you have to understand this

i think it must be really comforting for women with men in their lives, especially straight women, to think that sexual abuse is limited to a specific group of men who are connected and not that any man is capable of violence under the right circumstances and a huge percentage of them won’t even understand it as violence.

you all have to live with them for free and you close your eyes to their warning signs.

i get paid and I get to see them in full, and I tell you it’s a rare husband or father or brother of yours that isn’t capable of rape or other violence.

With a new wave of Wedge Antilles fans, there’s a new wave of ‘oh god why didn’t that actor come back for episode VII’* posts and I just… *head in hands*

I get it! I get it. It would have been nice to see Wedge one more time. But like… as far as I can tell, Wedge was meant to be where Lor San Tekka was. Which means he’d probably be completely, absolutely dead. I don’t want that. Also, it should hardly be a surprised - Lawson was asked if he’d like a part in Revenge of the Sith and gave a pretty swift no on that one, too.

Watch this interview. Just watch Denis Lawson’s face when the interviewer brings up Star Wars at 3:24 or so. (Also, note – Denis only has one ‘n’ in it. Maybe the Star Wars credits guys couldn’t get it right, but we CAN.) That is a man who does not particularly care for it. And why should he – it was a couple of weeks work, at most, done early on in his career. Hell, he wasn’t even the first choice for Wedge Antilles! (That’s why we have fake!Wedge in the Yavin briefing scene!)

This is a man with a long, varied, and interesting career, who won an Olivier and was nominated for an Emmy, who’s been in some much beloved British film and television series, and has done some really stunning work: wouldn’t you be annoyed if all anyone wanted to talk to you about was a series of movies you had a bit part in forty years ago where you didn’t even do anything interesting? (Also, by all accounts he’s perfectly lovely and cordial towards private Star Wars fans at conventions etc. And he did agree to do some more Star Wars work in 2001, when we provided some fresh voice-over for Wedge in one of the Rogue Squadron video games.)

I mean, just… please, before you begrudge his lack of patience with Star Wars, maybe watch something else he’s been in, and you’ll appreciate how utterly wasted he was on Star Wars?

He was in Local Hero (1983) playing scottish hotel owner / accountant / town leader Gordon Urquhart, in possibly the most charming movie I’ve ever seen, about an American oil company attempting to buy up a Scottish village. (Also has baby!Peter Capaldi in, if that’s to your taste)

Or how about british telly institution New Tricks, where the Metropolitan Police forms a unit out of retired police officers to help crack unsolved cases. He’s in series 9 through 12 of this, and is a delight as grumpy scottish detective Steve McAndrew.

Or The Ambassador, where he plays MI6 agent John Stone, liason and friend to the British Ambassador to Ireland just after the troubles / before the Good Friday agreement. They only made two series of this delightful little show, but he’s fantastic in it. (US viewers note that I believe this is on Amazon Prime for you, it may be available elsewhere)

Or, you know, Dead Head (1986) aka, the one where he’s handcuffed to the bathtub and you see his bottom a lot? He plays Eddie Cass, a man who finds himself accused of murder and on the run from the British Security Services.

Essentially he’s been in a whole lot of things. You could also check out Bleak House (2005) (period victorian drama, Dickens, stars Gillian Anderson and about everyone else ever), Marchlands (2012) (period post war drama, also has Alex Kingston) or Kit Curran (he wears the most obnoxiously eighties outfits ever. Reunites him with Lindsay Duncan in s2). Or like… just check out his IMDB page. He’s good in pretty much everything I’ve ever seen him in :D And remember that, yes, he might well be Wedge and we love him for it, but oh gosh he is so much more than that.

(One last thing: if you are curious about Denis, I’d also recommend this absolutely charming interview with his nephew, Ewan McGregor, if only for a) the giddy way he says ‘I got to work with my Uncle Denis!’ and b) the sheepish look on his face when he brings up Denis being in Star Wars, as if to say, sorry Uncle, I know you hate talking about it :D)

Regarding Jared

I trust most of you guys have seen @jdumblr‘s fabulous timeline of last weekend! If you haven’t, go check it out.

I see a lot of you have responded with concern - which is totally understandable, by the way - so I’d like to offer my thoughts on the situation.

I don’t think there’s anything badly wrong with Jared right now. Sure, he might be tired, but what I see above all else is defiance. Jared invited his fans and followers to join him at San Jac, where he generously spilled the baby knews before the official announcement. Isn’t that something a rebellious man might do, especially when his “wife” is trying to solidate her career by making the baby announcement in a commercial campaign?

