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What Happens When You Fall chapter 1 (shalaska centric, trixya) - indie

A/N: Welcome to this hot mess of a heavy, slow burn-ish, fluffy college rugby AU. Alaska, Sharon, Bianca, Katya, Trixie, and Adore are all on a college rugby team together.

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loveablejared  asked:

Hey :) I've looked through your tag- and masterlist, but I couldn't find any fics where Harry owns an orphanage or works on improving the minestry in regards of child abuse. Can you please rec some fics like that if you know any? Thanks in advance :) ♥

Ok, so I’m probably not going to get all of the fics I’ve read like this, but I’ll do my best and keep updating as I remember. I think the first fic kind of falls under both of the things you’ve asked for :)

DRARRY + CAREER: DISENFRANCHISED CHILDREN

(orphanages, victims of child abuse, education, etc.)

Suffer The Children (oldenuf2nb)

Rating: NC-17, WC: 32.3k, Summary: Draco Malfoy has learned via painful experience that the least complicated way to go about things is to not allow himself to care – about anyone. After all, he’d tried that once without success. But now he finds himself thrust into a situation where maintaining the armour around his heart simply isn’t an option.

There’s Something About Harry (megyal)

Rating: PG-13, WC: 5.9k, Summary: Magazine feature articles are commonplace for Draco Malfoy until he manages to get an exclusive on one Harry Potter: rings of fire, binding, charity-work, CHILDREN! Life will never be the same again.

Small Blessings (oldenuf2nb)

Rating: PG-13, WC: 37k, Summary: After the war, Harry opens an orphanage with the help of a surprising friend. When he adopts an infant left on his doorstep, he has no idea what fate has in store for him.

Take What’s Left Of Me (frayach)

Rating: NC-17, WC: 23k, Summary: One day Draco just left without saying a word, leaving Harry reeling. You’d think that after what Draco did, Harry could move on, but he can’t. When Astoria miscarries and Draco comes to him pleading for a baby, Harry can’t say no. | Content/Warnings: MPreg

No One Deserves To Live In A Closet (ChannelTheFlannel)

Rating: PG-13, WC: 135.1k, Summary: After the war has ended, Harry Potter and Draco Malfoy live very separate lives. Harry makes furniture and volunteers at an orphanage. Draco runs a record shop and writes articles for The Prophet. They both try to avoid public attention, but for very different reasons. Draco suffers from anxiety disorder and fears rejection, even when he knows he’s changed for the better.

The Beginning Of Reality (amightypenguin)

Rating: PG-13, WC: 25k, Summary: When Harry Potter cannot be awakened from a self induced dream state, can his Auror partner Draco Malfoy find a way to wake him before an unforeseen threat in Harry’s mind destroys them both?

Here And Now (Morgan_Elektra)

Rating: NC-17, WC: 27.8k, Summary: It’s been 5 years since the end of the war, but less than a week since Rita Skeeter outed Harry on the front page of The Prophet — and made some rather scandalous insinuations about him and his blond former nemesis. A chance (or is it?) encounter on a street corner reveals just how much has changed… and what remains the same. An over-sized courgette, some olive oil, a bottle of wine, and Ed Kowalczyk make things extra interesting.

The Girl In The Kneazle Nightie (Saras_Girl)

Rating: PG, WC: 29.8k, Summary: All Luna wants is for her friends to be happy. Harry and Draco aren’t going to make it easy for her, but that’s okay. She has a plan.

ab epistulis (cornmouse)

Rating: PG-13, WC: 83.9k, Summary: A future fic that takes place when Draco is 30, living in Edinburgh, Scotland. Draco owns a bookstore and ends up developing a correspondence with the author of his favorite novel.

Twelve Hours (eidheann)

Rating: NC-17, WC: 14.9k, Summary: The last thing Harry expected to see while leaving the takeaway was Malfoy dumping his garbage into a bin on the kerb of a Muggle neighborhood.

Dear Enemy (GingerTodgers)

Rating: NC-17, WC: 56k/?, Summary: An anonymous benefactor makes a generous donation to Harry Potter’s School for Squibs in exchange for a weekly letter from the Boy Who Lived. What begins as a chore soon becomes the only outlet Harry has to talk about the war, love, life, hope, redemption, his renewed obsession with a certain blonde nemesis and how he really, honestly, believes that this will be the year Puddlemere United reclaim the Quidditch League Cup. | Content/Warnings: WIP

To the person I once called a friend three years ago,

who sucked the light right out of our friendship with their negativity and deeply rooted lack of trust in me, fears projected onto me recklessly and suffocating my kindness, 

who pedestaled and idolized me after I stopped speaking to them to soften the shame while I held in everything and gaslit myself about the events that had occurred for years,

who sought closure by my partner and then by me only to run away when potentially faced with the truth and called it considerate

who is comfortable convincing themselves they’re taking the “high road” about something that’s really just basic human decency,

who still refuses to apologize for hurting me and stealing the integrity of my work that they intimately know has deep sentimental value to me- knowing in any other situation i’d overlook it because you are hardly the first or the last to do this to me- but you were my friend once and the weight of this disrespect is vastly different and you know that.

