yoga is the journey of the self through the self to the self

There is no journey to enlightenment.

Via BohemianDiesel.com

In the YouTube video by J. Krishnamurti about Enlightenment, he explains that enlightement to wake up to something.”To wake up to what? To be enlightened about what?” He then explains how enlightement means to wake up to the truth about the psychological structure that has accepted time.

Eckhart Tolle, explains how Enlightenment is something we already are every present moment. It is not something you can add. It is the ego-less state. Which means to realize that there is no-self and to understand the nature of your present reality very very well. Studying reality will give you the direct experience of realizing that you are IT. Give up the search, he says, it is not something you can reach in the future.

The word Enlightenment has been used many times in both religion and spiritual cults. The new age movement loves to throw this word around in an attempt to compete. It has been explained as reaching a godlike and divine state, beyond our simple human understanding. Which is a very vague explanation that only creates illusion and expectations.

I used to be desperately seeking for “Enlightenment”, wanting to reach this superhuman state. My reasons where quite simple; 1. i disliked myself as i was , 2. i disliked the world. It was my way of feeling like i could escape it somehow.

After my LSD experience a whole new world opened up for me. And months after i still reap the benefits of it, having insights after insights. The most recent one is was about how we are never fully in touch with reality as it is. We dream our way through life thinking, fantasizing. We live on auto-pilot, totally unaware of the present moment.

I also started to have more and more moment where my focus went to the present moment for a short while. I found so much peace in these moments, that i decided to pick up meditation again and mindfulness practice.

Soon i discovered that it’s not so much about doing something. But more about learning how to just be. In this state of just being…i got a tiny glimpse of what it’s like to have no self without using any psychedelics. Who you truly are…is raw experience…and we are all that. Nothing is separate. Having experienced this first hand, changed my world upside down.

To be honest, after this it only feels like i just started on my journey. It feels very different this time. Like i am not chasing some fantasy. I am merely letting go. I used to think i was so close to the end of my journey, but now i realize how ignorant this was. I opened myself up to the fact that i know nothing, and i am gonna study the present moment as best as i can.

In the book “Mastering the core teachings of the buddha: An unusually hardcore dharma book” by Daniel Ingram. That the three most important things one can realize in studying the present moment are 1. no self , 2. impermanence, 3. unsatisfactory.

So..in other words, there is no search for Enlightenment. Nobody else can teach you to realize it. It is an insight you get by looking deeply into the present moment. Which is why is why a better word for it would be “woken up” to truth.

XOXO – Daphne Denninghoff – GoddessBible

Can a Relationship Survive When One Partner Is More ‘Spiritually Evolved?’

As souls, we come to Earth to have a human experience, each one of us seeking to learn different lessons and meet different people. We are all on different paths, and for those of you in relationships, you may notice that your own path differs from that of your partner’s. Do you feel more spiritually evolved than your partner? And if so, what does that mean?

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The First Step

Written and sent one year ago, July 17, 2014. What an amazing year! I am so proud of myself! Xoxo

Dear loves,

There is a show called Extreme Weight loss on TV! I am inspired and want your help.

In the show the potential participant sends a letter to a weight loss expert (Chris) admitting and asking for help. He, then surprises the person in front of their friends, family, and community. He, then weighs them in (in bra and shorts 🙈) They then immediate leave for a 90 day boot camp away from the participants life.

Last year I went to the YMCA and took my first dance class. It felt so good to exercise and feel alive in my body. That was April 1, 2013. I made a goal to myself to exercised every day for 100 days. I went for 104!!

The biggest lesson I learned was that no matter what, I could prioritize myself. It didn’t matter if we were traveling, my kids were sick, I was sick or just busy. I completed my goal and thought I would not lose that beautiful gift of a lesson. Unfortunately, I did lose it.

The following month I was lucky enough to be diagnosed with kidney cancer. I say lucky, because there were no symptoms. It would have been way too late by the time I was symptomatic. I am so fortunate to be cancer free with an amazing prognosis.

The self care and self love that I worked to build for those 104 days exercising helped motivate me which ended up possibly saving my life.

I would like you to join me for my day one. Day one for a documented year, but more importantly day one of a new life. I hope at the end to call this year my wildly successful extreme weight loss and extreme self love/care project.

