you have emotional problems

anonymous asked:

I like Mary. I think she's awesome. I don't see why she has to be evil.

Oh, boy, okay.

Listen you can like Mary all you want – I loved her too before the fucked up her entire story arc – but her entire arc was building up to be a villain, and a badass one that was going to go down with a fight. 

I’m REALLY not trying to be pedantic here, Nonny, but asks like this force me to pull out receipts, all of which I’m sure you’re not going to read, because who likes to be proved wrong, but I digress. I always end up sounding more harsh than I am when all I want to do is educate you on my perspective and what the narrative is teaching us.

THAT’S Why she’s a villain. When a character kills the title character of a show, they are coded as the bad guy unless they do a redemption arc that actually is a redemption.

Mary had NO redemption arc AT ALL. Even in S4, Mary is STILL manipulating and emotionally abusing Sherlock and John against each other with her fucking creepy-assed DVDs and her belittling of John in T6T. She still runs off to go do her little assassin things and still lied and manipulated everyone. And I know the argument is going to come up, but Mary’s gunshot was NOT a redemption. A redemption arc has the ex-villain doing a good deed and being genuinely sorry for their past actions. Not ONCE Mary has ever apologized for any of the shit she put everyone through. All of it was a plan, especially if she had creepy DVDs made FAIRLY RECENTLY (you can tell because of the hair style) to send out to people. Also:


That and Mary’s entire death scene was RIDICULOUS and completely contradicted EVERY rule that was established in this universe only 2 episodes prior on how characters die.

Nonny, Mary’s character arc is one I have been passionate about for many years, even before I was a Johnlocker, because her character was fascinating to me, and helped me understand the psychology and make sense of events that were happening in my life at the time. Right up until TAB, Mary was being coded as the next Moriarty. For some reason or another, Mofftiss decided to turn her into an “assassin with an heart of gold” and failed spectacularly.

If Mary truly was good, she WOULD HAVE TOLD JOHN FROM THE BEGINNING WHO SHE WAS, OR AT LEAST TOLD SHERLOCK SHE NEEDED HELP. HLV would have not played out as it did. Instead deciding that killing Sherlock was her only option so that she could continue to manipulate John, since she knew he was most malleable when he was grieving Sherlock.

You can read Mary’s character however you want, I could care less… well okay apparently I do because of this reply… But please, seriously consider that what became of her character really made no goddamned sense to the narrative arc the built for her and quite frankly really lazy writing. Just because she is a woman, doesn’t mean that she is nice and sweet and not abusive. Excusing her of her brand of emotional abuse and manipulation is really sexist.

People thought my mother was a nice person, too.

su crit: *points out legitimate problems of the show like the ignorance about framing a human zoo as a utopia, the disregard of characters like Bismuth and the Rubies, the over coddling of Pearl, how the Diamonds are being framed as sympathetic despite being tyrants, the dissolving characterization, etc etc*

su stans:

su crit: lol Lapis’ color scheme is bright. Also I didn’t like this one episode because-

su stans: WOW look how petty this wannabe crit is if you don’t like the Best Show then stop watching l m a o

When you’re in an ill mood, learn to pass it off as simply that: an unavoidable human condition that will pass with time, if you leave it alone. A low mood is not the time to analyze your life. To do so is emotional suicide. If you have a legitimate problem, it will still be there when your state of mind improves. The trick is to be grateful for our good moods and graceful in our low moods - not taking them too seriously. The next time you feel low, for whatever reason, remind yourself ‘This too shall pass’. It will.
—  Richard Carlson
INFJ with Emotions
  • INFJ: oh yeah, I'm a very emotional person. Discussing emotions is very interesting to me and I think it's healthy and important to sort through emotions and talk them out when you have problems going on that are making you stressed, nervous, or anxious.
  • Negative Emotions: *show up*
  • INFJ: conceal don't feel don't let them know

Hello everyone. I hope you’re having a good day, and honestly? I hope you’ve no need of this spell, but I’m sharing it anyways, just in case! 

