ok i need to ask, you've been saying that the show for years now has been hinting at dean needing to tell cas something unspoken and preparing him to do so. how/where did you notice that? what makes you say it?
This would be a very long post that unfortunately I just don’t have time for because I have to finish my curse boxes and then hit the road for Rhode Island Comic Con and then immediately leave for SPN Hawaii.
I’ll try to be concise. 8x17′s original script had Dean say, “I love you” to Cas in order to break his mind control but Jensen didn’t feel Dean couldn’t come out and just SAY THAT so they changed it to the more raw, “We need you, I need you.”
It’s easier for Dean to talk about NEED than WANT (which makes the “want vs need” theme of this season so compelling), especially when Cas keeps leaving him (because the show won’t upgrade Misha to a lead and the show must keep making Cas leave for various reasons, most of which have an emotional impact to Dean BY DESIGN), but the sentiment then, for Cas and his understanding of “love” was the same. And in true “we gotta keep making Cas leave Dean” because contract reasons, Cas leaves right after. The show is then forced to keep this up and the show, in turn, starts crafting a whole narrative around creating a way for Dean to eventually say *exactly* what he needs to say in order to get Cas to stay and feel wanted. They do this by knocking Dean off his moral structural high horse and addressing his underlined issues regarding being open with Cas. They then tie it intimately into Dean’s issues with needing to save Sam for good measure. They run Cas through the gauntlet of human emotions and understanding. Then… we start eliminating certain phrases. “I need you,” Cas leaves. “You’re family,” Cas leaves. “You’re our brother,” Cas looks resigned and sad, offers to die with Dean. None of this gets Cas to where he needs to be in order to stop dying or leaving, which the show condemns by making it something that upsets Dean. The show… has eliminated quite a lot here.
A whole structure is given for reasons that Dean and Cas can’t be together, a decidedly romantic structure implemented for lovers. Most of which boils down to: torn apart by duty. Heaven and its problems keep pulling Cas back because he feels an insurmountable debt to all the damage he’s cause there… by putting Dean first. You drape yourself in the flag of Heaven but it’s all been about saving one man. Dean, in turn, feels a need to always protect Sam and keep him alive (especially if he thinks Cas is gone), which Dean experiences extreme distress over when he chooses Sam’s life over Cas’ safety in 9x03. The show has eliminated both Heaven pulling Cas and Sam pulling Dean as a plotline as of the moment. So. We need a new reason why Dean and Cas can’t be together. Well, for Cas this seems to be “because being with a human is against the rules”, a sentiment Cas has commented on several times before. And for Dean we’re still on; “I wish I would have been able to say something to make Cas not feel the need to ‘bring me a win’ and that I could have got him to stay.”
Dean’s so tore up over Cas leaving him again in 12x19 because his need to “bring him a win” is overshadowing Dean’s desire to simply have Cas stay, which he tried to explain with “we’re just better together, you, me,…and Sam). Cas died for that and Dean feels responsible (even though he textually blames Jack because that’s easier and something tangible he can fight). And so here we are. With a structure that separates Dean and Cas through a lack of specific communication and Cas’ hang up over how wrong it is to be with a human, to romantically love a human as a fully powered angel (because this isn’t Dean’s hangup courtesy of S4).
Dean can’t get Cas to stay with the following (over the course of 5 seasons):
- “We need you. I need you”
- “You’re family”
- “You’re our brother”
- You’re the bestest friend WE’VE ever had”
- “We’re just better together, you, me… and Sam”
What then, the show asks us, can get Cas to stay? This doesn’t have to necessarily be a romantic confession, but the show has eliminated so much that it basically has to be at this point imo. Dean could say, “Stay, Cas. Just because I want you to. Please.” and it still may, but the truth is the longer this goes on with the show not making Misha a lead and almost at its end, the more likely something distinctively romantic is needed, the show having eliminated everything platonic already. And then they make the Empty imply (structure, subtextually) Cas’ feelings are romantic? And that Cas is fooling himself as to why he wants to return? Under the simple flag of “Dean and Sam need me”?? I just??? I’ve spoke about the show still possibly having a tragic ending and we could always still be looking at that, but honestly, at this point, I’d consider such a resolution to be a complete structural waste like, OH MY GOD. So for now we just wait to see what else is eliminated for Dean to say and we watch for how Cas’ hangup over Dean being human will shift with him seeing how Jack’s goodness (and therefore, how angel/human relationship can be good) changes his opinion on the matter. Because the show is most definitely going to boil Destiel down to one thing by series end: “What can Dean say to get Cas to stay and why is Cas going to want to stay based on what Dean says?”