My plan:

Write and share my plan, idea, and letter asking for help with all of you.

Invite you to attend my day one weigh-in, 90 day weigh-in, 6 month weigh-in, 9 month weigh-in and year (celebration) weigh-in.

Please come attend my weigh-in parties if you are available. Please email great healthy recipes, workouts, quotes, tips, and love.

Please contact me if you want a hiking buddy, gym partner, or any other activity that we could do together. I would love company and all the support I can generate.

I will have a pound weight loss goal at each weigh-in. I will then set the next goal for the following weigh-in. Also, I am going to find a difficult and scary physical challenge to accomplish during each phase. If you are training for a specific event, or if there is a physical goal you have wanted to challenge yourself with please let me know. Maybe we can tackle it together.

I will not have the luxury of being whisked away from my distractions, kids, work, and responsibilities like they do on tv. (I called the location on the show and it cost over $7,000 to do this program with their assistance; hence the creation of my own version)

I am going to go through this transformation at home, with my family, and community, and job.
Thanks in advance for reading this email, and any support you are able to extend.

Day 1-August 1st 2014 at 8 pm!

Day 90-October 30th at 8 pm!

6 months-feb 1st at 8pm!

9 months-may 1st at 8pm!

1 year-August 1st 2015 at 6 pm!!

Love and gratitude,
(A very scared and excited) Sara

P.S.
My very wise mother suggested I wait to send this letter till my steroids (for asthma treatment) were out of my system. She is probably right!

However, you know me. I’m tortured being trapped in this unhealthy body. I want to be healthy so badly for myself and for my entire family. If I don’t follow through with this, it will be my own judgement that I have to endure.

Love and trust in myself (and you of course)

the signs as arcane arts and obscure practices

…in which I attempt to anthropomorphise the signs of the zodiac. enjoy xx

Aries: Fire-eating

The Aries is drawn to the Hindu-originated art of fire-eating, and all of its dangers. It will intimidate some and lure others, but none of that matters as long as they’re having a good time.

Taurus: Zazen

The Taurus admires and respects this Zen Buddhist practice of maintaining perfect stillness; it is a rare opportunity to find stability in a modern life lived at breakneck pace.

Gemini: Iaijutsu

The Gemini reflects the instantaneous and highly reactional nature of the Japanese art of drawing one’s katana, and does so beautifully. Even if some say it lacks practicality as an offensive method, it makes for a deadly counter-attack. Underestimated and looked down upon by some, revered and respected by others; this multi-faceted practice, much like lightning, rarely strikes twice in the same place. 

Cancer: Zhōngyào Xué

The Cancer is a master of healing; both of the self and of others. The art of traditional Chinese herbal medicine is the perfect way to demonstrate the protective yet nurturing nature of the sign of the Crab.

Leo: Self-Marriage

The Leo is not to be mistaken as full of themselves - on the contrary, those closest to them know the truth - that they may struggle with their self-perception as much as any other sign might. The Western-driven phenomenon of the commitment to the self, self-love and self-understanding, is something the Leo can strive towards.

Virgo: Ikebana

The Virgo sees Ikebana, derived from ‘ikeru’ (to keep alive), as sacred. The art of Ikebana flower arranging demands ethereal, almost unnaturally perfect lines and shape - which in turn demands ethereal, almost unnaturally perfect skill from its maker. Though it is a creative art form, it is governed by rules which make up its clean and untouchable aesthetic.

Libra: Yoganidrasana

The Libra can be known to twist themselves into extreme positions, like the pretzel-esque shape of the Hindu sleeping yoga pose, in order to seek and maintain peace. This sign manages to turn the most uncomfortable of feelings into something beautiful for others; and eventually, the self.

Scorpio: Chromotherapy

The Scorpio has a natural affinity for this Western-driven alternative healing method. The use of colour to balance the energy of the body can bring simple relief or draw out intense emotional strongholds in a person’s life. Much like the Scorpio themselves, one should not discount the legitimacy with which chromotherapy is performed if it is to be appreciated fully.

Sagittarius: Parkour

The Sagittarius will throw themselves at any challenge with a unique, yet effective method of conquering. They choose to climb walls instead of breaking through them, to somersault gracefully over every obstacle where others would stumble. The Sagittarius will rise where the weaker will cower.