He not only snagged the rug from under her feet with that announcement, but proceeded to party for two more days - still wearing the same clothes on Sunday as he did on Saturday, making sure people could connect the dots that he didn’t go home to change inbetween the nights.

This doesn’t look like sad Jared to me. This looks like Jared doing whatever he likes, damn the campaign and damn appearances. Maybe a line was finally crossed when G and Popandsuki decided to co-operate on that campaign? It’s up for speculation, of course.

Originally posted by sunrisejared

Downton Rewatch (Season 1): part ii

- oh my gOD Bates get a hold of yourself. so william comes barreling through the door and spills Thomas’ tea all over him and thomas gets mad. and says something snotty. wow. call the constable, what an effing crime. like. now thomas has tea all over his clothes so he’s either got to go and change (which i’m sure he has just masses of other clothes no problem right) or wait for it to dry, during which time if Mr. Carson catches him he’s going to get a verbal thrashing. DO EITHER OF THOSE OPTIONS SOUND APPEALING. like I am the first to admit that thomas is the most…JUST THE MOST. but don’t treat him like he just ripped the head off of a baby lamb for having a reaction jesus BACK OFF BATES

- oh good lord when Daisy says, “i’d do anything for you” and Thomas glows - ACTUALLY GLOWS - with something like pride and wonder and genuine surprise. i mean in the next second his face shifts and he does this villainous little smirk sure yeah because that’s a weapon, that’s something to defend yourself with if you need it, something to use against other people duh. (honestly i don’t know how anyone who isn’t a slytherin makes sense of the world but okay) but in that moment before, there was bare vulnerability and it was fucking beautiful. shit. i’m gonna make a shitty gif of it because you guys have got to see this shit.

THOMAS. (90% of my live action commentary watching this show is just me yelling out in a pained and strangled voice THUHMASSS).

-this is a real live actual conversation that happens.

OB: [plotting against Bates} What we need to do is to make him a suspect when something’s really been stolen.

Thomas: How do we know anything’s been stolen?

OB: Because you stole it, you noodle.

You are both noodles, and this is a terrible idea.

- side note: how fucking spot on is it that when there are scenes happening in Carson’s office or the servants hall you can hear Mrs. Patmore and Daisy bickering in the background. I mean. I take this show to task for a lot but wow that is some tight storytelling.

- man do i miss the good ole days of Thomas and OB plotting and smoking in the courtyard. iconic.

- there is not much i find more delightful than Thomas saying “sod ‘em.” why can’t he have been given more dirty lines please…why is RJC’s ridiculous accent so fucking soothing. SEE HOW SOOTHED I AM. i am currently just a skin bag of loose bones and honey.

- Daisy and Mrs. Patmore are fuking underappreciated. Daisy misunderstanding Mrs. Patmore and thinking she’s supposed to poison the food while Mrs. P is away for eye surgery is one of the best and most subtle moments of comedic genius in television history.

- why is watching Thomas putting food in his mouth…so erotic. i did not ask for this. i was perfectly happy not knowing this about myself.

- okay so look. i am the first (okay maybe not the first) to admit that Thomas says and does some mean shit. he’s not perfect! some days…he is so overwhelmingly far from perfect that hypothetically you have to go have a good long talk with yourself in the bathroom mirror about why the eff it’s one o clock in the morning and you are lulling yourself to sleep with VIVID fantasies of putting a grown man in the bathtub, washing the pomade out of his hair, and seeing what kinds of noises he makes when you skritch the back of his head. hypothetically. i can only imagine that’s what it would be like because none of this is personal experience. but also let’s not pretend that i won’t defend Thomas to the everloving end. yes, it is not his finest moment to make light of a woman losing her pregnancy or a young person losing their mother, BUT for fuck’s sake why does no one seem to have a problem with people putting their hands on Thomas in violence, holy shit.

- aghhhhh the fact that Thomas holds himself so still, head so high and proud when he’s got bruises on his face. It is the Don’t Fucking Touch Me Stillness, cousin to his Blank Look of Shame, and you all know how i feel about that.

- hahahahahhah ohhhhhhh well fuck me i guess branson/sybil/gwen was the ot3 i didn’t even know i wanted. 

UP NEXT IN SEASON 2: THOMAS SURROUNDED BY MEN IN UNIFORM, HOW WILL HE DEAL (spoiler alert: badly and with lots of looks of PANGED LONGING)

Hey my dudes, please don’t tag/respond to my work that has vulva imagery with anything that suggests that it’s inherently feminine because I, the non-binary trans artist who created it, don’t intend for it to be read that way. 