This spell is designed to be used in situations where you are overwhelmed with negative emotions, but are not in a position to process them just yet. I’ve done this a few times over the years, and it can be very helpful in managing your emotions and getting things done in times of severe stress!

The goal of this spell is not to bind yourself or permanently cut yourself off from your emotions. Rather, the goal (and effect) is to chill yourself and your emotions a bit for a temporary period so that you can solve problems. Then, when the time is right, the chill thaws, and the emotions flow back in gradually so you can process them.

The best thing about this spell, though, is that it’s great quick magick to do when the need arises, and doesn’t require fancy tools. It relies solely on visualization. While you could bring materials into it (more about that soon!), the core of it is visualization and feeling energy, so it’s very easy to do discreetly and when necessary.

The only material I’d recommend using would be a small bit of ice. The ice can help with the visualization and channeling the forces involved, but it isn’t necessary. 

If you are using ice, begin by touching it, feeling it, and putting the image of the ice strongly in your head. If you’re not doing that, do the same from memory, conjuring up images of cold, snow, ice cubes, and other elements of winter and freezing. 

Hold those images in your head. It’s actually pretty important in this to localize the sensations and images to your head to begin with, and to not let them completely permeate your entire being. Just imagine that your head is a sort of ice block, or filled with snow, or other cold substances.

Then, when you have the image fixed strongly in your mind, begin to gently (very, very gently - I must stress this) flow the ice energy downwards from your head, so that it sweeps down through you chest and into your heart. 

Don’t just dump it there - gently flow. You do not want to shock you system, but you do want to feel the flow of cold and coolness spreading through your chest.

 There’s no need to pull it further than your chest. After the power has saturated your heart area, you should feel a bit calmer, and your emotions should be more in-check, less overwhelming. 

When you’ve reached a safe point where you’re no longer forced to be in crisis mode, you can perform the same visualization, but with fire and heat instead of cold. Again, gently flow the energy down into your chest (again, very gently) and the emotions will “melt,” allowing you to slowly process them.

Weirdly, this spell does occasionally have unintended consequences, and seems to be actually able to alter weather patterns/temperature in you environment. Both of the most recent times I performed this spell were followed quickly by a cold snap here in the city. Just keep that in mind if you’re doing this!

I hope this spell is useful to you, but obviously I do hope you don’t often have cause to use it. I realize the concept of the spell (freezing yourself for a bit) seems scary, but think of it like cryogenic sleep for that part of yourself. 

It can be quite helpful, and is especially useful to do right before falling asleep if your worries and concerns are preventing you from resting. Mostly, though, I recommend it when your emotions are in turmoil, but you have work/problem-solving to do! 

Thanks for reading! Blessings to all who wish for them!


btvs + aesthetic | watcher & slayer

Wesley:  I didn't say you had emotional problems. 
I said you have *an* emotional problem. It’s quite different.Giles:  My 'attachment' to the Slayer is not a problem. 
Why The Types Make Great Friends

INTP: Once they’re comfortable with you, you can have the biggest debates over everything from aliens to taxes and it never ends up getting nasty.

INTJ: You know your friendship with them is sincere. In fact, everything they tell you is sincere. They won’t sugarcoat things with you.

INFJ: You can go to them with any problem and they will gladly listen and encourage you to do the right thing for you and others.

INFP: They’re always in touch with their emotions and have no problem communicating with you if something’s bothering them.

ISFP: They’re excellent if you’re ever in need of creative inspiration.

ISFJ: They’re always there if you need a shoulder to cry on.

ISTP: They’ll get you involved in hobbies and interests that you might not even know existed.

ISTJ: If you’ve won them over you have their loyalty for life. They are true and consistent friends.

ESTJ: You will always have somewhere to go if you’ve won their loyalty. They’re sure to include you in everything.

ESTP: They love to get out and will most likely take you places you’d never normally go.

ESFP: Helps you come out of your shell and learn how you can express how amazing you are.