Capricorn: Free climbing

The Capricorn is the sign of the mountain goat - although it may be a long and arduous journey full of danger and with little reward, they find solace in the building of a stronger, more fearless self. Even being painfully aware that they could fall at any moment with nothing to save them, the Capricorn keeps on climbing.

Aquarius: Pranayama

The Aquarius makes a martyr of breath to extend one’s life force and strength beyond themselves using this Hindu practice. Constantly reaching further and further into unmapped territories, this sign unconsciously leads us to a promised land.

Pisces: Water scrying

The Pisces has a connection to the psychic realm that has been acknowledged by many across time. The stillness of the water and the vividness of the images they see there are unmatched in truth by anything in the mundane blur of the world around them. But when a Pisces allows themselves to visualise with intent, anything can become a reality.

Things to do instead of binge eating
  • Call a friend, your sponsor, a support person, anyone who you can talk to who will either get your mind off of food, or someone to talk to about whatever it is that you might be feeling.
  • Go for a walk
  • Drink a cup of tea
  • Meditate or listen to a quit binge eating hypnosis session. 
  • Give yourself a manicure/pedicure– can’t binge with wet nails.
  • Volunteer at the SPCA to walk dogs or pet cats.
  • Go to a movie if the food there is not a trigger.
  • Watch a funny movie at home.
  • Take a shower, do a facemask, give yourself a hot oil treatment, shave your legs, tweeze your brows (have some self-care/ pampering time.)
  • Get organized sort out your bills, create a budget– organize your home, your closet, and your life! Often getting organized can help you feel more in control and enable you to thwart a binge, which can often feel very out of control.
  • Draw, paint or color.
  • Knit or do needlepoint
  • Take a nap
  • Get out of your house and into your car, go to the beach, the lake, and the park… somewhere pretty and relaxing. (And take pic and instagram it! ) 
  • Clean out your closet, donate your old clothes or sell them on eBay.
  • Go window-shopping.
  • Read a good book.
  • Clean your house/room/closet/school/notes/files or whatever it is
  • Put on music and dance it out.
  • Go out dancing with friends
  • Call your friends over and have a dance party.
  • Go to the gym.
  • Stretch, go to a yoga class, do a yoga DVD or an exercise or yoga class on OnDemand cable.
  • Take a relaxing bath with nice bath salts or essential oils.
  • Write in your journal
  • Move! Do jumping jacks, run in place, anything to move a little energy and release some tension.
  • Scream into a pillow.
  • Pray, pray, pray (just keep praying, He’s there, always has been, always will, and he listens to you, all the time) 
  • Go to an OA or EDA meeting, either online, in person, or on the phone.
  • Go to an online support forum with other people dealing with disordered eating issues.
  • Read a (non triggering!!!) magazine
  • Write a blog or start one on Wordpress or Blogger!
  • Twitter (tweet your fave celebrity and/or friends)
  • Read personal journey blogs about others recovering from binge eating. For instance, Eating Journey, Healthy Girl, Recovery Discover, You’d be so pretty If…, Curbing the Crave, or The Binge Diary.
  • Sing… OUT LOUDDDDD! 
  • Get your hair done or do your own hair. Experiment with different styles, curling iron, flat iron, curlers, etc.
  • Make cards for people, catch up on Thank You notes, send out notes to relatives you haven’t spoken to or seen in a long time.
  • Go out and take photos.
  • Scratch things off your “to do” list
  • Play video games.
  • Play scrabble online
  • Chat with friends on Facebook or update your Facebook profile
  • Write and direct a short play with stuffed animals or Barbie dolls or action figures or your pets or sock puppets and videotape it to put on YouTube.
  • Download songs (or torrent them… shhh!!) 
  • Give yourself a foot massage
  • Smell lavender or rose or anything you like
  • Pick flowers or go to a floral shop
  • Garden
  • Create a collage
  • Go bowling/miniature golf
  • Scrapbook
  • Write an angry letter to whomever you are holding anger at. You don’t have to send it, just let it out.  Afterwards, put it somewhere safe. You might let go of some emotions that you’d been stuffing and you might find that you no longer have the urge to binge.
  • Go through old pictures
  • Cuddle with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, daughter, son, cat, dog, teddy bear, etc.
  • Do karaoke, you can either go out to do it, or do it at home with OnDemand Cable if you have it.
  • Water your plants– if you don’t have any, go out and buy some plants!
