you can be the change you want

just because you meant it as a joke doesn’t mean you didn’t do something wrong. i teach preschool and i can’t believe six year olds understand this concept better than adults. if you say something hurtful, you’re the bully, not the person who gets upset. it might feel icky to realize that you do have bigoted beliefs; but when you blow off apologizing with “people who know me know i don’t mean it,” you’re not helping the people you hurt and you’re not changing the way it sounded. why in the heck is it so hard for grown people to just admit they were wrong and apologize for it.

freedom of speech isn’t freedom from consequence and i’ll say it until my blood runs dry. hate speech is also not covered under the first amendment. and again, a concept preschoolers understand: your words are not more important than the safety or comfort of another person. 

yes. legally i can’t stop you from printing and screaming whatever you want. but legally you can’t stop me from being angry and responding to it. and if you expect others to just “not get offended” by what you say, you must also expect others not to take you seriously at all! listen. if you understand i can send a child into the hallway for calling another child names, you can wrap your head around the fact you don’t have the right to do and say whatever you want without somebody reacting. this isnt your world, it’s all of ours, and we’re allowed to ask you to leave the classroom. grow up, realize you actually might have done something bigoted - even by “accident” - and change yourself for the better.

and if you’re the type who just throws a hissy fit every time somebody points out you’re being a bully… congratulations. you’re acting like a four-year-old.

Dark is scary in a different way than Anti, which I can appreciate.

Anti is scary because he gives off a vibe of unpredictability. Anxiety associated with being unable to control a situation. Nervousness at the thought that harm could be upon you at any given moment. No way of knowing what to brace yourself for. Anything could change at the drop of a hat, and his capricious nature coupled with a sadistic streak is scary in an obvious way.

But Dark is scary because he’s manipulative. He takes his time building up trust only to rush in for the kill, so to speak, once he’s got his prey right where he wants them. It’s subtle, and if you’re not careful, you won’t even know it until he’s ensnared you in his web of false securities and manipulation masquerading as trustworthiness. He can break you, and that’s scary.

Both of them have the potential to be downright terrifying, but in totally separate ways.

4

Dear Merlin, I am telling you now, because I’m afraid that it might be too late one day if I don’t: This was the most fun I’ve ever had. You’re next to me in my life. You’re the best person in the world, and I wouldn’t change a thing. Please remember me, even when I’m not there anymore one day to pick on you, and laugh at you, and call you names. You said I made you feel special. Well, you are special. And I would spend centuries with you if I could. I fear that the universe would rip in half if we went further apart than this, but I don’t think we have a choice. It’s not fair, but none of it ever was. Whatever the future holds, though, I don’t want you to change. I want you to always be you. Let’s make it the best life we can. Love, Arthur. 

anonymous asked:

Can I still participate in the craft if I'm scared of fire and lighting candles?

Totally! You do not have to use candles if you do not want to! 

Things to Substitute for Fire element:
-an LED candle
-a flashlight (Add some colored tissue paper around it to mimic fire)
-Pool floating lights are also really lovely as they typically are color changing so you can set your mood accordingly!)
-String/Rope Lights/Christmas Lights
-Red jewelry or red Crystals
-A Stick of Cinnamon
-make a paper collage of candles/fire
-Draw a candle
-An Empty Match Box

I hope this helps you Anon! 

YOU CAN ALWAYS PRACTICE THE CRAFT NO MATTER WHAT. Doesn’t matter what materials you use/don’t use, you can ALWAYS participate <3

My two cents on THAT Josh interview.

Okay, I’ve been wanting to kind of say something about this for a while but have refrained from doing so, mainly because I like to remain neutral on things and not upset anybody. But I’ve changed my mind.

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GOT7 Reaction when you weare a too short dress

Jaebum:

*naughty thoughts*

Originally posted by crying-in-korean

Youngjae:

*literally no words*

*looks shy away to protect his young,innocent eyes*

Originally posted by centimentally

Jinyoung:

*pretends to be shy,but has naughty thoughts*

Originally posted by jypnior

Jackson:

“Are you trying to seduce other man?Change quickly,because this body only belongs to me.

Originally posted by got7-garbage


Mark:

“You look very pretty,but can you change your dress?”

“Why?”

“Because for your own good and I don’t want that another man steals my beautiful princess.”

Originally posted by jypnior

BamBam:

“Do I look pretty?”

“Of course you do,but don’t think your dress is a little too short?”

“Do you mind?”

