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A request from your fat friend: what I need when we talk about bodies.
When I talk about fat, I am not talking about feelings or self-esteem or body image issues or inner strength.
By Your Fat Friend

I need you to consider your audience. When you say you hate your body for being so fat, or that you are afraid of becoming fat, or when you say that you shouldn’t have eaten that lunch or dessert, or when you announce your new year’s resolution to lose 5, 10, 25 pounds, you are saying that you don’t want your body to end up like mine. Your feelings are real and true and valid. And you still should not say them to the fattest person you know.

I know that all of us are impacted by body shaming, and that everyone has real, valid, deep, hard feelings about our bodies. I still need you to stop perpetuating it, especially when talking about yourself. No amount of caveats or prologues make it hurt me less. I need you to know that I’m taking it personally because it is personal.

I need you to know that I go to great pains to take care of everyone’s feelings when I talk about being fat, and that, for me, these conversations happen weekly, sometimes daily, and lots of people need lots of attention and care just to be able to hear what I need from them. Sometimes I get tired, frustrated, or angry with the emotional work it takes to just to prepare those around me to hear me name who I am and what I need.

I need you to know that when you talk disparagingly about your own body, and then you say “but not you, you’re beautiful!”, your compliments are impossible to believe. That if you disapprove of yourself, vivisect your own body, and then compliment me, I will remember how you talk about both of us. If you think of your own fat body as repulsive, I will believe that you are also repulsed by mine. I know that you intend to talk about yourself. I need you to know that you are also talking about me.

This. Read this. Everything about this. I get so tired of hearing about people’s weight loss goals.

When you say you hate your body for being so fat, or that you are afraid of becoming fat, or when you say that you shouldn’t have eaten that lunch or dessert, or when you announce your new year’s resolution to lose 5, 10, 25 pounds, you are saying that you don’t want your body to end up like mine. Your feelings are real and true and valid. And you still should not say them to the fattest person you know.

Quick fact. Ready? Corpses of those that exist in today’s society take longer to decompose than they have in the past. Why? Because, with far more preservatives being put into our food, we are consuming more of them, and with this our body as a whole is also preserved for a longer period of time after we die.

anonymous asked:

I wish I looked like how you draw Elphaba.

I understand that feeling anon. A lot of the people I draw are people I want to look like. That’s something that I can’t help doing even though it doesn’t really help me at all. The degree to which I wish I had a different body and face is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

Here’s the thing with wanting to look like how I draw Elphaba: It’s a drawing. It’s not realistic, either. It might seem realistic because my art style is good at faking it, but Elphaba’s proportions are pretty strange. Their design is very much an indulgence.

I know what it’s like to be unsatisfied with yourself and to look at images and think you’d be happier in that body. Don’t beat yourself up for feeling that way. If you’re dysphoric, binding or packing or going on hormones may help, though I know they aren’t always available. They’re something to build toward. 

But outside of that, remember that usually, that feeling isn’t all that helpful or positive, and a drawing can’t be a goal. A drawing is a fantasy. Fantasies are nice, but measuring ourselves against them is pretty much always a bad idea. Particularly when it comes to body image. Your body is already far more beautiful than Elphaba’s because it is real, and it’s yours.

Dear Tumblr

Please stop recommending p-shifters/wing growing blogs to me

DIABOLIK LOVERS LOST EDEN ME TIENE ASÍ

DIOS LA TRAMA SE COMPLICA CADA VEZ MÁS. LOS CHICOS SIN CADA VEZ MAS CUTE. Y HAY MUCHAS ESCENAS CON FEELS. AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!

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     Doflamingo works out A LOT ( for some reason, every anime character has abs, but obtaining and keeping abs is a lot of work ). Doflamingo has a really hard training program that he goes through every morning ( first thing ). To him, it’s mostly a stress reliever, and to keep his blood-pressure under control. If he is kept from his daily work-out, he’ll be on edge and in a bad mood.

