you cant waist train in that

anonymous asked:

I'm crying a lot about this fact. My hips its bones. It will not go away ever. It will stay. It will always let me look girly. I don't know what to do.

There is something you can do. You may not be able to change the structure but you can work on techniques to minimise and disguise the appearance. Wear clothes that minimise hips and dont accentuate them. Straight leg for example over skinny fit. Avoiding cotton material can also help as it can cling. Something looser fitting wont cling to them and thereby help to hide it. Straight cuts are best. Patterns can also help distract the eye rather than highlight it

There are tips in articles like these that might help

Style tips for the man with wide hips
Dressing for your body shape
How to dress to hide big hips (more geared at women but the tips are still useful)

You can just google like ‘clothing to hide hips’ and specify men if you want

Some guys do have wider hips. Not all are the inverted triangle shape of wide shoulders narrow hips. Some are the exact opposite (and in some it is bone structure not excess weight)

Aside from clothing, a useful thing to do is create an illusion of them being smaller. Bulk up your shoulders and upper body and your waist area will appear narrower in comparison, creating the inverted triangle appearance. This obviously involves a lot of work and that sort of training isnt for everyone. Its something to consider though if you wanted to go that route

When it comes to something you have little option in being able to change, you can look at ways to work with what you have. Look at what you can do to help it rather than focussing on what you cant change. You are not the only one and its not necessarily a feminine feature. Try some things out and you should be able to find something that at least makes you feel a bit better about it. It may not help any but you probably see yourself as worse than others do. We can be overly aware of anything that bothers us while others dont see it

anonymous asked:

So I'm a trans girl, just about a year on HRT, and I'm not quite getting the curves that I wanted from it... more importantly I want to do something about my ribs. I know you guys give a lot of advice about chest binding for trans guys, but what about waist training for trans girls? Any major dos or don'ts... I tried looking myself but there is a lot of misinformation and it's really confusing, and I'd appreciate being pointed towards some resources. Thanks guys!

Chrissi says:

Hello honey.
Something I have said before, unfortunately HRT will not alter your bone structure, you’ll know this by now. It redistributes fat, so you may see some change to your figure, but it probably wasn’t as drastic as you where hoping. I had the same issue.
I actually do waist train, but something I will say before I give out any information on it is, if you are thinking about this to alter your ribs in any way, DONT. You WILL break your ribs, and most likely do damage to some major organs.

That being said, corsets are a great way to give you a more curvy appearance, if used safely, they also look wicked sick.

Fashion corsets are a great way to spice up your looks, whether you pair them with jeans, a formal dress or even when worn under a fitted jacket (and heels!). But corsets can also help anyone “shape” their everyday look; I am talking about actual waist training

We all have to work with what we have to work with. I am an athletic, tall girl, 5’11” with narrow hips, ugh, cant be helped (but thankfully, legs up to my elbows!). In any case, I decided I needed some help to accentuate my figure by shaping my waist to give myself a more natural “hourglass” shape. After considerable research and testing I set out on a formal waist training regimen. I’ve heard of some amazing results, but really have only just started. For those of you considering waist training, here are a few lessons I’ve learned, tips,  tricks, do’s, don’ts, shoulds, shouldn’ts, how’s, whys, where’s, whens and well, you get the drift… Just lot’s of stuff… okay?

Safety First – Inform yourself please! We have this new thing called the internet so google, bing, yahoo or whatever floats your boat to ensure you understand the ins and outs of it all. There’s a lot of great information available on sites specializing in corsetry (the good ones have guides, FAQs, etc.). Stay away from the fetish type sites for pervs though… unless that’s your thing, then perv away!

Commitment – Proper training requires commitment, discipline and time to ensure safety and desired results (consistency is key). Once undertaken, you have to create a good plan and stick to it. This is not a casual fling, you have to be patient and really work at it to get what you want. This means every day…

Work Your Way Up – Start small! A good corset will shape to your natural body type with wear and then your body will shape to the corset. Start off with short sessions. As a general rule, I would begin with one hour daily, tightening to a comfortable level then increase by fifteen minutes per day (gradually increase the duration). You have to gradually tighten over time ensuring you are never uncomfortable. As you continue to wear your corset this will take care of itself. Just follow this simple rule “never pull so tight that it hurts“. You should always be able to move freely without any pain…

Track Your Results – Write down how long you train each day until you are able to wear the corset all day long (keep a journal!) Tracking your tightening is a bit less scientific. I visually inspect the laces, that is I look at how much of the lacing I am able to pull out over time when fully tightened. A good trick is to keep an eye on where you tie off. At first tie in the back, after a while you will be able to wrap the laces around and tie in front, then with more time you will be able to go all the way around yourself and tie off in the back. In between these points just tighten, wrap the laces around and you will gradually see where the ends of the laces lie as they “move” around your waist…

