all i have to say about the ‘better man’ conversation from last night is:
to everyone who thinks the song does not depict any sort of abuse: you’re lucky. you are so lucky you’ve never been through what we have. you are so lucky you can listen to this song and not recognize it as irreversible trauma from your past or present. you have no right, however, to tell abuse survivors that they are not interpreting the song correctly, that they are wrong, that they are stretching the meaning of taylor’s words. abuse survivors know abuse. if we recognize it, take our word for it. do not invalidate our experiences simply because it pains you to see a man painted in the negative light in which he deserves. do not tell victims that what we have experienced is incorrect. do not tell us that this song isn’t for us. do not tell us that we can’t use the word abuse when the song paints the clearest picture of emotional abuse. do not tell us that there is no other evidence of calvin being abusive to taylor. do not pretend we don’t have a dozen tweets and temper-tantrum fits illustrating the way calvin was emotionally manipulative and abusive. stop invalidating the trauma of victims and thank your lucky stars you aren’t sitting at your computer writing a post like this, begging for people to fucking understand and stop undermining what you went through.