Who wants to know what happens when Veves uses too much magic

Black Sails 4x04

Someone is going to have to peel me off the goddamn floor after that episode. I just. I. But….she……..he…..I………*INAUDIBLE SHRIEKING*

*SHRIEKING CONTINUES *

haillaserpigeons  asked:

4,6,7 and 9 for the kin ask meme? Also if you believe in reincarnation/multiple lives, do you think if/when you go to the next life/back home, you'll remember what happened during this lifetime?

AWWW thank you so much for asking me! :DD *HUGS* I am always delighted whenever someone sends in an ask!!! <3 Thank you!

4. Recommend some media (Music, Art, Literature…) that remind you of your kin!

I don’t know about movies or literature…The only things that come to mind with that are the Maximum Ride Manga (volumes 1 to 6 in particular, since they align with the first four novels of the series which are the only ones I accept as canon really) because they have beautiful shots of wings, flying people in the sky, and the like that I can stare at for hours. The Wings of Fire series by Tui T. Sutherland is great for dragonkin people. The Warrior Cats series by Erin Hunter is great for catkin people. For actual angelkin? I’ve yet to find literature that really resonates on that level… I’ve found a lot of horribly done books though.

Music I have a lot more of!

Angelkin, wingedkin - “Take to the Sky” by Owl City. “Learning to Fly” by Tom Petty. “Icarus” by Bastille. “Flying Without Wings” and “I Have a Dream” by Westlife.

Dragonkin - “I See Fire” by Ed Sheeran. “Miss Independent” by Ne-Yo. “Honey I’m Home” by Shania Twain.

Catkin - “I Don’t Speak Human” by Omnia.

General ‘Kin songs - “Open Up Your Eyes” by Jeremy Camp. “Can’t Take Me [I’m Free]” by Bryon Adams. “Once Upon A December” by Deana Carter. “Journey to the Past” and “At the Beginning” from the Anastasia movie. “Leave Out All the Rest” by Linkin Park.

6. What are your favorite kin blogs?

@angel–finder @newbieangel

(they post things related entirely to their kin from what I’ve seen. it’s just angelkin listed because I have not found as good a community among the dragonkin and catkin as I did among the angelkin.)

7. Do you miss anyone from your past life (or alternatively: Do you wish you did things differently)?

Honestly, I wish I didn’t incarnate here but since I’m here I might as well deal with it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I basically miss all my family and friends from my home world, but it helps to be able to talk with some of them here (via mental telepathy and channeling) even if they’re just spirits while I’m in a physical human body at present.

9. Any hobbies or habits that kinda relate to your kintype(s)?

Skydiving was my hobby related to my angelkin and wingedkin side while I could do it. :D I cannot anymore due to health reasons but I thoroughly enjoyed the three times I did. :)

Other things would be: cuddling in a comfy, soft, nest-like bed, getting massages (my cat self loves petting, my dragon self loves pampering, and my angel self just wants to be in bliss and have the aches go away), taking long shower-baths (since I love being in the water and cleaning/grooming myself), humming randomly since angels always sang back at home, listening to music, drawing my true forms, writing my memories of home into a book for others to read and enjoy.

Behavior quirks I have from my ‘kin side: Growling or hissing, baring teeth in a threat, purring when blissed, walking on my toes, maneuvering around objects like I have actual wings to compensate for, collecting pretty stones (my hoard :D).

Bonus Question: Also if you believe in reincarnation/multiple lives, do you think if/when you go to the next life/back home, you’ll remember what happened during this lifetime?

I thoroughly believe in multiple lifetimes. I know I’m incarnated in this one and I’ll go back home after this physical body dies.

I even learned that it’ll be like waking up at home, opening my eyes after an extremely long and vivid nightmare, and then being in my normal body again. I’ll remember what happens here for sure, but I think the emotional impact of it will dull over time and since I live a very long time back at home, I have time to spare. :) I’ve recovered from other traumatizing events in my overall life before, so I can recover from this one too. :)

I am still getting a goddamn vacation though! D: I demand it! As compensation for the ordeal I had to endure here. TTT_TT Mah!

Btw thanks again for asking me! :D <3 I loved responding to this! <3