Quality Matters - A good quality corset is “heavily” constructed with steel boning, multiple layers and panels for strength and durability, metal grommets in the front and heavy duty laces. Stay away from “lingerie” designs (those sold in stores like Anne summers, sex shops,  etc). Go with a shop that specializes in corsetry, otherwise you will waste your money and not get the results you want…

Style Is Important - Style (meaning the type of garment not how it looks) is very important. Under-bust corsets are best for training (in my humble opinion) for three reasons; one they are easier to work with, two they are easier to conceal under your clothing and three a full-body corset (or one covering the bust) doesn’t work nearly as well as a bras does. It’s hard enough to find a proper bra as it is and full corsets are designed to fit the body not your boops so pair an under-bust corset with a good fitting bra. Also, depending on your shape pay attention to how the corset is made at the bottom. If it goes straight across at the bottom, you’re golden. If it goes down at the bottom like a “V” it may have a tendency to “flip” out and show under your clothes. I have a flat tummy (thankfully!) but this was my experience early on so if you are a fuller-fitting girl go for a style that is “flat” across the bottom in front…

When To Wear - All the time would be great but with work and life in general this may not always be possible. Wear it whenever you can but as a rule you need to follow your natural movements (meaning during the day when you do whatever you do). You can sleep in your corset but this is not as effective because you need to move around in it for it to do its work. Instead, just dream about it while you sleep… or, as I do, about that shiny charizard that was dishonestly appropriated from me as a child… grrr

Where To Buy – As I said, most shops that specialize in corsetry will have something that fits your bill. A good corset can run into the hundreds of monies <insert preferred unit here> (and is well worth every penny) but you don’t need to spend a fortune when starting off. I would recommend Orchard Corset  for the beginner. My first training corset was style CS-M184 (see below…) which runs just under £70.00. I was very satisfied with this corset and it worked very well until I moved on to other styles as my training progressed. BTW, go with a satin corset to start with rather than leather(lower maintenance and higher durability!) If that’s your thing though, pair your corset with a pair of leather pants… (and heels!!!)…

Fitting – I did not have a formal fitting to start with and as I said the Orchard CS-M184 worked very well for me from the beginning. That being said, for those of you who have had a proper bra fitting, you will agree that this is never a bad thing so if you want to go to a (good) local shop for a fitting then by all means do so. A good mail order shop will (and should) help you with fit and sizing if you just call or e-mail them. Of course, as with men, trial and error is always one way to learn

Care & Maintenance - A sheer cami under your corset will help your skin breath and allow the garment to move more naturally around your body as you go through the day. You’ll want to hand wash (gently) and dry flat. I wash mine about every four weeks (or as needed). Unless it’s 110 degrees out or you spill a glass of <insert favourite drink here> all over yourself it’s basically very easy going and you only have to clean it if it starts to get stinky-inky (like hosiery)…

What To Expect – Depending on your natural shape (and level of commitment) you can trim one to two inches over the first six months, I’ve been told .You can achieve permanent results but as you all know, everything changes (and sags) with time so noting is really ever “permanent,” is it? With longer use, corsets can slim your waist even more and give you lasting results so stay with it. I’m at a point where I don’t have to wear a training corset every day and my shape has definitely changed (for the better). I still try to get 20-30 hours of snug lacing each week to maintain my shape and wear fashion corsets whenever I want… With Heels!… (I’m just hopeless!)

Final Tips & Tricks – EAT A HEALTHY DIET AND EXERCISE REGULARLY! Weight gain can erase years of effort and training so stay in shape. Moisturise regularly, this will help keep the skin on your torso smooth, tight and sexy. (BTW, you should be doing all these things anyway!) Eat small, regular meals while training which will keep you from feeling bloated while laced up. Oh, and where lacing is concerned, learn how to do this properly! The absolute best tip I can give here is to use a door knob. Put on the corset and loop the laces around a door knob in front of you then as you tighten in the back gradually “pull away” from the door to take out the slack. When you get the fit where you want it, just un-loop and tie off. This is also a good way to track your tightening progress! Of course, four hands are better than two so having someone else lace from the back is always best…

It will take a while to find your way and figure out what works best for you but stay with it. That’s it for my manifesto for now. Wrap it around, lace it up and tie it off peeps.

BE SAFE. A lot of waist training methods are really unsafe.

anonymous asked:

oi this blog is A+ keep it up. Matchup please and thank you. I'm female, 5'11, long brown hair down to my waist. I'm very outgoing, confident and kinda sarcastic. I like to fight for fun like in a training sort of way. I like to build things. I also enjoy dancing and singing from time to time. A lot of my outfits consist of crop tops and shorts. And i really hate/am afraid of large bodies of water like oceans and lake sometimes pools cause i cant swim.

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