, it’s made up to restrict women and it treats women as mindless objects. Another major problem with this concept is that it excludes the LGBT+ community. Losing your virginity is having penis-to-vagina sex, right? So what about girls having sex with girls? Or guys with guys? Or what about oral sex? Clearly there are issues with this concept that degrades and excludes large groups of people and contributes to the mindset that women are objects for sex and marriage. It seems like an age old concept but sadly, the root of these are ideas that are alive and well today.

2. Marriage. This ties pretty closely with the whole virginity idea. But just think about a traditional wedding scene. The bride walks in, wearing all white, with her father walking her down the isle. White symbolizes purity, alluding to the virginity concept. Your father is literally walking you down the isle and giving you away to your husband. Because women are objects owned by men. Interesting when you think about the meaning behind these things, right? Let’s keep going. Then the groom is told, “you may now kiss the bride.” Asserting his dominance and ownership of his new wife (rather than being consensual). You may be thinking, of course people don’t think that way in this day and age! Well, when it comes down to it, people blindly follow traditions like this that are horribly degrading to women whether they intend for it to be that way or not. It is contributing to the idea that males are dominant and women are objects.

3. Dress Code. Putting restrictions on what girls can and cannot do with their bodies from an early age gives them the idea that their bodies are not theirs. It teaches them that dressing “slutty” is wrong and if they do they’re “asking for it”. It teaches them that their skin and their bodies are offensive. It teaches them that to be taken seriously, they can’t show too much skin. It teaches them that policing their bodies is okay and normal. It enforces the idea that a boys education is more important than hers, and that it’s okay to take time out of her school day to go change because that one inch of thigh is just that distracting. Despite what school administration will say about dress code applying to everyone, it doesn’t. It is very biased in so many ways and it perpetuated a very dangerous and unsafe environment for girls. It teaches boys and girls very toxic ideas that they typically will carry with them for the rest of their lives.

4. Victim Blaming and Slut Shaming. This is something dress code contributes to. Victim blaming is the idea that if someone dresses and acts a certain way, then it is their fault [insert blank here] happened to them. It is not the attackers fault. Her skirt was too short and she was drunk? Oh, well she should have not dressed like that or drank so much! The poor boy was a star football player going to college, he shouldn’t get in trouble for this! It is absolutely sickening that people (including women) slut shame and think that way when it comes to rape culture. We give girls pepper spray and tell them not to dress slutty instead of teaching boys that rape is an inexcusable crime.Victim blaming applies to many situations beyond women, for example all the young black men murdered or arrested for simply existing in a way that white people feel threatened by. Walking down the street in a hoodie is risking getting shot if you’re black, because that’s the kind of victim-blaming society we live in today. And of course law enforcement and media will do whatever they can to find excuses to make the victim look bad to avoid admitting they did anything wrong. 

5. Mass Media and degrading women. Turn on the TV, watch a movie, open a magazine. I guarantee you there is sexist media is nearly everything we see on a daily basis. Women’s bodies are used to sell anything from Pepsi to potato chips. First of all, there is a major lack of women behind the scenes. The majority of TV, movies, marketing, ect. we see are ran by men. This might be a key reason in the amount of sexist media we see. In most TV shows or movies, there are women, but they are not really about women. The women are just someone’s wife, girlfriend, daughter. They are an accessory used to get attention. They are objects just on screen to be pleasing to the eye. And if there does happen to be an independent woman, she’s portrayed as bossy or a bitch. It’s pretty rare to see media that truly represents real women. The media gives us ridiculous expectations and standards of beauty for ourselves. It also excludes so many groups of people, because most women we see in any media are straight and white. This is only skimming the surface of this topic. There are many issues with sexist and racist media, not to mention the effects of the porn industry on women. 

6. Bossy bitches. This is for all the Sandra Bullock’s of the world. The women who are in charge, demand attention and to be taken seriously. “God, she’s such a bitch!” “Don’t be so bossy!” These are incredibly stupid and sexist things girls hear from an early age and boys are taught is okay to say from an early age. If a man is in control and in charge, it’s normal. But if a woman is, she’s bossy. There are only 13 (out of 100) U.S. senators that are women. The majority of CEO’s, superintendents, and people in political office are men. Coincidence? Nope. Society holds women back. It’s okay for women to think, as long as they think like men. In fact, many other countries including some in South America and the UK have had female presidents, yet the U.S. never has. We like to think we’re very progressive and better than most other countries, when really we treat women, half our population, worse than most other countries do.