“Yes,because there are many perverts out there,you never know.”

“I love you too-_-

Originally posted by chattyang

Yugyeom:

*gets nervous*

“What…are…you…?”

“What? Oh you mean the dress?It’s beautiful,isn’t it?” *smiles*

“Are you okay?”

“Yes…of course.”

*begins to uncontrollably lick his lips*


Originally posted by chichangyu

gifs are not mine,all rights belong to the owner

thedoomtrout  asked:

God I love Paranatural but christ the update schedule is SO inconsistent. Like, I love Zach but at this point he should just change the schedule to once a week

Hi, I understand what you’re saying. 

But honestly? Don’t you think it’s rude to try to demand more out of him than he’s able to give? He’s a human and his life can’t be 100% just working on Paranatural. 

I think a lot of people forget that he’s allowed to have a life outside of the comic. He’s allowed to go on vacation, visit family, or just take a personal day if he wants. Most importantly, Zack’s allowed to have the update schedule that he wants. It’s his comic; and he knows his limits. If he believes that updating twice a week is something he can do, than that’s for him to decide. Not anyone else. 

Life happens though, and sometimes it will get in the way of his twice a week update schedule. Paranatural is a wonderful webcomic and I love it too! But you have to remember that we pay nothing to read it, and any money Zack does make from it is from ads and Patreon. 

My advice is this: If you have an issue with the update schedule, instead of complaining about it why don’t you take a break in reading for a month or two? That way you can just binge read what you missed all at once one day, get your fill, and then take a break and wait again for more pages to be uploaded.

Anyway, if you came here looking for someone to agree with your thoughts, you came to the wrong place. I have nothing but respect for Zack and the time/effort he puts into his webcomic (which he does all by himself???)

Sorry for the long message, I just have a big opinion on this.

tldr; Zack isn’t a Webcomic making machine, and he has a life outside the webcomic and I think people need to be more respectful of that.

anonymous asked:

I miss when you were just a teenage tøp fan who liked the star filter.

ok…i dont

anonymous asked:

Hey Leda, I was wondering how the s6 rewrite was going?

It is definitely going! I swear!

As proof, here’s a bit I just wrote instead of giving my job my full attention. It has absolutely nothing to do with the plot, but it’s fun?


“Are we really watching this?”

Of course Derek would be a douche about watching some good ole bad reality television. He probably only read history books in his spare time, or watched wholesome documentaries on the environment like a loser.

“Yes, we’re really watching this, because I got punched in the face.”

“If I let you punch me, can we change the channel?” Stiles just glared at him with his good eye. “Why do you watch this garbage? You know it’s all bullshit, right?”

“Of course I know it’s bullshit, but it’s nice to imagine that I could someday go wandering through a forest somewhere and not encounter a terrifying monster that wants to kill me on the spot.” Watching idiots traipse around through the woods and not get mauled by rogue, insane alphas was a nice escape. Like an anti-horror movie.

“Well not in that forest, anyway. They’re looking in the wrong region.” Derek said dismissively.

Stiles internally sighed and resisted, resolutely staring at the television where witnesses were emphatically defending what they’d seen.

His eye twitched and he gave in, turning to look at the werewolf sitting next to him.

“You better be kidding.”

“Everyone knows Sasquatch are found in the northwest.”

Stiles narrowed his eye, trying to wait him out into some kind of reaction, but Derek was totally unflappable. He just kept right on watching TV, occasionally making a minor face when one of the “experts” declared something to be fact.

He was such a dick, and he was so Stiles’ type.

anonymous asked:

I'm just telling you that you were being rude in general. I understand the frustration but not the freakout.

okay buddy here. lets play a game. i want you to lay down something deeply personal to you. something that can be jarring and upsetting to talk about and something that makes you highly insecure. and i want you to try to protect yourself from the jarring feelings by a simple request.

and then every single time you use it you get at least three anons. so you explain.

and then you get three more anons. so you add it to your faq.

and then you get thirty more anons and start actively requesting people to stop fucking asking the question because it makes you uncomfortable.

and then three hundred gd anons later you change your ACTUAL askbox to say i will block you if you ask me this question.

and three hundred and twelve anons later you finally lose your gd cool about it in response to someone whos AGREEING with you and vent to them.

on your personal blog.

please tell me how out of line and rude im being bc people cant take 2 seconds to read my faq or i dont know READ MY ASKBOX HEADER before they come onto MY BLOG to ask me PERSONAL QUESTIONS.