ESFJ: They’re super sensitive to your needs and view it as their duty to be a good friend to you.

ENFJ: Seriously they have the social skills of all the other types combined. They will do everything in their power to make sure you’re happy and comfortable.

ENFP: Hanging out with them is like injecting positive energy into yourself. There is no negativity. Only sunshine and joy.

ENTP: Not only are they hilarious but they’re also very intelligent and can always offer the logical answer.

ENTJ: They’re always in the mood for a captivating conversation.


’ Lose an hour, gain an hour. ’
’ This is your life, and it’s ending one minute at a time. ’
’ Do you hear me now? ’
’ Okay, I got it. Shit, I lost it. ’
’ Fuck off with your sofa units and strine green stripe patterns. ’
’ Guys, what would you wish you’d done before you died? ’
’ What are you doing? ’
’ Fight Club was the beginning. ’
’ Turn the wheel now, come on! ’
’ You have to know the answer to this question! ’
’ If you died right now, how would you feel about your life? ’
’ I wouldn’t feel anything good about my life, is that what you want to hear me say? ’
’ Now, a question of etiquette - as I pass, do I give you the ass or the crotch? ’
’ I didn’t create some loser alter-ego to make myself feel better. ’
’ Hey, you created me. ’
’  Take some responsibility! ’
’ This is it - ground zero. ’
’ Would you like to say a few words to mark the occasion? ’
’ People are always asking me if I know, _______. ’
’ With a gun barrel between your teeth, you speak only in vowels. ’
’ I can’t think of anything. ’
’ I wonder how clean that gun is. ’
’ Ah… flashback humor. ’
’ This is crazy… ’
’ People do it everyday, they talk to themselves… ’
’ Fuck damnation, man! Fuck redemption! ’
’ Listen, you can run water over your hand and make it worse… ’
’ Look at me… or you can use vinegar and neutralize the burn. ’
’ First you have to give up, first you have to know… not fear… ’
’ Candy-stripe a cancer ward. It’s not my problem. ’
’ You know why they put oxygen masks on planes? ’
’ In a catastrophic emergency, you’re taking giant panicked breaths. ’
’ That’s, um… That’s an interesting theory. ’
‘ I’ve got a stomachful of Xanax. ’
’ I took what was left of a bottle. It might have been too much. ’
’ Your whacked out bald freaks hit me with a fucking broom! ’
’ It’s getting exciting now, two and one-half. ’
’ I ask you for one thing, one simple thing. ’
’ Now answer me, why do people think that I’m you. ’
’ Why do people think that I’m you? Answer me! ’
’ Why would anyone possibly confuse you with me? ’
’ My God. I haven’t been fucked like that since grade school. ’
’ I am Jack’s smirking revenge. ’
’ Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. ’
’ I see all this potential, and I see squandering. ’
’ All the ways you wish you could be, that’s me. ’
’ I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck. ’
’ I am free in all the ways that you are not. ’
’ They’re gonna have to open my pecs again to drain the fluid. ’
’ It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we’re free to do anything. ’
’ What’s the smell? ’
’ Is that your blood? ’
’ Oh, it’s late. Hey, thanks for the beer. ’
’ I should find a hotel. ’
’ Three pitchers of beer, and you still can’t ask. ’
’ You call me because you need a place to stay. ’
’ Yes, you did. So just ask. Cut the foreplay and just ask. ’
’ Would - would that be a problem? ’
’ Can I stay at your place? ’
’ Is it a problem for you to ask? ’