Yes, I am the manipulative one. Clearly. 

And blocking me, knowing full well I’d never engage you or confront you again about anything else if you didn’t fucking steal my intellectual work in the first place, just confirms stark awareness of your guilt. 

I am ready to accept I’ll never get closure by you for the other things you did to me. I’ve long since let it go because I doubted it’d bring me any peace anyway, and I was right.

So call this ending whatever you like. Paint me in a rose-tinted memory and dust all the hardships under the rug, because you worked so hard to make it up to me but I didn’t take it. Block me with the thought in mind I was groundlessly attacking you after all you’ve done, if it helps you cope. 

I thought you knew me better. I thought you’d be in a better place after all this time, like you said you were. It’s not so clear cut now, is it?

I really still cared about you, your work, your growth- even though you truly didn’t deserve it. Not from me. Don’t worry, I won’t look after you anymore- we’re strangers once again.

And the ink on your back is not mine.

Goodbye.

As an aside- guys, if you see me making nice with someone that you know is a shitty person because they did something abusive to you or sexually assaulted you or is a literal nazi etc, please let me know because I’d much rather kick them off my blog than let them use an association with me to further harm you or label themselves as “good people”- thank you.

I genuinely don’t understand. I get that you’re angry at Robert, at Emmerdale, at the writers but how can you hate on Ryan for literally doing his job. I just don’t understand the whole thing of giving actors abuse, calling for them to quit etc because you don’t like what the character is doing on screen. 

It would be like me going into Tesco and giving the person stocking the shelves abuse because you don’t like where they’re putting stuff, or because they’ve moved the shelves around. It’s not them, they’re just doing their jobs. 

anonymous asked:

Kinda a touchy subject, but do you know any examples or like checklists of parental emotional abuse? I'm gonna talk to my therapist later about this but I'm never really sure what was abusive until I mention it around others and the tell me that it wasn't normal. I've been trying to find lists of examples but most of the emotional abuse stuff I've found was for romantic relationships not parents. Any ideas?

Most checklists for identifying child abuse is aimed at outsiders whose job it is to identify child abuse, not made for the child themself to identify their own abuse. That said, abuse is similar across the board - whether it’s a romantic relationship, platonic relationship, or familiar relationship. Those “Is your partner abusing you” checklists are just as applicable if you change it to “Is your parent abusing you”. I can throw together a quick basic checklist for you from my own experiences.

  • Physically striking you
  • Berating you, calling you names, calling you a “disappointment” or similar things
  • Withholding basic necessities (food, water, clothing, shelter, access to toiletries)
  • Gaslighting (common example in parents is making a promise (like “You can go out Saturday night”), then insisting they never did so/you’re making it up)
  • Invading privacy (reading journals, blogs, social media; tracking internet history; insisting on constant check-ins when out or actually installing tracking devices in your car/phone/clothes/etc)
  • Having one-sided conversations/refusing to have discussions (”This is my house so whatever I say goes” “Don’t backtalk me/Don’t make excuses”)
  • Taking/destroying your personal belongings
  • Deliberately doing things that upset you so they can punish you for getting upset

And since this is an autism blog, here’s some common examples of abuse against autistic kids (much of this happens to allistic kids as well, but with autistic kids the goal of this abuse is often to “get rid of” the autism/make the kid more “normal”):

  • Forcing social interaction/refusal to respect personal boundaries (”Just give Aunt Sally a hug, I don’t care if you don’t want to it’s rude if you don’t!”)
  • Forcing sensory overwhelm (making you eat foods that you can’t stand, making you go to loud/crowded places)
  • Punishing behaviour like stimming or melt/shutdowns; punishing special interests
  • Forcing verbal communication
  • Threatening institutionalisation

I’m sure there’s a lot I’m forgetting, but I wanna get this out ASAP. Hopefully you can figure stuff out with your therapist and work on getting help!

-Brother Cat

Parents and family can be some of the most selfish and ungrateful people in the world (especially if they are people who have repeatedly abused you physically and emotionally) cus they can at times feel that sorta entitlement to you imo and it sucks it’s hardly talked about that you really don’t need to deal with that shit. Being ‘Family’ and 'Blood Related’ isn’t a get outta jail free card.

