Life is a simple game called learning to love are you ready to begin, the best time is now though relax, you can take this nice and slow first be kind, be generous and understanding give all that you can, take only what’s needed breathe, touch life’s river, then follow its flow there now see you’ve nearly made it my friend only the final stage is tricky, but you’ll be ready as grace will be revealed in the act of letting go
A few months ago, i broke up with a guy, cause he manipulated me constantly. But now i feel like, im becoming him, is it normal?
It’s normal but it’s not good. A lot of abuse victims mimic the personality of their abusers, especially younger victims, or if this was your first relationship of the kind. This is why so many abusers are also abuse victims. What you need to do is go through a lot of therapy to process that abuse, inform future partners of your history of abuse and make sure that they get the chance to tell you if you’re mimicking this behavior and make sure they let you tell them if they’re reminding you of him. Try to find someone who can just help you by cuddling with you (unless touch is triggering for you) so you get used to proper affection again. Ask maybe a friend for that or something.
Another thing that’s very helpful is creating a mood diary and reading it over every night before going to sleep. Keep track of spots where your behavior is resembling your ex abusers behavior. If you notice these things, you’ll know before it happens how you’re about to act like him, you might be able to prevent it. I really hope this helps.
you know chanyeol’s hand is so big and it crawls to your skin. you hold it, chanyeol’s almond eyes look stright into yours, “do you want me to stop ?” he hopes that he can continue because he loves to touch it. “you know i can make you feel good, right ?” he asks you, with low voice. he doesn’t care about your answer and keep touching to this and that. he leans closer, kissing your neck, giving some marks on your skins, you moan softly. he likes it, he smiles, “be good to me and i’ll be good to you”, he says. you laugh, “i’d rather be bad, rather than good”, you kiss his cheeks, giggling. he smirks, “so i guess you like it rough, huh ? honey, i promise you that you can’t walk for a week.”
so the hubs has like 0% interest in any of my fish or my tarantula (or any other future inverts/fish)…and we were talking about pets the other day and he basically said he wouldn’t really want to have a pet that he couldn’t physically hold/touch/interact with (he absolutely ADORES our cat and our dog) – then he asked why i dont have a lizard cuz lizards are ‘cool’ (aka you can touch them and hold them) and i just didn’t expect to really ever hear him say something like that :O i’m not really into lizards or reptiles (aside from wanting one or two species of snakes) but maybe in the future it’s something we could do together, since we don’t really have many hobbies in common :)