’ You’ll wear leather clothes that will last you the rest of your life. ’
’ I felt like destroying something beautiful. ’
’ You’re not how much money you have in the bank. ’
’ You’re not the contents of your wallet. You’re not your fucking khakis. ’
’ You’re the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world. ’
’ When you have insomnia, you’re never really asleep… ’
’ Listen up, maggots. You are not special. ’
’ You are not a beautiful or unique snowflake. ’
’ You’re the same decaying organic matter as everything else. ’
’ On a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero. ’
’ The first rule of Fight Club is: you do not talk about Fight Club. ’
’ Man, you’ve got some fucked up friends, I’m tellin’ ya. ’
’ The things you own end up owning you. ’
’ Well, what do you want me to do? You just want me to hit you? ’
’ C'mon, do me this one favor. ’
’ How much can you know about yourself, you’ve never been in a fight? ’
’ I don’t wanna die without any scars. ’
’ So come on; hit me before I lose my nerve. ’
’ Who gives a shit? No one’s watching. What do you care? ’
’ Whoa, wait, this is crazy. You want me to hit you? ’
’ Motherfucker! You hit me in the ear! ’
’ Strangers with this kind of honesty make me go a big rubbery one. ’
’ God Damn! We just had a near-life experience, fellas. ’
’ Like a monkey, ready to be shot into space. Space monkey!  ’
’ Ready to sacrifice himself for the greater good. ’
’ Are there a lot of these kinds of accidents? ’
’ One could make all kinds of explosives, using simple household items. ’
’ How’s that working out for you? ’
’ You have a kind of sick desperation in your laugh. ’
’ This is not the worst thing that can happen. ’
’ There are things about you that I like. ’
’ Yeah, you’re sorry, I’m sorry, everybody’s sorry. ’
’  I can’t do this anymore. I can’t. And I won’t. I’m gone. ’
’ You’re smart, you’re funny, you’re… spectacular in bed… But you’re intolerable! ’
’ You have very serious emotional problems. ’
’ Sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken. ’
’ You’re not getting this back. I consider it asshole tax. ’
’ Why? So you can pretend like you’re interested? ’
’ Do not watch. I cannot go when you watch. ’
’ I’ve got some good news: I no longer have any fear of death. ’
’ I ran until my muscles burned and my veins pumped battery acid. ’
’ After fighting, everything else in your life got the volume turned down. ’
’ Well, technically, I have more of a right to be there than you. ’
’ It’s cheaper than a movie, and there’s free coffee. ’
’ Look, nobody takes this more seriously than me. ’
’ You need to forget about what you know, that’s your problem. ’
’ You met me at a very strange time in my life. ’
’ Life insurance pays off triple if you die on a business trip. ’
’ Yes, these are bruises from fighting. ’
’ I got this dress at a thrift store for one dollar. ’
’ Someone loved it intensely for one day, and then tossed it. ’
’ The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide. ’
’ You don’t know where I’ve been. ’
’ You’re the worst thing that’s ever happened to me. ’
’ Would you excuse me? I need to take this. ’
’ Uh, well… You’re not gonna believe this… ’
’ I know it seems like I have more than one side sometimes… ’
’ I’ll carry you - kicking and screaming - and in the end you’ll thank me. ’
’ Every evening I died, and every evening I was born again, resurrected. ’
’ When people think you’re dying, they really, really listen to you, instead of just… waiting for their turn to speak. ’
(Request) Ours