  • Go through your closet and donate all clothes that are too big, too small, out of date or unworn. Keep the clothes that you feel good about yourself in.
  • Zone out in front of the TV; catch up on your shows– as long as television is not a binge trigger.
  • Play music! If you play an instrument, whip it out and start playing. If not, teach yourself to play one. Beat on some bongos, ping a triangle, strum a guitar, whatever is convenient to you. If nothing, make an instrument out of household objects and play it.
  • Tell the binge that you are stronger than it. You are stronger than the urge to binge. Just because you want to, doesn’t mean you have to.
  • Brush and floss your teeth
  • Catch up on your emails
  • Learn a new language!
  • Make a rubber band ball. Try to beat the guy who made the world’s largest rubber band ball. Or better yet, set a World Record! 
  • Write a letter to your future self, your recovered self about what you’re going through right now. (This will be very interesting, I promise!)
  • Write some notes with positive messages and post them around your home or get out of the house and put them up in dressing rooms, public restroom mirrors, restaurants, — help Operation Beautiful!
  • Make a list of why you rock. Think about what’s great about you. Can’t think of those things? Call someone who loves you and ask them to tell you.
  • Spin around in circles like a *Whirling Dervish. *Whirling Dervish (wurl-ing dur-vish) n. 1. A mystical dancer who stands between the material and cosmic worlds. His dance is part of a sacred ceremony in which the dervish rotates in a precise rhythm. He represents the earth revolving on its axis while orbiting the sun. The purpose of the ritual whirling is for the dervish to empty himself of all distracting thoughts, placing him in trance; released from his body he conquers dizziness.
  • Light candles and incense and relax
  • Explore your neighborhood or town.
  • Call a friend or relative who has been unhappy lately and needing some support. Sometimes giving support can be incredibly heartening and also supports the supporter.
  • Use crayons to color hard! This can release tension.
  • Build a terrarium.
  • Search through your couch and house for change! Put everything you can in a jar and put it aside to start a fund for yourself as a motivator in your recovery. Every time you reach a milestone (ie: no bingeing or restricting for one week) you can buy yourself something fun, like a new pair of shoes, or some jewelry or new CD, or whatever you like within reason.
  • Write a long, heart-wrenching letter and stick it in a bottle and send it offRoll on your back. This is a spinal massage that helps you to feel relaxed and rejuvenated.
  • Drink a glass of water.
  • Play solitaire or other games.
  • Read positive affirmations and believe you can achieve what you truly want in life – to be happy! 
  • Write out your intentions or personal goals for yourself for the week. Write out both long term and short term goals- things that you are striving for and ways to help you get there.
  • Throw a temper tantrum! Go into your bedroom, lie on your stomach in your bed and scream into your pillow while you kick your legs and punch your hands into the bed. Ever see kids do this? They expend all that energy and it moves right through them. As adults, we can’t really do this and lots of anger and pain winds up feeling stuck in the body. We often try to stuff that down with food and for some, get rid of it by purging.
  • Plan a party or get together or weekend trip with your friends.
  • Go bowling, play pool, play golf or miniature golf, play basketball, hit tennis balls, go to a batting cage.
  • Beat up your pillow/bolster.
  • Make jewelry out of household items or beads or coins.Smell aromatherapy oils.
  • Paint your garbage can.
  • Make stuffed animals or throw pillows out of old clothing.Give yourself a facial treatment.
  • Look through old pictures.
  • Pretend that you are a tourist in your old city or town. Look up things to do that tourists would do and do it!
  • Teach yourself to juggle.
  • Go to the museum or the zoo. If it’s not the right time, go to an online museum and learn all about art.
  • You can also take that old clothing, especially those that are significant to your eating disorder days, and cut it up into squares and make a “recovery quilt.”
  • Make a cootie catcher with positive messages inside.
  • Do a home makeover! Rearrange your furniture, get rid of things that you no longer want– sell them on eBay! Put up some curtains; just make things pretty for yourself.
  • Do online crossword puzzles or Sudoku or boggle.
  • Enter sweepstakes.
  • Do volunteer work.
  • Write a novel, short story, or poetry.
  • Fight Procrastination! Do homework, write that paper you’ve been putting off, work on your dissertation (ahem…)