It’s fantastic if you find empowerment by it or connection to it if you identify as female and happen to have those parts, but my intention is to leave my work ungendered. I hate to see trans/nb identities steamrolled due to people spreading my work with the suggestion that because it’s a vulva it must feminine. It’s not, and I need you to respect that. There are men and non-binary people like myself who have vaginas, who knew!

Thank you for understanding, have a great evening!

anonymous asked:

Ah, but the human mind is a powerful force! Or have you forgotten a pair of kitten-fists, hmm? And not once have I mentioned actually *eating* you---you came to that conclusion all on your own, heh. I simply was curious of your taste; a bit of teeth never hurt no body... assuming I planned to bite with force 😆

EVER THE MORE REASON WHY TO RUN FROM IT!

INTP Why

INTP: So Teacher, I don’t exactly understand this. Can you tell me why it works?

Teacher: You don’t need to know why it works, just do this and that and you’ll get the answer.

INTP: *getting desperate* No, you don’t understand. I have to know why!

Teacher: INTP, I don’t think you understand-

INTP: That’s why I’m asking WHY!

That awkward moment where Cal does something socially inept and you’re like, “What the actual hell is wrong with you? Do you have no understanding of other human beings?”

And then you realize that Cal was pretty much raised under a rock and has literally no idea what a messed up little puppy he is.

Originally posted by sirenja-and-the-stag

(In this case, the scene where someone asks if Cal likes art and he’s like, “Nope, I just used it to try to understand people because otherwise I had no idea. Now all I need is creepy cult art. Give me money so I can fix your son.”)

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Neighbors

genre: fluff

summary: hyunggu is your new neighbor

a/n: for my girl @pentagon-fics | I actually read through this before posting so there shouldn’t be like spelling or grammar issues, but if so, I suck sorry

Originally posted by bbykino

“Ugh, finally.”

You groaned as you set down the heavy box that you’d packed to the brim. Why you insisted on having so many shoes you’ll never understand. And why your new apartment’s elevator decided not to work the day you moved in, you’ll also never understand.

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I think my plan of attack is to go on hiatus and return when I have more time, more energy, and more ability to finish the things I want finished. 

I will still be around to send messages or whatever, but I probably won’t post again until maybe May or June.

If I do post, it will only be as an update or part of something scheme of mine, rather than a sign that I have returned.

I hope you all can understand why I am doing this and I hope you won’t be mad at me.

Hey buns ! It’s that time of year again when college finals are approaching and I’m running my face into the ground trying to keep up with my daunting workload. Because of this I’ve been keeping my queue filled and trying to check in at least once every week or so. I’ve started to notice that most of my inbox messages nowadays are consisting of asking me for title names of older caps I’ve made in the past that are being recirculated through the queue. Since I don’t know what specific images you guys are referring to when you ask me ‘what my last post was’ (since I’m not on as often), if you can’t find my original tags with the name in it then please send me the post in a message and I’ll be happy to send you the title when I have the spare time!! Thanks for understanding !

Originally posted by ikemen-escape

Perfect Life

Peter Pevensie x reader

Anon request

Word Count: 3883

Warnings: ANGST (You really have to understand the story to get the end)

A/N: Would you look at that? I actually got something ready to post! I do have a second part in the works for this, but don’t expect it to make the angst better. Hope you like it! Let me know what you think!

Originally posted by writingissatansworstnightmare

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anonymous asked:

Hi, Steven. I asked the question about the parallel between the late Roman republic and our own situation. Your response gave me something to think about, and I'm grateful for that. Given its opening statement, though, I think you understand the frustration of feeling like you have offered an open hand, only to have it slapped aside by those across the aisle. How do we move forward? I'm a firm believer in GRRM's doing what's right because the choice matters, but practical results also matter.

I think the problem is that we have a political culture that likes the idea of compromise in a rather gauzy, unreflective, moderate-isn’t-an-ideology way, but a political system that functions the complete opposite: Republican control of Congress in the 90s and 2010s was built on relentless opposition to Democratic presidents who were more than eager to do the bipartisan grand bargain thing, and vice-versa Democratic control of Congress in the mid-00s was built on opposition to W. and the war. 

And you can see why - the structure of the government (from federalism to separation of powers to bicameralism to midterm elections and on and on) makes getting things done extremely hard and makes opposition very easy, but our electorate expects the party in party to govern responsibly and political parties to compromise, but votes to punish the party in power (and rewards the opposition) when gridlock happens. 

So one of two things needs to happen to eliminate this frustration: we either need to adopt a system that genuinely allows for majority rule - eliminate the filibuster, abolish or reform the Senate so it’s not so horribly anti-proportional, align elections and voting procedures to provide a clear popular mandate - and then adopt a political culture that holds the majority party responsible for governing and the minority responsible for opposition, or we need to rewrite the system in such a way that both requires and allows for compromise - which would probably look like a highly-proportional parliamentary system with lots of political parties forming governing coalitions. 

