you deserved to live

This lovely, kind, smart gay guy that I knew from high school GSA meetings died last week. It was confirmed that it was suicide and he was an ex-Mormon. You deserved so much better than the nineteen years you got living in this horrible place. You were a great leader and listener, so open and wonderful for us. Even though we didn’t talk much outside of meetings (not in my year) my heart is breaking.

Maybe it would have been better to say “Stop looking for reasons why people don’t deserve to be heard,” rather than “Stop looking for excuses not to listen to people,” although it’s admittedly less snappy. It’s totally fine not to listen to someone because they’re not being nice, but that should be about your boundaries rather than about how their behavior forfeits their right to be heard. It’s equally valid not to listen to someone because they used an analogy involving broccoli, which is a trigger for you, or because they’re making a very polite argument that you don’t deserve to live. I think the way people talk about niceness and charitability often suggests that it’s more virtuous to filter by them than by other methods. This has the effect that people filter more strictly by niceness than they need to, and are less willing to filter by other methods than is healthy for them.

anonymous asked:

You are too hard on yourself.... I swear you need to go live the happiest life ever you deserve that to yourself

thank you omg!!! <3

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Goodbye Rickon Stark (interpreted by Art Parkinson)

“Are we going home? I want my horse. And I want applecakes and butter and honey, and Shaggy. Are we going where Shaggydog is?”

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When I leave this world, I’ll leave no regrets,
leave something to remember, so they won’t forget

I was here

Pssst, Fictionkin:

Want to know what makes me happy?

Somewhere out there, my favorite fictional characters, especially the ones who’s lives weren’t what they wanted them to be, are getting another chance.

Maybe they’re shopping.

Maybe they’re watching silly youtube videos.

Maybe they’re laughing with friends, or playing a favorite game, or driving to work, or making dinner.

So wherever you are, fictionkin, whatever you’re doing, just know that you’re what everyone hoped for, a new chance for the character that they love!

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All our times together will be memories… Especially shooting music videos, practicing, all the difficult moments together will later on turn out to be memories that will stay with me for a long time.” - Yoon Bora (2013)

Happy 6th Anniversary SISTAR#6YearsWithSistar