I feel like I'm a horrible person because I can rly like someone when there's no 'feelings' involved but then when they start getting romantic feelings for me that makes me extremely uncomfortable.. and then they feel hurt and don't want to even stay in touch any more. I just figured out I'm probably aro, so I guess the best thing for me to do is being clear from the start that I'm not into romance and that I need my space? Do u have any advice?
first off, you’re definitely not a horrible person for that. you’re allowed to feel whatever kinds of love/attraction you’re capable of, and being incapable of the romantic kind does not have any effect on your worth as a person. being uncomfortable when others are romantic towards you is 1000% okay, anon. you’re not obligated to be happy or grateful about their feelings.
in my opinion, i think you should do what you think is best for you. you’re not obligated to tell people your personal feelings, but if you think it would help you get over obstacles like this, then there’s no harm in it.
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