Yoga is the journey of the self, through the self, to the self.
-The Bhagvad Gita

Today was a self care day for me.  Everyone’s self care looks different.. mine are different as well depending on the day!  Through the process of losing -180 lbs, I have gone to so many places.  I started out with self hatred and felt like I had to beat the shit out of myself in order to get anywhere.  On Tumblr, I learned the term “self care”, more specifically from this bloggers posts: http://gingerfruitkate.tumblr.com/.  

Initially, I kind of rolled my eyes, because I was programmed with this idea that I had to hate myself in order to change.  Well, it didn’t work for me, because I was never happy where I was.  I got to 199 lbs, then went right back up to 267 lbs.  My diet didn’t work for me, and my perception of myself as only being deserving of my own loathing for allowing myself to become what I would call in my head “a disgusting THING” didn’t work for me.  I had a difficult time letting go of that and of letting go of crash dieting.  But, I had to.  

As I started to lose weight again, I saw that my loose skin situation was much worse.  I was faced with knowing that I would never have the body that I had dreamed of my entire life.  I STILL struggle with this, I am not anywhere near perfect.  But, I hated it.  I resented it.  I have a bad gallbladder, because when I first started my journey I stopped eating fats 6 days a week, and would binge on day 7.  I have days when I don’t think it’s fair, and I feel very sorry for myself.

I am grateful for my weight loss most of the time.. but we all have weak days.  Last night I was in the ER with my shit gallbladder (it is not easy to be nice to my gallbladder, because it’s an angry, diva bitchface), the second time in a week, so I was feeling low today. 

But on those days when the negative, self damaging thoughts start, sometimes I can catch it, and it’s because of “self care” days.  I look at them as mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical recharge days. Sometimes a self care day means all day wrapped in a blanket with my animals and watching movies.  Today my self care day looks like this: 

-  Video’s that Ralph Smart makes, such as “How to Crust Self-Doubt" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_eCjb9X3CZk .  The guy makes me feel better.  

-  Breathing in Young Living’s essential oils.  It’s something a Reiki healer I used to go to taught me.  Today it’s "Magnify Your Purpose” and “Joy”

-  Restorative Yoga poses

-  Reading parts of a book called, “Amazing Grace” by David Wolfe and Nick Good.  The philosophies in this book get a lot of crap, but I NEVER want to be without it.  The book seems like it was written in pure joy, and that’s how I feel when I read it.

-  Looking up how to make mandala’s.. for someone who has no artistic ability.

-  Bubble bath!  Always.

-  Listening to reggae (not my usual, but reggae makes me feel better)

-  Doing Yoga outside in the grass.. I’m in Southern California, and it’s amazing out here right now.. and usually.

-  Dropping encouraging anon love bombs to people on Tumblr who seem like they may need it.

-  Being careful about what I am telling my body today.

-  Time with my animals..  time with a beloved animal friend is one of the most powerful spirit healers (for me, anyway)

-  I plan to spend the night watching movies and wrapped in blankets

The concept of self care is one of the most important concepts that I’ve learned through this process, and I hope that other people embrace it.  It’s easier to enjoy process and life when you’re not constantly kicking your own ass.

3 Powerful Tips To Avoid Spiritual Bypassing

Spiritual Bypassing: A term first coined by author John Welwood. The spiritual bypass is the tendency to jump to spirit prematurely, usually in an effort to avoid various aspects of earthly reality (practical challenges, unresolved emotions and memories). The bypass has many symptoms- the starry-eyed bliss trip, radical detachment from one’s self-identifications, premature forgiveness, ungrounded behaviors, wish-full thinking etc.” - Jeff Brown

As a seeker and teacher who has been on the path of self-development and spiritual transformation for many years, I know first hand that this journey is not always full of bliss. There are times where you are curled up on the floor in tears, breakdowns happen at the most inconvenient moments and the pain can feel deep and almost insurmountable. It rocks your inner and outer world in ways that are only understood by those who are and have been on this journey. When you make the choice to begin doing your deep inner work and face everything you have held on to, there is no turning back. You can’t begin this work and ever revert to the same person you were before you started this process. The only way to get through and come out is to go through it fully; there is no, “easy,” way out to achieve true personal liberation.