7. Sexist language. Pussy. Whore. Slut. Bitch. You throw like a girl! Something as simple as the language we use everyday makes it clear that our society thinks there is nothing worse or more insulting than being a woman. If a guy dresses slightly feminine or likes to read instead of playing video games, we assume he’s gay? Faggot. When my mom mows the lawn, my neighbors ask her why her husband isn’t doing it because that’s a man’s job. We hear rape jokes and we make fun of white girls and we think that’s totally acceptable. And when we call people out on it, we say “don’t treat women like that, they’re your mothers and sisters”. That doesn’t help anything. Instead, why don’t we enforce the idea that they shouldn’t be treated like that because they’re actual people? Our words have so much power, and sexist language like that goes a long way. 

8. Women’s education. Many Americans like to think feminism is unnecessary because we see women who go to school and college, who get good jobs, and who can vote and support themselves. Sadly, we often fail to empathize and understand that in a lot of other countries, women literally are not able to get even a basic education, and if they try to, they could be killed. Almost two-thirds of the world’s 792 million illiterate adults are women. In Bolivia, 30% of adult women cannot read and write, compared to just 5% of men. Only 40% of Pakistani women over the age of 15 can read and write, compared to 70% of men. Men are seen as more important and valuable to society than women. This enforces gender roles, that women stay home, raise kids, cook and clean. They don’t need an education. It’s men who need one and who should go out and work. Even in America, it is more difficult for women and people of color to obtain a higher education. All of this results in their inability to get better jobs or raise themselves above the poverty level. It’s a cycle we can’t break unless we change how people think.

9. Pay Gap. Based on median annual earnings for full-time, year-round workers, women earned 76.5% of men’s earnings for the same jobs in 2012. The median annual earnings for full-time, year-round women workers in 2012 was $37,791 compared to men’s $49,398. Again, this comes from the idea that men are more valuable and important to society. I mean we literally pay men more for doing the same job. I’m not quite sure what else I can say on this, the facts really just speak for themselves. 

10. Women in positions of power (or should I say lack thereof?) Guess we’ve come full circle, right back to what we discussed in our definition of patriarchy! All of these things we’ve talked about ultimately lead to holding back women and allowing men to have the majority of power and control in our world. So if you don’t think feminism is necessary, you think sexism doesn’t exist, or you simply don’t understand the extent of it, just open your eyes a little wider. Pay more attention. There is evidence of this everywhere; sadly we live in a really prejudiced world, and it impacts everyone. However, I have endless hope for our generation to rise above this by speaking up about it and educating ourselves. 

anonymous asked:

I admire your confidence in gillovny :) May I ask how long you've believed in a david×gillian relationship because I want to believe but often the 'other side' are hell bent on proving otherwise. For instance, they want to sell this Gilligan ship. I'm blown away by how eagerly they are to jump on that bandwagon when literally we have YEARS worth of gillovny interaction to base rational assumptions on. I hadn't seen the globes clip before and now I see it on JHHS blog & GA/PM don't look romantic.

First, let me suggest that you unfollow blogs who are making you feel stressed or unhappy in any way. Your sanity will thank you for it. I know it’s tempting to read everything that’s out there, but the reality is, the other side will never consider that they may be wrong, they’ll approach legitimate and polite arguments with condescension, and they’ll continue to believe they’re right. It’s unfortunate that this division exists, but it does, and there’s no reasoning with them.

There are years of David and Gillian interactions and events on which we can draw to support our beliefs. Please don’t let the other side make you think there was no meaning to any of it, that it was all performance, that it was nothing more than placating fans with what they wanted while David and Gillian got enjoyment out of it. I will never believe that. There are far too many instances that had meaning and carried weight. It’s easier for people who don’t want Gillovny to be true to simply say it was all for fun and that Gillian doesn’t know when to stop joking. I think that’s highly insulting to her. I also don’t call her a toddler, but if it makes people happy to think she is, then whatever.

I’ve looked at all the after-party photos and watched the GGs video, as well as the video of Gillian and PM leaving. There was nothing, to me, that screamed romantic. There was nothing that even showed me there’s an intimate relationship between them. I don’t agree with people saying that it’s because she was keeping it private. If that were the case, showing up with the man you’re dating means you’re ready to go public. No one’s saying the public are being invited into your bedroom; but it’s Hollywood. There *will* be attention. It also doesn’t line up with the slow coming-out theory the other side have. If you’re coming out, you should at least look like you’re happy with one another. You don’t need to sit on each other’s laps, or be kissing every other minute, but you should look happy. You can at least radiate as much next to the man you supposedly love the same way as you do alone and around others who aren’t him.