Title: Ours

Characters: Daryl Dixon x You/Reader

Requested by: @hey-douchepool

Can you do a Daryl one shot, where Daryl and Y/N were together before the apocalypse and like Daryl is being distant and Y/N has a flashback of a fluffy moment between them before the apocalypse and she gets sad and he assures her that just because things are different doesn’t mean that their relationship is different. Love you and your blog

No warnings! Totally SFW :)

Note: This reminded me how I’ve always loved writing fics for Daryl! I love me some Daryl fluff. Enjoy reading! xoxo

And oh, if anyone wants to be tagged in future Daryl fics just drop by my ask. :)

Italicized paragraphs are flashbacks.

It had been an exhausting day for you since you went on a half-day run with everyone else, but you still came back feeling giddy. You had come across a bar and found a case of your and Daryl’s favorite beer and it was little things as such that somehow made you forget about the end of the world. After organizing all the supplies that you and the rest have gathered, you quickly took two bottles of beer and looked for Daryl.

You found Daryl just outside the house you shared, cleaning up his motorcycle in all his sweaty glory. You bit your lip and blushed when you remembered your first meeting with him. It also happened on a scorching hot afternoon, your car broke down and was towed into the nearest auto shop where Daryl happened to work at. You spotted him almost immediately, clad in a sleeveless plaid button down and work pants, his eyes focused on the bike he was working on. You chuckled to yourself, it almost felt like déjà vu.

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send me one (part one).
  • 001: name your favorite television/movie character.
  • 002: what was the last emoji you used?
  • 003: if you had to makeout with the last person you interacted with via your phone, would you?
  • 004: do you prefer to be hot or cold?
  • 005: do you always sleep with a fan on?
  • 006: what's your favorite brand of water?
  • 007: do you watch grey's anatomy?
  • 008: name a song lyric that will always speak volumes to you.
  • 009: do you have a problem talking about feelings/showing emotion?
  • 010: how do you arrange your contacts in your phone?
  • 011: what's your zodiac sign, and do you think it fits your personality?
  • 012: what was your dream job as a kid, and what is it now?
  • 013: do you think you could survive during a zombie apocalypse?
  • 014: did you ever go through a "phase" ?
  • 015: have you ever struggled with your sexuality, and have you come to terms with it now?
  • 016: would you prefer someone to answer you with "yes", or "yeah"?
  • 017: if you had to pick a holiday to have been born on, which would it be?
  • 018: what's your opinion on body art?
  • 019: do you have a lot of friends, or do you wish you did?
  • 020: what's your favorite swear word?
  • 021: tell us the best advice someone ever gave to you.
  • 022: do you get car sick?
  • 023: what is your ideal date?
  • 024: would you dare go cliff diving?
  • 025: dogs or cats?
  • 026: are you allergic to anything? if you are, what are you allergic to?
  • 027: if you could change one thing in the world, what would it be and why?
  • 028: if you were a fictional character, which one would you be?
  • 029: has there ever been a time that you went through that you can now look back on and smile because you made it through it?
  • 030: rate your self-confidence on a scale of one to ten.
  • 031: do you believe that therapy is a thing that can actually help someone?
  • 032: what's your opinion on naps?
  • 033: do you know who alecia moore is without googling her?
  • 034: are you the type of person that can say "fuck it" or do you stress?
  • 035: what's your favorite out of the three: aliens, ghosts, or serial killers?
  • 036: what part of the world are you from, and what part of the world do you want to visit?
  • 037: do you know what 'cerulean' is? without googling it.
  • 038: do you believe in relationships, or would you rather hit it and quit it?
  • 039: are you fake-friends with anyone?
  • 040: do you lie a lot? are you a good liar?
  • 041: what's your favorite hex code color?
  • 042: do you have any siblings? are you close with them? or do you wish you had some?
  • 043: did you ever do that thing where you put glue all over your hands and then pull it off?
  • 044: do you have any habits, bad or good?
  • 045: does having red hair automatically make you not have a soul?
  • 046: do doctors scare you?
  • 047: have you ever had a moment where your life flashed before your eyes?
  • 048: what's your everyday outfit like?
  • 049: kissing or no kissing on the first date?
  • 050: what's your dream vehicle?
Being married to Halfdan the Black would include :

(Woooo more Vikings prompts! Aawwww Halfdan :3 Hope it is as requested and you all like it :3 Gif not mine/found it on google/credit to the original)

-Him still being nervous about holding your hand when you are both alone because he feels you are so delicate, but having no problem during feasts where everyone can see you both

-Him loving all the attention you pay to him since you both got married, especially the morning kisses

-Him keeping you to his side, even sitting you on his lap, during feasts with the others as he wants them to know that you’re taken

-Him opening himself up to you and having no problems with having emotions and feelings as you hold him in your arms

-Him keeping you safe during fights and always telling you that no matter what he loves you, in fear he might not make it back

