Do u plan on being open abt being trans w ur kid? Like will he know that u n Alex are trans? I'm having a kid soon and I can't decide whether I should tell them or not, I mean I'll tell them but idk if they should just know from when they're born or I'll tell them when they're older. I just wanted I ask what other trans parents are doing so please don't answer if you don't feel comfortable omg I get that it's personal
I mean, yes, absolutely? Being trans isn’t some dirty thing we need to hide from him. It’s important he knows. I’m very proud of who I am, it would be pretty impossible to hide from him with my activism and attending Pride. We go to a local LGBTQ meet-up every month too. It wouldn’t make sense to raise him with our transness as a ‘secret’. I want him to understand and be accepting of all LGBTQ people, both because that’s just general human decency and also because he could turn out to be one!
Who we are is massively important to us. I would never keep something like that from him. I want him to know as early as possible that families can be different.I also wouldn’t want to wait till he was older to tell him because it implies it’s something ‘mature’, the way a lot of heterosexual people try to spin same gender relationships as something inherently sexual. And I wouldn’t want to accidentally make him mistrust us by waiting to drop a bombshell on him! It would definitely shake his trust in us to not find out until he was older. Imagine probably assuming your whole life that your fathers were cis gay men who adopted you and then suddenly they tell you they’re both trans and one of them gave birth to you! It would be a pretty huge shock and it just. Doesn’t need to be. So he’ll know as soon as he can grasp the basics of it.