Discover Something Rare Epilogue (Rajila) - Juniper

Summary: Despite her family’s plans, Manila has never cared about romance. She meets a beautiful artist named Raja, and everything changes. 60’s Lesbian AU.

A/N: Well, here we are. I figured I’d go ahead and rip the band-aid off. I’ve grown so attached to this story! Thank you to everyone who’s been reading. You can always find me over at @artificialjuniper if you want to discuss. From this story, I hope you take that women can be both strong and emotional, and that not wanting marriage doesn’t mean you can’t be happy.

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10 Tips For Feminists Before You Have Children... the fixed version

1. Be the kind of adult you want your child to look up to:

 As Gandhi once said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” This saying can apply to a lot of feminists. Many self identified feminists want women to be empowered, to go into competitive careers and to be equals to men. However, many of these women do not follow this motto themselves. Many believe they are entitled to government handouts, to quotas simply for being female, and don’t take responsibility, believing that any hardships they face are to be blamed on patriarchy.

Do you want your daughter to grow up an empowered woman? Do you want your son to respect and admire women? Then show them through action what an empowered woman looks like. A woman who is intelligent, kind, generous, helpful, useful to the society, who contributes to her family just as much as her husband (or wife) does, and doesn’t feel the need to fear or resent men but see them as colleagues. 

2. Your child is an individual, not a political prop:

Do you remember the article about the woman who took her four-year-old daughter’s dolls, made tiny Women’s March signs for them, and took a picture as though the girl was playing Women’s March with her dolls? Imagine how this girl felt to see her mother feed her words like “Pussy”, “Donald Trump”, “Roe Vs Wade”, “Republican”, things that a four year old child wouldn’t understand.

Don’t do this to your children. A child should learn about the world around them without indoctrination and form their own opinions. And teach them things which are appropriate to their age. You should be teaching a four year old how to read, not about Donald Trump and politics. 

In this polarized time, it is common also for children to have radical and extreme political beliefs, this, while normal, is not healthy when they grow up. Try to slowly move your child to moderate beliefs and teach them that nobody is purely good or evil. 

3. Encourage your child’s interests and future plans 

Not all children act the same. No two boys and girls are alike, and each will have different interests. Sometimes a girl or boy may want to like gender-conforming interests. This is okay. A child can be gender-nonconforming as well, this is also okay. 

Sometimes a girl may want to get married and have children, this is fine. Sometimes a girl may want to be a career woman, this is fine too. Some girls want both. Some boys may want to go into the arts, some boys like science, this is okay. Sometimes you will see a girl who likes Power Rangers and fancy dresses, a boy who likes cooking and Call of Duty, this is also perfectly fine! If your child is gender-conforming, they aren’t brainwashed by patriarchy. If they’re gender non-conforming, there isn’t anything “wrong” with them and it doesn’t necessarily mean they will grow up to be gay or transgender. 

A child’s interests shouldn’t be stigmatized or changed, encourage them. 

4. Create the family structure that is best for your child

While the nucleus or joint family model is considered “traditional” and “best”, sometimes you may have to break traditional structures if these structures are harming your child. Is your child being abused? Does your child have to witness abuses done to you or others? If so, it’s probably time to either divorce or move. Having a traditional family isn’t worth putting your child in psychological distress. 

5. Teach them healthy competition 

There is a difference between being cutthroat and corrupt and competition. Encourage your child to do their best in whatever they do, to aim high and have big dreams. But do not encourage them to manipulate or cheat their way into winning. Make sure your child also understands that how you play the game is just as important as whether or not you win or lose. 

6. Don’t neglect your child

This should go without saying, but a disturbing trend among feminists is to abandon their children for their own pursuits. As a mother, you have a responsibility. Yes you will have a job, yes you will have your own life to live, but you must leave some time for your child. A child needs their parents, and make it a point to keep some time for them no matter how small that time is. 

7. Actions speak louder than words

Remember this feminists. If you want an empowered daughter, teach her to act empowered. Your daughter shouldn’t brag about how she is just as good in CoD as the boys, she should show it by actually beating them. She should show her prowess in STEM, show her physical strength. Teach her that if she wants to be empowered, she should let her character and actions speak, not any sort of ideology or her words. 