-Rough sex, passionate sex and anything you would want from him because he just loves you too much

-Him having no problem telling his brother to keep his eyes off of you and sometimes even getting into a fight for it

-Him trying to do sweet and romantic gestures just to see your smile and how happy you are, as well as to get a hug from you

-Him telling you how beautiful you are to him every time you would lay on his chest as he strokes your hair, making you look up at him and everyone who would walk pass your tent to laugh

-Him admitting to you that he wasn’t sure of having kids but that since he has met you, he would want just as many that would make you happy

Healing/Energy Reading: Energy System Checks

An energy system check is what an advanced healer does when healing. This involves looking at the energetic points and pathways/flowpaths in your body to assess where blockages/anomalies are. This is just about checking/reading the system; actually performing healing will be detailed in another article.

Pre-requisite/related info:

You will need: decent energy sensing skills, and your intuition.

1. Have something that aids in the visualization of their energetic system: Of course, if they’re physically right in front of you then that serves as the best visual aid. However, when doing this from a distance, you may need something that can help you visualize it so you can focus. I find that the best method is through a drawing of a generic energy system map, as shown above. Cleanse the map beforehand, then “copy+paste*” a portion of the person’s energy onto the map, into the Heart Point**. This makes the map represent the person, and you will be able to do the sensing through it, lowering the amount of energy and concentration the healing will require (you will still need both of those of course, but not the massive amount that it takes to visualize the map in your head the entire time.) Example of a map is above.

2. Gaze at the map; feel it and use your intuition to find out what doesn’t “feel right”. You might not see anything on the map with your physical eyes, and in fact you don’t need to. Take your fingers and lay them on whatever portion of the system you want to check on, and then “feel” for what’s there; again you will need to use your gut/intuition for this. Something HEALTHY should feel like energy is flowing smoothly, and not too slowly or quickly; it may feel like a river or flowing water to the touch. Something UNHEALTHY will feel abnormal, to both your intuition and to touch. Some examples would be feeling no energy flowing at all, itchy feelings, rock/completely solid things. Again, you will need to use your intuition because there could be exceptions, but those are some basics.

3. Talk with the person; tell them what you sense. If you are correct, 9/10 times what you describe will make sense to the person, even if they don’t really understand energy systems too well. Be transparent and detailed about what you describe; “I think there’s a rock in your Heart Point. This could mean you’re holding onto a grudge, or having some other problems with emotion that you have trouble letting go of.” Most of the time, if you explain it well, they will agree- which means you are most likely correct in your intuition. To be able to interpret and describe, know what the basic meanings of each point/flowpath are, and think logically- rocks are hard to remove, and they take a lot of time to form, which could equal a grudge/general stubbornness in moving on from that issue.

4. When finished, cleanse the map/other representation you used for this healing. This is so that your current person’s energy doesn’t affect the next energy system reading you do. You don’t need to throw away the map and draw a new one each time, just cleansing it will do. 

*To copy+paste energy, grab onto and take small portion of that person’s energy (with their permission of course), then place that small orb of energy onto the Heart Point** of the map. You can grab on through any active representation of them; I find that their icon in a recently used instant-message system (such as tumblr IMs or Discord) tend to work very well.  

**Because the Heart Point is the most central of the points, and where all energy flows through to circulate through the rest of the body.

This is just a how-to on the reading portion; I will detail healing in another article. And of course, you will need to practice, practice, practice, to git gud at this. We need more healers in this community, so I hope this was able to help and inspire a few of you!


So, I was looking for information dealing with the characters of The Glass Castle, when I found this.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think I’ll be able to find anything big enough to describe how much this irks me, and it’s not just the fact that it’s a bad review.

“It has to go a long way before it can convince that it knows how to tell a story.”