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anonymous asked:

How does one love them self?

How does one love themselves? Good Question…Good complex question.

You know what, loving yourself is a completely unique and indivudal experience, just like any other relationship. No one can tell you how to love another, the knowing is in the experience, which again is exclusive to those involved. The same is true with yourself, yet it’s a lot harder for we don’t have many living examples of what self-love looks like which makes the task all that much more complicated. In fact we are taught how not to love ourselves in most aspects of life, so we are going against what is familiar to us, which is a uncomfortable experience in of itself so don’t be surprised if you start your self love journey off with anxiety. Even now people have a shallow definition of what ‘self-love’ is, understand this, self-love has nothing to do with external reality. Buying a lipstick, a new outfit, obtaining a lot of money, posting selfies has nothing to do with self-love…it may support the identity, but love is too deep and complex to be sufficed by a form of materialism. Materialism supports self-security…self love and self security are too very different things, that people seem to get the two confused. We need both self-love and self-security, but they cannot be obtained in the same way. You become ‘insecure’ when what you value is threatened, you security is in danger. Self-love is not obtaining what you value, it’s being what you are from an internal level. It’s important that people understand the difference between the two if that what the path to be less complex. 

If you’re dealing with insecurities, you’re dealing with your values being threatened…so the first step would be to write in bullet points what you value down. For example:

  • I value Comfort
  • I value good healthy food, to support a healthy body
  • I value financial security,  thus money
  • I value books, for it provides knowledge, imaginative creativity etc
  • I value music, for it helps me connect with the deeper parts of myself

What you value is things that rightfully belong to you, it’s what supports your identity and emotional structure. As you can see it is not the meaning of self-love. However if you start getting in alignment with what you value, it make’s the journey to the deeper parts of yourself clearer and less daunting, as you won’t feel you’re drowning within yourself - it gives you a form of stability.

Self-Love is the relationship between the feminine and masculine energies within yourself; the Anima and Animus; the conscious mind and unconscious mind. You have to understand that you have two personalities, you have an external self and an internal self (your shadow self). The internal self is referred to as the shadow self not because it’s ‘bad’ or ‘evil’, it’s the part of yourself that has been left abandoned, undeveloped, that needs evolving and maturing. Thus the internal world holds your childhood issues, psychological problems, fears, the dark aspects of your nature that you do everything to deny, repress and avoid. Again the internal self is not bad, it has just been left undeveloped, thus it has very immature qualities but is very intelligent at the same time. The internal world is unavoidable, it might hold all your fears, but that is where the soul lives. So you’re going to have to get past all the spiders, vampires, creepy vile creatures in order to get to the soul. It is what the Greeks referred to as the ‘underworld’ where the God of Death and Persephone rule. You have to confront death, your mortality in order to become an immortal God/Goddess, as Jungian psychologist and astrologer Liz Greene said “In order to choose to live life to the full, we have to face that part in us that would rather seek death.” 

Many spiritual practices teach people that you have to avoid this part of yourself, through talking over it with positive affirmations, yoga and meditation - yes these things are good, but only to re-energize yourself so you have enough energy to deal with that part of yourself face to face. As Carl Jung said: “Enlightenment doesn’t result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality.

Psyche literally means ‘Soul’, the spirit communicates through metaphor, it is far too deep for the simple human language we speak. That’s why poetry is a great way with of nurturing that part of yourself, to read and to write it. Reading books is unavoidable, self-knowledge is the only thing that will get you through the ‘underworld’ without you getting attached to every form of darkness that lives within yourself that you are forced to confront. You would do well to take guidance from those who have taken the journey to becoming their embodiment of their soul, St Teresa of Avila is the most known woman who took this journey as that is what The Interior Castle is about, her guide book to the spirit, to quote her  “It is ridiculous to think that we can enter paradise without first entering ourselves! We must get to know ourselves, reflect on out limitations, acknowledge our gratitude for God, and solicit his mercy.”…” Maybe this is a mistake, but it is God who set the mistake before me, so I could learn and grow from it. The mistake is greatness in of itself.”…” These fears rise from not knowing ourselves.”…” Even though it is by the grace of God that the soul is proactive in knowing herself, you can, as the saying goes, have too much of a good thing. Believe me, reflecting in the virtue of God will carry us to much greater heights than if we were to tie ourselves down to our own little misery.”