I saw nothing romantic between Gillian and PM. There was no nuzzle. There was no kiss. Making slow-mo gifs aren’t going to change reality. I understand that many on the other side are desperate for her to be with anyone but David. But they’re literally making something huge out of next to nothing, and while we’re belittled and insulted for Gillovny conclusions formed over many years and through countless events and interactions, they’ve got two appearances together for Gillian and PM. There was barely any physical contact between them in the photos and videos we saw, and barely to little engagement. The only things I picked up on were awkwardness, coldness and stiffness.

Also, I’ve seen plenty (too much!) about how The Fall is a BBC show. Yes, it most certainly is. But according to Gillian’s own comment last year at one of the comic cons (I still have to track it down once I have more time), Netflix put money into the production of season 3. That gives them say in a lot of things. Netflix also has VOD and distribution rights for The Fall in many countries, and in most of them, it’s exclusive. So yes, Netflix is involved. And please don’t let anyone make you believe that contracts, when they’re signed, don’t include co-representation and co-promotion clauses. Contracts are worked out to the last detail, everything is considered and argued, and all options are available to all parties. Co-representation and co-promotion are very common (even when fans don’t think something needs it).

So this is my very long-winded way of saying, I’ve been doing this for a long time, and I will continue to be confident until such time as there comes something that shows me Gillian and PM are definitely a couple. There is much that doesn’t add up with logic, with perception, with what I know and with what Gillian stands for. I’m also coming from having no doubt that David and Gillian were together for the last few years. It has nothing to do with other blogs and everything to do with my own self. So I can’t reconcile - logically - going from Wizard World in Chicago to her leaping into the arms of a man who, quite honestly, hasn’t come across as remotely likable in his interviews or behaviour.

Don’t worry about the other side wanting to prove themselves right and us wrong. Ignore them. Believe according to your feelings, your insight and your conclusions. Don’t let people make you think you’re stupid. And make your dash a happier place by removing people who bring you down or give you stress you don’t want.

When It's Your Fault
  • Newscaster: People around the country are still baffled today about what could be the cause behind the disastrous pile-up that left fifteen dead and many more injured. Surveillance footage taken at the moment of the incident shows the impossible: a car is seemingly flung into the oncoming traffic by an invisible force. The official story is that it was a freak accident. However, some are claiming that it could have been an act of terror.
  • Mom: What the is the world coming to? We're not even safe on our own roads anymore.
  • Some Guy: Car accidents happen everyday, mom.
  • Mom: Yeah, but not like that. Look at the footage. The car just flies into the other lane. There had to be a bomb under it.
  • Some Guy: I'm sure it was an accident.
  • Mom: You don't know what you're talking about.
  • Some Guy: The officials agree with me.
  • Mom: The "officials" are a bunch of liars. Even if they aren't lying, they've been wrong too many times before. I know terrorism when I see it.
  • Some Guy: So should they put you in charge of national security?
  • Mom: Don't get fresh with me. And, you know what, maybe I should. I bet I could really get into the head of the whoever who planned this and hunt him down. I've seen those procedural detective shows. I know how it works.
  • Amorphous Blob: *appears and cuddles up to guy*
  • Some Guy: *shoves blob away* Get off me!
  • Mom: You alright, hon?
  • Some Guy: Yeah, I'm cool. There was just a bug on me.
  • Mom: You've been worrying me recently. Stop acting so scary.
  • Some Guy: Sorry, I'm going to my room.
  • Some Guy: *under breath* Piss off, wad of shit.
  • Amorphous Blob: I'M SORRY.
  • Some Guy: *stomps up stairs without saying a word*
  • Some Guy: *stomps into bedroom, locks door, and lies on bed*
  • Some Guy: *stares up at ceiling listlessly*
  • Amorphous Blob: *peers over some guy* DO YOU ACCEPT MY APOLOGY.
  • Some Guy: *whacks blob with a pillow* I told you to piss off!
  • Some Guy: Good, you should feel bad. You killed fifteen people. More people are probably going to die in the hospital. You've ruined lives!
  • Some Guy: It doesn't matter if they weren't my lives. It doesn't matter if their futures were uninteresting. They were people. They deserved to live just as much as I do. I get it. You're a fucking weird extra-dimensional thing. You're probably never going to leave me alone. But, can you please just learn some morality? Even the smallest bit?
  • Amorphous Blob: HUMAN, DO YOU REALLY CARE?
  • Some Guy: What do you mean?
  • Some Guy: I'm not.
  • Some Guy: Trust me, I'm irrevocably pissed at you.
  • Some Guy: *flings pillow at blob* Don't you try to turn this around on me. You're the one who manipulates fucking timelines or whatever. You can basically make me do whatever you want!
  • Some Guy: Change my behavior how?
  • Some Guy: Well, how the fuck do I stop myself from becoming a bad person? Should I volunteer?
  • Amorphous Blob: *appears behind guy and softly caresses his cheek* I DON'T KNOW. I ONLY SEE BAD FUTURES. AND YOU HAVE A LOT OF BAD FUTURES.

