you may approach me

Alright nerds, today we are going to discuss headphone etiquette.

You walk into your favorite hang out joint and you see a dear friend. How grand! However, you see their headphones are in use and you have not the slightest clue how to approach them. Here is a helpful guide on how to decipher the code.

Both headphones on/earbuds in: Leave them alone, especially if they are hunched over a laptop, a book or their phone. This means they do not want to be disturbed. It is okay to give a small wave, head tilt or smile as acknowledgement.

One earbud is out: This means said person is listening out for something and not fully engaged with what is being listened to. You may approach, but watch for body language that says ‘leave me alone’. Examples are: crossed arms, little to no eye contact, short one word answers.

Headphones/earbuds out: You may approach! This one is not enjoying music/audio books on their device currently, and it is deemed okay to talk to said person.

Note: If someone sees you, and takes off their music delivering device from their head, that means they desire to talk to you! Smile, and enjoy a lovely conversation.

You taking off my headphones/earbuds: Run. Because no jury will convict me.

just a friendly reminder: please do not to approach someone you do not know and start naming random ethnic groups you may think they belong to. our ethnicity is not your guessing game. if you are genuinely curious, ask if the conversation is appropriate. otherwise, just keep your suspicions to yourself. thanks.

Tips for people who have just begun training a martial art:

Since I started training Bajiquan I’ve had the opportunity to first-hand experience and remember what both “being the new girl/guy” means and what training with new girls/guys is like. I’ve trained in other styles and gone through different gyms/dojos in the past, so this list is not exclusive to chinese martial arts. Note that I am a woman from Chile and there may be some cultural differences between you and me. My approach to train is a strict one rather than a friendly, light-hearted one, and I’m aware some may differ with it. That’s ok. Feel free to reblog and add anything you want from your own experiences too.

- Always arrive on time. Earlier is even better. Especially when you are new. You don’t do this to receive recognition from your Master, you do it to let them know you are commited to your training and studies and respect their teachings. It’s good manners, too.

- When you do arrive late for whatever reason, don’t interrupt the class. Apologize privately to your Master and do not give excuses or explain your reasons unless you are asked. Promise, both to yourself and your master that you’ll try to let these situations happen as little as possible. This is about respect.

- Chances are, you’ll feel nervous and silly the first classes. And that’s okay. Martial arts are both a physical and mental discipline. Your head may be filled with questions such as “Am I doing this right?”, “Do I look silly?”, “Is my body too tense, or too relaxed?”, “Do I need to fix my clothes?”, “What are they thinking about me?”, “Shit, I suck”, “What’s the point of doing this?” With time, these questions and doubts will either get answered or fade away from your mind. One of the hardest aspects of martial arts (and life itself) is overcoming your thoughts. Especially when doing zazen in japanese arts, or holding a horse stance. Push through it and try to ignore your thoughts as much as you can with the knowledge that it’s part of your training. 

- When receiving direct instruction, ask questions if you have them. If you are not sure about something, ask. Never keep them to yourself if it means you’ll do things halfway. Talk clear and be direct. Both your instructor and your training partner will appreciate it. You are here to learn.

- Don’t talk too much in class, and definitely don’t talk about things that have nothing to do with your training IN class. You have the internet and friends to do that all the time you’re not in your gym/dojo/dojang/kwoon/etc. If someone starts talking to you about trivial stuff when sparring or practicing applications, either don’t reply or just reply with a “hm” sound. They’ll get it. This is not about being mean, but about avoiding distractions. Remember, you’re here to train. Friendship develops naturally as time passes.

- Be quiet, but remember to be kind and courteous to other students and your Master. Treat them with respect and use good language when interacting with them. Being serious about your training doesn’t equal being unapproachable. When someone who knows less than you gets something right, congratulate them. A small smile here and there doesn’t do any harm.

- Leave your ego outside your gym/dojo/dojang/kwoon. No, seriously. Don’t be an arrogant jerk. No one likes to be around “that guy”. We, as students, are supposed to help each other learn and work alongside each other. This is not a competition to see who is the best. For example, the other day I had a nerdish dude come train with me on the wooden dummys section and he insisted on staying in “his” dummy instead of switching with me every 5 minutes like our instructor said so. Thing is, we have one Wing Chun dummy and one Baji dummy. He was training on the Wing Chun one, as it was supposedly “harder”. Because of his ego all he got was bad technique from wrong positioning and sore arms. Don’t be that guy.

- When told to do something by your Master, don’t stop until they tell you so. This means that If they told you to do 25 kicks with each leg, and you’ve already finished it and your master is busy, keep doing it. Better to do that than to stay there standing up like a fool losing time.

- For fucks sake, when practicing applications (in my case, Qin Na) use force as needed and aim to where you are supposed to aim. The point of practicing applications is to develop muscle memory and understand the core principles of our movements and techniques. The logic behind action. Ideally, with time your body should be learning these techniques to apply them to a resisting, active opponent as a natural reaction. Because of this you really aren’t doing your classmate a favor by reaching out your arm next to him instead of aiming to his face as you should be doing. He is going to end up learning the technique the wrong way and won’t be prepared or remotedly used to have a blow coming for his face. This doesn’t mean you should hit them. Go for their head at a slower speed, and retrieve your arm if needed. They’ll thank you in the end. And holy shit, when someone is applying a hold on you, don’t act as dead weight. That’s what bags are there for. Try to simulate a resisting opponent according to their level, but please don’t drop dead.

- Show your classmates the respect they deserve by training seriously. Even if they don’t return the favor. If someone is weaker or has less experience than you, they deserve to learn as much as you or anyone with a higher level does. Don’t understimate them and don’t look down on them. Treat them with the dignity and respect all martial artist deserve, regardless of sex or age.

- Train at home and be diligent. I don’t care if you think you don’t have time or space to do so. You do. If you can extend your arm, then you can train. Do all over again everything you learned in class. Practice your forms and fists as much as possible. Your instructor is there to guide you at your gym, but if you don’t train what you learn there at home or use your free time to improve as a martial artist you won’t get far. 3-4 hours per week is not enough. Always strive to be the best you can be, there’s always room to improve. Eat well, drink as little alcohol as possible and as much water as your body needs, don’t smoke and work on your body too. Train each muscle group separatedly, lose weight if you deem it necessary, train strength, train your grip, train your endurance and stamina. Work on your speed. Condition your body to be hit and learn to control pain. Don’t be mediocre. Become the best version of yourself.

Anddd I think that’s it. If I remember anything else, I’ll edit this and add it. Like I said before, feel free to reblog and add your own tips. shaped-by-karate I’d appreciate if you could give this a reblog so it can reach the MA community better.

Thanks for reading, train hard and live well.

my two settings:

ON: I am in work mode, which means I am working actively to be social and chipper. This takes effort. I am literally expanding energy.

OFF: I am relaxed and in my natural state, but if you approach me too quickly expecting social interaction I may bite you. 

Preordering Sonic Amiibo
  • Me: *approaches counter*
  • Clerk: "May I help you?"
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Moon in Gemini

Since I was a little girl people have been telling me I remind them of some character, mostly from a fantasy realm, anytime they see me.
Even strangers may approach me to tell me “hey you remind me so much of …”
The same person one day tells me I am an elf, the day after I am an alien, the day after I might be nymph, a cat, a fairy a dragon or a matrix character.

Somehow they all fit me. 

I can be all or none of them at the same time and it would always be just me. I don’t act or dress up to be like somene else, I just feel there are infinite parts of me that people see time to time.


thanks babe x