Rumi is the poet that gives the greatest guidance in such a journey, his understanding of the soul is profound, it will do the soul a immense amount good to know and praise him. 

Philosopher’s give much insight into such things also, so it would be wise for you to educate yourself on such. 

I have already mentioned many times before what books I recommend on many previous posts, I do not feel it is necessary for one to repeat themselves here too, if you scroll down you will see.

anonymous asked:

I just binged on granola and almonds and I feel so horrible and I don't know what to do and I've been sick so I haven't been able to exercise and I'm freaking out please help me.

Calm down, it’s OK :)

I’m sorry I can’t talk you through this like a friend with a comforting hand on your back, but the internet does mean we can get the best advice from people who know what they’re talking about.

Here’s some wisdom from curvecreation:

1. STOP! You’ve managed to catch yourself early enough, so put that food down and stop eating. Let’s not make a bad situation worse.

2. Remove yourself to a calm environment. Basically get away from the food. This removes further temptation to continue binging.

3. Calm yourself down. While-ever your worked up, no matter what sense you try and make of things everything will be muddled. Sit for a few moments, take some calming breaths and actively calm yourself down.

4. Accept that you binged. We all have weaknesses and we are all human. Beating yourself up or self hating on yourself won’t make progress in beating the binge. You need to take ownership for your actions and accept your poor/impulsive choice.

5. Learn from the mistake/impulse. Think about what triggered the binge to begin with. Maybe it was someone else’s comment or a memory. Maybe you say something that upset you. Whatever it was, you need to identify the trigger so you know to look out for it next time.

6. Forgive yourself. I’d personally say this is the most important step. You need to forgive yourself for binging. You need to not punish yourself for this poor act but take the time to calmly recover.

7. Keep a journal. After you’ve gone through the above process, make a little note in a notebook or journal (hell even start a password journal on here if it’s more convenient) and write down exactly what you were feeling before the binge, during and after. Write down what you think triggered you and keep a record of your progress in your journey to beat binge eating. When you have a day where you beat the binge, write it in. Then on bad days look back and see how well you’ve been doing. By writing it down you’ll be able to better identify your triggers and any trends to your Binge Eating Habits. Also by actually expelling your feelings, you’ll be less likely to eat them instead.

8. Brush your teeth. Oddly enough I found during the worst of my binge eating, after brushing my teeth I only ever continued to binge eat once, because my teeth were all clean and the taste of the food was gone. An odd but very good tip to prevent further binging.

9. Give yourself the time to recover. Spend half an hour doing something you enjoy to boost your mood back up. Have a bath, meditate, do some yoga, call a friend, spend some time with a loved one, read a book, paint a picture: do something you enjoy!

10. Move forward. You need to leave the negative feelings behind and keep moving forward. Don’t hang on to the bad stuff because you’ll never have time to focus on the good!

Things to not do when trying to recover from a binge!

1. Don’t workout like a mad woman. Chances are you’ll burn yourself out and make yourself feel even worse if you don’t reach the level you might set for yourself (which if your upset will most likely be WAY too high up the bar and therefore when you fail make you feel worse). Take it light. A walk well spent that calms you down and gives you a light boost in endorphins is much better than slogging yourself to death in the gym and possibly hurting yourself.

2. Don’t excessively restrict to compensate your binge!! This completely depends on the time of day, but don’t deny yourself food for the rest of the day if you binge at say, 10am. Doing this will actually double your chances of binging again as you’re starving your body! Just be sensible. Eat healthy and in smaller than normal portions. If its evening when you binge then by all means stop. But be responsible and care for your body. Not eating for 16 hours is not good for you!

3. Don’t keep putting yourself down about the binge. You need to let go of the self hate and self loathing after a binge and move forward. No good will be gained from constantly telling yourself you’re a failure except to make you inevitably binge again. Instead of begrudging yourself for the past, try and be positive and learn from it.