I quit my first study after 3 months because of a burnout. The next year I wanted to start easy again so I did a study beneath my level for a year. It didnt satisfy so I started uni after that year. Now when I tell people my age and that im in my third study, they give me this "ew youre dumb/lazy/undiciplined" look..I dont want to tell them about my burnout, cus thats really personal, but I feel really down when it happens. Im working really hard in uni but people always assume the worst, right?
I’ll be blunt here and say don’t let anyone make you feel inferior about your choices in education. They have no say in it. They don’t know what you’ve been through and, with my small understanding of your situation, your decisions were completed warranted. I’m sure each time you did serious thinking about it. I don’t think it’s a decision you’ll have made lightly. You shouldn’t feel like you have to justify your choices to anyone, no matter what they might be thinking. I’d agree people assume the worst. In a way, I feel it’s them trying to feel superior to you. I know in my journalism classes, people were dropping out/changing majors in the first few weeks of the semester and everyone sort of had a smug look as if they were generally smarter/more suited to the course because other people were leaving. When I changed majors and dropped the journalism class, I had a girl message me a question on Facebook about an assignment and then correct herself by saying “oh wait. you dropped out.” In the way she said it, it made me like I wasn’t good enough to stay in the course and she was judging me for that. To me, she assumed that it was “too hard” for me when in reality, I’d spent weeks debating whether it was really the career path I wanted. I think in this instance people assume a lot about you by your choices - generally that you’re not as smart as them. But honestly, I think if you’re able to make those really important decisions about your education/career, mental health, etc, you’re the better person. As I think now, it was 100% the best choice for me. No matter what that girl, or anyone in the course, thought. I’m sure you know deep down that everything you did was to benefit you and with that I think you shouldn’t be bothered by anyone else’s opinion xx