And as for your son, teach him the same thing. A strong man shows his strength through his character and actions just as a strong woman does. And most importantly, a strong person respects people, men and women, and doesn’t put them down. 

anonymous asked:

I'm an INFP and a big problem I have is hating to show "bad" emotions, like being sad and in pain even though I know that it's normal to feel those! And right now I'm in a tricky time because I'm questioning my sexuality but can’t tell anyone bk I'm scared it will hurt me or if it turns out that I'm straight people will think queer people are just attention seekers or that it's just a fase!

Hello Fellow INFP,

I know that feeling. It’s almost like you want to be strong for some weird reason and show no negativity at all, even though life can be negative or “bad”!
I can’t say that I would be any different than you in the being more shy about sexuality, people can be so judgmental and then throw things in your face later on if things change. Stinks that, that happens :(  

Can anyone relate? Love to get your input!  

Friendly reminder that it’s okay not to be okay. You are allowed to be upset even if you can’t change it. You are allowed to feel like crap even if you can’t think of a logical reason to. You’re allowed to know that your brain chemistry is making you feel bad about yourself, or making you think things you know you don’t actually want to do, and still be upset by that.

bourbonandheels  asked:

// Hello, not exactly a request, but I'm wondering if you guys think an ENTP can focus enough to be an effective CEO? I struggle to implement my ideas or follow through with things I want to do.

Keep challenging yourself. As an ENTP you may excel in ever growing fields (tech, engineering, etcetera). It is imperative to avoid stagnation, their aspect of continual learning and reformation may appeal to you. A fast paced field where you can be constantly learning and changing to stay ahead of competitors may keep you motivated, especially when progressing towards a measurable outcome.

I’m not sure what personality type Richard Branson is, but his business model is congruent with how I believe an ENTP excels in business. According to the Guardian, as of 2015, Virgin (the group founded by Richard Branson), owns about 400 different operations. I personally know a successful ENTP who coincidentally is also a CEO. Although on a smaller scale, the same model applies, which is thus: the ENTP has an uncanny knack for human allocation, finding, sizing people up, and fitting them into their projects, regardless of their field.

In regards to follow through: manage expectations and manage burn out. Bill Gates said: “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” Focus on specific projects that relate to your goal and that are most important to you. Have small successes to keep you motivated. A close Ne-dom friend of mine uses this saying by Peter Drucker when considering projects to get into: “Whenever anything is being accomplished, it is being done, by a monomaniac on a mission.” Find a mission that you believe in, if you cant give your all, find somewhere you can.

- Teilani, ENFJ Mod 

anonymous asked:

I'm that guy who cries all day. I don't think I can fix it. I don't think it's possible. I probably haven't been outside in 4 months. I quit my storyboarding job about a year ago because I was accused of sexually harassing a co-worker and I couldn't deal with the stress. I survive off comissions now, and I don't want anyone that knows me to see how I live. I have no friends in my city. I've gained and lost significant weight. I think I'm dying, and this is the first time I've told anyone.

You can make small changes that will start to break the chain. Just walk around the block and that is good for the day. Then go eat in a restaurant. Then go walk to a mall and look around it for a bit. You’ll see that you’re fine. Also see a doctor. Tell someone exactly every piece of how you feel and become comfortable with that. You’ll get through all this. You’ll feel really good someday soon and plow through your goals. Just start! It really happens! I swear, my guy!

anonymous asked:

How does the Reshade mod work? I was looking into getting it but im rather confused by how it changes things in game.

Hello! Reshade isn’t really a mod, it’s a post processing software that’s used to make video games ‘look better,’ it can be used with pretty much any game, not just the sims. Once you’ve installed it you can either create your own presets are install other people’s presets! Which preset you use will determine just how much your game’s ‘look’ will change.

All in all Reshade doesn’t actually change the game all that much, as you can toggle it on and off when you please. I leave my Reshade on all the time because I like how it makes my game look, but a lot of people just toggle it on when they want to take screenshots. Reshade is also handy because it means you can choose not to edit your screenshots! However, I just use my Reshade as a base for my editing. Here’s an unedited picture of my game using my personal Reshade settings, and here’s one using @pickypikachu‘s settings. 

The only differences (besides making your game ‘look’ different) is that when you start up your game Reshade has to load all the settings in which, on my PC, takes about an extra 10 seconds I think, but I don’t know how long it would take on laptops or other PC’s. It also has to do this at other points, I think it does it whenever you enter or leave CAS? And by pressing shift and F2 in game you’ll open the Reshade menu where you can play around with the different options and swap between different presets. 

If you want to read anymore, I’d check out the website hereI’m really bad at explaining things, I’m sorry! But I hoped this helped you make your decision nonny! 💗