Episode Thoughts

Frankly, not much on my part.. (also, it’s hard to understand ones writing when you have a kitty cat on your lap)

- Um, so when is Tink suppose to be in Neverland, timeline wise?

- Regina ‘loves’ the townfolks like I ‘love’ this show.

- Henry figures this is probably better than the flying monkey stepdad.

- Are they gonna have sex in the grave?

- How the hell did the magic scissors get there? Rumple, stop burying stuff! First your dagger, now these?

‘Hello, season 6a guest star, who’s DEFINITELY been in Storybrooke this whole time.’

- And Once Upon a Bondage returns!

- Gold rope…enchanted rope….Take note, smut writers.

- How the hell did she know what he looked like? He died when her father was young.

- Yes, Emma is upset that her fiance is burning his memories. Not that he’s responsible for the death of her grandfather…. Makes sense in Insaneville…er…Storybrooke.

- Are the hearts breeding?

- Are the two Reginas gonna make out?

- Okay, they just hug.

- But they definitely had sex during commercial break. Now, they’re cleaning things up.

- For god’s sake, LEARN TO LOCK YOUR DAMN SHOP, RUMPLE! Then maybe people wouldn’t be stealing your shit every other episode. This is also why you can’t sell anything, because they just help themselves to whatever they want!

- Um, Zelena, weren’t you conspiring with the Evil Queen a few episodes back? 

- And again, who’s watching your kid? Did she go back to her crib at the Nun-Hut or is Granny babysitting both her & Neal tonight instead of being at her own restaurant that the hero-squad now uses as their hangout.

- Thus ends another long plot that could have been avoided if people would just listen to Rumple once in awhile.

- The Evil Queen & Robin’s date goes fine until AU-Rumple crashes their date and hauls their asses back to the dungeons.

- Ah, and there’s my favorite Fuck-Up. :) Gideon!

- And somewhere, Belle resumes her 8th straight day of searching for her son in the woods, stopping only to change outfits.

anonymous asked:

Hiya! I'm a bit confused about how I identify as well...(obviously I'm not the anon from before, but I saw your response to their ask and was wondering if you could maybe attempt to help me as well...If it makes you uncomfortable you 100% don't have to answer, I totally understand). (Also, I have social anxiety, so I hope you don't mind me being on anon...). Anyway, I'm a bit confused about..what gender is, I guess? If that makes sense? Basically, cis doesn't feel "wrong" to me (1/4)

but I literally do not understand what gender is, so I have no way of knowing if that’s what I really am. I see a lot of posts that say things like “there is no difference between a “boy’s” brain and a “girl’s” brain, and that boys can be feminine and girls can be masculine and trans boys can still be feminine and trans girls can still be masculine and agender people and genderfluid people and nonbinary people etc. all exist…but if all of this is true (not saying it’s not), then what (2/4)

exactly is the difference between these genders and identities? How can you tell what gender you are if there isn’t any difference? What is it that makes someone a “boy” or someone else a “girl” or someone else a different gender than that? Or even having no gender? What makes these genders what they are and not anything else? I’m really sorry if that’s confusing, I can’t really explain it very well. (I’m also really sorry if I accidentally offended you or anyone else, and I promise that (¾)

that is definitely not my intent). Thank you so much if you are able to answer, and even if you aren’t (and I’m sorry to bother you! I hope you have a nice day!) (4/4)

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Hoo boy…okay I’m going to do my best to explain but forgive me if it’s a bit disjointed because I’m not an expert at all and I’m usually very incoherent

The most basic truth of gender vs sex is gender is what your head tells you you are and your sex is just what genitals you have.

While it’s true that there aren’t as clear divisions between most “male” and “female” brains there are in people who have a very clear and definite feeling of their gender being one or the other. This applies to both cis people who strongly identify as their assigned gender and trans people in relation to the gender they identify as.

As in a trans woman who strongly identifies as such will have a ‘female’ coded brain.

Most people have a vaguer brain map which falls between the two. In other words most people are in some ways technically non-binary. (I don’t have references for this because I learned it from my super smart friend but now I can’t find the post she made about it.)

Some ways having a gender that is different from your sex can affect you:

Gender Dysphoria:

Some people feel that their genitals are very much at odds with what their brain tells them and they hate their body because it’s not what their brain tells them it should be.  

Some people (like me) don’t hate their genitals but either all the time or sometimes feel the ache of what should be there but isn’t. It doesn’t come with self-hatred but it’s profoundly uncomfortable.