Okay, I’m only going to say this once, so please listen, anyone who is willing to crap on this movie without knowing the full context of it:


Yeah, sure. There weren’t that many jokes in the movie, but that’s the whole point. There’s enough fooling around in the Lego Movie and Batman movies, and to use the same concept on the Lego Ninjago Movie is just continuing a bland streak. The creators of the Ninjago Movie wanted to look at things from a different angle, and add more emotion to it. What, have you never had your own family problems? Or, do you just want everything to be a joke?

Honestly, who can say that they’ve never felt left out, just because they’re different than anyone else? That’s what the movie was trying to point out, that being different is a good thing–no, a great thing, and you critics getting pissed because it was different than what you wanted only proves the movie’s point: that being different can be difficult, especially when the majority of people refuse to embrace different, the bus scene at the beginning an excellent example.

Another thing: The whole point of Meowthra? Yeah, the cat was included as that big feeling of being an outcast that connects Lloyd and Garmadon at the end of the movie.

Meowthra is supposed to represent how badly being different can destroy relationships and friendships in society. Now, what’s this about it not being engaging? Because, far as I know, the cat may have been the biggest engagement of the movie, and it was only in a few scenes!! If that’s not good movie making, I don’t know what is!

The Ninjago Movie is very original, far as I can tell, because while the characters are based off the series, let’s look at one minor detail, um…


You don’t see Lloyd with an archaeologist mom and a green set of PJs at the beginning of the movie, you see a redhead mother and a blonde son in a local apartment talking about high school.

You don’t see a crazy, motormouth redhead that brags about his lightning powers, you see this shy brunette with freckles and a smile.

You don’t see an ambitious, short haired girl who gives up at the last moment, you see this confident, young woman who’s not afraid to take on the world with one hand.

So, tell me critics, is Ninjago still not original?

Don’t go on blabbering about how there’s nothing to be invested in when it comes to Ninjago, because obviously, you’re not looking close enough if you think that this movie isn’t worth anything, because boy are you so absolutely wrong.

This movie (at least to me, as well as more than half the fandom) is worth everything.

anonymous asked:

Yesterday I got mad at somebody over minor online drama and I was so enraged I wanted to kill her and since I couldn't get to her I wanted to kill anybody, so I looked into terrorist groups and genocidal regimes to see if I could donate. I couldn't find anything before the anger passed but now I am scared this will happen again and I will add to the world's suffering. I have been trying to manage my anger for years but change is slow. Would it be best just to kill myself before it happens again?


This is complicated, and I struggled with an answer for a while because I want to point at some things that I believe are likely to be going on here, without telling you lots of things I can’t possibly know from a single short message. I think the best way to deal with that is to say the things, while letting you know that they take several different angles on what might be going on here and that not all the angles probably apply.


Angle 1: “Would it be best just to kill myself before it happens again?”

People who are chronically suicidal ask themselves if maybe they should kill themself all the time, over all kinds of things. I missed the last train home, maybe I should just kill myself. I need to decide what to have for dinner…or I could just kill myself. It can be ignored; it doesn’t always accompany a strong compulsion to act; often people think that they’re not really suicidal, or that it’s just kind of the way the world is that you’ll spend a lot of your time wondering it if would be better if you died.

People who are chronically suicidal often think that everyone is like this, and are genuinely surprised to learn that there are lots of people who basically never want to kill themselves or wonder if it’d be for the best if they did or find their planning short-circuited by ‘maybe the best next step is to kill myself’. 

What I’m trying to gesture at here is that I think that you might be depressed. If you’re depressed, then fixing the being-depressed might also solve the other things that are going on here: trying to find evil organizations to donate to seems like it might come from a thought pattern of ‘I am a bad person and am going to do a bad thing/thought about doing a bad thing/am in danger of doing a bad thing, which will just prove how irredeemable and horrible I am and how I should die”, and maybe if you were not depressed this thought pattern would be interrupted all the way up at “I am a bad person”.

Fixing being-depressed involves a lot of luck and support, of course. I’d be happy to try to give you advice if you write back and say ‘yeah maybe that’s a thing I’m experiencing’. I’m also hoping that maybe it will help just knowing ‘oh, my brain likes to jump to ‘maybe I should kill myself’ when it’s supposed to be problem-solving, I can’t fix that right now but I can be aware that brains are not supposed to do that and that I should treat that thought as untrustworthy’.