anonymous asked:

I feel like you're the modern day J.R.R Tolkien minus an anthology of fantasy books for your languages. However you do now have an anthology of TV shows you've helped with

Thing is the only difference between me and the literally thousands of other experienced conlangers is an opportunity. Consider the NBA. The NBA has about 450 players; the WNBA 144. There are probably another 450 at least around the world who are good enough to be in the NBA but aren’t, for one reason or another (maybe they just retired; maybe they’re good enough but are staying in college another year; maybe they play in a foreign league and aren’t interested; maybe they never got the right opportunity; maybe they just don’t want to play, etc.), and probably even more for the WNBA. There are a few thousand more who play in the NCAA who are really, really good at basketball. Then if you go to high school, there are thousands upon thousands who are really good at basketball. Then there are others who play for themselves and never played in high school or college but who are still pretty good. Then there’s who knows how many who would be good but never thought to play, or were never encouraged to. And that’s just in the States. You can do the same thing in every country in the world.

Now imagine one mid-level NBA player was transported to a planet where they have basketballs and hoops and courts, but for some reason no one really plays (maybe a couple people every twenty years or so). When that dude gets on the court he tears it up—best that planet has ever seen! That doesn’t change the fact that he’s a mid-level NBA player.

Now sports is a little more objective than art (i.e. if players are at about the same level, it’s hard to say which is better, but there’s no possible way to argue that someone like me is better than LeBron James. There are too many objective criteria to prove this false), so this analogy isn’t perfect. Because in art, you could maybe say one artist is “better” than another, but you can’t tell someone they like artist A more than artist B because artist A is “better” than artist B (you see people try to do this all the time when arguing about bands, movies, TV shows, actors, etc.). Bringing it back to conlanging, it may be the case that there are those who would prefer my conlang work even if there were better conlangers whose work was more visible (the last part being key). Even so, when the only comparison one can draw is to someone who died 43 years ago simply because there aren’t that many names to choose from, that suggests to me that the sample size is way too small.

Because there are fantastic conlangers out there—both in the past and active right now—who do amazing work. Many who do amazing work who have done more work than I have. There work is invisible to the majority of non-conlangers, though, because we generally don’t seek conlang work out, only paying attention to it when it’s attached to something else we engage with regularly (movies, TV shows, books, video games, etc.). That’s something I’d like to see change.

I know it’s tough to learn a language one needs to use for work or school or whatever, let alone learn one just for fun. I think conlangs, though, can occupy kind of a small space in a person’s life, rather like a video game. You take an hour or two (sometimes more, sometimes less) to play a game you like; you can do that with a conlang. You can do stuff with it: Tattoos, if that’s your thing; compose poems; translate quotes; draw something to put on the wall, etc. Something that you want to do with it. Like check this out:

This is a sign my friend @sopih made for me in honor of moving in to my new house. It’s written in Tepatic glyphs, and it basically means “Congrats on the new house!” I freaking LOVE this. It sits on my desk (where I spend most of my time), and I’m keeping it forever. It means more to because @sopih wrote it in his conlang and did the brushwork himself. That’s something you can do with your own conlang or someone else’s. And there are thousands out there, so there’s always something new to check out!

Anyway, I do appreciate the compliment, so thank you, but at all times, I feel the weight of the thousands of conlangers I came from—because if Dave and Dan had chosen a different Dothraki proposal, I would be another unknown conlanger who had a lot of incredible work to offer that might never be seen.