Gender Euphoria:

This is a joy and happiness that comes from being correctly recognised as your actual gender. It’s a sense of “yes that’s right” It’s perfectly possible to have this and not dysphoria and still be non-binary or trans.

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Knowing what gender you are can be difficult. Some people prefer to avoid labels altogether other people embrace labels.

For me growing up I didn’t have tumblr or any access to even the idea of non-binary or genderfluid at all.

I used to watch documentaries on transgenderism with fascination knowing it wasn’t quite right for me (I didn’t want to be a boy) but that it spoke to a part of me.

When I was a teenager I found a book of short stories by Neil Gaiman in my local library. I believe it was the book Smoke and Mirrors.

Anyway, in the story titled Changes a pill is developed that cures cancer but also changes a person’s sex. It had people who changed it for the weekend, or often switched back and forth and I remember thinking at the time “I would love that. I would take that pill all the time. Just constantly switching back and forth” it was the first thing in my life that suggested fluidity of gender and I nearly cried. I read that story so many times because it spoke to me on a deep level.

Still I didn’t really realise I was gender fluid until the last couple of years when I became familiar with the concept.

Now…here’s another thing. There is a difference between gender and gender expression.

Someone who identifies solely as a male can wear a dress because they “look good” and that’s fine. That doesn’t change the fact that they identify as male.

A non-binary person wearing a dress is also doing it because they “look good” and that’s fine and doesn’t change the fact they identify as non-binary.

A person who identifies as female can wear a dress because they “look good” and that’s fine etc etc.

What a person wears or acts is individual expression and it doesn’t change the gender that they feel they are.

If wearing trousers for instance made you male a lot of cis women would be classed as men…but that’s not how it works. Style and fashion and personal expression can complement the gender a person is but it does not define it.

Personally because I am genderfluid I tend to wear more stereotypically male things when I feel male and stereotypically female things when I feel female and that’s solely to combat dysphoria and to feel more comfortable in my own skin.

I can see how that could be confusing to someone on the outside but as I said to my cis husband when they wondered if Kiddo was saying they were bi-gender just because they like things that stereotypically ‘girly’: “You’re CIS, have you ever really seriously questioned your gender or felt your head and your bits didn’t match?” to which he replied “Oh…yeah okay I get it now”

Because he hasn’t ever questioned it or felt it at odds and it’s a big claim to make if you don’t feel it inside.

But it’s also okay to be confused. To not know.  To think you’re A and then realise later you’re actually B.

Figuring it out takes time when you’re discovering both yourself and the very concept of gender beyond the binary.

It’s not a new concept in the world. A large part of the world has always known and understood there are more than two genders. Western society is just catching up to the rest of the world and it’s okay to be confused and unsure. There is no time limit on when you can figure these things out.

Here is a link to a comic that explains a lot about gender and sexualities

Here is a link to Katie Couric’s exploration of gender for the National Geographic. I haven’t watched it but I included it as my mom has said it was really helpful for her.

I hope that helped a bit! Despite my rambling and disjointed explanations!

anonymous asked:

I don't think you understand how big of a crush I have on you

ummmm honestly i’ve been struggling to find anything i like about myself lately. so ty luv u

anonymous asked:

Reader give lecture Arme, how to properly use his weapon and Mochi have much fun with this scene. Thank you ♥

“I don’t understand!” Arme hisses at Mochi, grasping his glass-like sword tightly. “Why am I doing less damage than you?! I should be a better damage dealer than some mere support class of mine!”

“Because Arme,” you butt in suddenly. “You’re not playing right.”

He turns around with a look of disbelief on his face. “Excuse me? How exactly would you know that?” 

“You know you have a passive called Reinforced ‘Projection’, right?” You elaborate, bringing up his skill tables. You point at the passive, smiling at Arme, who blinks in surprise. “Whenever you use a skill that projects your weapon, you gain a stack. And whenever you gain a stack, it’ll increase your damage. You have to use a skill every 15 seconds in order to keep said stack, otherwise you’ll lose said stacks.”

Arme winces, staring at his projected sword. “Ah…”

“You don’t spam a lot.” you point out.

Arme bites his lip. “I prefer to combo.”

“And,” Mochi adds in. “Your skills have too much actives. Where are your 200 and more MP skills?~” he chides, glaring teasingly at Arme’s skill slots. “That might be why I’m doing more damage too…~”

The holy celestial faintly blushes in embarrassment. He feels like these people know more about him than himself. He crosses his arms, nodding.

“…I… I see…”

“Oh fuck.” You widen your eyes after looking over his gear. “Jesus Arme your gear’s fucking broken too what the fuc-”

“SILENCE-!”