You should treat that thought as untrustworthy. It is untrustworthy. You have a brain that occasionally spits out ‘suicide’ as an answer to questions when the answer should be ‘spaghetti’ or ‘call an Uber’ or 'don’t get into stupid arguments on the internet’. It may be an excellent brain in other respects but in this respect it is silly and the correct response is to roll your eyes and go ‘no, brain, sorry, keep problem-solving, that was a terrible answer and you know it’.

Angle 2: ‘I have been trying to manage my anger for years but change is slow.’

Good for you! I don’t have an anger management problem but I have had emotions so strong that they temporarily override everything else I care about, and they are deeply unpleasant to experience, and I am really sorry that this happens to you. It sounds like it would be really unpleasant in its own right, really scary to look back on in retrospect once you calmed down, and hard to get good help with. 

I assume since you’ve been at this for a while you’ve already tried more things than I’ll come up with for a blog post. But some things you could consider: making a scale of how angry you are, from, like, “I want to swat a mosquito with unnecessary force’ through “I want to scatter all of the molecules in the observable universe until they are distributed for maximum entropy. And then light them on fire. And then light the fire on fire. And thereby cause the next Big Bang.”

I do not think any things on this list should be actionable. Not because I’m worried you’ll do it - I think that the fact your anger directed itself at ‘find something harmful to donate money to’ instead of at ‘scream at my cat’ or ‘wreck someone’s possessions’ is really encouraging, and I think that you are not likely to do harmful things in blinding anger. But I think that focusing on an actionable kind of anger is bad for you - you feel scared afterwards of what you ‘almost did’. and you have a harder time accessing help. So try not to have any “I want to kill someone” on there, in favor of “I want to change all of the chocolate they eat into something with the flavor of burnt pizza crust” or “I want their new roommate to have bedbugs, and lice, and the bubonic plague” or whatever. 

Worst case, it doesn’t work and you read a long list of ridiculous harms and think ‘nope, still want to kill them’. Best case, you can come up with something that speaks to you when you’re angry or the process of coming up with something is itself calming. 

Also, consider that internet drama is horrible, really, actually, and it’s often advisable to stop using sites that make you miserable, not because you have a problem but because you being miserable is a problem. Deleting/blocking/avoiding is not giving up, it is solving the problem of ‘you are miserable’ and it is often good.

Request: Bts reaction to you being able to change your mood really quick. Like you were loud and hyper but suddenly became all serious or smth like that. Pretty please

Namjoon: He’d understand that you can change your moods quite often. Namjoon would sometimes get frustrated because of it, but, at the end of the day he’d understand.

Originally posted by pjkook

Yoongi/Suga: Usually when you ended up getting pissed off, he would get pissed off. If you were sad, he would get sad. It would just be a trail of the same emotions literally all day.

Originally posted by jeonbase

Jin: Being the sweet boyfriend he is, he’d do anything to earn that smile from you again. “Want a box of chocolate, jagi? I can also make you your favorite soup.” 

Originally posted by jinjks

Hoseok/Jhope: When you were happy one second and mad the next, he wouldn’t understand what to do. He’d admit some of your emotions were very confusing. But, he loved you either way.

Originally posted by jeonsshi

Jimin: Most of the time he’d get concerned as to why you’d do that. He think to himself if you have some condition or problem when it comes to your emotions. He’d be entirely confused.

Originally posted by kths

Taehyung/V: “Does jagi need a hug?” Tae would happily ask as you were storming around your shared apartment completely stressed out and pissed. When you came into his arms he’d have a huge grin. 

Originally posted by kths

Jungkook: He would understand your emotions just like Namjoon, but instead he wouldn’t know what to say or do. He thought if he said the wrong thing he’d make you more mad. 

Originally posted by sugutie

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