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Could you write an imagine where LaSalle defends you when your mother verbally abuses you in front of you and him? 

Requested by Anon~


“I don’t know why you’re still working at NCIS. You’ve never been strong enough for anything like that.”

Christopher tensed up beside you, standing up with clenched fists. You tried to catch his eye, to tell him to let it go, but you knew he wouldn’t. He’s tried, but Chris couldn’t listen to this anymore. “You’re wrong.” He stated, voice tight with annoyance. “Y/N is one of the strongest people I know. Hell, they’re stronger than me, sometimes. The team is damn lucky to have ‘em, and if you can’t see that, than I’m truly sorry.”

With that, Chris marched out. And you followed him.

I absolutely detest the narrative that you must forgive an abusive or neglectful parent and have a positive relationship with them regardless of what they have done and without them actually attempting to genuinely make amends.

It is such a horrible narrative to perpetuate, why do we allow it to?

anonymous asked:

pearlmethyst is so wrong though! you're shipping a mother and daughter (which is incest) Mysterypearl has more chemistry,stevidot is okay to ship because peridot is the same age as steven and lapis and jasper can be shipped too! Pearlmethyst is abusive and pedophelic

(Okay I hope you are a troll)

(Okay, so ….MY FIRST HATE ASK YEAHHH!!! ♥♥ I would like to thank to my family I could never reached it without them)

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First. I think you should google what “abusive” means beacuse if you think jaspis is ok, but pearlmethyst is abusive you missed something baby. I don’t wanna react to the “stevidot” line I think it speaks for itself. 

Second. I will draw what I want (◕‿◕✿). There are a lot of artist who draw things I don’t like or ship things I don’t really feel okay BUT I still love them and respect their work.

If you are lonely and want to talk you don’t have to send me hate baby. I love you anyway and I hope you have a great day and the darkness in your heart will fade away. You can hate me but I lstill ove you hahahahahahahaha

@ishipeverythinggay I think we talked about this once and now it reached me too

When you abuse a system, you’re not just abusing whoever’s fronting.

If you’re particularly unlucky, every member will end up having it out for you.

That can turn out to be many, many people.

Sleep with one eye open.

stop acting like it’s inherently unhealthy to refuse to forgive some 2k17

you’re not a bad person or being toxic/unhealthy if you refuse to forgive someone who wronged you, ESPECIALLY if they abused you. you aren’t damaging your healing process and there’s nothing wrong with healing while still refusing to give someone forgiveness.

destroy the idea that abuse survivors NEED to forgive their abusers to be healthy people

anonymous asked:

Do you think karamel is abusive ?

I think that the internet makes it’s sound worse than it actually is. 

When I first saw Karamel on my TV before reading anything on Tumblr, I liked them… and I still do and that’s all that matters to me. I can see that they both have some issues they need to work on and as more and more episodes come out I can see them evolving. 

anonymous asked:

How you guys manage to be so respectful and sweet to each other? some other people are fighting each others even if they claim and ship the same thing?but you guys get abusive shit from other ppl, sorry about that, get gifs stolen, hateful anon and still ask for respect if someone from you ship tag hate in others people tags. how you guys do it?

Uau… That’s a great question nonnie. I think first because somehow our fandom managed to gather amazing people. In the best all of us were just to out of place with hate, I know I was, I remember being so lost seeing all the hateful things towards him that when I found those people was like fresh air to me.
But we do it because we don’t break easily. We bend but don’t breake. I believe that if we want respect we should give people the same right. So that’s why we don’t go (most of us) in their tag. Is because we know what it feels like being hurt over something so mundane.
This fandom is growing and I want people to understand what it means being here. We can’t loose the core of our fandom. Regardless if you are a multishiper or just a Karamel. This fandom is about people that try hard to stay respectful even facing all the hate.
But this happens because we actually listen to each other we talk and we mock things we deem ridiculous. Is because we found a common ground we bond over it.

anonymous asked:

Where is this sudden love for Shi even coming from? She is just as nutty as Onision. I don't put you nuts far behind that, but still. Onision and Shiloh were a toxic couple because of how fucked up they both were. Did people suddenly forget that? Must be true what Lainey said. You people only look fondly over those that leave Onision.

I mean, personally, I’ve never thought ill of Shiloh. From the beginning, I always just thought that it was unfortunate that she was treated the way she was, which is really what I believe. I think regardless of anything you think she did, it can be agreed that her relationship with greg was absolutely toxic to her personal life. Whether you believe it’s abusive or not is up to you, but I really don’t think anybody deserves something like that. 

So the question remains what the hell do you think she did to warrant such a shit storm lmao. -B